Nervous Etiquette Question

m1schlueter · October 2010

We are getting married on a beach, far away...just my FI and me. Then six months later, we are having a picnic reception here at home. We've already made the announcement to friends and family. Our wedding date will be different than the date of our reception.

Brides don't plan or decide if and when they are having a shower (unless you are a bridezilla), so it will be up to others. I, however, already know that my aunts are planning a shower after we get back from our wedding. Their decision.

I know a couple that got married in Dec and then had a wedding the following Sept (almost a full year later). No one knew about the first wedding, so showers and stuff happened without anyone knowing that they were already married. BUT they faced a difficult decision...which date is their anniversary? They went with the date of the wedding. The one everyone remembers. But that date is almost a full year after they really got married and that seems so fake.

It's up to you. Don't listen to people telling you can't do things your way...just know some people won't like it or won't support it.

kikibaby · October 2010

Ok, I'm a diick.

m1schlueter · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_nervous-etiquette-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8fd698e2-5d9f-4b55-8a8b-1f7d04bf1554Post:d7024608-67f2-4b4d-8ebd-a14a19be1a8a">Re: Nervous Etiquette Question</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok maybe I wasnt clear because I am nervous... thought this was a supportive place. I will be MARRIED on the island and have the reception at home with a blessing so my friends and family can participate. This is not gimmie gimmie gimmie. But it could be if I wanted it to be - Im sure everyone here has planned what they want on their special day. I was just wondering if it was ok to have a shower after the wedding, before the reception.
Posted by jdede188[/QUOTE]

I am so sorry you thought this was a place for support. I've been to several of the boards here and these same perfect brides are on all of them being the most hateful b!tches!

Go somewhere else for support. And do what you want.

laladypoet · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_nervous-etiquette-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8fd698e2-5d9f-4b55-8a8b-1f7d04bf1554Post:9958029b-8864-4dea-88ba-f6e3c84f8e6a">Re: Nervous Etiquette Question</a>:
[QUOTE] it seems kind of pointless to bring it up again just to state yours when that part of the conversation ended almost 2 hours ago.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
you've gotta be kidding me. two whole hours? people comment on things that happened months (and sometimes years) ago. give me a break.

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

I can't see P2 coming in and throwing out the tragedy card just because she was making a bad decision.

laladypoet · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I am so sorry you thought this was a place for support. I've been to several of the boards here and these same perfect brides are on all of them being the most hateful b!tches! Go somewhere else for support. And do what you want.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]
::points to the door::

kikibaby · October 2010

What is the point of this argument? I already said, yes, I have a heart, and I feel bad for her if she is going through all of this. And, I said I was a diick (will clarify, I was BEING a diick).

I really think you all know me well enough to know I'm not that big of an asshole. But what am I gonna do? I'm not going to go delete it or something. And, this amber chick never even mentioned it...she kept going about her bridalshowerthatisntashower, so it obviously didn't upset her too much. Not to mention, I think she's a troll.

Snippylynn · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I can't see P2 coming in and throwing out the tragedy card just because she was making a bad decision.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

TR, don't be obtuse. You can see where I was going with this. Ridiculous.

kikibaby · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I am so sorry you thought this was a place for support. I've been to several of the boards here and these same perfect brides are on all of them being the most hateful b!tches! Go somewhere else for support. And do what you want.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

Perfect brides? I didn't even see Mandy post in this thread.

laladypoet · October 2010

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[QUOTE]What is the point of this argument? I already said, yes, I have a heart, and I feel bad for her if she is going through all of this. <strong> And, I said I was a diick (will clarify, I was BEING a diick).</strong> I really think you all know me well enough to know I'm not that big of an asshole. But what am I gonna do? I'm not going to go delete it or something. And, this amber chick never even mentioned it...she kept going about her bridalshowerthatisntashower, so it obviously didn't upset her too much. Not to mention, I think she's a troll.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
are you going to pretend you weren't being sarcastic when you said that? cause that's how I read it. I pictured you rolling your eyes while you said it.

salt78 · October 2010

What m1schlueter is doing sounds somewhat similar to what the person I know IRL did with her shower. Just FYI...most of her friends laughed at her.

kikibaby · October 2010

I really wasn't. For real. It wasn't the nicest thing to say, I agree. Not sure how to convey that here, other than that ^

laladypoet · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I can't see P2 coming in and throwing out the tragedy card just because she was making a bad decision.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]
that's not the point, at all. the point is that making fun of tragedy cards is all well and good, and part of this board, and I usually enjoy that. obviously. I draw the line at dying kid brother, though.

laladypoet · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_nervous-etiquette-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8fd698e2-5d9f-4b55-8a8b-1f7d04bf1554Post:f448d6f6-ff45-4ebc-ac98-dda4db66b2f6">Re: Nervous Etiquette Question</a>:
[QUOTE]I really wasn't. For real. It wasn't the nicest thing to say, I agree. Not sure how to convey that here, other than that ^
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
fair enough.

m1schlueter · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : And I'm not at all surprised that you guys have your oppinions of what's right and wrong and have no qualms telling other people that they suck for having different views. I'm also no surprised that you have an issue with me wanting my MOTHER to be there. Was your mom at your's?
Posted by amber2123[/QUOTE]

Don't feel bad. These girls are perfect. But they do have a point...it is an etiquette board and they are the experts. It's hard not to want to b!tch slap these girls for every hateful comment.

