Scheduling

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]*God Bless all US military troops*...but you should have probably planned your wedding around that....
Posted by FutureMrsW9[/QUOTE]

Are you effing kidding me?  We did plan around his deployment, so that we made sure he would be here for it.  That was what was important to us.  The marriage itself, not the freaking vacation after.

And we had a few other things of importance over a honeymoon, like having to move across the country, and settling into a new home before he left.  Apparently our priorities are ass-backwards, and should have said screw all of that since the vacation is clearly the most important part of your life.

BeachMuffin

I have lived with my now husband for 2 years and have been married for a few months now, and feel like our relationship has changed for the better... I love that he's my husband and have felt more spiritually connected since we exchanged vows...

my point is, i don't understand why you girls are all berating mrs. w for being more concerned with her honeymoon than the wedding itself... and then turn around and say that being married doesn't change anything anyway? what's the point of the vows then?

MrsMack10612

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[QUOTE]*God Bless all US military troops*...but you should have probably planned your wedding around that....
Posted by FutureMrsW9[/QUOTE]

She's kidding right?  She has to be.  Nobody can be that ignorant.

I've never been married (to a guy in the military or otherwise) but both my brothers are/were lifers and I saw the effects that deployments can have on life in general regardless of weddings.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]I have lived with my now husband for 2 years and have been married for a few months now, and feel like our relationship has changed for the better... I love that he's my husband and have felt more spiritually connected since we exchanged vows... my point is, i don't understand why you girls are all berating mrs. w for being more concerned with her honeymoon than the wedding itself... and then turn around and say that being married doesn't change anything anyway? <strong>what's the point of the vows then?</strong>
Posted by BeachMuffin[/QUOTE]

The post you quoted from Tide made reference to the fact that OP is not going to have some totally difference "newlywed experience" on her HM that requires it be immediately after their wedding. In other posts, many people have said something similar to what you and I have said - there's just a feeling of being closer - but like I said, that's something that grows over time, not an overnight thing that you will ruin if you aren't on vacation for the two weeks right after your wedding because your new husband wants to go to his friend's wedding.

And the bolded part I answered in my previous post, so feel free to go back and read that.

J&K10910

It upsets me that you and your FI are J&K.  That's not ok.

pinkpinot

Oh geez it's beachmuffin.

opalsky007

Sigh. I tried to write an answer to BeachMuffin's question, but it wasn't as eloquent as Emily's. So I'll just say that I agree. Things change after you're married. But nothing that will be wrecked by not immediately jumping on a plane and going away for two weeks.

You can be newlyweds at home. You can take a weekend trip away and save the big one for later. Heck, you can hole up in a fancy hotel room and turn off your cell phones. You don't have to spend thousands of dollars and two weeks away to enjoy your newly married status.

pinkpinot

Beachmuffin and this W9 lady are just a series of really annoying trolls that create more trolls to agree with their super awesome(ly bad) ideas.

Behold:
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dw-obnoxious

emilyinchile

I felt like BeachMuffin already being married yet having so few posts and coming in late in the game out of nowhere to disagree with everyone was suspicious, but I didn't remember her posting before until you mentioned it.

waltzingmatilda13

Oh yes, Beachmuffin. I thought it sounded familiar.

pinkpinot

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[QUOTE]Oh yes, Beachmuffin. I thought it sounded familiar.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]

The sand in her vag gave it away, no?

opalsky007

Somehow I'd missed her before. Thanks for the link, pink.

I made a rhyme. :-D

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Scheduling : The sand in her vag gave it away, no?
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

It does produce a certain reaction that is hard to forget.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Scheduling : that's a really sad statement. i hope you don't mean that. if that was the case, what's the point in getting married?? for tax purposes? how cynical...
Posted by BeachMuffin[/QUOTE]
Insurance, actually.  And, FWIW, more and more couples these days forgo getting married altogether for various reasons.  I'm sure that it doesn't take away from the closeness of their relationship.

DramaGeek

There are days when I really hate a) being on the west coast and b) not working a job where I can sit in front of my computer all day.

Come back when you've been married a few years and tell me then which you think is more important, the honeymoon or the wedding.  And like someone else said, if the honeymoon is the most important, why bother with a wedding at all?  Skip the expense and splurge on your honeymoon!