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musicalsunlight · July 2012

I think it kind of sucks that people told her that was a "dealbreaker' for them. Way to make her feel bad about something that she is trying to help the person she cares very much about. I don't know what i would do if I found out the person I was dating had a literacy problem but I dont think I'd immediately say "OH no, no way." So I think that was shitty.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:ca7c4ee5-3069-4401-baba-9048bd24f702">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good morning! : I agree, but I guess the number for how many flames are too many flames is subjective, KWIM?
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

This is true. I'm just surprised that she left.

Habs2Hart · July 2012

I only thought she got flamed a couple of times, and it was for pretty basic stuff.

I liked her too. She tried a bit too hard to fit in, but she was never really a hugely annoying person. She kind of just agreed and followed along with conversations. Pretty non-confrontational on the whole. I hope things work out for her. Her H's GMA sounds like a wench and a half.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:9a9b9d84-c1c2-4f78-a774-746c16b1e3b2">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it kind of sucks that people told her that was a "dealbreaker' for them. Way to make her feel bad about something that she is trying to help the person she cares very much about. I don't know what i would do if I found out the person I was dating had a literacy problem but I dont think I'd immediately say "OH no, no way." So I think that was shitty.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Honestly, I wouldn't have dated someone who couldn't read. Some things are more important to some people than others.Sharing a love of reading is very important to me. My husband's mild OCD might be a dealbreaker for someone else.

Megbo2012 · July 2012

I liked Mari, she was really sweet. But with that she was sensitive so I can understand why she would leave. I'd rather she didn't though, she was cute.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Yeah I get that Muni but I just think the reaction (not necessarily you because I don't remember who was in the thread) of "OMG dealbreaker dealbreaker!" might have been a little much for this situation. I would've thought the same if someone said that they omg couldn't deal with OCD like you do with your H. I think certain "issues" can be crappy to bring up as "no way" like that. I dunno.

Like J? He's super conservative. I wouldn't be offended by people saying "NO way" coudl they date/marry someone like that. Because its politics. But if someone was like "I totally couldn't handle dating someone who has ____ disease/disability" I think it is a little insensitive.

Again, just my perspective. Doesn't mean its even what Mari thought at all.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

I don't think anyone did present it that way though, Musu. I recall (and I might just recall it incorrectly) as being more like "oh, wow, that's hard. I couldn't do that!" and less of NO FUCKING WAAAAAY

Megbo2012 · July 2012

I'm with Musu that saying it's a dealbreaker when she's trying to help him isn't helpful.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Ah, well that could be possible. I don't remember, I am just basing it off of people's reactions now to their recollections. WHO KNOWS! hah. Anyway. I do still feel pretty terrible for him to have to deal with that now.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Found the thread:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_this-makes-me-ragey_.2

Thank you google. Off to read.

midgetthemighty · July 2012

Angel, that is just fine!

Steal away. B

Button, I have a link to mine in my sig if you're interested.

I like Mari too. It hasn't really been that long since she left. She may have written this off completely or she may just be taking her time coming back. I thought it was great she was willing to help him learn to read.

angelstar975 · July 2012

I'm kind of just skimming that thread and I'm not that far into it, but I don't see too many people giving Mari shiiiit about her H not reading well. I wonder if it was brought up again at a later time?

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

I don't think anyone really did give her crap about him not being able to read. If they did, they are basically terrible. It may have been brought up another time, but I actually don't think it was. The only thing about her H that people go on her about is the poor money managment, IIRC.

angelstar975 · July 2012

I thought I remembered someone saying another time that he reads at a third grade level and other people were like, "Omg are you serious? That would be a dealbreaker for me." But I could be totally wrong.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

Huh. Maybe. I don't remember it, but it's certainly possible.

Habs2Hart · July 2012

There's nothing in that thread about Mari's H...

midgetthemighty · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:505d79dc-85fd-4960-a23e-e763e591a385">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]I thought I remembered someone saying another time that he reads at a third grade level and other people were like, "Omg are you serious? That would be a dealbreaker for me." But I could be totally wrong.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

I remember that too, but finding it is a completely different story.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:c911d9e7-98e6-4e68-9b63-e804f2492a98">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]MuSu - I didn't really see anything in that thread. <strong>Man y'all..we must all be bored.</strong>
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>So, so bored...</div>

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:f60f8972-8c54-43d3-9aba-296c1f9a0278">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]There's nothing in that thread about Mari's H...
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

<div>It's on the first 2 pages. The link takes you to the 3rd for some reason.</div>

button6004 · July 2012

I am trying so hard not to fall asleep at my desk.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Yeah if it was brought up again it must have been a different thread.

angelstar975 · July 2012

I just got a Groupon email for the Kenny Chesney/Tim McGraw concert in DC for August 12th. It's a pretty good deal, but a) I know FI can't go that day and b) I did see them last month. I kind of want to go though.

adamar15 · July 2012

Grrr H has to work next weekend, so I'll be going to my goddaughter's birthday party by myself. Me and a bunch of two year olds. Woo.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:e6a0aedf-7084-4a73-bc98-b4dcea648012">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]Are we this starved for drama that we are digging up past threads to find it? This is sad, people. :-(
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

YOUR MOM'S SAD

COME AT ME!

musicalsunlight · July 2012

We could start a thread about deal breakers. lol.

aragx6 · July 2012

Just got back from lunch. Honestly if Mari's H can't read it's no wonder he's bad with money -- those are two life skills I tend to think probably go hand in hand.

angelstar975 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]We could start a thread about deal breakers. lol.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Haha that could get offensive pretty quickly.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_good-morning-257?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0f007db2-2af8-42ad-89d9-c448fb11e6c1Post:2dbe9c6d-5244-4cf4-aa90-ac2f76b1dbc4">Re: Good morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]We could start a thread about deal breakers. lol.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

LET'S DO IT! Fun AND people might get butthurt. that's a win-win.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Hahah I'm game. I'm a hypocrite. whatev.

Megbo2012 · July 2012

Am I allowed to say camo formal vests or is that reopening another can of worms?

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