New KPS

FutureMrsTR

I remember when my friend was trying to get pregnant, her doctor told her to have sex 3 times a day every other day.  That's all the info I have on TTC, haha.  I plan on getting much more from TCOYF and the lovely ladies here when it's time.

FutureMrsFezz

Oh man TR.  I think I would break J if we were sexin' 3 times a day.

Ghoti

Sorry if my question was insensitive Fezz You're not doing it wrong, don't think like that.

Huh, interesting! Thanks Mrs.B

Beachy730

Yeah I plan on buying TCOYF when H is dpeloyed and starting to get used to that stuff.

waltzingmatilda13

Also the egg only lives for so long, so you have to time sex perfectly to get the sperm to the egg before it dies.

baystateapple

I really need to pick up a copy of TCOYF.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Also the egg only lives for so long, so you have to time sex perfectly to get the sperm to the egg before it dies.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]
I've always read that the egg lives 24 hours and the sperm lives up to 5 days, but now I'm guessing that there are other things that determine the actual length of "life"?

FutureMrsTR

haha I know, it seemed like a lot for me.  And by the third time, is there really anything left in there?  The guy I mean.

adamar15

Which TCOYF is the right one again?  Is it the Toni Weschler one?

mica178

I read somewhere that it's better to have sex every other day while TTC to get the sperm volume/density up.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]MrsB, YGPM :)
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]

Back atcha!

annakb8

TR, I was wondering the same thing.

I also want to know who has time to have sex three times a day besides college students.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I really need to pick up a copy of TCOYF.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]


Yes!  Highly recommend.

Ghoti

Ok. So does anyone know if after you ovulate, if you do get pregnant, do you stop getting all that extra cervical gunk immediately? Or do you continue on your normal crevically junk path and then just not have a period?

I hope that makes sense...

opalsky007

I thought I remembered reading that too, mica. But I was afraid to chime in because I'm certainly not well-read on the topic. 

Mrs.B6302007

Regarding multiple sex sessions a day: it may not help all that much.  The "best" sperm by number are going to be in the first ejaculate.  The man's body needs time to produce more so that's why the every other day schedule is recommended.  Besides.... ouch.  =-)

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New KPS : I've always read that the egg lives 24 hours and the sperm lives up to 5 days, but now I'm guessing that there are other things that determine the actual length of "life"?
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>No, that's about right. But of course the sperm have to be strong swimmers and find their way first. But that is why charting helps, because you can have them there before the egg is released and increase your chances of getting pregnant. </div>

Mrs.B6302007

Adamar - yes, Toni W.

baystateapple

One of my friends offered me her copy a few months ago, so I put off buying it, but she then remembered that she loaned it to someone else.  That's why I don't have one yet.

waltzingmatilda13

Yeah, when I asked my doc about getting pregnant, her advice was "Have sex every other day and have fun!". 

Ghoti

Do you know all this from that book Waltz? Maybe I should get it too  

Doesn't getting the timing of the sperm have something to do with the sex of the baby too? or is that a myth?

ahhhitsshannyn

I agree with MrsB. Ouch.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]I'm actually really nervous about waiting too long to start TTC.  H seems to think that the first time we have unprotected sex, I'm going to get pregnant.  I haven't convinced him that the chances of that are very, very slim. Unless you were on my month board.  Because seriously, within a month of our weddings I think at least three of those lucky girls were pregnant.  <strong>Something in the Nov. '10 water?</strong>
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]
God I hope not.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Do you know all this from that book Waltz? Maybe I should get it too :)  Doesn't getting the timing of the sperm have something to do with the sex of the baby too? or is that a myth?
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

There's some things out there that will tell you about when to have sex if you want a boy vs. girl. I have two friends that both wanted boys, followed the timing, and both had boys. Don't know if it's just coincidence or what, but it happened for them.

FutureMrsFezz

Ghoti don't you have kids?

adamar15

Thanks MrsB!

waltzingmatilda13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New KPS : Back atcha!
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Back at you!

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FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]Do you know all this from that book Waltz? Maybe I should get it too :)  Doesn't getting the timing of the sperm have something to do with the sex of the baby too? or is that a myth?
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

I think I remember learning something about how XY sperm are faster swimmers, but die quicker and XX swim slower, but live longer?  Or the opposite.  But something like that.  So I think timing can kind of affect it.

waltzingmatilda13

Ghoti, I did learn a lot from the book (I actually bought What to Expect Before You're Expecting). I really wish I had bought it sooner though just because I think it's really useful in general. 

And I'm with Fezz, shouldn't you know all of this?

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Ghoti don't you have kids?
Posted by FutureMrsFezz[/QUOTE]
I have 2, I'm either very fertile or very lucky, my first was from the first and only time we had sex (long story) and the second was from me thinking I couldn't get pregnant while breastfeeding and not wrapping it up. Now I'm freaking out because we had sex bare the other day and used the pull out method( irresponsible, I know, it was the only time in 2 years we've done that) and then *TMI* I started getting that snotty slime the next evening and now it's gone and I'm at normal.<div>
</div><div>ETA: basically, I'm like every other shmuck out there who doesn't plan their children but loves them nonetheless :) I was trying to not talk about it though because it seems insensitive.</div>