Good Evening

J&K10910

I know in the HO thread, I could have been a little more honest, but I knew that as soon as I said "It irritates me that you do *this*"  people would have been all ZOMG EXAMPLE?  LINK?  And I wouldnt' have been able to produce because, seriously?  And then it just would have been irritating and stupid. 

Excuses, I haz 'em.

mica178

I think half of the controversial threads from my newb days were just excuses for people to argue with each other.  People would get up in arms over STDs and live bands and other minutiae.

MyUserName1

I'm late to this one, but when I was 25 I dated someone who ws 45 briefly.  He introduced me to H.

J&K10910

Wanna know what's cool?  I can like someone without liking everything they do.

I wrote a blog post about loving Christmas and hating Christmas music and movies called "I can hate your feet without hating the rest of you," and I feel like that logic should be applied here more often.

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fdc4c2-4996-42fd-a7e2-386512d3e4efPost:1ea1de79-fcf1-4b0f-ac5c-eb8d05d4e74b">Re: Good Evening</a>:
[QUOTE]Would people's appearances, and things closely related, still be off limits? Because if so then I don't see the point. I mean, I wouldn't want people to start calling others fat or anything. But I sure would call out some people's ill fitting wedding dresses.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>I would hope ill fitting wedding dresses would be fair game.  It's not critizing their physical appearance, just the fact that the dress didn't fit right. </div>

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]I think half of the controversial threads from my newb days were just excuses for people to argue with each other.  People would get up in arms over STDs and live bands and other minutiae.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

Yup.  Like when people say that some people argue just to argue (Steph gets that a lot, I've heard it before too), I want to say "so the fuuuck what?"  I don't understand why that's such a bad thing.

mica178

When the HO came out, I was in the middle of a bad group of weeks, so I wasn't gung ho to participate either, Daff.  I probably wouldn't have participated if this was the E of old, but I knew that no one would say too much that could hurt.  Not with my handy orange banner, at least.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : Nope, not allowed. You like them, or you don't. No exceptions for people you like- that's the problem discussed today.
Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]
When it's someone I know, I always catch myself wondering, "How will this statement affect the person who reads it?"<div>
</div><div>If it's someone I don't know, all bets are off.</div><div>
I need to work on that when it comes to flames. More of the latter. Less of the former.</div>

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fdc4c2-4996-42fd-a7e2-386512d3e4efPost:e885d5c2-080b-4e20-aab2-8301db87ea59">Re: Good Evening</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : Strapless dresses?
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]
I'm more over this than I used to be, because it's no longer an issue that I can't find a non-strapless dress. The thought being that because so many strapless dresses are being purchased, designers think that's what people want and focus on it. So I blamed the consumer. But really it's kind of a chicken and the egg thing. It's really a copout on the part of the designers. But, it's long since water under the bridge for me so I'm less prickly about it. Like, I really like muni's dress, for example, even though it's strapless. But I'd still maintain that it's not suitable for many.

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fdc4c2-4996-42fd-a7e2-386512d3e4efPost:3ce6db94-1a5a-4b07-9437-2341de403f23">Re:Good Evening</a>:
[QUOTE]Ive been lurking in and out through my wisdom tooth removal fog. And I really don't give a hoot especially since I didn't even end up using the sign, i talked about it being an option as opposed to my nephews walking down the aisle whispering "here comes the bride." A cutesy sign sounded better than creepy children. Anyways. Hi. My face hurts.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>But why do you need either?  It's not like people don't know the bride is coming

</div>

ArynBaker

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[QUOTE]I'm late to this one, but when I was 25 I dated someone who ws 45 briefly.  He introduced me to H.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>Really? I feel like once the age gap is 10+ years, you're (genral you) at such different stages in life I don't understand how it could work. Obviously, in your case it worked out that he introduced you to H.</div>

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fdc4c2-4996-42fd-a7e2-386512d3e4efPost:0a8827a5-c8af-4a37-8179-b14e5de5a533">Re: Good Evening</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : When it's someone I know, I always catch myself wondering, "How will this statement affect the person who reads it?" If it's someone I don't know, all bets are off. I need to work on that when it comes to flames. More of the latter. Less of the former.
Posted by wrigleyville[/QUOTE]

But you can also flame someone without being an asshole about it too.  Or at least, it can be done.  I don't know if YOU can.  General you.  WHATEVER.

Like, there's a big difference between saying "Dude, you sound liek an a-hole, chill it," and saying "Stop embarrassing yourself you dumbfuck I can't believe I know you, die in a hole!"

MyUserName1

I actually didn't want a strapless dress either.  But it was the one thing I was willing to give up.  I pitched several mental fits about the lack of dresses with straps or sleeves or cap sleeves or whatever.  

