Unpopular Opinion(s)

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I think it's pretty popular with eugenicists.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

I'm not thinking of it from a 'perfecting the genepool' standpoint, but I just get so upset everytime I hear of some irresponsible POS parent doing something stupid that affects their kids.  There was a girl here recently who left her 2 kids in the car when it was 96 outside for 3 hours while she went to a pool party. 

Again, I'm not thinking of it as something that should be seriously implemented.  I'm pro-choice and I don't think the government should have any say over someone's reproduction, so obviously I'd never support anything like that even if it was brought up, but it's just one of those crazy thoughts when I see someone who has kids that definitely shouldn't....

emilyinchile

Oh Birdie, I agree that I'm sure plenty of people have unrealistic visions of strip clubs. I just felt like some people were implying that unless you've gone, you really can't know what they're like and therefore can't know how you really feel about them, and that part I disagree with.

Meg1979

I just wanted to chime in and say I've been to both male and female establishments and they seem like NBD to me.  Just don't look at the dudes in the corner.  They have this glazed look that is not good. 

Also, it seems to me that the guys who sleep with strippers do it at the parties where they hire a stripper to come to the house.  Or he's Mario Lopez.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : More power to ya Pumpkin, but that stuff would sure as hell bother me.  I don't understand why they need to look at that.  And who said about the awesome beer & wing specials?  I'm pretty sure they have those at regular bars, too.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto.  I don't think it makes you any better of a wife because you don't care that he goes.  But yeah, I would have a problem if H wanted to just go there all the time, and I don't think that means I'm a bad wife.</div>

andy71781

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[QUOTE]Where I come from, strippers take off all their clothes. ALL of them. And lay on the stage with their legs spread, they make a cone out of a poster, and you throw money in to the cone (which is usually rested up against their vag)...And then they lay there and spread it with their fingers and such. And none of it bothers me if my H goes...
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

I think my entire goal in life is now changed and is now just not to be the person who has to clean up those posters.

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : You could say this exact thing about bartenders and waitresses, too.  I know when I was a server I would do my hair & makeup extra nice on the weekends and would wear the tank top version of our uniform instead of the short sleeve shirt.  I'd treat all my tables well but wanted to make the tables of guys who were drinking feel like I was paying them extra attention.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>Right. I definitely try to look nice for my job too. It can be unnerving, thinking of a stripper getting all naked and cutesy next to your man, but I was just trying to help aray take the personal aspect out. Some people can, some people can't. </div>

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : Ditto.  I don't think it makes you any better of a wife because you don't care that he goes.  But yeah, I would have a problem if H wanted to just go there all the time, and I don't think that means I'm a bad wife.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

This.

I wouldn't care if H went to an ordinary strip club, but I wouldn't be a fan of that kind of strip club.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]Oh Birdie, I agree that I'm sure plenty of people have unrealistic visions of strip clubs. I just felt like some people were implying that unless you've gone, you really can't know what they're like and therefore can't know how you really feel about them, and that part I disagree with.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

Well I would argue how would you really know what they're like if you've never actually seen it, but I"m finding that the strip clubs I've been to are far different from others apparently! :)

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : That was me.  And of course other bars have good specials.  I'm just saying though, that oogling & objectifying women are not the only reasons to go to a strip club. 
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

But it's the only reason to pick a strip club over a sports bar.  Period.  Not necessarily the "objectifying" part because that's a more negative connotation.  But to look at naked women?  Yes, that is why people go to strip clubs.

I'm going to get dinner now, not running away from the conversation.  I will be a little disappointed if we're still batting this back and forth in 20 minutes when I get back, though.

em01092

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[QUOTE]Oh Birdie, I agree that I'm sure plenty of people have unrealistic visions of strip clubs. I just felt like some people were implying that unless you've gone, you really can't know what they're like and therefore can't know how you really feel about them, and that part I disagree with.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think you (as in general you, not you personally) have to go to know (I've never been, but I'm not opposed), but it might help ease some tensions/worries if you do see what the ones in your area are actually like.</div>

missy68

One sentence:  Amateur night on a weeknight in BFE, Arkansas with all my male coworkers.
It was a riot.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : Well I would argue how would you really know what they're like if you've never actually seen it, but I"m finding that the strip clubs I've been to are far different from others apparently! :)
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Because I've talked about them with friends who've been and also with H, and I don't think that they've said untrue things or that I've imagined additional things, so my image based on those conversations is probably pretty close to reality.

I mean, I've never been sky diving but don't think I would like it based on the description - I don't think I need to actually throw myself out of the plane to figure out that I probably wouldn't enjoy falling toward the earth. I'm not saying I'm a strip club expert without having ever set foot in one, but I don't think that you need to experience everything firsthand to have a basic understanding of what it's like.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]One sentence:  Amateur night on a weeknight in BFE, Arkansas with all my male coworkers. It was a riot.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

<div>New weekend plans: check.</div>

Birdie1483

I know I was making a joke based on the fact that Canadians apparently like to have a lot more "fun" at strip clubs then Hoosiers and Kentuckians do.

