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[QUOTE]I haven't been to the dentist in years. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

Neither has my H. He really needs to go before it ends up costing us an arm and a leg.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yeah, it's a bit different here than it is in Canada as far as that's concerned. I'm still trying not to be mad about how the lady who did our ceremony did a fairly religious one after we told her we didn't want anything like that because I'm an atheist and he's not overly religious. 
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I don't think they know how to do anything else. My dad refuses to do a non-religious ceremony. Which is fine because it's his choice as a pastor, but it's big down here.

cengle

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[QUOTE]I haven't been to the dentist in years. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

Me neither. But I have an appointment in 2 weeks, and I'm a bit scared. I've never had a cavity before, so if I have one, I might cry a little.

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[QUOTE]Yeah, I know H's mom blames me for a lot. She's definitly in the camp that I took her baby from her. She still even calls him baby. But as long as we live 10 min from her like we do now, everything is ok. Oh yeah, and as long as we see her AT LEAST once a week. It's exhuasting.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Is your H an only child?

I don't think I could handle that. It is hard enough for me to see my Mom every couple of months and talk or text her nearly everyday. I know I probably sound horrible b/c things are getting better, but she just stresses me out and gets on my nerves so bad.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Yeah, I know H's mom blames me for a lot. She's definitly in the camp that I took her baby from her. She still even calls him baby. But as long as we live 10 min from her like we do now, everything is ok. Oh yeah, and as long as we see her AT LEAST once a week. It's exhuasting.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Ugh, that is exhausting. I love my mom, and it will be hard for me to be away from her a lot, but I will be able to deal with it. I don't think she views J as "taking me away" from her, at all. She loves J, she just is in an unhappy position right now because for once I won't be around all the time and might have some new struggles that I AM WILLING TO DEAL WITH. I'm not being bound and gagged and forced to move or anything, which is how she is acting. 

mica178

My MIL is a conservative Protestant.  All of her sons married Catholics.  She expressed disappointment that we married in the Catholic church (she knows my father is Presbyterian and was hoping that I would be too).  She occasionally knocks Catholicism.  Dude, I don't criticize her religion, we believe in the same God, so she should just be happy that I'm not an animal-sacrificing pagan, IMO.

pinkpinot

I have the SIL from hell.  I didn't invite her over for Easter.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yeah, I don't think they know how to do anything else. My dad refuses to do a non-religious ceremony. Which is fine because it's his choice as a pastor, but it's big down here.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

<div>I think I would've been cool with it if she hadn't been all "Oh yeah, that's fine, no problem." when we talked to her about it. Then we get there and it's all "before God" and all that jazz and I was like : / But whatever, she signed the license, that's all I cared about =P</div>

louisvillebride21

Yes, he is an only child. The thing is, we do stand our ground and on ly go over when it's convenient for us. If it works out that we go over at least once for a few weeks in a row, fine. But if not, we don't let it bother us. But she gets hilariously needy. Like she'll call every single day until we do come over. Yes, we have told her that we have our own life, schedules, housework, hobbies, ect. But she still thinks that H's life should revolve around her. It's hard to hold it against her there, because her husband just never spends any time with her. She's so lonely, so we do the best we can.

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My Mom is a non-practicing Catholic and my Dad was kinda sorta raised Baptist. He never converted. My parents really never knock us even though my Mom will ask me if we are going to church for this holy day or that. I feel like asking her, what the heck is it to you? You don't go so why question someone else.

And my MIL is Catholic, but non-practicing. FIL believes in God, but I don't really know what he was raised. He never converted either.

We never get any crap from the IL's. They are just cool like that I guess.

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[QUOTE]she should just be happy that I'm not an animal-sacrificing pagan
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
Well this is kind of offensive.

louisvillebride21

My parents are Southern Baptist and we converted the Methodist. My parents only bother us because they think we need the community feeling that comes with belonging to a church. And honestly, we agree with them. But we're lazy and like our sleep. One of these days we will get around to finding a church home.

[Deleted User]

Wow LVB. I have heard of Mom's being like that that only have one child, esp if it is a son. That is good you guys stand your ground. Keep doing that.

What they heck would she do if you ever moved far away?

That is way more than I could ever handle esp with my Mom. The IL's would never do that to us. And if my Mom started that crap again, I would b!tch her out and probably not talk to her for awhile. I don't want to go there again.

