Stealing from SB- Ask a Knottie Anything

musicalsunlight

So I totally chickened out of talking to my mom last night about moving to the place that she REALLY doesn't want me to. SO I sent her a long email just now about it and I feel like throwing up while waiting for a response, hoping it is calm and not flipping out at me.

So, question to anyone: How do you deal when you know your mom is pissed at you? (She is my best friend and so it kinda feels extra super awful)

pinkpinot

This question is to all Knotties:

WHAT BOOK SHOULD I READ NEXT?!  Anyone come across something really good lately? 

annakb8

Cfas and Hlq-I love spoilers too.

baystateapple

Pink -- If you haven't read Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer, I highly recommend that.

HLQ -- What prequels?  If we're talking about Star Wars, I hated them.  HATED them.  But I'm really excited for The Hobbit when they finally film and release it.

mandapanda78

shannon I have a guest room, and it's generally open to all visiting Eeners. Just sayin.

Cfas- I'm in. Brunch! I've also been meaning to invite you and your H over for dinner. It's time you meet the kitties.

hlq- I used to write fiction in varying genres. I either gave up or am taking a break, I can't tell. I'm currently writing technical pamphlets and websites for some extra dough. It's thrilling. ::yawn::

LDYGTR13

LUNCH. I'll be back to tell you how awesome the mayo grilled cheese was

FutureMrsFezz

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[QUOTE]shannon I have a guest room, and it's generally open to all visiting Eeners. Just sayin.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]


Except in August around the 19th.

annakb8

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[QUOTE]This question is to all Knotties: WHAT BOOK SHOULD I READ NEXT?!  Anyone come across something really good lately? 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

Are you into non-fiction at all. I just finished <em>The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks</em> by Rebecca Skloot and I really liked it. It was a biography of this woman, Henrietta Lacks, who died of cervical cancer in 1951. Doctors used the biopsy of her cancer cells to create the first immortal cell culture which is one of the most important ever and has been used for everything. The book is also kind of a microhistory of issues of consent in medical research. I don't usually do non-fiction, but it was really interesting.

Birdie1483

Musical, where are you moving?

I never dealth well when my mom was pissed at me growing up. It didn't happen often, but it was just me and her so there wasn't anyone to take her attention away from being mad at me. Now she's mostly just passive aggressive and won't ever really say what she really thinks, which makes me pretty mad sometimes.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]To whichever knotties write (I fail, I can't remember), which genre(s) do you write in?
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

Fiction. It varies though. My first books are more general fiction, drama. The latest is fantasy and young adult/adult.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stealing from SB- Ask a Knottie Anything : Are you into non-fiction at all. I just finished The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks by Rebecca Skloot and I really liked it. It was a biography of this woman, Henrietta Lacks, who died of cervical cancer in 1951. Doctors used the biopsy of her cancer cells to create the first immortal cell culture which is one of the most important ever and has been used for everything. The book is also kind of a microhistory of issues of consent in medical research. I don't usually do non-fiction, but it was really interesting.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

I saw that book and it looked good. I'm into some non-fic though.

baystateapple

Manda -- DON'T GIVE UP.  You were my inspiration for trying again!

scottswife1106

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[QUOTE]So I totally chickened out of talking to my mom last night about moving to the place that she REALLY doesn't want me to. SO I sent her a long email just now about it and I feel like throwing up while waiting for a response, hoping it is calm and not flipping out at me. <strong>So, question to anyone: How do you deal when you know your mom is pissed at you? (She is my best friend and so it kinda feels extra super awful)
</strong>Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

I hate it but I am pretty hot headed and will do what I want anyway. Since I moved out on my own, I have had the mindset that when my front door closes, I have to be happy with what is going on inside. Everyone else can shut it!

I'm having that issue with my mom being upset that I'm not doing the MS Walk with my family this year. Oh well.

I hope your mom understands. Why doesn't she like the place?

annakb8

Mery, you should read it! I usually like non-fiction when I read it, I just never pick it out. The only reason I read this is because one of my friends works in publishing and sent me a huge box of books from her office and included this.

hlq2011

Baystate & Cfas - yup, Star Wars.  I hated the first one (I cheer inwardly every time JarJar gets zapped and can't talk.  I was okay with the second, though Lucas and love stories should not be used in the same sentence.  I mostly liked the third.  I liked Emper the best of the originals; I like the dark ones.

But I agree, cfas, on Padme dying in childbirth.  They kinda screwed that one up.

Manda - sounds enthralling.  I only write for fun; I can't keep my brain focused enough  on one idea to ever have hope of doing it for money.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Musical, where are you moving? I never dealth well when my mom was pissed at me growing up. It didn't happen often, but it was just me and her so there wasn't anyone to take her attention away from being mad at me. Now she's mostly just passive aggressive and won't ever really say what she really thinks, which makes me pretty mad sometimes.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

We are gonna rent a house about 40 min from where my mom is now (we live about 3-4 miles away from each other right now). We are SUPER close emotionally and see each other a lot. She is worried about a multitude of things with me being a commuter to school, etc but I think she mainly REALLY doesn't want me to be that far away from her. I hate it because I don't want it to make a dent in our relationship especially in the midst of wedding planning. I asked her to understand that I'm an adult and can't always make decisions that will make her happy...so I hope she understands. She is not the type to be super crazy over the top with reactions or holding grudges, so I hope she is rational about this.

