New KPS

FutureMrsFezz

1.  You shouldn't feel like a whore when you initiate sex.  It should be empowering and I promise it'll make it that much hotter.

2. Totally understand the TTC one.  I'm here if someone wants to talk!

ETA:  I just realized this is probably the only thread I've ever started on TK in the last 3 years.

waltzingmatilda13

Ditto Fezz. I could have written that pregnancy one myself. I'm also open to talking if anyone wants to share. 

Also, I don't agree with the woman shouldn't propose one. My mom basically propsed to my dad and they are happily married 30 years next month. Why should the decision always be left up to the guy? 

adamar15

I don't agree with the women proposing one, either.  That's fine if you wouldn't propose to a guy, but don't judge women who do.  Different strokes and all that. 

baystateapple

I don't have a problem with women proposing to men.  Especially if the subject has come up and the man has said he doesn't care if she does or doesn't.

H and I had that conversation once (mostly teasing) and I asked him how he would feel if I proposed to him.  He said seriously that he would be sad because he wanted the proposal to be "his" thing, his big surprise, and he would feel like he missed out on planning and initiating it.  So, not for us.  But I wouldn't judge people who do it if the guys are okay with it.

mandapanda78

I kinda love feeling like a whore. ... Wait, I should have KPSed that?

FutureMrsFezz

Panda you can be my hoar. ♥

mandapanda78

laurenpm

I agree about the proposal thing.  It wasn't for us but I see zero issue if it works for others.  It makes me think of the Friends episode when Monica proposes to Chandler with all the candles and it's so. freakin. cute. 

FutureMrsFezz

I'm loving all the Friends references lately.

Thanks for commenting in my 1st post ladies.  It makes me happy.  haha

FutureMrsFezz

Cfas- I thought the same thing.  Maybe they thought it was a pretty background?

laurenpm

I can totally relate anything in life to Friends or HP...does that make me crazy? I sure hope not. 

mkrupar

Maybe because little kids pee their pants and color with crayons?

FutureMrsFezz

I do it with Friends and Family Guy... sad.

pinkpinot

I have to roll my eyes at the bach party one.  I hate the excuse: I trust my SO/FI/H but I don't trust his friend.

Really?  I can't. 

mkrupar

I'm not going to lie. Sometimes I don't want to initiate because I don't want rejection if he's tired or isn't into it. That's not very often, but never because I feel like a hoar.

mkrupar

Ditto Fezz. We're Family Guy quoters.

And ditto Pink I read that and gave it an eyeroll.

Calypso1977

i just dont get the pee one in general.  crayons aside.

for one, once you started going, how could you not notice it was splashing on you if that could even happen?

and even if you had black pants on, they'd still look wet.

i think its MUD.

waltzingmatilda13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_new-kps-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ef5e43ef-7dc3-46af-b157-b023ed9a24b5Post:c1d977d6-1b15-4817-a3d7-90b938ed19e2">Re: New KPS</a>:
[QUOTE]I have to roll my eyes at the bach party one.  I hate the excuse: I trust my SO/FI/H but I don't trust his friend. Really?  I can't. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes! This drives me crazy and it comes up at least once a month on the prewedding parties board. No one can force him to have sex with someone else, so what's the problem? I don't get it. </div>

pinkpinot

I think not trusting a friend is misplaced non trust in your relationship.

My friends have done plenty of dumb things, so have I but never, ever have their choices caused me to do something that would damage my relationship.  I am not a lemming and neither is my husband.  If his friend went home with a hooker, H wouldn't follow just because his friend is doing it.  It just goes back to basic kindergarten knowledge: if your friend jumped off a bridge, would you?  My answer then and now is a resounding: hell naw.

And if you are dating someone who is THAT influenced by his friends, you both ain't ready for marriage, sweetie. 

baystateapple

I don't get the whole "I trust FI, I just don't trust his friends".  His friends can't make him sleep with someone else.

So unless you really believe that his friends are going to slip roofies into his drinks the night of his bachelor party...you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

mkrupar

That's exactly it. You can tell me until you're blue in the face that you trust your FI, it's his friends you don't trust, it doesn't matter. It all boils down to you don't trust your FI to have a brain and say no when his friends pressure him to do something dumb.

annakb8

I was wondering about the crayons too.

I think the proposal one is BS. Maybe you are all for "equality," but only as long as everyone stays inside the exact gender roles society has created.

And Pink, I don't buy the friend excuse either. It's lame.

Mrs.B6302007

FOr the TTC ladies:
It took 11 cycles for me to get pregnant w/ Baby Bee.  I did have a pregnancy a a few months before but had an early m/c.  I have been charting for 4 years and have studied NFP.  I will be happy to be a sounding board and/or offer some advice if you need it. =-)

FutureMrsFezz

Mrs. B YGPM.

mkrupar

This may seem like a dumb question, but do most people now a days chart when they're trying to get pregnant? (note the trying part, not accidentally getting pregnant)

I'm just curious because I see it talked about a lot over here and was wondering if it's just a normal part of making babies these days.

baystateapple

I'm actually really nervous about waiting too long to start TTC.  H seems to think that the first time we have unprotected sex, I'm going to get pregnant.  I haven't convinced him that the chances of that are very, very slim.

Unless you were on my month board.  Because seriously, within a month of our weddings I think at least three of those lucky girls were pregnant.  Something in the Nov. '10 water?

pinkpinot

I chart to NOT get pregnant.

Calypso1977

bay, if you are charting, there is a good chance you could get prego first or second try.  i know IRL several ladies who did.

adamar15

I'm also a little nervous about TTC (not that it's happening anytime soon).  I was an "accident" and they had to try forever for my little brother.  No happy medium there.

waltzingmatilda13

Honestly, MK, if I hadn't heard about it here I probably wouldn't have done it. But people who are familiar with NFP before probably would because that's how they've been TTA. I also wouldn't have done it if my cycles weren't so wonky. For me, I need to see what's going on because right now I just don't know. 

Calypso1977

i chart as my form of BC.  the method works both ways.  to avoid and conceive.