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]Ive been lurking in and out through my wisdom tooth removal fog. And I really don't give a hoot especially since I didn't even end up using the sign, i talked about it being an option as opposed to my nephews walking down the aisle whispering "here comes the bride." A cutesy sign sounded better than creepy children. Anyways. Hi. My face hurts.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
Ohhhh... I remembered it wrong, then. I thought your nephews were going to walk down the aisle with the sign, and someone wanted them to whisper it in addition to the sign.<div>
</div><div>Reading fail.</div><div>
</div><div>Sorry about your mouth. Were they impacted? Did you get good painkillers?</div>

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fdc4c2-4996-42fd-a7e2-386512d3e4efPost:1c2573f2-5128-4250-b3ac-29f2582b9379">Re: Good Evening</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : Really? I feel like once the age gap is 10+ years, you're (genral you) at such different stages in life I don't understand how it could work. Obviously, in your case it worked out that he introduced you to H.
Posted by ArynBaker[/QUOTE]

<div>We actually had a lot in common, but it was definitely never more than a fling. And we both were aware of that going in.  He was really, really hot.</div>

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : I would hope ill fitting wedding dresses would be fair game.  It's not critizing their physical appearance, just the fact that the dress didn't fit right. 
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
That was certainly the case back in the day, and that was the argument. I agree with it. It should be fair game, imo. I'd even offer up my own as exhibit A. It didn't end up right at all. But that also goes back to the dearth of non-strapless topic and that I ended up going custom.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : But you can also flame someone without being an asshole about it too.  Or at least, it can be done.  I don't know if YOU can.  General you.  WHATEVER. Like, there's a big difference between saying "Dude, you sound liek an a-hole, chill it," and saying "Stop embarrassing yourself you dumbfuck I can't believe I know you, die in a hole!"
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
Haha. Yeah, I get what you're saying. I'm pretty good at flaming without being a raging snatchface, but I think I still feel sort of newb-shy since I haven't been posting that long. I was lurking during the huge PS debacle and started posting shortly after that, so maybe January?

mica178

Oh, I don't care when regs argue.  I like a good debate or argument.  Especially since if you've been around long enough, chances are finding out that I hate unassigned tables isn't going to make you too butthurt because you did free-seating.

Remember when that (well-disguised) troll posted her wedding pictures that she stole from her ex's wedding?  1ofthosedays?  My first thought (although I told her the pictures were lovely and congratulated her) was that her cake was so ugly I hope she didn't pay for it.

RupertPenny

Arguing for fun is well, fun. I am all for it.

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-evening-27?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:91fdc4c2-4996-42fd-a7e2-386512d3e4efPost:405ef333-93e9-49ef-b5de-859c54dd07f6">Re: Good Evening</a>:
[QUOTE]I feel like I was pretty honest with my opinions in the HO threads. I received PMs from 3 different people questioning my views on them, (one had legitimate questions, two were just complaining that I was too harsh with them, that I should give them another chance). Personally, Brie, I would be fine with comments about I'll fitting dresses. My own didnt fit perfectly in the chest (the boning was too long) and I own that. But I can see how that wouldn't generally go over here well.<strong> I also think that the style of a dress Gould be open game (just my opinion)- straps vs no straps, short vs long, pickups, ruffles, touching, beads etc.</strong>
Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed.  I mentally criticize people who's wedding dresses aren't appropriate to the rest of the wedding.  Like giant poufy sparkly trainy ballgowns at a beach wedding where the groom is in khacki pants and a white button down.</div>

J&K10910

OHMYGODISTILLGETANGRYWHENPEOPLETALKABOUT1OFTHOSEDAYS.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]Yea, 4 removed with 2 impacted. The painkillers are great but I still have a little bleeding so I think the majority of the pain is having gauze stuck in my mouth.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
Ouch. I remember that. I had a lot of pain in my jaw. I couldn't even open my mouth for a couple of days. I drank a lot of protein shakes and smoothies through a straw until most of the swelling went down.<div>
</div><div>I hope it gets better soon.</div>

mica178

Poor Rach.  Ouch.  Hopefully you got fun painkillers?

RupertPenny

Yeah, that cake was heinous.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Good Evening : Ouch. I remember that. I had a lot of pain in my jaw. I couldn't even open my mouth for a couple of days. I drank a lot of protein shakes and smoothies through a straw until most of the swelling went down. I hope it gets better soon.
Posted by wrigleyville[/QUOTE]

<div>Oooh, no straws!</div><div>
</div><div>That can cause dry socket!</div><div>
</div><div>Hope your mouf feels better soon, Rach</div>

mica178

Sorry J.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Good Evening : Oooh, no straws! That can cause dry socket! Hope your mouf feels better soon, Rach
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
Goddammit. I meant with a spoon. I've been doing crap like that all night.<div>
</div><div>It's like saying "unopened" yesterday when I meant unwrapped. My brain was thinking "opened" and combined them.</div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Evening : My one requirement for my wedding dress was that it had to have sleeves or straps of some sort. This is what I ended up with.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>That clearly went well for you.</div><div>
</div><div>I had originally planned on ONLY trying on tea-length gowns with some sort of strap/sleeve.  Ideally a cap sleeve.  </div><div>
</div><div>Didn't find a single damned one.</div>

J&K10910

It's ok, Mica.  I'll forgive you this time.  Just don't let it happen again

Rachers, that sucks that you're still bleeding.  I had two soft tissue impactions and one bony impaction (got them out last August), and my incisions really didn't hurt that much once I had had the gauze out for awhile.  Hopefully yours do the same. 

J&K10910

I intended on a more form fitting, or at least straight dress.  My runner up was a silk chiffon trumpet skirt dress.  I also wanted no train at all.

Yeah...not so much.