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Meg1036

I confess that I'm in my office shaking right now too (you have company, Opal).

I had a dissertation defense scheduled on June 17.  My advisor emailed me an hour ago wanting to push it back a month.  He wants me to call him to discuss, but I am so angry and frustrated now, and I lack the guts to call him.  I already called FI in tears.  I just don't know what to do.

pinkpinot

TR, I'm making lasagna for Easter because it won't make a big mess and I'm so tired of cleaning up messes. 

mica178

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[QUOTE]Mica - smack him upside the head with the TCOYF book.  It does TOO work!  I'm proof of that. 
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

B, somehow I have a feeling that hitting H on the head with a big book will not improve our sex life.  ;)

Meg1036

Birdie - lots of hugs.  I now feel like a huge tool for crying about my thesis.

FutureMrsTR

Pink - neither my mom nor I are big cooks and H's & my kitchen is TINY so we decided it wasn't worth the hassle.

opalsky007

Meg, that sucks, and I'm sorry.

Hopefully there's an easy fix. My advisors have a nasty habit of calling up and saying that they're unhappy with an entire section of it, and when we talk it's really like they didn't agree with a single sentence or number, and then we're back on track.It's incredibly stressful until I find out what's up.

I hope you get some good news! And if not, hang in there. It'll be over soon.

andy71781

Birdie I'm sending you hugs from the interwebz.  I hope you can feel them.


I confess/want to say that I feel weird about not doing anything for Easter this year.  I feel weird and kind of like an outcast.  I'm not sure if it's because we are wanting to convert to Judaism or if it's because we have less people around here to celebrate it with.

pinkpinot

I hear ya.  I'm not much of a cook either and also suffer from a tiny kitchen with no dishwasher. 

AbbeyS2011

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[QUOTE]I confess that I'm in my office shaking right now too (you have company, Opal).<strong> I had a dissertation defense scheduled on June 17</strong>.  My advisor emailed me an hour ago wanting to push it back a month.  He wants me to call him to discuss, but I am so angry and frustrated now, and I lack the guts to call him.  I already called FI in tears.  I just don't know what to do.
Posted by Meg1036[/QUOTE]

What exactly is this?  It definitely sounds stressful.  Hugs. 

Beachy730

TR- One of the main reasons I never work out is because I HATE showering and getting ready twice in one day.  So unless I go first thing in the morning, or late or night with nothing to do, I never go.  And our gym isn't open late enough for me, so I literally just never go.  My only "workouts" are playing soccer anymore.

Pink- I paid $60 to fill mine from a quarter tank 2 days ago, and I'm already down to a half tank.  H just said he has been hearing or reading that gas could be up to $6/gallon by July.  I might just puke,  

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Natural Family Planning. Catholics don't believe in artificial birth control so this is a practice that is accepted by the Church that is based on charting and paying attention to normal bodily fluids (hope that is not TMI).
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

Nope, not TMI at all - in fact it makes good sense.

I thought they said condoms were ok now?

FutureMrsTR

Pink - yep, no dishwasher either.

Andy - if this isn't too personal, how did you and your H decide to convert to Judaism?  Were you practicing anything else before?  I'm just really curious

pinkpinot

DNB, H told me the same thing about gas prices and my boss decided to be such a tool bag and won't let anyone work from home (besides himself which he is doing today).  Our office is 3 people, including myself.  Every summer we all rotate working from home one day a week or whenever necessary to save on gas and time off.  I am so fed up with his stupid management style that I have barely said 5 words to him this week.  I can't stand his greasy face anymore.

DNAtime

I flame my FI for not boycotting Easter with me.  Also because of that now I have to run 7 miles ALONE on Sunday . 

Also, he lied to his mom, AGAIN.  He always lies to her and it drives me nuts.  It really bothers me because for example: He told his mom that I was not going to church with them because I am going to church on Easter with my parents.
Fact: I am sleeping in, then going running on sunday, followed by brunch

So these lies will involve me, and every once in a great while, his mom will say something and I end up calling out his lie to his mom.  Because I have asked him not to lie to his mom when it involves me because a) its stupid to lie to your mom as an adult, b) I never know what he told her, c)I end up being the person caught in YOUR lie, and I feel that it makes me look bad, d) I don't believe in lying.

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Nope, not TMI at all - in fact it makes good sense. <strong>I thought they said condoms were ok now?
</strong>Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

No, the Catholic church does not condone condom use.  The pope said that it would be preferable the HIV+ prostitutes use condoms to prevent the spread of the disease, but condoms are not to be used for birth control for married couples.

