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natsfans84

I judge people who eat non-finger-foods with their hands, and/or chew with their mouths open. I'm temporarily living with FSIL and FBIL, and he will literally eat everything with his bare hands, at home or in public, and then chew like he has a spring in his jaw. I'm talking steak, BBQ chicken breast, EVERYTHING and it's effing gross. Mini vent over

MrsKathyC

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[QUOTE]I judge pet owners who allow their pets to run around freely on city streets.  They are just asking for their animal to get hit by a car.  Things are different in the country, but I live in a city, and I've seen too many dead dogs and cats on the side of the road.  
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

There are just as many hazards to country living cats.  Cars, fox, fisher cats, raccoons, opossums, other cats, dogs. It's a mystery to me why anyone would let their pets out unsupervised, cat or dog, city or otherwise.

musicalsunlight

I judge people still bringing up the welfare/assistance and buying luxuries, in an I judge thread. Give it a fucking rest.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : There are just as many hazards to country living cats.  Cars, fox, fisher cats, raccoons, opossums, other cats, dogs. It's a mystery to me why anyone would let their pets out unsupervised, cat or dog, city or otherwise.
Posted by MrsKathyC[/QUOTE]

I let mine out because he ripped the a/c vent cover off, got into the duct work, and dug a hole through. Twice. And, he got into the dryer vet three times and demolished it in attempts to get out. And, he demolished window screens a few times to get out.

He has food, water, and shelter and lives in our barn with our horses. It's not what I'd chose. He comes in when it storms, when it rains for a few days, when it's brutal hot or terrible cold, but even when he was injured it was difficult to keep him in and I had to keep him kenneled to keep him from destroying the house.

StefffiC

I judge my SIL for not ever remembering my birthday even though I've remembered hers every year since we started dating. Nor has she ever gotten me a Xmas gift.

amys325

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[QUOTE]I judge people still bringing up the welfare/assistance and buying luxuries, in an I judge thread. Give it a fucking rest.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree.  I just roll my eyes and move on.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm with Rachers where I would never notice someone paying with foodstamps.  Every.  I don't go to the store often enough and I don't pay that much attention to anyone else.  I just want to get the eff outta there.</div>

adamar15

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[QUOTE]I judge my SIL for not ever remembering my birthday even though I've remembered hers every year since we started dating. Nor has she ever gotten me a Xmas gift.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

Get over it.  Birthdays and Christmas are not a big deal to everyone, and I think it's really petty to expect a Christmas gift from her. 

dumdumfroggie

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[QUOTE]I judge people still bringing up the welfare/assistance and buying luxuries, in an I judge thread. Give it a fucking rest.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>No kidding.  And frankly, I'm not always so annoyed with the person who brought it up, because chances are they haven't been around for 100s of threads on the argument.  I'm more annoyed with the people who jump on the poster with the same responses they always give.  Just do what Amy said, roll your eyes and move on...</div>

musicalsunlight

Yeah pretty much, rach. I just don't see the point.

LDYGTR13

Amy and Rachers - have y'all ever worked in retail? I think that might be why I notice sometimes what people are paying with. Our EBT cards here have a big ole magnolia on them and are easy to spot. I've also seen some that look like American Flags. 

However, I believe MS also uses those same cards if you're recieving unemployment and in some cases child support....

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : Does everyone else in the family remember your birthday? (not trying to sound snotty, I swear) But unless everyone else remembers your birthday and gets you a gift, I find this a little bit silly.  I don't remember my SIL's birthdays.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

My MIL does remember my birthday, and she only has two children SIL and DH. DH and I mail her 4 (yes 4) children birthday gifts if we don't go for their parties and we do Xmas gifts for all of them.

