Unpopular Opinion(s)

ahhhitsshannyn

My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : When I hear the person in the stall next to me talking on a cell phone, I immediately flush my toilet so the person they are talking to hears it.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]


OMG you're my hero! I'm always afraid to pee because I don't want them to hear me tinkle.

Birdie1483

Oh I think Glee is really dumb.

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

Shan, I'm sorry.  I really like you.  But I really respectfully must disagree with this.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]


Ohhhhhhh boy.  I'm glad you're not in my head then, because I don't think you'd like what you saw.

SapphireBride12

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[QUOTE]So you don't advertise what you're paying per plate, but you expect people to magically know and give that plus a little extra? Weird. People in your area must be really good at guessing games.  I'm picturing Bob Barker quizzing people on how much the stuffed salmon runs per head. "She bid $52, so I'm bidding $52.01!" Petty, both the expectation and the fact that people would dare gossip about it later.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]

<div>You base it off of where they are having it. You have a good idea of what someone is paying based on the hall they choose. </div><div>The reason behind it is, you want the bride and groom to end up with a little nest egg to start their life off with- so they can put it toward a downpayment on a house or new furniture, etc. So, you cover your plate so they get back the money they spent on the wedding and then a little extra. </div>

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

<div>Then I doubt you have ever experienced real anxiety. It is not just psychological, it manifests actual physical symptoms that can be impossible to handle if severe enough.</div>

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I think anyone who accepts the role of a BM without realizing they will probably have to spend $150 on a dress must have been dropped on their head as a baby. 
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

I think you could use a lesson in learning that NY prices are not the norm across the US. I'm from a HCOL area (SF Bay Area) and think anything under $200 is normal/fine for a BM dress, but I also have just a wee bit more understanding of how the rest of the world works that it would appear you do.

mica178

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

Everyone gets anxious from time to time, but not everyone has anxiety that cripples them from doing "normal" things in life.  Trust me, I've seen it, and it's not pretty.

laurenpm

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]
I disagree. But my only experience is a close friend who had severe anxiety until he took medication for it.  It worked for him but it may not be right for everyone.  

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I think anyone who accepts the role of a BM without realizing they will probably have to spend $150 on a dress must have been dropped on their head as a baby. 
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

<div>Why? I mean yeah dresses at DB and AA are about that much, but you can also tell your girls to go find a black dress and be done with it. </div>

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I don't get this. Has he never seen another naked woman before? Do you think he'd think about it while he was with you? Do you think it's just morally wrong of him to even consider someone other than you naked? Do fantasy women count? Cause, from my perspective of the male mind, hell, the human mind in general, I think you're holding him to a pretty unrealistic standard and/or deluding yourself. 
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]
I just don't see the need to refresh his memory on other women. He had 25 years to ogle his brains out. <div>I don't get women who have absolutely no problem with their men going to strip clubs, but I have the ability to accept that there are different strokes for different folks <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /> </div>

ahhhitsshannyn

Sapphire, are you kidding me? Do you really go around to all of your family telling them who did not give you a gift? I did not invite anyone to our wedding hoping to get gifts from them, I invited them because I wanted them to celebrate with us. You are in for a rude awakening when you get married if you expect everyone to pay for themselves.

emilyinchile

Shan, I know it's your opinion and all, but I really don't think you know what you're talking about. The kind of anxiety that gets medicated is not the kind of anxiety that everyone gets.

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I think anyone who accepts the role of a BM without realizing they will probably have to spend $150 on a dress must have been dropped on their head as a baby. 
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

I know this is an UO thread, but that's more than a little harsh.  When I was in graduate school, I knew how much it cost to buy a bridesmaids dress, but when the time came to paying, it still hurt, and it would have been nice if the bride had been a little more understanding of my situation.

MelissaAnne88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : If I ever see the person in question afterwards I plan to ask them if they are going to sanitize their cell phone because that is NASTY.  Can you imagine touching things in a bathroom, touching your phone, and then putting your phone next to your FACE?
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]
Okay...I WAS hungry...blech.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : When I hear the person in the stall next to me talking on a cell phone, I immediately flush my toilet so the person they are talking to hears it.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]
Haha you're awesome.

Birdie1483

People who don't believe in anxiety gives me anxiety I think I might need to bow out of the convo now.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I think anyone who accepts the role of a BM without realizing they will probably have to spend $150 on a dress must have been dropped on their head as a baby. 
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

<div>Well I think anyone who would value the cost of a dress over their friendship with someone is an entitled brat.  </div>

shytownkelly

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

Until recently I would have agreed with you - but I've seen what it has done to my cousin.  She went from a vibrant woman with many opportunities to not even being able to get into a car for fear of dying in a car accident. 

It is horrifying what it has done to her - and she won't take the drugs - because her anxiety makes her believe the side effects are worse than how she feels. 

This is more than just a bit nervous. 

