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I flame my truck for making me pay more than necessary for gas. If the stupid filter or vent or whatever the thing is called was working right, the pump would have stopped instead of overfilling and spilling gas all over the place that I had to pay for. It was only a little, but enough to piss me off.

I hope they fix it today.

DNAtime

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[QUOTE]My FIL's don't know my religious beliefs yet. I guess I was always afraid they would like me less if they found out, so here we are 4.5 years later and trying to find an officiant and all of their suggestions are off the mark.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

I am still kind of there. I never go to church with them. We are not getting married in a church and are having a friend officiate. (CO is pretty laidback, you can even marry yourselves) FMIL was NOT happy.

I have never thought there was an appropriate time to actually have that conversation, (FI and I have together, but not with the rest of the ILs) because....
Fortunately for me, my FI took care of it with his mom and I wasn't involved in that conversation. 

louisvillebride21

Not....really I guess. But, you're right, not the thread for it

Beachy730

Missy I have had sooo many fillings I couldn't even begin to guess, especially because a lot are redone.  I have way more teeth with fillings than without.  I had a lot done when I had no dental insurance, like my wisdom teeth being pulled, which was a lot of money.  But the shitty thing about tooth problems is that your back is basically against the wall, because when you have tooth pain you really can't focus on anything else.    

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I am still kind of there. I never go to church with them. We are not getting married in a church and are having a friend officiate. (CO is pretty laidback, you can even marry yourselves) FMIL was NOT happy. I have never thought there was an appropriate time to actually have that conversation, (FI and I have together, but not with the rest of the ILs) because.... Fortunately for me, my FI took care of it with his mom and I wasn't involved in that conversation. 
Posted by DNAtime[/QUOTE]

I don't think I've ever had that conversation with my ILs either, but they've never asked me that I can recall. I'm sure the wedding gave them some idea, with the whole Cherokee thing, but I can bet they know I'm not Catholic, like they are, just because of H's beliefs.

I know his grandparents judge me for not going to church, but they also judge H for believing in science (his degree is marine science) and not the bible. So, we just don't talk religion around them because it would likely end in very hurt feelings. And yelling.

[Deleted User]

That is definitely true, beach. I had all sorts of problems with my wisdom teeth b/c they were impacted and all. Tooth pain sucks. I had no choice but to get them out bc they were making my other teeth hurt. Thankfully I was still on my parents insurance at the time and what insurance didn't cover my parents paid for me.

Birdie1483

The knot sucked me into a time warm! I meant to post this here:

Yeah whenever we moved here I was in the car with FMIL driving somewhere and I commented on how many churches were on that road. She was like "oh good maybe you'll be able to get FI to go now."

I was like ummmmmmmmm yeah.... I don't think they'd be upset now if they found out but it's just awkward for me to talk about with people. I've had too many people judge me for it so I'm a little gun shy.

musicalsunlight

Hey ladies. My friday is starting out less great than I wanted. I flame my mom for freaking WAY out about the possibility of J and I moving to a townhouse outside the cities even though I KNOW the downsides that come with commuting and being farther away, and I'm willing to deal with them. She is being so dramatic about it and now J is really upset with her too and we are supposed to be with her both tomorrow and Sunday. Agh. I hate family drama. I just want to wave my hands and say "PLEASE EVERYONE JUST GET ALONG"

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : If you call it foreplay....  =-)
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

Mrs. B's kinkier than I'd thought.

[Deleted User]

Now I'm dying to know what Birdie's religion is that's so judge-worthy.

Birdie1483

Was that meant to be bitchy or fun/sarcastic? Because I can't tell.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Now I'm dying to know what Birdie's religion is that's so judge-worthy.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Me, too. But I know you ladies probably think I am already way too damn nosey as it is.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]Now I'm dying to know what Birdie's religion is that's so judge-worthy.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]
The lack thereof.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Was that meant to be bitchy or fun/sarcastic? Because I can't tell.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
Neither. I'm seriously curious.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]Was that meant to be bitchy or fun/sarcastic? Because I can't tell.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
Lol, you haven't really shared that on here hon.

[Deleted User]

musical - hopefully your Mom will chill the eff out and let you guys make decisions on your own esp since you are about to be married.

louisvillebride21

We live in the freaking bible belt, so it's ''flameworthy' to be athiest/agnostic.

Edit: dumb grammar.

Ciaram22

I flame little Edmund for not being here by now. At this rate I'm not even expecting to go into labor on my own and I will need the induction. I flame DH for not getting out of bed and calling the guy back that wants to come by and fix our bathroom fan. instead he is still snoring away. Also he is being a pain and not listening to me right now. I'm having bad back pains and he's not even waking for that. I hate dentists and anything to do with dentist offices. I have severe panic attack when I go to one and nearly pass out in the chair. They are going to love me soon as I need some serious work done. Plus my wisdom teeth are coming in and causing a great deal of pain.

