Unpopular Opinion(s)

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]I hate strip clubs of any kind and cringe when my FI goes for bachelor parties!!
Posted by Arayx2[/QUOTE]

WHY?

PS - I'm reading and responding as I go.

emilyinchile

I like my belly button piercing which I got on my 18th birthday (although I've still got 4.5 years before Kiki thinks it makes me trashy). I also like my MOH's foot tattoo.

There, TR, ya happy?

Birdie1483

I had a different view on strip clubs before I had a serious conversation with FI once about him going to them for bachelor parties and then I actually went to one a few times. Now as long as FI doesn't get a private lap dance or anything I'm fine with him going and would probably go with him.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Seriously needs so feedback!! Elope, get married again, party : ??  Please tell me this isn't someone saying "Get married before tax day, then have a PPD later so the IRS
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</div><div>Nah, it was supposed to go here. OP can't pay for college and so has to marry her guy by April or something.

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em01092

I totally agree about the voter education thing. 

On the flip side, the government needs to simplify their choices in some aspects too. I am a college senior and have never, ever had a single issue with reading comprehension, yet I was extremely stumped last year when I went to vote on a particular proposition. It was whether or not to allow this railway system into our county, and I could not understand which one said yes and which one said no. It was like they were purposefully trying to trick people. My grandma agreed. She said it has always been like that. I agree that voters should be informed about the choices they make, but it would be so much easier if they would have one that said, "Yes, I want MARTA" and "No, I don't want MARTA." 

FutureMrsTR

Yes, thank you Emily   No one should be so worried about what we internet strangers think that they need to give us an excuse as to why they have a belly button piercing.  Do your thang.

barbie92

I have my belly button pierced. I got it done when I was 15. I don't know what I will do with it when I get pregnant though.

MelissaAnne88

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[QUOTE]I totally agree about the voter education thing.  On the flip side, the government needs to simplify their choices in some aspects too. I am a college senior and have never, ever had a single issue with reading comprehension, yet I was extremely stumped last year when I went to vote on a particular proposition. It was whether or not to allow this railway system into our county, and I could not understand which one said yes and which one said no. It was like they were purposefully trying to trick people. My grandma agreed. She said it has always been like that. I agree that voters should be informed about the choices they make, but it would be so much easier if they would have one that said, "Yes, I want MARTA" and "No, I don't want MARTA." 
Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]
And the answer is always: "No, I don't want MARTA!!!"

Arayx2

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[QUOTE]<strong>I had a different view on strip clubs before I had a serious conversation with FI once about him going to them for bachelor parties and then I actually went to one a few times. Now as long as FI doesn't get a private lap dance or anything I'm fine with him going and would probably go with him.
</strong>Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

My FI and I had the same talk and that is why I do not ask him not to go. Because he and I both agree that crosses a line. But I still don't like it. I will be the firs tto admit, I have never been to one so my view maybe totally blown out of proportion but it still doesn't sit well with me.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : And when was this?  And how old are you now?  You obviously could have taken it out at any time.  I mean, I don't care that you have one, but don't use that excuse for still having it.  You like it.  It's ok, just own it.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

I think I was like 19 when I got it done, I'm 24 now.  Basically, I never would have gotten one on my own, but now that I have it, it's just kind of there, and I'm used to it.  I'll take it out eventually, but I don't see a reason to right now...I'm just kind of indifferent about it.

baystateapple

I had my navel pierced twice -- once when I was 21 (the people on Lifestar took it out when I got in the car accident and never gave it back to me), and once when I was 24.  The ring fell out in the shower six months later.  After that I gave up.  Figured it just wasn't meant to be.

pumpkinpumpkin

I truly believe that any woman who doesn't like the idea of strip clubs, or her FI/H/SO participating in Bachelor parties is WAY too insecure to be getting married/be married/be in a relationship.

Birdie1483

My advice would be to go to one, just to put your mind at ease But you can't go bottomless in Indiana, so it really wasn't a big deal. More people were walking around and talking and drinking than oogling at the strippers.

My opinion really did change after I saw one first hand. It totally wasn't the sex fest I was picturing it to be (unless you count the stripper that was cracked out on something running up to me and kissing me on the lips, but that's a story for another day...)

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : And the answer is always: "No, I don't want MARTA!!!"
Posted by MelissaAnne88[/QUOTE]

<div>HAHA I know right? That's what I was trying to say...but I'm not sure I did. My grandma said she picked the same one I did, so we think we're ok. </div><div>
</div><div>Dude, last time I rode MARTA, this intoxicated lady was going from car to car while it was moving (dangerous and not allowed) asking for money and cussing people out. Very scary. </div>

adamar15

Birdie, a stripper bit me once.  It was weird. 

annakb8

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[QUOTE]I totally agree about the voter education thing.  On the flip side, the government needs to simplify their choices in some aspects too. I am a college senior and have never, ever had a single issue with reading comprehension, yet I was extremely stumped last year when I went to vote on a particular proposition. It was whether or not to allow this railway system into our county, and I could not understand which one said yes and which one said no. It was like they were purposefully trying to trick people. My grandma agreed. She said it has always been like that. I agree that voters should be informed about the choices they make, but it would be so much easier if they would have one that said, "Yes, I want MARTA" and "No, I don't want MARTA." 
Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]

I'm not exactly sure how this stuff works in GA, but it's entirely possible that the person who wrote that proposition had absolutely nothing to do with the government. In a lot of states propositions make their way to the ballot when private citizens write them then collect signatures and petition for them.

