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beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think it's fine to call each other that---everyone has a ridiculous nickname for their FI/spouse/S/O, but I hate when people say things like, "ME AND MY HUBBY ARE GOING SHOPPING TODAY!!!!!11!"
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

We must be friends with the same girl on FB. Every.fucking.post is about "Hubby," not "my hubby." Like it has literally replaced his name. Ga-vomit.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF but I hate when people say things like, "ME AND MY HUBBY ARE GOING SHOPPING TODAY!!!!!11!"
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

Well, of course.  That's because it's" MY HUBBY AND I ARE GOING SHOPPING TODAY !!!!!11!"

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I'm pretty sure if I begged and pleaded and cried for my FI to not do such a dangerous diet, he would give up on the idea. Not because of the nagging, or because he realized it was a bad idea for his health, but out of respect for not hurting me. He cares about my feelings and would never intentionally make me cry.

Which makes me think she did not express her concerns forcefully enough, or that he just didn't care how his actions made her feel.

nda_roxybabe

I gave him my input then left it up to him. Now if he were constantly doing ridiculous diets or other bad behavior you better believe I'd be seriously intervening. He tried this for a couple weeks and he's done and it's not something he would do again.
Sorry if I don't post again for a while I'm about to leave for the dentist. Fun, fun

lpstl

Aww, thanks rach. I don't have any new pics, will probably this weekend though since it's my shower. I'm going shopping for a dress tonight that doesn't look like a tent. Woo hoo!

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : You can drill into an alcoholics head that drinking if bad until you're blue in the face---but, please tell me honestly, what good do you think said drilling would actually have?! To me, if I was facing personal issues that I was struggling with, and me S/O was trying to drill it into my head that how I was handling, dealing with it, etc. was wrong...well, I have a feeling it wouldn't have the outcome they wanted---if anything, it would probably make it worse.  Somethings, such as this, are better left in the hands of professionals. And her job--as a S/O, is to be supportive of his seeing someone for his issues and concerned for his well-being---but not in a condescending way. 
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

I definitely agree that it shouldn't be condescending. I have self-image issues, and DH often says, "how many times do I have to tell you that I think you're pretty?" or something like that. It helps.

But I do agree that if it's really extreme a professional is the better solution.

Kati0105

Roxy, I guess if it was just a one-time short-term thing I can kind of see why you didn't make a huge deal of it, but if he engages in drastic dieting behaviors on a regular basic (which it sounds like he might?) I think that does become a relationship issue like M&M said.  As someone who has battled an ED for a long time, I rely on FI to give me tough love sometimes when I need it, even though I admit that isn't entirely fair to him.  So yeah I do think if FI had threatened to not go on a cruise unless he could use illegal injections to lose weight I would have just said "eff it, then we aren't going."

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]Roxy, I guess if it was just a one-time short-term thing I can kind of see why you didn't make a huge deal of it, but if he engages in drastic dieting behaviors on a regular basic (which it sounds like he might?) I think that does become a relationship issue like M&M said.  As someone who has battled an ED for a long time, I rely on FI to give me tough love sometimes when I need it, even though I admit that isn't entirely fair to him.  So yeah I do think if FI had threatened to not go on a cruise unless he could use illegal injections to lose weight I would have just said "eff it, then we aren't going."
Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]

It was just one time, short term. I realize that still does not make it ok.
He does not ever has drastic dieting behaviors. He will diet (healthily) and work out. no issues there.

TheSaltyPeanut

I'm late (actually working ha), but Roxy that sucks that he has such terrible self esteem issues because, frankly, he's a fox.

nda_roxybabe

Hahaha thanks Salty, I think so too! I wish I could just give him a self confidence pill

Kati0105

I agree with Salty!  And I really wish they would develop a self esteem pill.

ehcsifrc

Kiki, you want to fit in here. 

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_p-amp-e-etiquette_.0

ivystar57

well that pretty much settles that.  Not that we needed the evidence.

pumpkinpumpkin

Kiki, seriously, STFU. You can't actually sit here and "tell" us that you act the way you do around here and then can't take it when someone flames you in FFF. Really? I'm not your biggest fan, but I had more than in you than that...