She doesn't like me, accuses me of being around for the money, and is a rude, mean witch. It's really funny - I make several times over what he does and she has no idea, but she still tells him I'm just with him for the money.

calixtine

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[QUOTE]I judge the tourists who come to NYC and spend the entire time complaining about the following: everything is so expensive - well known fact, deal with it or select a vacation location more suitable to what you'd like to spend. it is so dirty here : stop throwing your garbage on the ground and on the subway tracks people are so rude: Only when you do things that are against all common sense such as block the door to the subway so that others can't get on or off the train, abruptly stop at the top of the subway stairs to look around, congregate in large groups in the middle of a sidewalk that is actually used for walking. The majority of the people in NYC are helpful and will help you with directions, etc. Just be respectful of the fact that we are not on vacation.
Posted by BrooklynBride20[/QUOTE]

I want to add to this.  I judge anyone who travels somewhere and all they can do is complain about things that are different than what they have back home.  I had family and friends in for the wedding and all they could do was complain about the freeway system in texas is different, tex mex is trash, and the lack of ethnic diversity (according to them).  Yes, some things in texas are different than they would be in california.  Heck, driving in Los Angeles is a completely different experience than it is in their town in California.  Part of the fun of traveling for me is experiencing new and different things and realizing that how you do things is not the same as how everyone else does them.  If you want everything to be how you are used to it, then don't go anywhere, ever.  And if the difference between Texas and California makes you this upset, then I never want to travel with you outside the United States.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]I judge my SIL for not ever remembering my birthday even though I've remembered hers every year since we started dating. Nor has she ever gotten me a Xmas gift.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]

Steffi, sorry but this is really petty. Gifts are never required. The only reason I remember most of my friends/family (outside of parents/brother) is because of my calendar I keep at my desk that I don't even look at every day. Not everyone is good with dates.

musicalsunlight

And I am not even commenting on the fact that I do or don't notice someone on welfare buying nice stuff. I agree dumdum, it's like an invitation to attack a newb or something. I dunno. I think it's stupid to rehash a million times, just like abortion. I guess this is a flame as well, whatever.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : <strong>My MIL does remember my birthday, and she only has two children SIL and DH. DH and I mail her 4 (yes 4) children birthday gifts if we don't go for their parties and we do Xmas gifts for all of them</strong>. She doesn't like me, accuses me of being around for the money, and is a rude, mean witch. It's really funny - I make several times over what he does and she has no idea, but she still tells him I'm just with him for the money.
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]
This sounds very similar to me :) I'm a gift giver though. i used to get upset about it, but about 2 years ago I realized not everyone is a gifter and some people don't think adults should get christmas presents from friends/family - which I think is crazy. 

LDYGTR13

Maybe I'm just a nosy mcnoserson then I used to always look at people's cards. Not because I was looking for EBT or whatever, just nosy.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : If you know she doesn't like you why would you expect a gift from her?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Because we remember her birthday? I don't like her either, but I still buy a gift, wrap it, order a cake, trek 4 hours to her house, and play nice for a day with her.

Heck last year I baby sat her children for the day at an amusement park so she could ride things with her husband. So, we spent about $180 on her birthday.

And, she can't even remember to email me happy birthday?

Yes, it's petty and stupid.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : This sounds very similar to me :) I'm a gift giver though. i used to get upset about it, but about 2 years ago I realized not everyone is a gifter and some people don't think adults should get christmas presents from friends/family - which I think is crazy. 
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

She bought her brother toys for her children a few years back for his birthday. Which we still laugh about, behind her back of course. And, she gave framed photos of her children for Christmas a few times.

I think her mom talked to her because she buys him better gifts now. LOL

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : There are just as many hazards to country living cats.  Cars, fox, fisher cats, raccoons, opossums, other cats, dogs. It's a mystery to me why anyone would let their pets out unsupervised, cat or dog, city or otherwise.
Posted by MrsKathyC[/QUOTE]


Eyefuckingroll.

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : She bought her brother toys for her children a few years back for his birthday. Which we still laugh about, behind her back of course. And, she gave framed photos of her children for Christmas a few times. I think her mom talked to her because she buys him better gifts now. LOL
Posted by StefffiC[/QUOTE]
H's family REQUESTS framed pictures of us all the time. I do not get it. But hey, it's easy. I feel bad giving framed pictures of US but whatever. I don't really even have any of us at our house lol. 

