FFF

Mrs.B6302007

:smacks Alix's ass:

JessAndTrav

I flame anyone that uses any of the following phrases:

"My Man"
"My guy"
"lil"
"hubby/hubster/hubbs"
"Preggers/pregs/preggo/preggie"

I know we've discussed the last two this week, but I wanted to reinforce it.

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]:smacks Alix's ass:
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

:: shakes it ::

Kati0105

Aww, crap, that's Kim Kardashian's ass and not mine.  Oops.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]I flame anyone that uses any of the following phrases: "My Man" "My guy" "lil" "hubby/hubster/hubbs" "Preggers/pregs/preggo/preggie" I know we've discussed the last two this week, but I wanted to reinforce it.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

I'd like to caveat this by saying LilG is exempt.

Also, mery and capri, check the board. :)

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : This is exactly the type of thing I was getting at. I am not saying this was Roxy and T's case, but I know if Mike started doing something like that I would worry about him hiding an addiction, or serious self esteem issues from me. I would wonder about a body image disorder if he went to those lengths.... something along those lines.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

<div>I think if Rich was hiding an addiction, or self esteem issues from me---at a certain point (although I'm sure I would be pissed), I couldn't be truly mad or think--for whatever reason--that he was doing it to hurt me. To me, addictions/depression/mental disorders are illnesses; I could never fault Rich for them. It would be like faulting him for getting cancer. Red flags-a-plenty would be throw up at him personally, but...my only outcome would be to search highly and low for help for him, not to leave. </div>

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'd like to caveat this by saying LilG is exempt. Also, mery and capri, check the board. :)
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Yes, lilgina, you're exempt from this flame.

I will say, that I always read it as "lil-gy-na" in my head. Not lil-gee-na. I don't know why this is.

sarah0725

I say preggers sometimes because I'm immature.

KentuckyKate

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[QUOTE] I will say, that I always read it as "lil-gy-na" in my head. Not lil-gee-na. I don't know why this is.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

I do too.

Mrs_AF

I don't really get why the word "hubbs" or "hubby" is that terrible. I would never say it when I'm talking to someone I don't know well, but we say it to each other and I don't thinks it's stupid.

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I understand red flags about his health, but why red flags about your relationship?  I cannot help but wondering if she ever expressed her concerns to him. If she did, and he ignored it---then, perhaps. But, if he just started a crazy diet for the sake of losing weight, my concern would go strait to his health...i.e. Does he understand how badly this can turn out? What it could do to his body? Is there some deeper underlying insecurities that are affecting him mentally?  Jumping to relationship "red-flags" happens often here---but, I can't help but wonder in a situation like this if the issue was more personal for him---like an addiction almost (which, to me anyways, is a mental illness....not something done intentionally to hurt someone).
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

It's ok to flame someone even when they're not on as far as I know ;). i'm just lurking because I'm supposed to be working.

Rach hit the nail pretty much on the head. When he said he was going to start the diet I told him I thought it was weird and I wouldn't do it and that he should just stick to what he was doing. He decided he wanted to try it and while I would never do it I wasn't going to stop him from doing so. He is an adult and it was his choice.
T has major self issue problems along with anxiety and depression (which he sees a Dr. about). He was talking about not even going on the cruise because he felt so crappy about how he looked. While I still don't advocate his decision it was important to me that he feel decent about himself and have a good time. Which he did.
I know, I'm doing it wrong :)

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Don't lie, you know you took that picture weeks ago and were just waiting for the right moment to change it.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]

Darnit, you found me out...

ohwhynot

"Lil-gy-na" sounds like my daughter's name for her private parts. 

ivystar57

we say hubby and wifey and we like it. it's ok, you can judge me.  I'll bask in your judgement.

lilgina64

I'm just happy that my first mention in FFF is not a horrible one. haha. even if I am still a va-gina

I am going to flame Alix for having a nicer arse than me. shake it baby!

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It's ok to flame someone even when they're not on as far as I know ;). i'm just lurking because I'm supposed to be working. Rach hit the nail pretty much on the head. When he said he was going to start the diet I told him I thought it was weird and I wouldn't do it and that he should just stick to what he was doing. <strong>He decided he wanted to try it and while I would never do it I wasn't going to stop him from doing so. He is an adult and it was his choice.</strong> T has major self issue problems along with anxiety and depression (which he sees a Dr. about). He was talking about not even going on the cruise because he felt so crappy about how he looked. While I still don't advocate his decision it was important to me that he feel decent about himself and have a good time. Which he did. I know, I'm doing it wrong :)
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Yes, he's an adult, but at his FI/Wife (I can't remember if you're married yet) you should drill it into his head that it's terribly unhealthy.