DNAtime

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[QUOTE]It was $75.00 to fill up my gas tank today.  I f'in flame that.  I'll need a part time job to be able to afford to go to work come summer. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

I ditto this. I payed $40 to fill up my Honda Civic.  I commute so far that I have to fill up once a week. Ugh.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Holy crap.  That's insane.  I'm scared to ask what steak costs.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

Filet is $27lb. Gallon of milk $8 Box of cocoa peoples $6+ Lb of butter $3+ 6-pack of soda $4 Stoli vodka $11 Cruzan rim $ 5

RobotLegs

I think the Catholic church not allowing birth control is irresponsible.

Guess that's probably an UnpopOp? 

cengle

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[QUOTE]<strong>I flame my FI for not boycotting Easter with me. </strong> Also because of that now I have to run 7 miles ALONE on Sunday :(.  Also, he lied to his mom, AGAIN.  He always lies to her and it drives me nuts.  It really bothers me because for example: He told his mom that I was not going to church with them because I am going to church on Easter with my parents. Fact: I am sleeping in, then going running on sunday, followed by brunch :) So these lies will involve me, and every once in a great while, his mom will say something and I end up calling out his lie to his mom.  Because I have asked him not to lie to his mom when it involves me because a) its stupid to lie to your mom as an adult, b) I never know what he told her, c)I end up being the person caught in YOUR lie, and I feel that it makes me look bad, d) I don't believe in lying.
Posted by DNAtime[/QUOTE]

May I ask why you are boycotting Easter? Just curious, really.

MRSBJS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : No, the Catholic church does not condone condom use.  The pope said that it would be preferable the HIV+ prostitutes use condoms to prevent the spread of the disease, but condoms are not to be used for birth control for married couples.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

Ohh ok, I see.

Thank you :)

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Nope, not TMI at all - in fact it makes good sense. I thought they said condoms were ok now?
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]

The Catholic Church is actually against condoms as well. But I believe it is FAM that allows the use of condoms during the fertile period of the woman's cycle. Whereas the Catholic church & NFP teach abstinence during that time if the couple does not wish to conceive.

RobotLegs

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Filet is $27lb. Gallon of milk $8 Box of cocoa peoples $6+ Lb of butter $3+ 6-pack of soda $4 Stoli vodka $11 Cruzan rim $ 5
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Who needs milk when you can get rum for so cheap?  lol

[Deleted User]

That's really annoying that he lied about you going to church, DNA.

Stupid Easter. I wish I could boycott it. I'm anti-religion ffs! Now I have to get going on my Saturday 8-miler by 8:30 at the latest because of a holiday I don't believe in.

cengle

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[QUOTE]I think the Catholic church not allowing birth control is irresponsible. Guess that's probably an UnpopOp? 
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]


It might be, but I agree with you.

I also don't really get the reasoning for it, so there's that.

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yeah that would drive me nuts.  That's a shitton of overdraft fees, that freaking blows.  <strong>Do you have a savings account with the bank that you can use as a backup for the checking so it automatically pulls from savings instead of charging you fees?
</strong>Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

We're gonna switch from our bank to my credit union because they offer an "overdraft account" that lets you just pull the amount you overdraft and then you have 30 days to pay it back (after 30 days you get charged interest on the amount), among other reasons.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I think the Catholic church not allowing birth control is irresponsible. Guess that's probably an UnpopOp? 
Posted by RobotLegs[/QUOTE]
I agree. I think it's a huge problem.

pinkpinot

DNA, I work so far that I fill up TWICE a week.  Which means that I will have spent $600.00 in gas this month.  Holy sheet. 

Beachy730

Pink I'm definitely lucky that I do work from home.  Whenever I do have to go to the office though, which is like once a week or once every 2 weeks, it's at least a quarter tank.  Effing Jeep with your horrible gas mileage.  H's car gets better MPG, but he has to put in higher quality gas, so it basically evens out. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Birdie I'm sending you hugs from the interwebz.  I hope you can feel them. I confess/want to say that I feel weird about not doing anything for Easter this year.  I feel weird and kind of like an outcast.  I'm not sure if it's because we are wanting to convert to Judaism or if it's because we have less people around here to celebrate it with.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

I thought your H was already Jewish. Are you both converting?

Meg1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : What exactly is this?  It definitely sounds stressful.  Hugs. 
Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

I write my dissertation/thesis.  The defense of it is when I give an oral presentation and my committee (4 faculty members) gets to ask me questions, etc - i.e., I "defend" my work.  If you pass, you have a PhD!

It's pretty stressful getting the dissertation done, and I am really ready for it to be over. So the idea of having it go a month longer (and be only a few weeks before my wedding) is super frustrating.  And while the defense itself is stressful, in my department, everyone passes.

...and I tried to call my advisor, and he said he had to call me back.  ARGH.