[Deleted User]

Oh. I figured "religious beliefs" implied a religion, not a lack of one.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]musical - hopefully your Mom will chill the eff out and let you guys make decisions on your own esp since you are about to be married.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

Thanks, Missy, I hope she does too. I think she just REALLY doesn't want me to be far away, (which is only like 35 min) because we're super close both in proximity and emotionally, we are kinda best friends. So I think she is coming up with every possible reason why commuting to school would be problematic since she doesn't want me to be far away from her like that. I understand her concerns but she needs to realize that I am not always going to make decisions that she likes, and maybe even ones where she will end up being right in the end, but I need to be an adult and do things with J as a couple now, even if our families do not agree or aren't happy with.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]<strong>Sesh most of the dental work I've had in the past few years is do fix the bad work of my childhood dentist. </strong> My entire extended family went to him, and we all have had to get a ton of our fillings replaced and redone.   We might just pull money from savings to pay that part of the card off, but we haven't decided yet.  That card has a really low APR so I'm not that worried.  We have been working to pay off all of cards (but this has slowed drastically since H came home and we spend way more), so hopefully we get them all paid off by the end of the year.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Same. I spend thousands on dental work a few years ago. I needed to replace the crabby, stained, chipped bonding I had with a crown and 3 veneers, among many other things.

ETA: I had 2 root canals in the same tooth, and later an abcess developed behind i, so I had to get it yanked and had a fake one put in anyway.

[Deleted User]

Hi Ciara!

I was just thinking about you. I was secretly hoping you had went into labor.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Thanks, Missy, I hope she does too. I think she just REALLY doesn't want me to be far away, (which is only like 35 min) because we're super close both in proximity and emotionally, we are kinda best friends. So I think she is coming up with every possible reason why commuting to school would be problematic since she doesn't want me to be far away from her like that. I understand her concerns but she needs to realize that I am not always going to make decisions that she likes, and maybe even ones where she will end up being right in the end, but I need to be an adult and do things with J as a couple now, even if our families do not agree or aren't happy with.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

I totally get this. We dread telling his mom ANYTHING controversial. NOt becaue we're 'afraid' of her, but we just hate dealing with all her negativity. At one point, we were looking at an option that had us 'buying' his dad's old hosue and living 2 hours from her. She was getting desperate about reasons we shouldn't and she brought up...but you won't have any friends there! I told her that we're both outgoing and we'll make friends. SHE LAUGHED IN MY FACE. At taht point, we just got up and left. She can never just say the real reason she's puttign up objections.

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]. I hate dentists and anything to do with dentist offices. I have severe panic attack when I go to one and nearly pass out in the chair. They are going to love me soon as I need some serious work done. Plus my wisdom teeth are coming in and causing a great deal of pain.
Posted by Ciaram22[/QUOTE]

I am the same Ciaram, my dentist prescribes me xanax (sp?) when I go in because I freak out. He always tells me how his feelings are hurt since he has never hurt me and I rarely even have to get work done, but every time he comes in to read the x-ray I freak out.

ahhhitsshannyn

Oh and Ciaram I also flame little Edmund for not coming out yet!!! 40 weeks and 3 days PG is toooo long!! Ill cross my fingers for tonight!

NuggetBrain

Grandma Nugget is still convinced that Noodle is secretly Jewish and we've all been lying to her for like, 11 years about it.  I have no real idea why either.  That woman is odd.

I had to get crowns on all front four of my teeth right after I got laid off because I have a crappy bite pattern and they were all thin and fragile.  Let me tell you, finding out I owe 3k AFTER insurance?  Not cool.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I totally get this. We dread telling his mom ANYTHING controversial. NOt becaue we're 'afraid' of her, but we just hate dealing with all her negativity. At one point, we were looking at an option that had us 'buying' his dad's old hosue and living 2 hours from her. She was getting desperate about reasons we shouldn't and she brought up...but you won't have any friends there! I told her that we're both outgoing and we'll make friends. SHE LAUGHED IN MY FACE. At taht point, we just got up and left. She can never just say the real reason she's puttign up objections.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Ugh, isn't it frustrating? I mean, I know moms mean well in the end, because really she just is worried about me being alone farther away. But if it is something I'm willingly facing and ready to take on, she needs to realize that she can't always be happy. She has never been so upset about something before though, so it is kind of new territory for us. Usually it is J's mom who freaks out about something. J is really upset with her and threatening not to go to Easter stuff now, but I just need to calm him down enough to realize we can have a civilized conversation about this and my mom is still going to support us and love us. I think he for some reason thinks she hates him for getting the moving idea in my head. She doesn't, she just is being a mom dealing with her daughter moving out of the same city for the first time.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]We live in the freaking bible belt, so it's ''flameworthy' to be athiest/agnostic. Edit: dumb grammar.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Yeah, it's a bit different here than it is in Canada as far as that's concerned. I'm still trying not to be mad about how the lady who did our ceremony did a fairly religious one after we told her we didn't want anything like that because I'm an atheist and he's not overly religious. </div>

pinkpinot

I haven't been to the dentist in years. 

louisvillebride21

Yeah, I know H's mom blames me for a lot. She's definitly in the camp that I took her baby from her. She still even calls him baby. But as long as we live 10 min from her like we do now, everything is ok. Oh yeah, and as long as we see her AT LEAST once a week. It's exhuasting.