WFL? Opinions - Unpop or Not, Irritations - Irrational or Not

pkontk · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm pretty pleased with how the NCAA handled this particular scandal. I was expected more of a "Hey, it's not an NCAA violation, we can't do anything" response. Instead, they completely neutered the program. <strong>Maybe it's a sign that they will be harsher to schools that don't live up to the NCAA image.</strong>
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

I hope so. I'm taking the spokesperson's words with a grain of salt for now, but I really hope you're right. I'm sure parts of the Penn State community are not happy with the NCAA's decision, but hopefully it sets a hard example.

button6004 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WFL? Opinions - Unpop or Not, Irritations - Irrational or Not : I don't know if this even made national news, but right near where I work, at Weslyan University, a girl was shot to death a few years ago. One of my coworkers went into the chapel a few days after the killer was apprehended, and he found the killer's father in the chapel on his knees. He was just completely wrecked. People were shunning him, saying that it must have been a bad family life that caused his son to do what he did. He felt so lost and alone and horrible.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

And now I feel like a jerkoff for even remotely thinking the family should have done more.

mkrupar · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I was treated to tacos at my new favorite place. Yum. Irritation: My grandmother called me to say happy birthday and then spent 10 minutes telling me all about my cousin and how he is going to be such a great dancer someday. I like my cousin and I like hearing about him, but for one day out of the entire year it would be nice if my family paid a little bit more attention to me and what I am doing. <strong>Opinion: As bad as I feel for the shooter's family, a little part of me blames them for not seeing the warning signs that their son was losing it.</strong> Ski, your sig is beautiful!
Posted by button6004[/QUOTE]

This is what I'm talking about. Unless you're a trained psychologist, not all of the warning signs are obvious to lay people.

texasgurly13 · July 2012

We were lame and stayed home on NYE :P.

We had a bunch of people with young kids at our midnight premiere. I didn't mind it so much. I really didn't notice whether or not there were babies or infants though.

One movie I did judge someone taking their young child to (the kid was about 3 or 4) was Ted. Just because the movie has a teddy bear in it doesn't mean it's appropriate for young children. Did you not see the previews?

baystateapple · July 2012

I'm sorry, AATB! I don't meant to be a huge downer. I just totally understand and agree with what you're saying.

I don't blame the killer's families for not seeing or noticing something was wrong. How do we even know that there WERE signs or symptoms of a serious mental problem or sociopathy? Sometimes people have mental disorders and NOBODY realizes it until they either seek help or do something awful to themselves or other people. If we start blaming the parents or friends of all perpetrators, even in cases where there is no sign of parental abuse or neglect, or bullying), I think it takes a lot of the blame off of the perpetrator, turning him or her into a victim, and not holding them accountable for their actions.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

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[QUOTE][QUOTE ]Also on the midnight movie bit - did any of your parents take you guys to NYE parties as a kid? I'm not talking about like, ragers with debauchery, but my parents would take us to another couple's house with kids and other couples with their kids would come. It was so fun to stay up til midnight, it was like, the one night where we didn't have to worry about bedtime. Lol half the kids were passed out before then anyway. I don't really know why someone would bring a baby or infant or whatever to a midnight movie, but I don't really have problems with kids being there. Maybe those kids are BIG fans of Batman, Spiderman, whatever - they would remember forever how special it was that mom and dad took them to see a MIDNIGHT showing of a movie you had been waiting for for a long time, and to see it before lots of your friends? I dunno. I just don't mind it. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE] I don't get what this has to do with midnight movie premieres or bars?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Obviously, kids shouldn't be at bars no matter what time it is.

I just think midnight movie premieres are not the end of the world when it comes to parenting. I do think people need to chill the eff out about it. But that's just my take. If you'd let your kid stay up til midnight to watch a DVD or something then I don't really see an issue with taking one to a movie at midnight.

mkrupar · July 2012

The thing with sociopaths is they are phenomenal actors. They can emulate feelings at the drop of a hat, but not actually experience those feelings. They lie, they manipulate, etc. If they play their cards right, no warning signs slipped through their armor. Therefore, no one would actually see any warning signs.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh yeah, my unpopular opinion is that I'm so sick of hearing about 50 Shades of Grey.
Posted by MeganLindsay5685[/QUOTE]

FFS. Don't even get me started on those rags.

midgetthemighty · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WFL? Opinions - Unpop or Not, Irritations - Irrational or Not : I don't know if this even made national news, but right near where I work, at Weslyan University, a girl was shot to death a few years ago. One of my coworkers went into the chapel a few days after the killer was apprehended, and he found the killer's father in the chapel on his knees. He was just completely wrecked. People were shunning him, saying that it must have been a bad family life that caused his son to do what he did. He felt so lost and alone and horrible.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

Oh my gosh Bay. That is so incredibly sad.