MelissaAnne88

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[QUOTE]My advice would be to go to one, just to put your mind at ease :) But you can't go bottomless in Indiana, so it really wasn't a big deal. More people were walking around and talking and drinking than oogling at the strippers. My opinion really did change after I saw one first hand. It totally wasn't the sex fest I was picturing it to be (unless you count the stripper that was cracked out on something running up to me and kissing me on the lips, but that's a story for another day...)
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
No, I'm sorry, you need to share that story now! :)

And btw, the fact that you have a "countdown to the rapture" in your sig makes me laugh!

emilyinchile

I've been sitting here for about 5 minutes trying to think of an unpopular opinion and can't. I can't tell if this means that I'm totally self-absorbed because I think all my opinions must be popular or if it means that I'm a little lemming who only has mainstream opinions.

pinkpinot

A stripper pulled me on stage once and I touched the pole, remembered what other things had touched the pole and I ran off stage....to wash my hands. 

jemmini6

I've been to a male strip club...now that was interesting.

It was also intersting when we locked the keys in the car and had to call my dad to see if he could get them out.  That was awkward giving him directions to the male strip club....lol.

mandapanda78

I want to go to a strip club with kiki and watch Ellen with mandy.

And whoever said the Lays in yellow mustard thing? Thanks, I hadn't gagged yet today.

Arayx2

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[QUOTE]<strong>I truly believe that any woman who doesn't like the idea of strip clubs, or her FI/H/SO participating in Bachelor parties is WAY too insecure to be getting married/be married/be in a relationship.
</strong>Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

I am sorry - I disagree with this statement.  But thank you for your input :)

AbbeyS2011

I am enjoying the strip club discussion.  My FH worked in various clubs for over 10 years, opening and managing at least 2 of them for the same owner.  Men would say to him "Oh, you must love it, having all the Ts,As, and Ps at your disposal", and he would say, "Ummmm, no I have a GF, and these ladies are either married or have BFs."

ETA:  I have no problem with strip clubs or my FH going to them.  I know he is coming home to be with me, not the ladies that work at them.  I have told him I would not mind going to one with him sometime. 

One of his brother's wives is so strict, he is not allowed to even look at Playboy or she will threaten to divorce him.  She found an adult video in his truck once and moved out, until FH told him "tell her I left it there". 

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : My FI and I had the same talk and that is why I do not ask him not to go. Because he and I both agree that crosses a line. But I still don't like it. I will be the firs tto admit, I have never been to one so my view maybe totally blown out of proportion but it still doesn't sit well with me.
Posted by Arayx2[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Has he been before? I would suggest you two go together. It's probably not what you think. And yes, the strippers might act a little differently with you there, but they figure you want a show too. Be prepared to tip and to be asked if you want a dance. A lot of strippers love when women/couples come in, but others might shy away and stay with the male only clans. </div><div>
</div><div>It's fine for you to have your stance, as they are very controversial, but actually going to one first might change your mind, or at least help you back up your argument a little more. 

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Arayx2

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[QUOTE]<strong>A stripper pulled me on stage once and I touched the pole, remembered what other things had touched the pole and I ran off stage....to wash my hands</strong>. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

That is funny!!

Anysunrise

Yeah, strip clubs are really not that big of a deal, especially topless-only ones. I mean, they're just boobs. Big whoop. 

Birdie1483

Melissa, we have to be prepared!!!

I was at the local strip joint in my hometown and this poor stripper was definitely high on something. I mean she was cracked out of her mind. She was doing ballet moves on the stage and was pretty much out of it. When she got down from one of her dances she came by the table I was sitting at, grabbed my face and planted a big one on my lips.

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I'm not exactly sure how this stuff works in GA, but it's entirely possible that the person who wrote that proposition had absolutely nothing to do with the government. In a lot of states propositions make their way to the ballot when private citizens write them then collect signatures and petition for them.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not sure either. It just had a ton of unnecessary wording, confusing sentences that seemed to contradict each other, and a very sophisticated vocabulary that I had trouble grasping as a college senior (history major), so I can only imagine how less educated people feel reading that mess. I'll change my stance to whoever writes them should make them less confusing!</div>

MissKate2011

I have been to a couple strip clubs and I hate them.  They're trashy, the girls are usually coked out and mostly run by or most frequented by local drug dealers.

This is in my area anyway.  Maybe it's different where you're from.

The girls here get completely naked, they have sexual experiences together on stage (going down on one another), touching is allowed and pretty much anything else for a price. 

I think what the previous poster was saying was that if it's not OK for H or FI to go into a private room at a party with a girl who takes off her clothes and grinds up on him then why would it be OK for him to pay for it to get done at a strip club.

Birdie1483

MissKate, your strip club sounds a lot more exciting than ours! Holy crap.