[Deleted User]

I get the whole sleep thing. Our church has a afternoon/evening mass on Sunday, which is nice if we don't feel like going in the morning. And I will say that with all the issues of being unhappy, the whole job/pay, not being in school thing church has given us that sense of community. We have made some awesome friends and it definitely keeps my mind off of things since we are involved in some programs.

louisvillebride21

Oh, we fully planned on moving away (didn't get a job so it didn't pan out). She lost her ever lovin mind, but we were prepared for it. We sorta expect her to move to wherever we do. And if she does, we're going to be total d-bags and tell her not to move within 20-30 min of us. We just can't take it. And if it offends her, oh well. Either she'll get over it or she won't move.

DodgersBride

I thought my FILs were going to be upset or judge me since they are practicing Catholic that are very involved in the church. FI is was raised Catholic and did all his school at the Catholic school. He does not attend church regularly. I was baptised Catholic but did not attend church regularly and still don't. We plan to have a Catholic ceremony and I will do all my sacraments that I need in order to do so. It was really important to FI to be married in the Church.

adamar15

Jeez, I thought I had crazy inlaws, but they just like to party a lot.  Plus, they're about 45 minutes away, so we can see them when we want and still have distance. 

Birdie1483

Sorry I got called into a meeting. I haven't really read any of the other responses yet.

I generally have a lack of religious beliefs, but I do hold some beliefs on the pagan/spiritual level that aren't the most popular here in the bible belt. I've had friends say some pretty crazy stuff to me before about it, so I usually just keep it to myself. It's just easier that way.

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yeah, it's a bit different here than it is in Canada as far as that's concerned. I'm still trying not to be mad about how the lady who did our ceremony did a fairly religious one after we told her we didn't want anything like that because I'm an atheist and he's not overly religious. 
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

This is my #1 fear and it had to come to a flip out moment for me to get FI to understand my concerns. He's more apathetic about how the ceremony will go where I'm pretty adamant about what will and will not be said.

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well this is kind of offensive.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

I have to agree with Daff here. i don't know anything about Pagan religion but I know I would be offend if some said well they should be glad I am not one of those crazy Catholics or any other religion for that matter..

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[QUOTE]I generally have a lack of religious beliefs, but I do hold some beliefs on the pagan/spiritual level
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
This is pretty much me. :)

adamar15

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[QUOTE]Sorry I got called into a meeting. I haven't really read any of the other responses yet. I generally have a lack of religious beliefs, but I do hold some beliefs on the pagan/spiritual level that aren't the most popular here in the bible belt. I've had friends say some pretty crazy stuff to me before about it, so I usually just keep it to myself. It's just easier that way.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

This is basically me also.  I'm in the "just be a good person" camp.  Shea and I have had some interesting discussions about how we'll raise our children, because he was raised Lutheran, and I was raised...nothing.

louisvillebride21

We have no idea how to raise our kids. We are Methodist, but don't want to push anything on them. But we feel the community aspect is really important. So I think we'd like to raise them in church until they're old enough to realize what's going on. But how do we facilitate them going to a Catholic, Jewish, Mormom church? Or no church at all? Kids are hard.

Birdie1483

A dear friend of mine that just has a tendency to put her foot in her mouth asked if all Pagans dressed like witches. I was like um... no.

But I think I actually got what Mica was saying. When I read it in my mind, I was saying it as the thoughts of some of my crazy religious friends that really do think that stuff.

impslave

I flame the partners who own a certain law firm.  Because they just dropped money into buying a building, paying people incentives to do their regular jobs, etc., five of us got laid off yesterday.  Including yours truly.

But, on the upside, I'm in my computer room hanging out with Mr. Imp who happened to have today off anyway!

adamar15

LVB, that's pretty much what we're going to do.  It'll probably be a Lutheran church, just because I don't really have an opinion on a particular religion.  But when the kids are old enough to make a concious decision of their own, that's their right, IMO.  He also wants them to go to a private school (just because he did) but I'm not sure about that one yet.  I guess it'll just depend on where we live when we have kids and what the private/public schools are like in the area.

louisvillebride21

Oh Imp.

Birdie1483

My brother had a Pagan wedding and while 99% of the people at the ceremony thought it was weird, I thought it was beautiful. I've considered it for my wedding, but I think it'd be a bit much for FI and his family to digest.

Birdie1483

I'm sorry Imp

NuggetBrain

I have a flame.  Cassandraf*ckingPotter.  Because she's being annoying.  Yet again.  And her comment to LTZ makes me want to pop her right in her jackwad mouth.

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