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Um yea, thats creepy. Please dont share information like that again.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Um yah, no thanks.

squirrly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_feel-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6034d63d-6948-4c7e-ad79-20c8c98bdd72Post:7a91fd6c-51e1-4eb7-87b9-2aabff7e00fc">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't get why people fawn all over daffodil_jill.  She brings nothing to the board but night time home decorating posts and negativity, and in my opinion is just overly harsh.  So harsh that I almost didn't post this because I'm afraid of her backlash.  So harsh that I don't really know to deal with her, and she's the only person ever in the 2 years that I've posted here that has made me feel that way.  I don't get why everyone seems to just adore her.  There, I said it.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Dani, I agree wholeheartedly. 

Also, angned needs to disappear.  The more she posts the more I just can't stand her.  Oh, and she wants to attempt to dish out the snark, but she definitely doesn't take it well. 

[Deleted User]

I hate that I missed this while it was still very active and I hate to kick a man when they are down, but Kiki definitely seems to be going a little nuts lately which really bothers me because I've always really liked her.

And I couldn't agree more about Jill. I don't know how one person holds on to that much negativity. Sometimes it's mildly funny, but most of the time it's just mean and I wonder if she just does it for the shock factor.

And I agree that the unpopular opinions thread was really boring to me. And I was surprised that people kept posting on it saying it was the best P&E thread in a long time.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]I really think SarahSmile should not post about politics on this board anymore.  NOT because she's a Republican, but because all of her posts read as follows to me: "So here's my opinion and I KNOW everybody is going to hate on me because I'm a Republican but *insert opinions here* and by the WAYYYYY I would say that about anybody and sometimes I'll even throw out that I'm not really THAT Republican even though my icon was an elephant with a play on Fox News.  And ZOMG if any of you disagree with me it's just proof that everybody on here is out to get me because I'm a Republican and you're a big moron and uneducated on the issues!!!1111" And she gets all butthurt when people disagree, and accuses them of hating on her and blah blah blah.  Knock it off.  Go join Politico or something.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Haha. Seriously? Wow. Because I said that people shouldn't make banket statements like calling people who disagree with them "mindless" and "morons" i should be banned from posting? You're ridiculous. Learn some tolerance. I don't get hurt when people disagree. I get disappointed when people I thought were informed and well spoken make ridiculous remarks like saying people who watch ___ news station or believe ____ are morons. If ricksang or someone had said that about Dems I would have said the same thing to her. It's not a Dem or Republican issue, it's a respect issue. It's sad when people can't understand that sometimes people disagree and it's ok. It doesn't mean anybody should be hateful. But here you go again. And please learn that not everybody who is fiscally conservative is a Republican.

Also, ffs, I didn't make that icon. Heels did as a joke because people kept ignorantly assuming that if we were fiscally conservative or watched Fox news we were Republicans. I've told you this 3 times. But you won't drop that, will you? You hate the fact that FOX was mentioned in my siggy. Again. Learn some tolerance. Sometimes people disagree with you. Calm down. It will be ok.

And don't you ever say that I said that because someone disagreed with me they are a moron. That is exactly what I was arguing against. And a whole lot of people agreed with me but didnt want to post because they didn't want daffodil jill on their asses.

SarahSmile23

And I just want to say that I have more respect for Nugget for what she said than I do for all the people who emailed me and were afraid to speak up. Grow some balls. Nugget and I might disagree, but at least we aren't afraid to stand up for what we believe in.

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Haha. Seriously? Wow. Because I said that people shouldn't make banket statements like calling people who disagree with them "mindless" and "morons" i should be banned from posting? You're ridiculous. Learn some tolerance. I don't get hurt when people disagree. I get disappointed when people I thought were informed and well spoken make ridiculous remarks like saying people who watch ___ news station or believe ____ are morons. If ricksang or someone had said that about Dems I would have said the same thing to her. It's not a Dem or Republican issue, it's a respect issue. It's sad when people can't understand that sometimes people disagree and it's ok. It doesn't mean anybody should be hateful. But here you go again. And please learn that not everybody who is fiscally conservative is a Republican. Also, ffs, I didn't make that icon. Heels did as a joke because people kept ignorantly assuming that if we were fiscally conservative or watched Fox news we were Republicans. I've told you this 3 times. But you won't drop that, will you? You hate the fact that FOX was mentioned in my siggy. Again. Learn some tolerance. Sometimes people disagree with you. Calm down. It will be ok. And don't you ever say that I said that because someone disagreed with me they are a moron. That is exactly what I was arguing against. And a whole lot of people agreed with me but didnt want to post because they didn't want daffodil jill on their asses.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

Thank you for reaffirming what I said, Captain Crazy.