I feel like I just broke up with someone or something, I am so anxious.

mandapanda78

Fezz- are you coming?!?

also, everytime I see adamar's name I always think of Knight's Tale. Such a very silly and absolutely fun movie. I love it.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stealing from SB- Ask a Knottie Anything : I hate it but I am pretty hot headed and will do what I want anyway. Since I moved out on my own, I have had the mindset that when my front door closes, I have to be happy with what is going on inside. Everyone else can shut it! I'm having that issue with my mom being upset that I'm not doing the MS Walk with my family this year. Oh well. I hope your mom understands. Why doesn't she like the place?
Posted by scottswife1106[/QUOTE]

She doesn't like it because it is really far away from her and she will be worried about me living there alone. It is kinda complicated, but that is the biggest issue. She is so used to me having always lived within 10 min of her.

mica178

I want a bellini right now.  Specifically at Harry's Bar in Venice.  Venice is nice this time of year.

hlq2011

Manda, that makes me feel better, haha.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Fezz- are you coming?!? also, everytime I see<strong> adamar's name I always think of Knight's Tale. Such a very silly and absolutely fun movie. I love it.</strong>
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]


ME. TOO.

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]Rosie -- Are you coming to the DC GTG?! <strong>Any Knottie who runs -- do you have shoes you recommend? I'm getting new running shoes this weekend and I haven't bought a pair in over 10 years.</strong>
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

I'm pulling a Mandy/Lala and answering as I go, so I apologize if this has already been said.

Go to a store where they watch you walk and run. They will recommend a shoe for your specific foot and gait. I did this 2 years ago and bought I shoe I never would have considered and it the. most. comfortable running shoe I've ever worn.

P.S. Did you get the groupon to 3 Sports? Because that's where did my fitting.

RobotLegs

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[QUOTE]Tiki: What made you decide that you only want one child? (I want lots of kids so I like hearing the other side of it!)
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

I want to be able to really provide for that one and give it my full attention.  I'm not good at splitting my time amongst friends, so imagine I wouldn't be much better at splitting it with children.  Plus, I want the adults in the house to outnumber the children ;)

Birdie1483

My mom didn't want me moving away and was definitely not excited about it when I told her. It was a real mood killer when I was excited about finding a job here and all of that when she wasn't excited for me. She got over it though and was supportive after that. I think

FutureMrsFezz

Panda- we're working on the flights.  trying to see how cheap we can get tickets.

baystateapple

My mom and I fight like cats and dogs, so I usually don't get too upset when the shiit hits the fan.  Before she went on her depression medication, however, it was really bad.  She would let loose a whole bunch of really hurtful things, constantly, whenever she was upset with me.  Now I understand that it was because she was unmedicated, but it really hurt at the time and it has taken me time to forgive her for it.  We're better now than we ever were, though.

hlq2011

Cfas - He was really good casting.  I like the dark stuff, which is why ESB and ROTS appealed to me, I think.  The desperation carried well in those.  I always loved Leia growing up (that whole kick-ass female thing) but after reading the books, I fell in love with all the pilots featured in the X-wing series.

mixtapehearts

(Total threadjacking) Thanks TR and Kiki- I'm really receptive to any advice I hear. My situation is a little weird, because:

1) FI is in med school, so he doesn't have time to work. He'll be done in 3 years, an then he does his residency (Which he get paid for, but very little.)

2) I JUST graduated a 4 year degree program. 

3) The reason I would go to the program I just got accepted into (A 3 year college program) is to get more dance experience, which I'm really lacking. It's really not for the diploma, because  already have a Bachelors from a really exclusive program. It would be for the actual practical experience... Which I could also do outside of school, but taking classes and actually auditioning for real musicals. 

4) The college program is so intense (43 hour weeks) that I wouldn't really have much time to work. Which means no money. And i'm just not ok with that.

So basically, I need to really weigh my options and figure out the pros and cons... Thank you for your advice

Also, favourite alchoholic beverage- Jack and coke. I'm soooooo classy.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]My mom didn't want me moving away and was definitely not excited about it when I told her. It was a real mood killer when I was excited about finding a job here and all of that when she wasn't excited for me. She got over it though and was supportive after that. I think
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]


Yeah, I think my mom would react a lot differently if I was getting a job somewhere and moving. I'm still staying in school here and commuting, which to her makes no sense (and I can understand her argument). But I need to get away from the city and there are other reasons too, but yeah, I just hate knowing she is upset/disappointed with me. I'm a huge people pleaser, and I really haven't done much in my life that my parents have disapproved of (that sounds super annoying, I know), so it is a new experience for me. Very uncomfortable.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]My mom and I fight like cats and dogs, so I usually don't get too upset when the shiit hits the fan.  Before she went on her depression medication, however, it was really bad.  She would let loose a whole bunch of really hurtful things, constantly, whenever she was upset with me.  Now I understand that it was because she was unmedicated, but it really hurt at the time and it has taken me time to forgive her for it.  We're better now than we ever were, though.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

((hug)) I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you, bay. I am glad that you are doing much better with her now.