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**Updated** NWR: I think I may have been drugged.

edited January 2014 in Chit Chat
I went to a party at a former co-worker's house on Saturday night. FI couldn't come because he had other plans, so I went with two other friends from work.

I met them at friend A's house, A and I had a drink while waiting for friend B, and then A, B and I went to C's for the party. I made a drink when we got to C's, and did a shot shortly after that.

That's the last thing I remember clearly. The only other memory I have is from hours later when I insisted that B (who wasn't drinking) drive me home. I had originally intended to stay over at C's, but for some reason, changed my mind. I don't remember anything between my third drink (the shot) and asking to leave.

I do not black out, ever. Ever ever. I have had way more to drink than that before and I always remember at least bits and pieces of the night. I ate dinner before leaving the house, I'm not on any medications that interact weirdly with alcohol, and I am not a lightweight who gets hammered after 2 - 3 drinks.

I also have a few broken toenails and a giant bruise on my chest that I can't explain.

Two of my close friends are telling me to go to the clinic. I just can't even wrap my head around this right now.

UPDATE:

I went to the clinic by our house and they weren't able to do the appropriate tests, etc, and referred me to one of the nearby hospitals. Got there, and they said that the Sexual Assault Unit is based out of two of the other hospitals -- not that one. Finally got to the right place and made it through Triage and into an exam room fairly quickly. 

Then I waited an hour to see a resident who did some preliminary exams (checking for concussion because of this massive headache; looking at the bruise on my chest; etc.). He came back shortly after with a staff doctor who said they wanted to rule out any other physical causes first. We discussed the nausea and headache and some very light spotting I've had, and then I had to wait for the sexual assault nurse.

She was AMAZING. So personable, friendly, and not even dressed like a nurse/doctor. She took me up to their dedicated room hidden within Employee Services so that no one would know what I was there for. We discussed my options (everything was optional, and totally up to me), and then we started the tests -- urine, visual tests, swabs, etc. I could have gone for a more in-depth exam, but that would have taken another 4 hours and I was confident that we had already addressed my areas of concern.

The preliminary urine test appeared to be positive for drugs -- likely something similar to diazepam. It also showed that I'm not pregnant. There are signs that I may have been assaulted, but it can't be confirmed. I was given the choice of taking Plan B to prevent pregnancy and some other drugs to prevent STIs, which I opted for. They've been a little rough on my system, but I'd rather take precautions.

FI is having a hard time with it. I'm still a little numb and in shock, and not knowing what work will be like, because a few co-workers were at the party.

I want to thank all of you so, so much for the love and support. I really do appreciate it, from the bottom of my heart. Xoxo


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  • I agree 100% with what JC said, my best friend had a similar situation during the summer. Better to be sure that you are ok than keep worrying about it and stressing you out


  • Go to the doctor!
  • I do think it's a good idea to go to the clinic. I had something similar happen- I didn't drink much at all- and I couldn't remember that night the next morning. However, I did not get sick and neither FI nor I could think of a situation where someone would've gotten a chance to do that, so I figured I must just have been really tired or something. Most date rape drugs make you very sick when combined with alcohol, so if you didn't get sick, you are probably okay. Sometimes we just have weird days with alcohol- I know one day I can drink everybody under the table and another just one or two can knock me flat. 

    I do think you should have a tox screen and rape kit done ASAP- the drugs don't stay in the system for very long. I hope it isn't what you think it is. I am really sorry that this happened- either way it's very disconcerting and confusing. 
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  • Go to the clinic. Now. Go. You need to get checked out. And maybe the alcohol just hit you wrong or maybe it interact funny, but the bruises and the broken toenails are alarming.

    Can you ask B what happened, or if she has any more details?
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  • Holy shit! That is scary. I agree with PPs - go to the clinic. 
  • @FiancB I have been really sick. I was ridiculously nauseated all day yesterday, and I have one of the worst headaches I've ever had (and this coming from someone who has suffered multiple concussions and gets chronic migraines). I still feel so crappy that I had to take today off of work.