I had Skyline for lunch and I'm eating it for dinner. I didn't get chili at lunch though, I couldn't handle that twice in one day.

I'm irritated that I work with two grown men who rarely respond to important e-mails about clients unless I copy our boss. It's ridiculous. Even then, our boss has to have multiple talks with them about how they need to respond to me without his help.

ski2play · July 2012

Thanks Button.

AABT, I see your point on NYE and on older kids (over 10) but I still can't get on board and yes, I do judge, those who take younger children to late night movies and/or bars.

texasgurly13 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh yeah, my unpopular opinion is that I'm so sick of hearing about 50 Shades of Grey.
Posted by MeganLindsay5685[/QUOTE]

<div>I haven't read the book, but after seeing a synopsis of it, I really don't want to. </div>

mkrupar · July 2012

Midge, sounds like those two need more than just reminders. Discipline for not doing their jobs in a timely matter comes to mind.

Habs2Hart · July 2012

WFL - Red quinoa salad with corn, black beans, chick peas, leaks, carrots, snap peas, red pepper, avocado, olive oil, balsamic and seasoning. YUM.

Irritation - random people off the street who think they know more about the house I designed than I do. Ya, right buddy.

Opinion - I just keep nodding along with everyone else. I am unoriginal today.

strlzfan11 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Maybe it's a sign that they will be harsher to schools that don't live up to the NCAA image.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

My only comment on this subject is that I won't believe it until something is done at Syracuse, and even then I'll still remain skeptical.

mkrupar · July 2012

Someone on GoodReads has hilarious reviews of 50 Shades with pics and gifs. The reviews are awesome. The books? No so much.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

I can see why bringing a kid to a movie at midnight might not be for everyone, but I just don't see the big deal. I think there are things parents do these days that are far worse than bringing kids to the movies, lol.

mkrupar · July 2012

What happened at Syracuse Strlz? I am uninformed apparently.

mkrupar · July 2012

And now I'm off to actually eat the lunch I talked about in the OP.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Someone on GoodReads has hilarious reviews of 50 Shades with pics and gifs. The reviews are awesome. The books? No so much.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

I read a blog recently this chick wrote, with a play-by-play review. I was ROLLING laughing.

midgetthemighty · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Midge, sounds like those two need more than just reminders. Discipline for not doing their jobs in a timely matter comes to mind.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

Yup, if only our boss would do that. I'm in no position to give them discipline. I'm technically below them (support) but I'm only asking them to do their jobs. Apparently that is too difficult.

ski2play · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I can see why bringing a kid to a movie at midnight might not be for everyone, but I just don't see the big deal. <strong> I think there are things parents do these days that are far worse than bringing kids to the movies</strong>, lol.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Agreed, might make an interesting thread for a boring day.

MK-same senario as Penn State but on a much smaller scale (less victims I believe) and it is within the basketball program.

strlzfan11 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]What happened at Syracuse Strlz? I am uninformed apparently.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

This came to light just days after the Penn State scandal broke.

<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/29/bernie-fine-scandal-espn-recording-bobby-davis-syracuse_n_1119359.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/29/bernie-fine-scandal-espn-recording-bobby-davis-syracuse_n_1119359.html</a>

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

Stage, do you have problems with kids being there if they are actually sitting there watching the movie, or does it really bother you that much?

I wouldn't bring my 10 year old kid to any movie at any time of day if he couldn't sit still and shut thefuck up, but if my six year old was mature enough to sit through a movie and not disrupt anyone, then yeah, I'd totally bring him to a movie.

Hell I wouldn't even bring a grown person to the movie if they don't know how to turn off their fucking cell phone.

Girlie1030 · July 2012

Snippy, my company reduced maternity leave from 8 weeks (full pay) to 2 a few years ago and increased paternity leave from 1 week to 2. So now if I ever get pregnant, I can still take 8 weeks but 6 will be at a 30% pay cut (short term disability) assuming my doctor signs off on it. There is nothing irrational about my irritation with this.