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : So you want a gift for for your birthday, because you remembered hers.  I know that's probably not what you're trying to say but that's what it sounds like.  Let it go.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

I do need to let it go. And, I don't really expect a tit for tat gift exchange, but more an acceptance into the family issue.

I'm not making any sense now. And, she's really getting on my nerves over the wedding next year, too. And, her birthday in August - she wants a special kind of cake I can't find anywhere to order it.

musicalsunlight

Yeah i definitely agree Rach.

RupertPenny

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : Eyefuckingroll.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Ditto. Cats and dogs are ANIMALS. Sometimes animals live outside. Right now my cats are exclusively indoor cats, but that could change at some point. All of our cats growing up were indoor outdoor and they all lived very long (like 20 years some of them) healthy lives. And this was with alligators around too!

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : Is your wedding in August, too?  If you were planning on getting her a small cake, I would just order one.  <strong>Don't wear yourself out over it.</strong>
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
Agreed. SUCK IT, SIL

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : I didn't notice until you quoted, but WTF is a fisher cat?
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

They're weird.  Kinda look like a cross between a wolverine and a ferret... not catlike at all.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : I didn't notice until you quoted, but WTF is a fisher cat?
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

This reminds me of the FB friend of mine who decided to let me know that Baxter may be part Bengal and worth $900. Thanks, I'm for sure going to sell the member of my family I've had for almost ten years. It just seemed pointless to me to mention.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : Ditto. Cats and dogs are ANIMALS. Sometimes animals live outside. Right now my cats are exclusively indoor cats, but that could change at some point. All of our cats growing up were indoor outdoor and they all lived very long (like 20 years some of them) healthy lives. And this was with alligators around too!
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]

Tell it.  My parent's dog NEVER goes inside.  Omg, he doesn't even want to go inside, not even when it's blizzarding.  My parents will let him into the garage but most of the time he refuses to come in.  There are also buildings on the farm he can go into.

Growing up we had like 20 feral barn cats, give or take depending on the year.  I dare any of you to invite one into your house.

SpartanCat

I don't have time to read the whole thing, I'm only on page five so maybe these have been discussed.

I judge the pussification of America. Fvck participation medals, not using red ink when correcting students papers, having your parents fix your bad grades, etc.

I judge parents that enable their children. I work at a grocery store and a kid (I'm a terrible judge of kids ages) maybe five or six? Grabs a piece of candy and stuffs it under his shirt. The dad saw him, put it back, and asked him if he wanted to go to jail. Kid did it again, parents took it away, asked him about going to jail again. Kid freaks out with an epic tantrum and then THEY BOUGHT HIM THE CANDY. Maybe it's not my place to judge parenting as I am not a parent myself but I think it's terrible to teach a kid if you steal enough times and throw a tantrum, you'll get what you want.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : Steffi, sorry but this is really petty. Gifts are never required. The only reason I remember most of my friends/family (outside of parents/brother) is because of my calendar I keep at my desk that I don't even look at every day. Not everyone is good with dates.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

Like me.  I don't remember ANYONE's birthday.  I feel guilty as hell when my SIL remembers mine, but seriously?  I've forgotten my husband's before so, yeah.

StefffiC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I judge... : Is your wedding in August, too?  If you were planning on getting her a small cake, I would just order one.  Don't wear yourself out over it.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Wedding is in May. My parents aren't involved and my aunt and uncle are standing in the receiving line with me. My aunt is black and the rest of the family is white. SIL is not happy over that.

The birthday is in August and SIL wants a Black Forrest Cake which neither bakery I use can make. I think Costco makes them, but neither of her children eat this cake nor do I or my husband. So, I would end up with a 10" cake only 2 people eat. What I wanted was 2 5" round cakes - one in her flavor and one in a flavor the kids would eat. Last year she wanted Carrot and we did Carrot and Pink Lemonade for the kids. She wants me to make her a black forrest cake again, but I'm not up to making my own Kirsch and making a cake this year. I just can't do it. I can barely make instant grits or Spaghetti!

Sorry - two different issues with her. LOL