SapphireBride12

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : Why? I mean yeah dresses at DB and AA are about that much, but you can also tell your girls to go find a black dress and be done with it. 
Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Of course you can put a BM in any dress, but if they accept the position they should assume you'd go the traditional route with a dress from a bridal store. Maybe it's a regional thing, but I've never been to a wedding that was casual enough to get away with not wearing a gown from a bridal store</div>

em01092

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[QUOTE]Oh I think Glee is really dumb.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

<div>NOOOOOOOOOOO.</div><div>
</div><div>Just kidding. I hate the show, love the songs. Well most of them anyway. The show is beyond ridiculous. I hate being reminded of how awful high school was. Sue is the main reason I watch. This week's episode was really touching, btw.</div>

neelynicole

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[QUOTE]My UO is that I do not believe in anxiety medication. I do not believe that anxiety is a disorder- it is just a part of life, everyone gets anxious from time to time.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

I know it's controversial, but I'm gonna gree with this. And add to it, most depression meds. I think docs/therapists/whathaveyou are WAY too liberal with the 'script pad. Feeling blue? Take a pill. Whatever. (granted, in some cases, it's warranted, but holy shiz, it seems like if someone sneezes they get a pill for a 'disorder')

Edit - I'm certainly not referring to people with severe needs for meds. I get that it's needed sometimes. But not for random bouts of stress.

mica178

Birdie, don't go!

Hey, what happened to the rapture countdown?

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : Of course you can put a BM in any dress, but if they accept the position they should assume you'd go the traditional route with a dress from a bridal store. Maybe it's a regional thing, but I've never been to a wedding that was casual enough to get away with not wearing a gown from a bridal store
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

<div>I have seen some ugly ass dresses at bridal stores, and I have seen some gorgeous ones at department stores.  Not one person is going to judge your wedding on where your BM dresses came from.  </div>

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : Of course you can put a BM in any dress, but if they accept the position they should assume you'd go the traditional route with a dress from a bridal store. <strong>Maybe it's a regional thing, but I've never been to a wedding that was casual enough to get away with not wearing a gown from a bridal store</strong>
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

You know you can buy formal dresses from other places, right? There are actually a lot of stores at most malls that carry formal dresses. Where do you buy the dresses you wear when you're just a guest at these oh-so-fancy weddings?

baystateapple

Shan, when I was 21 I was involved in a very serious car accident.  I developed anxiety disorder and accident-related PTSD from it.  In the first three years after the accident, I had trouble leaving my apartment.  I would get ready to go to class, and then I would go to open the door and be literally paralyzed with fear to leave.  Full-blown panic attacks, insomnia, hyperventilating, the whole nine yards.  My quality of life went completely down the tubes.  I was completely isolated, I never saw people, I literally shut myself in my apartment except when I had to go to work (and it was even a struggle then).

I started seeing a therapist and went on medication, and I can't even tell you how much that has changed my life.  Anxiety disorder is extremely real.

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]I am enjoying the strip club discussion.  My FH worked in various clubs for over 10 years, opening and managing at least 2 of them for the same owner.  Men would say to him "Oh, you must love it, having all the Ts,As, and Ps at your disposal", and he would say, "Ummmm, no I have a GF, and these ladies are either married or have BFs." ETA:  I have no problem with strip clubs or my FH going to them.  I know he is coming home to be with me, not the ladies that work at them.  I have told him I would not mind going to one with him sometime. <strong> One of his brother's wives is so strict, he is not allowed to even look at Playboy or she will threaten to divorce him.  She found an adult video in his truck once and moved out, until FH told him "tell her I left it there". </strong>
Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

Now that is f'n crazy. There is a serioucase of insecurity in one's relationship if it goes to that extreme, imo.
Personally I wouldn't care, at this point, if H went to the strip clubs occasionally. He doesn't, he's just not into it, but I wouldn't care. When I was younger and with my 1st husband I was REALLY insecure and would have cried if he had gone. But he also would flirt back with women who hit on him in front of me so there was more going on than just being insecure.

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : Of course you can put a BM in any dress, but if they accept the position they should assume you'd go the traditional route with a dress from a bridal store. Maybe it's a regional thing, but I've never been to a wedding that was casual enough to get away with not wearing a gown from a bridal store
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Macys, JC Pennys, Dillards, Bloomingdales, etc all have dresses that are just as nice, if not more formal, than some I have seen at bridal stores and can be a fraction of the cost, especially with coupons and sales. Several of them are just as much and can be more, so it's not a done deal, but it gives the girls more options. You can also give them fabrics you prefer and can remind them the wedding is formal so they can consider those things when they are selecting. </div><div>
</div><div>And not all weddings are formal. Mine is semi-formal, and I'm letting my BMs pick any knee length dress in any fabric (though there's only like 4 choices) from AA in Petunia (all were ok with the prices). 

</div>

SapphireBride12

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : You know you can buy formal dresses from other places, right? There are actually a lot of stores at most malls that carry formal dresses. Where do you buy the dresses you wear when you're just a guest at these oh-so-fancy weddings?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

<div>Umm bloomingdales? But I wouldn't ask my BMs to all get $400 dresses from Bloomies- that's too much. The reason you go to a bridal store is because they are cheap. </div>