Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you

adamar15

I LOVE YOU TOO EAGS.

Habs2Hart

Cindy, you're coming up in here like your shiit don't stink, but you should be looking straight into a mirror when you are making comments. 

You take every damn opportunity to brag about your lavish wedding and how much it cost and how impressive it was and blah, blah, blah, blah, but seriously?  NOBODY GIVES A CRAP ABOUT YOUR WEDDING.

You give bad advice.  Almost all of your comments are either a one liner response (that usually always goes against etiquette) or a one line response that is followed up by how perfect and expensive your wedding was.

WHY ARE YOU ON E?

midgetthemighty

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:fd65439b-c7eb-4c0f-b705-e5b31e899bdb">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : Exactly.  It was unnecessary information and it made you look like an arrogant asshole. 
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

Exactly. Flaunting your money and what you're able to afford for anything is not a good way to make friends.

Birdie1483

I'm so glad today has been a slow work day so I could be here for when Cindy lectured us

cindyn9178

Maybe it was unnecessary information, but I stand by what I said about eloping.
My advice to her was not rude or bad.

MattsPenguin

Look, I don't like how you are generalizing the board.  I try to give sound advice and say it as nicely as possible. 

In real life, I've had friends ask me about etiquette regarding weddings.  One friend approached with what she felt was a bad idea (her MIL hosting an "AHR" for people on the groom's side unable to make it to or not invited to the wedding 8 hours away), and we discussed it.  There was no snark or rudeness between us, just straight up fact. 

Also, perhaps this is what others were saying when they mentioned "pulling a kalpi", but the word is SUCCINCT.  LOOK IT UP!

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]And now everybody will go on ignoring my comments about being rude to someone who asks a question that has been asked many times before.... I feel that is a very valid point.. You all don't like when girls don't like when their idea isn't validated, <strong>but when I point out how you are wrong in some of your ways, you tell me to leave.</strong> Denial? Have fun here ladies, with your rude attitudes.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

<div>Right, because that's why you were told to leave.  No one is about to beg you to stay, so.....</div>

2010Bride2be

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[QUOTE]I just really feel like many girls like to hide behind their computer screens and take advantage of being anonymous... I don't believe many of you would actually say the things you say here to someone's face. I can't imagine someone actually saying some of these things to a person's face.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

This is so sad, but true.

midgetthemighty

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:5e55a04e-403d-4b13-a34d-e02ca799c8b3">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe it was unnecessary information, but I stand by what I said about eloping. <strong><u>My advice to her was not rude or bad.
</u></strong>Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

I am sorry, but it is ALWAYS rude to flaunt your money in front of other people. Maybe where you come from that's the norm, but that doesn't make it okay in the real world.

Habs2Hart

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:5e55a04e-403d-4b13-a34d-e02ca799c8b3">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe it was unnecessary information, but I stand by what I said about eloping. My advice to her was not rude or bad.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

So if someone can't afford a bazillion dollar black tie affair, then they shouldn't have a wedding?  Solid advice. 

kwilliams111012

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[QUOTE]KWill your puppies are so cute! Love their names too! Your sig pic is adorable! I so wish my FI would smile in pics.
Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

Thanks, Mari!  I'm tired of this Cindy chick.  Lets get back to more important topics, like me.  Haha =)

cindyn9178

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:5e2aff54-edb8-464e-8155-d941b7b9cc3d">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]Cindy, you're coming up in here like your shiit don't stink, but you should be looking straight into a mirror when you are making comments.  You take every damn opportunity to brag about your lavish wedding and how much it cost and how impressive it was and blah, blah, blah, blah, but seriously?  NOBODY GIVES A CRAP ABOUT YOUR WEDDING. You give bad advice.  Almost all of your comments are either a one liner response (that usually always goes against etiquette) or a one line response that is followed up by how perfect and expensive your wedding was. WHY ARE YOU ON E?
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]
Really? You must be thinking of someone else, because other than the cocktail hour thread, I've never posted one thing about my wedding that could be misconstrued as bragging about how wonderful it was.

I also very rarely give one line responses either.
So you are either imagining things, making things up or who knows what.

I do know that almost every bit advice YOU give is given with an attitude. Good or bad advice, I don't care. I'm not in a position to judge who's advice is good and who's advice is bad and neither are any of you, unless someone here is an etiquette guru?

adamar15

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : This is so sad, but true.
Posted by 2010Bride2be[/QUOTE]

Let's take a moment of silence to mourn.

MattsPenguin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:431d4b82-b2d4-4e65-b7ad-99d75f89db7e">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : Thanks, Mari!  I'm tired of this Cindy chick.  Lets get back to more important topics, like me.  Haha =)
Posted by kwilliams111012[/QUOTE]

Okay,

So you live in NC?  Have you always lived in NC?  What are your favorite hobbies (aside from reading and making stuff in the crock-pot)?  How old are your puppies?  What is your favorite pizza topping?

sparent2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:3961eb81-a56b-4ed5-be47-2be2409d4fe5">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]Isn't it rude to point out people's rudeness?  Oh wait, is that what we do over here? Isn't it then more rude to point out that we are being rude responding to other peole's rudeness? THEY DON'T KNOW WE KNOW THEY KNOW WE KNOW!!
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

CQTM. MP you made my afternoon

Cindy your advice sucks asss I would say 95% of the time (and I am being generous). I would tell you that to your face. Hell, I tell people worse than that all the time to their face.

annakb8

Cindy if that "YES Alcohol!" post was a joke you need to work on your jokes. Regardless of whether or not you give bad advice you are not funny.

