I am really surprised to see so many people listing Gaps as a deal breakers. We are having a church ceremony, a 2 hour gap, and then the cocktail reception. Is this that terrible of etiquette? Y'all have me questioning my wedding day! :-/
Yes, it is. Why can't you bump your reception up by two hours? If that is in any way possible, I would do it.
It's really rude to be so inconsiderate of your guests' time just for the sake of the "look and feel" of an evening reception.
As a guest, a gap destroys the momentum of the day, and it's annoying to try and find something to occupy your time with. The majority of people have no need to "freshen up" or "change" after your ceremony. People usually end up wasting money on food and drinks while killing time, when they should have been able to just go directly to the reception.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Its already started the knot put this out in their email! get ready ladies!
ETA: my etiquette deal breakers would be anything that requires extra discomfort on my part -
- FI not being invited too
- not enough seats
- not a proper hosting at a meal time
I think everyone can agree that this is just not good. I would either not show up, or leave as soon as it was found out.
Shit, I knew it!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Yup, pulled up my email and there it is. And this thread has now turned into all the pretty princesses defending their poor decisions, rather than staying on topic.
I cannot understand the issue with cash bars. We are providing cocktails at the cocktail hour, wine with dinner, and champagne for toasts, but anything over that is not covered. How you can manage to have a 5 course meal and everything else included at the reception for 200 people and cover all their drinks is beyond me. We are paying for most of the reception ourselves, while paying a mortgage, two car payments, and everything else it costs to live. I have worked very hard to meet all the etiquette standards dictated for weddings, and I think it's horrible to shame people who just can't afford to cover everyone's drinks.
Also, for someone to express their distaste for something that someone else has included in their wedding (especially while still at said wedding) is not just poor etiquette, it is downright rude. You are there to help a couple celebrate their marriage, not to judge them on what they have provided you with.
Only have a 3 course meal? Only have 174 people? Cut back on the CP which no guests cares about? Not have chair covers? Find a less expensive venue?
There are lots of ways to host 200 people properly. It's not really that hard.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
Wow, I'm really glad the guests I am inviting to my wedding are not as demanding as you are. "I expect you to properly host me for every second of your wedding, from the moment I am seated in the pew to the moment the reception ends. " Really??? Most ,if not all couples want to be sure that their guests are having a good time, however do not forget it is their day, not yours. The bride and grooms main focus should be that they are having their dream day.
Is this a bingo square? I hope so. Do we have a bingo card? Can I make one?
Fucking brilliant idea!!!!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I had no idea dollar dances were considered rude! Every wedding I've ever been to has had one. I''m getting married in July, and we were considering it, but not now! We aren't even tossing the bouquet/garter because we don't want any single friends to feel uncomfortable (it's also open bar, no gaps, no honeymoon fund jar/tree, no tiers, etc.). Would it be the worst thing to have one? Thanks for the advice!!
I had no idea dollar dances were considered rude! Every wedding I've ever been to has had one. I''m getting married in July, and we were considering it, but not now! We aren't even tossing the bouquet/garter because we don't want any single friends to feel uncomfortable (it's also open bar, no gaps, no honeymoon fund jar/tree, no tiers, etc.). Would it be the worst thing to have one? Thanks for the advice!!
GOOD ON YA!!!!!!!!!!!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
@speechie11, dollar dances tend to bring the party to a screeching halt and take a really long time on top of ... for lack of a better phrase, pumping your guests for more money. I'd skip it if I were you, or if you must have something like one, ask your guests to write down advice for you instead of paying money.
Honestly after reading many of the replies to this post I can't help but feel sorry to anyone who has invited many of you to their weddings. The couple wants to share their special day with you. They want you there to celebrate and share their love. If there is something you don't like then brush it off. It is the COUPLE's day, not yours. It's about THEM, not you. They are better off without spoiled people like you at their wedding. I personally would be glad that you RSVP no or left, good riddance.
I have to agree with some of the pet peeves I've read so far: dollar dances, running out of food, not sending thank you notes and tiered events. These are clear examples of poor etiquette or poor planning.
The one I'm not sure I agree with being a break in etiquette is having a gap between the ceremony and the reception. The couple is likely taking pictures during this time. Plus, not all venues may be right next door to each other or reception venues may require a certain start time in order to properly prepare for the event. Sometimes the 'best laid plans of mice and men' still require time to take pictures and transport everyone from point A to point B.
In any event, it is important to remember that it is the bride and groom's day, their vision for what they want and that all guests are just that - guests. Of course respect and etiquette should always be observed but at the end of the day, it's all about the couple getting married.