ArynBaker · July 2012

In Spain I noticed a lot of parents take their babies everywhere! They have those adorable carriages so the kids just sleep. The first couple of times I saw them at a restauarant/bar late at night I was shocked. Then, the more I paid attention the more I noticed the majority of these babies were fast asleep. I never heard them cry. Now, I do not condone taking infants to midnight showings or smokey bars but I think some of our kids are too sheltered and kept at home too much.

jemmini6 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Also on the midnight movie bit - did any of your parents take you guys to NYE parties as a kid? I'm not talking about like, ragers with debauchery, but my parents would take us to another couple's house with kids and other couples with their kids would come. It was so fun to stay up til midnight, it was like, the one night where we didn't have to worry about bedtime. Lol half the kids were passed out before then anyway. I don't really know why someone would bring a baby or infant or whatever to a midnight movie, but I don't really have problems with kids being there. Maybe those kids are BIG fans of Batman, Spiderman, whatever - they would remember forever how special it was that mom and dad took them to see a MIDNIGHT showing of a movie you had been waiting for for a long time, and to see it before lots of your friends? I dunno. I just don't mind it.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I do see how it could be a really cool and special moment to be allowed to see a midnight premier, but I still think some of those kids were way too young for that. Especially since this Batman franchise is actually really dark/violent and probably inappropriate for some ages at any time of day. And a 3 month old? That seems ridiculous at any movie, at any time of the day. Not only is it a PITA for other movie goers, because you <em>know</em> that baby is going to cry, but I would imagine that being that young, the loud sound effects could possibly cause actual physical damage to their ears.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · July 2012

I guess I don't go to movies often enough, lol. I have a co-worker though who is a really avid movie goer - he goes to EVERYTHING, and he does movie reviews and stuff for us. His son is 8 and he's taken him to a handful of pg-13 movies, I'm pretty sure he took him to The Dark Knight Rises. That kid is the shiiit, he's just as smart as his dad about movies and I'm sure he's fine at movies.

The last time I remembered being pissed off at a movie was at Titanic 3D, the chicks in front of us were texting the whole time. Sure, it's a silent activity, but the screens were all lit up and stuff. It was distracting. Plus if you'd rather text than watch... well. Maybe you could go somewhere else and text, lol.

texasgurly13 · July 2012

I secretly judged my friend when she took her infant son with her to go see a movie with me and her brother. Don't get me wrong, I love this little boy, but there are some times that you need to find a babysitter.

He would not keep still and kept crying during the movie. I felt bad for her that she missed a good chunk of the movie when she had to go outside and console him but part of me was annoyed that she brought him. The movie theater wasn't that crowded because it was a middle of the day showing and the movie had been out for a while, but people still turned and looked at us. I felt embarassed for her.

texasgurly13 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I guess I don't go to movies often enough, lol. I have a co-worker though who is a really avid movie goer - he goes to EVERYTHING, and he does movie reviews and stuff for us. His son is 8 and he's taken him to a handful of pg-13 movies, I'm pretty sure he took him to The Dark Knight Rises. That kid is the shiiit, he's just as smart as his dad about movies and I'm sure he's fine at movies. T<strong>he last time I remembered being pissed off at a movie was at Titanic 3D, the chicks in front of us were texting the whole time. Sure, it's a silent activity, but the screens were all lit up and stuff. It was distracting. Plus if you'd rather text than watch... well. Maybe you could go somewhere else and text, lol.</strong>
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>There is a movie theater in OKC where my friends live that will kick you out if you even so much as look at your cell phone during a movie. They are really strict about it. </div>

calixtine · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry, AATB! I don't meant to be a huge downer. I just totally understand and agree with what you're saying. I don't blame the killer's families for not seeing or noticing something was wrong. <strong>How do we even know that there WERE signs or symptoms of a serious mental problem or sociopathy? Sometimes people have mental disorders and NOBODY realizes it until they either seek help or do something awful to themselves or other people.</strong> If we start blaming the parents or friends of all perpetrators, even in cases where there is no sign of parental abuse or neglect, or bullying), I think it takes a lot of the blame off of the perpetrator, turning him or her into a victim, and not holding them accountable for their actions.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

And even if he did have a diagnosed mental disorder, it's still very likely that no one close to him could have seen this coming. People with mental illnesses are walking around all the time and not shooting up movie theaters so just because you have an illness, doesn't automatically mean you will hurt someone. I don't know if he was under anyones care but even then, if he was under a counselors care the only time the counselor could report him was if he felt someone was in immediate danger. It's an awful, horrible tragedy that no one could have prevented.

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