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I think it's pretty popular with eugenicists.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

*snort*

em01092

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : New weekend plans: check.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

<div>Same here! FI is not so thrilled at the idea...lol</div>

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]I know I was making a joke based on the fact that Canadians apparently like to have a lot more "fun" at strip clubs then Hoosiers and Kentuckians do.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Ahh sorry, gotcha. And yes, I am basing my opinion on a couple LA strip clubs and a couple in Santiago. None of which to my knowledge involve the things that go on in Canada.

Ghoti

Ok, I've been to strip clubs in CA, VA but not here in NJ. In CA (at least in my county) they are naked. In VA, they wear full bikinis with heels.  I still don't like them. It has nothing to do with the sex part, even if they DID want sex with my FI, he's not that guy.  It has everything to do with my perspective on how the male mind works, and the fact I don't want the visual image of another IRL naked woman dancing around in his head. I have images from horror flicks that are still stuck in my head, and its been years since I've seen one. However logical or illogical that is, it is how my mind works, and my FI completely respects that.

Arayx2

I am bowing out of the conversation as well. I have to leave and go pick my son up. Again thanks Ladies! Robot Legs I appreciate the thread. New perspectives always help!!

SapphireBride12

I think people who go to a wedding and don't give a gift are beyond rude... I also think if they don't give enough to cover their and their date's plates and a little extra they are rude too- or close too it, since I don't go around advertising how much I'm paying per plate. 

I know the cover you plate theory is unpopular on here after lurking a bit... but from where I'm from, it's totally the standard and if someone didn't give you a gift, the family will definitely be gossiping about it. 

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I think people who go to a wedding and don't give a gift are beyond rude... I also think if they don't give enough to cover their and their date's plates and a little extra they are rude too- or close too it, since I don't go around advertising how much I'm paying per plate.  I know the cover you plate theory is unpopular on here after lurking a bit... but from where I'm from, it's totally the standard and if someone didn't give you a gift, the family will definitely be gossiping about it. 
Posted by SapphireBride12[/QUOTE]

<div>The selfish entitled brides board is down the hall and to the left.</div>

annakb8

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Unpopular Opinion(s) : I'm not thinking of it from a 'perfecting the genepool' standpoint, but I just get so upset everytime I hear of some irresponsible POS parent doing something stupid that affects their kids.  There was a girl here recently who left her 2 kids in the car when it was 96 outside for 3 hours while she went to a pool party.  Again, I'm not thinking of it as something that should be seriously implemented.  I'm pro-choice and I don't think the government should have any say over someone's reproduction, so obviously I'd never support anything like that even if it was brought up, but it's just one of those crazy thoughts when I see someone who has kids that definitely shouldn't....
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

I guess I know what you mean, but I there is always the question of who makes the decisions. And I find it hard to believe that if a program like this ever came into existance there wouldn't be some kind of genetic monitoring component.

I guess it's a little tiny bit like me sometimes wishing people had to pass a test to vote. That has turned out poorly in the past. I just hear people share opinions about people somehow monitoring who should procreate and it makes me wonder if anyone even knows what eugenics is anymore. Obviously you do though.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]Ok, I've been to strip clubs in CA, VA but not here in NJ. In CA (at least in my county) they are naked. In VA, they wear full bikinis with heels.  I still don't like them. It has nothing to do with the sex part, even if they DID want sex with my FI, he's not that guy.  It has everything to do with my perspective on how the male mind works, and the fact I don't want the visual image of another IRL naked woman dancing around in his head. I have images from horror flicks that are still stuck in my head, and its been years since I've seen one. However logical or illogical that is, it is how my mind works, and my FI completely respects that. :)
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't get this. Has he never seen another naked woman before? Do you think he'd think about it while he was with you? Do you think it's just morally wrong of him to even consider someone other than you naked? Do fantasy women count? Cause, from my perspective of the male mind, hell, the human mind in general, I think you're holding him to a pretty unrealistic standard and/or deluding yourself. </div>

emilyinchile

I think it's weird to talk on your cell phone in the bathroom.

Based on the number of people I've run into doing that lately (someone in the office bathroom just now), this is an unpopular opinion.

mica178

I've been to the notorious Mons Venus in Tampa, and they were not performing crazy sex acts on each other there.  I can't say what they were doing in the back rooms (although I can say that I did see cocaine usage in the bathroom).

H went to a rather aggressive strip club during his bachelor party.  The guy throwing the party has been known to marry strippers, and all of them knew him by name at the bachelor party.  I still didn't worry about H.

Ghoti

I think people who expect their bridesmaids to pay 150-300 dollars on a dress without consulting them first are douchnozzles. 

baystateapple

Em, I don't want to live in a world where talking on your cell phone while peeing is popular.

opalsky007

So you don't advertise what you're paying per plate, but you expect people to magically know and give that plus a little extra? Weird. People in your area must be really good at guessing games. 

I'm picturing Bob Barker quizzing people on how much the stuffed salmon runs per head. "She bid $52, so I'm bidding $52.01!"

Petty, both the expectation and the fact that people would dare gossip about it later.

SapphireBride12

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[QUOTE]I think people who expect their bridesmaids to pay 150-300 dollars on a dress without consulting them first are douchnozzles. 
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>I think anyone who accepts the role of a BM without realizing they will probably have to spend $150 on a dress must have been dropped on their head as a baby. </div>

MelissaAnne88

We gotta get off the strip clubs and talk about more unpopular opinions.

I don't like "How I Met Your Mother" - apparently the rest of the world does.