    @HisGirlFriday13 I've been trying to piece together what happened, but A and B said they weren't with me for a lot of the night. There are about 4 hours right now that I can't account for, and C hasn't been able to shed any light. I knew a few other people there from work, but no other close friends.

    It could very well be nothing -- just a bad night where those few drinks didn't sit well and hit me hard. I do agree that I need to go to the clinic. I'm just scared.


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  • Yeah I understand you are scared.  I would be too.  Can a friend or Fi go with you?  
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  • I'm so sorry pumpkin. I agree with your friends, go to the clinic, have them check you out and perhaps do a pelvic examination and testing. Talk to A, B, and C. Ask them what they remember of the party, and help you map out the time from the shot to the time B took you home, so you can try to get a sense of what was going on. If A and C also had memory issues, perhaps a guest spiked the refreshments.

    Sending hugs and praying everything turns out ok medical-wise.

  • Wow. Yea, it definitely sounds weird. How did you feel the next day, when you woke up? I tend to black out when I don't eat before drinking, but it's more that I black out certain details of the night, I don't think blacking out an entire series of events/time frame is a good thing. And the broken toenails and bruise do not sound good at all. I agree, go to the doctor. Also, can your friends shed any light on what may have happened? 
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  • @pinkcow13 I felt like I had the worst hangover I've ever had (which is saying something, because I had some hard-drinking nights in my university days). I couldn't stand the thought of eating; I could only drink so much water at a time; and it feels like someone hit me over the head with something (still does). I had a fairly large, carb-heavy meal the night of the party, and I'm the same as you -- I have never had a blackout before where I've lost an entire section of the night. I tend to get fuzzy on fine details, but not major events.


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  • Aw pumpkin, I am so sorry to hear that. I know it's really scary to go in and part of you is scared to know, and tests sound really invasive at this time, but you need to go to the ER right now before it's too late, if for no other reason but to be sure that you don't contract something. It sounds very suspicious. 

    I don't know if maybe it would help you as sort of a small step before going to the hospital, but there are rape crisis hotlines that may be able to help you make sense of the situation. I know RAINN is a big one, and a quick google turned up some text ones too if a phone call sounds like too much. 
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  • FI is going to take me to the clinic around the corner. I'm just finishing up lunch and then I'll get dressed and go. It's taking everything I have not to shower because I know that I shouldn't.


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  • That is really good to hear. You're doing all the right things. Keep us updated and best of luck to you. 
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  • Virtual hugs and prayers for you.
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  • You're in my thoughts. I'm glad your FI can go with you.
  • Oh my. I'm glad you're going, and sending positive thoughts your way. *hugs*

     

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    I couldn't agree more with PP - please get in for an appointment, if only for piece of mind. As was already mentioned, even if it wasn't a drugging, then you have some sort of other medical issue at play. 

    edited b/c slow to post an see you are going in. Hugs to you!

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  • You're in my thoughts.  I know it's scary but it's better to confront it then to always wonder.  It'll be all right.  You can handle this.
  • we are here for you hon!
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  • As scary as it is, good for you for going and for not showering. We're all here for you!
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  • Sending hugs to you, more than likely everything is fine and this may have been a fluke situation or something. Sometimes alcohol tends to affect us differently and that may be the case here. Keep us updated, and good luck!!
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  • I'm glad you're going to the clinic. Sending you hugs.
  • Hugs. I hope everything is okay. Definitely go to the doctor and get tested.
  • Good luck! If you think you may have been the victim of sexual assault, be sure to bring the clothes you had on if you haven't washed them yet. This will help them identify if that may be an issue.
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  • *hugs* Thinking good thoughts for you!
  • Lots of hugs and prayers! Hang in there! I'm so sorry you are going through this!
  • Yikes, I hope you are ok! Please keep us updated!
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