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I married fairly young and it was easy taking my ex's last name. Going back to my maiden name as an adult with accounts, debts, and a whole life was miserable. This time around, it's hyphenation all the way! Not going through a full name change again, not even for a happy reason.
What if you hyphenate your child's name and then they grow up and want to marry someone who also has a hyphenated name? Then that sort of eliminates the choice of them hyphenating their names/their kinds' names.
There are certain European countries that do this and it works. A child has a hyphenated name, they grow up, they drop part of their hyphenated name (not sure which-- if dad's or mom's), add on their spouse's name to make a new hyphenated name, then their children get that name, and so on.
They don't just add name on name on name.
Officially hitched as of 10/25/13
The royal family gets to choose their children's first, middle, & last names.
If my FI wanted me to change my last name, he wouldn't be my FI.
I'm changing mine. I just always assumed I would, because it's what my mother and grandmothers did. I'll drop my current middle name, move my maiden name to my middle name, and take FI's last name.
I'm keeping my name. And all our kids will have my last name as their middle name, lest somebody get confused about who the kid's parents are. Also, since this is the snarky bride forum, the changing names convention kind of annoys me. Nobody asks a man if he's taking his bride's last name. I am a grown woman with rights and bank accounts and my own identity, so why would I change my name from what is written on my degrees? Of course it all comes down to each woman's choice, but it harkens back to the whole women-as-chattel-being-handed-from-one-man-to-another, in my humble opinion. Lucky for me, FH doesn't seem to mind my feminist rants...
I respectfully disagree, Dreamergirl. Being a feminist is about choosing for yourself and not doing what society expects of you based on your gender. I'm a stay at home mom and I consider myself a feminist. I made the choice to stay at home because I choose to, not because I feel it's what is expected of me. I have a 4 year degree and left a job that I really enjoyed because I wanted to spend time raising my daughter while I could, and my FI salary allows for that (and he is supportive too). I think perhaps what Binzy was saying is that it was a feminist choice because she wasn't doing what was expected of her. You can't choose the name you are born with, and if everyone already knows your last name, maybe it's silly just to change it on principle. I think it's great that Binzy has a supportive FI. To each her own.