IMO, continue to work at his self-esteem and making him feel comfortable in his own body without harming himself.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]"Lil-gy-na" sounds like my daughter's name for her private parts. 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]

<div>errrr..TMI for me.</div>

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]we say hubby and wifey and we like it. it's ok, you can judge me.  I'll bask in your judgement.
Posted by ivystar57[/QUOTE]

I think it's fine to call each other that---everyone has a ridiculous nickname for their FI/spouse/S/O, but I hate when people say things like, "ME AND MY HUBBY ARE GOING SHOPPING TODAY!!!!!11!"

jessjo04

I flame everyone who keeps kissing alix's ass. Literally and metaphorically.

lpstl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Will you post an ass shot too? 
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

Sure, let me see if one of the guys I work with will take it real quick. Then, I'm going to need about 2 days so our graphics guy can photoshop it.

NuggetBrain

I really think SarahSmile should not post about politics on this board anymore.  NOT because she's a Republican, but because all of her posts read as follows to me:

"So here's my opinion and I KNOW everybody is going to hate on me because I'm a Republican but *insert opinions here* and by the WAYYYYY I would say that about anybody and sometimes I'll even throw out that I'm not really THAT Republican even though my icon was an elephant with a play on Fox News.  And ZOMG if any of you disagree with me it's just proof that everybody on here is out to get me because I'm a Republican and you're a big moron and uneducated on the issues!!!1111"

And she gets all butthurt when people disagree, and accuses them of hating on her and blah blah blah.  Knock it off.  Go join Politico or something.

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]I flame everyone who keeps kissing alix's ass. Literally and metaphorically.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

Okay, I must conceed... the literally part in there did make me snort like a sick pig. Well done.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I know there's only so much you can do Roxy, but would you say the same if he started in on a heroin additction? "Oh, he's an adult, I can't make decisions for him." I mean at some time things become way too stupid/dangerous to qualify as "just" a poor decision.

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]I flame everyone who keeps kissing alix's ass. Literally and metaphorically.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

That's because you're a hater. 

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF :  but...my only outcome would be to search highly and low for help for him, not to leave. 
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

Oh of course. I don't think I gave the impression I would do that. I would however, be concerned about our relationship in that doing a scary diet was the way he conveyed to me whatever issues he had. I would like to think he trusted me more than that.

Roxy, I see you posted here now. And, like I said to you the other night, I understand why things panned out like they did. I am also really sorry to hear about T's other issues :( But, you better believe I would try to stop Mike from doing something like this. It's not a bad haircut or something, it is his health.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yes, he's an adult, but at his FI/Wife (I can't remember if you're married yet) you should drill it into his head that it's terribly unhealthy. IMO, continue to work at his self-esteem and making him feel comfortable in his own body without harming himself.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>You can drill into an alcoholics head that drinking if bad until you're blue in the face---but, please tell me honestly, what good do you think said drilling would actually have?! To me, if I was facing personal issues that I was struggling with, and me S/O was trying to drill it into my head that how I was handling, dealing with it, etc. was wrong...well, I have a feeling it wouldn't have the outcome they wanted---if anything, it would probably make it worse. </div><div>
</div><div>Somethings, such as this, are better left in the hands of professionals. And her job--as a S/O, is to be supportive of his seeing someone for his issues and concerned for his well-being---but not in a condescending way. </div>

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]I really think SarahSmile should not post about politics on this board anymore.  NOT because she's a Republican, but because all of her posts read as follows to me: "So here's my opinion and I KNOW everybody is going to hate on me because I'm a Republican but *insert opinions here* and by the WAYYYYY I would say that about anybody and sometimes I'll even throw out that I'm not really THAT Republican even though my icon was an elephant with a play on Fox News.  And ZOMG if any of you disagree with me it's just proof that everybody on here is out to get me because I'm a Republican and you're a big moron and uneducated on the issues!!!1111" And she gets all butthurt when people disagree, and accuses them of hating on her and blah blah blah.  Knock it off.  Go join Politico or something.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

I concur.

NuggetBrain

All I know is, if Noodle started shooting up with lady-drugs like that I'd demand he stopped.  Only because I could not handle him with PMS mood swings, or moobs, or constant questions on if his jeans make him look fat.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]"Lil-gy-na" sounds like my daughter's name for her private parts. 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]
Um yea, thats creepy. Please dont share information like that again.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Sure, let me see if one of the guys I work with will take it real quick. Then, I'm going to need about 2 days so our graphics guy can photoshop it.
Posted by lpstl[/QUOTE]

<div>I think I would settle for an adorable picture of your pregnant self (ya know, cuz I stalked your FB-pregnant pictures the other night....and, well, I think you look fabulous!).</div>