Nervous Etiquette Question

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I walked away right after I posted that, and really, I agree with the sentiment behind the statement.  Just not the delivery. And I agree with everything you said too, Moose. :)
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]


I was kinda find of the delivery myself :)  But my situation is quite different from yours right now.  So I can see why it would not go over well with you.

kikibaby

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I think her point is that everyone has stuff going on in their lives.  Amber isn't the only one who has ever had to deal with ill family members who live at great distances. Tragedy cards aren't considered good reasons to be rude.  It sucks, but first off, how do you even know it's true.  I could make up all kinds of awful things happening in my life to justify bad behaviour, but I don't.  Nor do most people here.  We just deal with it as best we can and move on.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Yes, Moose said it in a much nicer way.  People have a lot of crap going on, but it doesn't give you a license to do whatever you want.  We've discussed the validity of the tragedy card here. 

amber2123

It's not a shower with gifts....It's being called a shower, really it's all the married wmen who are important in my life getting together to give me advice on married life.  I'm not getting presents or anything.  And the reason I want to be there for the kilt fitting is my little brother and step-dad are getting fitted also.  Yeah, my FI could take care of that, but I only get four days with them and want to fill it with enough stuff to last for awhile.

Snippylynn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I was kinda find of the delivery myself :)  But my situation is quite different from yours right now.  So I can see why it would not go over well with you.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Oooh right.  Valid point. 

kikibaby

And to clarify- I, of course, am sympathetic to anyone who has all of that going on.  Obviously.  I'm not heartless.

Snippylynn

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[QUOTE]It's not a shower with gifts....It's being called a shower, really it's all the married wmen who are important in my life getting together to give me advice on married life.  I'm not getting presents or anything.  And the reason I want to be there for the kilt fitting is my little brother and step-dad are getting fitted also.  Yeah, my FI could take care of that, but I only get four days with them and want to fill it with enough stuff to last for awhile.
Posted by amber2123[/QUOTE]

......Then it's not a shower at all.  It's a day after gathering.

*shakes head*

salt78

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[QUOTE]It's not a shower with gifts....It's being called a shower, really it's all the married wmen who are important in my life getting together to give me advice on married life.  I'm not getting presents or anything.  
Posted by amber2123[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No gifts = not a shower. The word "shower" means that you are being "showered" with gifts. 

</div><div>My head hurts.</div>

FutureMrsTR

:::headdesk:::

emilyinchile

I have never blocked a poster before, and I am thisclose to blocking Amber. It's like talking to the world's most annoying brick wall.

Celles

Speaking of showers.

There was a spider in my luffa this morning.  I may never bathe again.

Snippylynn

Does anyone else imagine Amber tripping her way merrily through a fantasy land of her own creation, where things don't mean what WE think they mean, and where the entire advent of language in a civilization is overcome by a timeline so porous and wrong by 1000 years as to render it completely insane?

Yeah.  Stupidity.  My cup runneth over with it.

squirrly

I didn't have a shower at all, so no one was there.  In my eyes, that was a GREAT thing.

Showers must be before the wedding.  If you can't find a way to make that happen, you don't have a shower.  As unpleasant as that is, that's just part of life.  If you have medical issues in your family, I'd think you'd want to focus on those and not a shower.   After all, you're talking about life or death vs a party with silly games and finger foods.  The gifts really shouldn't be important enough to tip the balance toward the party.

georgia_bride09

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[QUOTE]a shower can be showered with gifts; showered with advice; showered with anything.  In my family we never give more that a gag gift or two at a shower, advice is more precious
Posted by amber2123[/QUOTE]

What sort of advice do you expect? All I got was "laugh every day" and "don't go to sleep mad". Walla!! You've been showered with advice!!

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Does anyone else imagine Amber tripping her way merrily through a fantasy land of her own creation, where things don't mean what WE think they mean, and where the entire advent of language in a civilization is overcome by a timeline so porous and wrong by 1000 years as to render it completely insane? Yeah.  Stupidity.  My cup runneth over with it.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

Well of course I do. That land is called Scottland. Two T's.

salt78

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[QUOTE]a shower can be showered with gifts; showered with advice; showered with anything.  In my family we never give more that a gag gift or two at a shower, advice is more precious
Posted by amber2123[/QUOTE]

<div>Crap. I think my eyes are stuck in the back of my head.</div>

Snippylynn

Holy mother of mythical beings.  You fail at reality Amber.  Epically.

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I got that one, only longer. "Don't go to bed mad, fight naked." Voila.  All the problems of the world solved with nudity,
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I'm sure my husband would prefer this version.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]Damn, my tiny little violin is completely broken.  :(
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
um. dang.

rknox88

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[QUOTE]a shower can be showered with gifts; showered with advice; showered with anything.  In my family we never give more that a gag gift or two at a shower, advice is more precious
Posted by amber2123[/QUOTE]

I simultaneously puked a little bit and rolled my eyes at this.  You are clearly wanting a shower for the gifts and attention otherwise you a) wouldn't furiously be defending your ludicrous notion that a shower after you're married is an etiquette faux pax you, for some reason (your mom) are allowed to commit, after getting on this etiquette board and and asking for the proper way to go about this (apparently you just wanted your rude, 'after I'm married bridal shower', to be validated) AND b) would just call it a damn day-after brunch already.

Effin' geez.

EDITED: for spelling, but yeah, I did spell 'ludicrous' like the rapper.

rknox88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : HAHAHAHAHA I shouted LUDA!! When I read that, cause it's ludicrous. ;)
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

OMG you are right! My Ipod is getting the better of my spelling capabilities!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : HAHAHAHAHA I shouted LUDA!! When I read that, cause it's ludicrous. ;)
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

Haha, my friend and I were just talking about how Ludacris is totally ruining it for the word ludicrous. No one can spell it anymore!

I also hate how Paramore spells their name. Way to look like you can't spell.

topcatiom

i really want to try and understand, my mum lives 3000 miles away, I dont want a shower (hideously embarassing in my view but to each their own) but if i did i would want her there, but no mum = no shower in my eyes, end of. Simply don't have one, lots don't and live to tell the tale.

FutureMrsTR

I'm so sorry I missed the end of this while I was at lunch.

suze423

I want to be showered with baby koalas and $10,000 bills.

laladypoet

I still think kiki was being a diick.

kikibaby

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[QUOTE]I still think kiki was being a diick.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

This, coming from you?  Interesting.

Snippylynn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : This, coming from you?  Interesting.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
*raises eyebrow* Oh really? 

kikibaby

I just remember Lala saying that she's said things to people that seem far worse to me- like didn't she tell someone to eat their feelings once? 

I don't really care, I'm just sayin'.  Anyway, I already said I felt bad for her, etc, time to move on. 

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]I just remember Lala saying that she's said things to people that seem far worse to me- like didn't she tell someone to eat their feelings once?  I don't really care, I'm just sayin'.  Anyway, I already said I felt bad for her, etc, time to move on. 
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
I did tell a girl to eat her feelings. I still think that was funny. if you were around for that thread, you'd probably think it was funny too.
I know this amber girl is annoying and all, but what you said was pretty callous.
I mean, I know I've said some mean things on here before, but I am pretty sure once someone mentioned a dying relative (especially a young one), I wouldn't have said what you did.

laladypoet

and I expected the response I got from you, so my eyebrows weren't raised. I do take issue with the "time to move on" comment, though. last I checked, there was no statute of limitations on voicing an opinion.