Hi!! New to theknot as of the 29th! We just got engaged ( after being together for 10 years ). We have been together and living together for 10 years now, he is 34 and I am 32. We could always use new things by registering however we do have most things that new couples would probably register for and need. I was considering just doing a honeyfund and maybe registering at BBB. I have had some friends tell me it is super tackey and others say they have done it and loved it. I honestly don't know what to do at all?? Help, suggestions, input - harsh truth is fine my feelings won't get hurt.
Re: Honey Funds- To do or not to do, that is the question??
There are several threads on this board regarding honeymoon funds. The consensus is that they are horribly rude for the reasons PDKH wrote. Please listen to your friends who tell you not to do it.
If you want cash, keep your registry small. People will get the hint.
If you do, a big chunk of the "gifts" will be taken by the HoneyFund for fees. If you don't register, you can keep all of whatever cash you get without having to fork over a big percentage, and you don't look tacky.
I have been in the same position as you. Asked this question and had people attack me. Only difference I got defensive and lets just say it wasn't pretty.
I am in the same position as you. My fiance and I live together and we already have everything that we need. I plan on doing a Honeymoon Registry through Honeyfund as well as registering for a few things at BBB. My parents were supposed to pay for my Honeymoon but that fell through. I didn't budget for the Honeymoon when planning my wedding so I think that doing a Honeymoon Registry is fine.
It's your wedding. Do what you want. I don't suggest taking advice on this topic from people on the Internet.
Congratulations & Good Luck with your planning!!
People who love giving money will just continue to give money. No one needs to be told to give money. I love giving money too but I don't want to have a percentage of that money taken away when I could just write a check. Writing a check is really, really easy.
Quite honestly...I can give a flying crap about what you think. IT'S MY WEDDING AND I DO WHAT I WANT & IF I WANT TO GIVE ADVICE I WILL. I think that it is very sensible advice for people who actually live in 2014. Times have changed.