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:ca4fc270-d931-4ea5-b943-60d10865c2b9">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : Really? You must be thinking of someone else, because other than the cocktail hour thread, <strong>I've never posted one thing about my wedding that could be misconstrued as bragging</strong> about how wonderful it was. I also very rarely give one line responses either. So you are either imagining things, making things up or who knows what. I do know that almost every bit advice YOU give is given with an attitude. Good or bad advice, I don't care. <strong>I'm not in a position to judge who's advice is good and who's advice is bad and neither are any of you, unless someone here is an etiquette guru?</strong>
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

<div>Lemme guess, you were that kid at recess telling everyone who would listen about every single one of your goddamn presents. </div><div>
</div><div>And seriously? </div><div>
</div><div>
</div>

Rosie109

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:ebc2c661-ed56-473e-884e-6410ba923284">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : Let's take a moment of silence to mourn.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

IT IS SO SAD ADAMAR SO SAD INDEED.

MattsPenguin

I'm glad somebody laughed, Sparent! 

cindyn9178

The eloping comment WAS NOT ADVICE. Can you please get it through your heads?

Also, I NEVER brought up money. Yes, I listed what was at our cocktail hour, but when did I ever say how much it cost? All of you ASSSUMED that it was expensive, and accused me of flaunting how much money I have.
For all any of you know, my cocktail hour could've cost $100, you have absolutely NO IDEA. So before you go putting words into people's mouths, you should get your facts straight. As many of you say "you only know what we tell you" and I NEVER TOLD YOU that my cocktail hour was expensive.

Habs2Hart

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:ca4fc270-d931-4ea5-b943-60d10865c2b9">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : Really? You must be thinking of someone else, because other than the cocktail hour thread, I've never posted one thing about my wedding that could be misconstrued as bragging about how wonderful it was. I also very rarely give one line responses either. So you are either imagining things, making things up or who knows what. I do know that almost every bit advice YOU give is given with an attitude. Good or bad advice, I don't care. I'm not in a position to judge who's advice is good and who's advice is bad and neither are any of you, unless someone here is an etiquette guru?
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

What world do you live in?  Seriously? 

EVERY SINGLE TIME you post, someone comes into the current chatting thread to complain about how tiresome your bragging is, how unhelpful and bad your advice is or how bitchy you come across. 

I have an attitude today, because people like you give me an attitude.  I don't have patience for people who are "all about ME ME ME!".  I just don't.  They need to grow up and realise that the world is not about them, even if the day might have their name on a program. 

Maybe you read everything I write with an attitude, and sometimes I do post it with an attitude, but for the most part, I'm just straight up honest because I'm a straight to the point kind of person.  Why pussy foot around the fact that they are wrong? 

If you need coddling from complete strangers or else your whole world shatters apart into pieces, you are doing it wrong.

Rosie109

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_listen-up-newbie-brides-this-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f60ca394-2eb6-44b5-9038-18979976f324Post:ca4fc270-d931-4ea5-b943-60d10865c2b9">Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : Really? You must be thinking of someone else, because other than the cocktail hour thread, I've never posted one thing about my wedding that could be misconstrued as bragging about how wonderful it was.<strong> I also very rarely give one line responses either.</strong> So you are either imagining things, making things up or who knows what. I do know that almost every bit advice YOU give is given with an attitude. Good or bad advice, I don't care. I'm not in a position to judge who's advice is good and who's advice is bad and neither are any of you, unless someone here is an etiquette guru?
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

Thats a real shame.

baystateapple

Cindy, please stop telling people how to post.  This is an international message board.  On the internet.  People can post any way they feel like, whether it meets your criteria for "rude" or not.

If you don't like the atmosphere on E, you are welcome to go somewhere else. 

crfische

Oh, Cindy. These girls here are never going to get you. It's ok.

I, for one, have never given bad advice. I'm pretty spot on.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]The eloping comment WAS NOT ADVICE. Can you please get it through your heads? Also, I NEVER brought up money. Yes, I listed what was at our cocktail hour, but when did I ever say how much it cost? All of you ASSSUMED that it was expensive, and accused me of flaunting how much money I have. For all any of you know, my cocktail hour could've cost $100, you have absolutely NO IDEA. So before you go putting words into people's mouths, you should get your facts straight. As many of you say "you only know what we tell you" and I NEVER TOLD YOU that my cocktail hour was expensive.
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

<div>Please tell me how I can have 23 hor dourves for $100.  </div>

adamar15

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Listen Up Newbie Brides - This one is for you : IT IS SO SAD ADAMAR SO SAD INDEED.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

STOP YELLING DURING MY MOMENT OF SILENCE ROSIE.

cindyn9178

And here with go with justifying an attitude or rudeness with "that's how I am".
Well I give bad advice then, so deal with it, or leave.

Birdie1483

I adamar today

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]And here with go with justifying an attitude or rudeness with "that's how I am". Well I give bad advice then, so deal with it, or<strong> leave.</strong>
Posted by cindyn9178[/QUOTE]

<div>Weren't you leaving like, 15 minutes ago?</div>

crfische

Guys? I'm kind of the yeller around here. KNOW YOUR ROLE.