Kati0105

And I just want to say that I have more respect for Nugget for what she said than I do for all the people who emailed me and were afraid to speak up. Grow some balls. Nugget and I might disagree, but at least we aren't afraid to stand up for what we believe in.

I don't give a crap about your political beliefs because you and your husband are ridiculously hot.  Does that garner any respect?

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Thank you for reaffirming what I said, Captain Crazy.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

obviously, there is no reasoning with you. you resort right back to the name calling.  it brings me back to 5th grade recess.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE] don't give a crap about your political beliefs because you and your husband are ridiculously hot.  Does that garner any respect? ;)
Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]

it made me laugh almost as hard as nugget's response to me did! how about that! :)

bbyckes

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[QUOTE]Captain Crazy.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

I will be calling everyone I see this today.  Too funny, thanks for this. haha

EDIT: I'm not commenting on any of the political stuff and I don't think Sarah is crazy - just wanted to put that out there so it isn't misconstrued.

kmurr010

but I hate when people say things like, "ME AND MY HUBBY ARE GOING SHOPPING TODAY!!!!!11!"
Posted by JessAndTrav

Even worse than that is when people who are just dating refer to each other as hubby and wifey. I don't know why that bothers me so much, but it does. I hate when married people say it, so others shouldn't either.

I'm fairly new on here and haven't joined in on many debates....I like to sit back and get a feel for people and their opinions before I start slamming or agreeing with them.

However, the forums have become my new guilty pleasure and reading all 8 pages of this made my long day of teaching 4th grade feel so much better!

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : obviously, there is no reasoning with you. you resort right back to the name calling.  it brings me back to 5th grade recess.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

That long drawn out spiel was reasoning?  Huh.  Potaytoh potahtoh I guess.

Plus, you shoud be happy.  At least I called you Captain Crazy.  Which means you're a full blown officer in the Crazy Army.  Much better than a grunt.

SwedishChick2011

I was pretty surprised by Nugget's accusations.  I actually was going to say something and then got distracted.  And I'm surprised nobody else really said anything either.  Anyway, I like Nugget, but what she said has no basis in reality. SarahSmile isn't that pushy about her political beliefs - certainly no more so than some of the posters with more liberal beliefs. 

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That long drawn out spiel was reasoning?  Huh.  Potaytoh potahtoh I guess. Plus, you shoud be happy.  At least I called you Captain Crazy.  Which means you're a full blown officer in the Crazy Army.  Much better than a grunt.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

An Nugs, you kill me with your logic... then again, I'm just "some annoying girl on tk" so what do I know. Huh. There's no reasoning with those who lack senses of humour dearest, I don't think we're going to win this one for trying.

SarahSmile23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That long drawn out spiel was reasoning?  Huh.  Potaytoh potahtoh I guess. Plus, you shoud be happy.  At least I called you Captain Crazy.  Which means you're a full blown officer in the Crazy Army.  Much better than a grunt.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

here's a cookie for your attempt at cleverness. the name calling is just proving my point.

kmurr010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_feel-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6034d63d-6948-4c7e-ad79-20c8c98bdd72Post:32e696da-1bd5-417d-a70b-81bc4c12e137">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : obviously, there is no reasoning with you. you resort right back to the name calling.  it brings me back to 5th grade recess.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

I agree with you Sarah, and your "long drawn out spiel"....I am sick of being called an idiot bc I disagree with so many people about politics. Just yesterday I was suckered into a political discussion that ended in me being called racist because I said some of the Democrats policies were useless and I disagreed with many of the Obama's administrations stances on issues. I don't care what you believe in, I don't care who you voted for. I would never judge someone for having a different political viewpoint as I do, but rarely is the same respect applied.

side note: your picture really is gorgeous.