It's interesting how their responses have NO etiquette in them.

georgia_bride09 · October 2010

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I am so sorry you thought this was a place for support. I've been to several of the boards here and these same perfect brides are on all of them being the most hateful b!tches! Go somewhere else for support. And do what you want.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

Why are you still here?

laladypoet · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : Don't feel bad. These girls are perfect. But they do have a point...it is an etiquette board and they are the experts. It's hard not to want to b!tch slap these girls for every hateful comment. It's interesting how their responses have NO etiquette in them.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]
who pissed in your cheerios? you know you don't have to be here, right? and that you can't "b!tch slap" people through a computer? please tell me you get that.

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : Don't feel bad. These girls are perfect. But they do have a point...it is an etiquette board and they are the experts. It's hard not to want to b!tch slap these girls for every hateful comment. It's interesting how their responses have NO etiquette in them.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

I wish I was in St. Louis right now so you could try to biitch slap me. I really do.

georgia_bride09 · October 2010

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : Don't feel bad. These girls are perfect. But they do have a point...it is an etiquette board and they are the experts. It's hard not to want to b!tch slap these girls for every hateful comment. It's interesting how their responses have NO etiquette in them.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

I think you're lost.

emilyinchile · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Why are you still here?
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

Because we're perfect, and she's hoping some of it will rub off.

Since apparently everyone else gets to selectively read what people on E say, I'm starting to just read the things I want to hear too. All I see is m1schlueter telling me I'm perfect <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />

salt78 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : It's hard not to want to b!tch slap these girls for every hateful comment.
Posted by m1schlueter[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, but please. Bring it on.</div>

rknox88 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : You should stay far, far away from St. Louis. I hear they like to b!tchslap people there.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

It was recently named the 2nd most dangerous city in the U.S. It is probably because of all the B!tchslapping violence.

topcatiom · October 2010

thanks Salt, as for St Louis, it cant be all bad, i mean there's that song with the meet me in st loui, and dancing and stuff and things, i don't know what the film was called but i know it wasnt 'b*tchslapped?

salt78 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : It was recently named the 2nd most dangerous city in the U.S. It is probably because of all the B!tchslapping violence.
Posted by rknox88[/QUOTE]

<div>See m1schlueter? You are totally exacerbating your city's already violent reputation.</div><div>
</div><div>And this concludes my SAT word usage of the day.</div>

FutureMrsTR · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_nervous-etiquette-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8fd698e2-5d9f-4b55-8a8b-1f7d04bf1554Post:9dcbbd4b-0a87-4198-8564-3c03bb469f2d">Re: Nervous Etiquette Question</a>:
[QUOTE]HEY! Nelly is from St. Louis!
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

Maybe he got biitchslapped and that's why he had to wear that band aid on his face all the time.

emilyinchile · October 2010

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[QUOTE]PS. Topcat...I just looked at your bio and let me just say that I am VERY excited to see your wedding pictures. What a venue!!
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

Castle! Topcat, where are you located? I mean more or less, obviously, not that you should give me stalker-specific directions to your wedding.

salt78 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]thanks Salt, as for St Louis, it cant be all bad, i mean there's that song with the meet me in st loui, and dancing and stuff and things, i don't know what the film was called but i know it wasnt 'b*tchslapped?
Posted by topcatiom[/QUOTE]

<div>I heard they are coming out with a 2010 remake of that movie. Called B!tchslap me in St. Louis. Starring Nelly.</div>

laladypoet · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : See m1schlueter? You are totally exacerbating your city's already violent reputation. And this concludes my SAT word usage of the day.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
I'm gonna add "exacerbating" to the list of "words that make me giggle."

georgia_bride09 · October 2010

[QUOTE]HEY! Nelly is from St. Louis!
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

Oh... Em... Gee...

I thought that, and then didn't type it. You need to stop doing that.

salt78 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Nervous Etiquette Question : I'm gonna add "exacerbating" to the list of "words that make me giggle."
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

<div>It certainly looks dirty, doesn't it? :)</div>

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