Honestly after reading many of the replies to this post I can't help but feel sorry to anyone who has invited many of you to their weddings. The couple wants to share their special day with you. They want you there to celebrate and share their love. If there is something you don't like then brush it off. It is the COUPLE's day, not yours. It's about THEM, not you. They are better off without spoiled people like you at their wedding. I personally would be glad that you RSVP no or left, good riddance.
So because it's THEIR day, they can treat people they supposedly care about terribly by not hosting them properly?
I have to agree with some of the pet peeves I've read so far: dollar dances, running out of food, not sending thank you notes and tiered events. These are clear examples of poor etiquette or poor planning.
The one I'm not sure I agree with being a break in etiquette is having a gap between the ceremony and the reception. The couple is likely taking pictures during this time. Plus, not all venues may be right next door to each other or reception venues may require a certain start time in order to properly prepare for the event. Sometimes the 'best laid plans of mice and men' still require time to take pictures and transport everyone from point A to point B.
In any event, it is important to remember that it is the bride and groom's day, their vision for what they want and that all guests are just that - guests. Of course respect and etiquette should always be observed but at the end of the day, it's all about the couple getting married.
Picture taking should not take longer than an hour. This is what the cocktail hour is for.
And travel time between the ceremony and the reception venue shouldn't be as long as some of these gaps are. Two hours? Are you kidding me?
The thing is, once the couple getting married choose to include other people in their day, it's not longer just about them. It's about the people they invited, too.
I have to agree with some of the pet peeves I've read so far: dollar dances, running out of food, not sending thank you notes and tiered events. These are clear examples of poor etiquette or poor planning.
The one I'm not sure I agree with being a break in etiquette is having a gap between the ceremony and the reception. The couple is likely taking pictures during this time. Plus, not all venues may be right next door to each other or reception venues may require a certain start time in order to properly prepare for the event. Sometimes the 'best laid plans of mice and men' still require time to take pictures and transport everyone from point A to point B.
In any event, it is important to remember that it is the bride and groom's day, their vision for what they want and that all guests are just that - guests. Of course respect and etiquette should always be observed but at the end of the day, it's all about the couple getting married.
Picture taking should not take longer than an hour. This is what the cocktail hour is for.
And travel time between the ceremony and the reception venue shouldn't be as long as some of these gaps are. Two hours? Are you kidding me?
The thing is, once the couple getting married choose to include other people in their day, it's not longer just about them. It's about the people they invited, too.
SO MUCH THIS. And I may have to steal it and put it in my siggy, @Simply Fated
Honestly after reading many of the replies to this post I can't help but feel sorry to anyone who has invited many of you to their weddings. The couple wants to share their special day with you. They want you there to celebrate and share their love. If there is something you don't like then brush it off. It is the COUPLE's day, not yours. It's about THEM, not you. They are better off without spoiled people like you at their wedding. I personally would be glad that you RSVP no or left, good riddance.
Considering I've been attending weddings for many, many, many years. I've never attend a cash bar, I've never attended a wedding that did not have the appropriate amount of food for the time of day, I've always had a chair, etc I think the people who have invited me to their weddings are the reason for my expectations. This is what we do, this what we expect.
For the record, the only weddings I said I would decline are ones were my husband was not invited to or ones that require me to provide my own meal (either via potluck or pay your way at a restaurant).
Personally, I think those 3 are pretty good reasons not to attend a wedding. I would attend a cash bar wedding. Well that is assuming it fits into my schedule.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
I have to agree with some of the pet peeves I've read so far: dollar dances, running out of food, not sending thank you notes and tiered events. These are clear examples of poor etiquette or poor planning.
The one I'm not sure I agree with being a break in etiquette is having a gap between the ceremony and the reception. The couple is likely taking pictures during this time. Plus, not all venues may be right next door to each other or reception venues may require a certain start time in order to properly prepare for the event. Sometimes the 'best laid plans of mice and men' still require time to take pictures and transport everyone from point A to point B.
In any event, it is important to remember that it is the bride and groom's day, their vision for what they want and that all guests are just that - guests. Of course respect and etiquette should always be observed but at the end of the day, it's all about the couple getting married.
Picture taking should not take longer than an hour. This is what the cocktail hour is for.
And travel time between the ceremony and the reception venue shouldn't be as long as some of these gaps are. Two hours? Are you kidding me?
The thing is, once the couple getting married choose to include other people in their day, it's not longer just about them. It's about the people they invited, too.
SO MUCH THIS. And I may have to steal it and put it in my siggy, @Simply Fated
Lol you're welcome. You might want to check my grammer errors, though. So embarrassing, I swear I was a good English student.
It's really depressing to see that weddings have gone from being a celebration of a couple's marriage, an opportunity to support them and congratulate them on their new life together... And turned into an opportunity for entitled, bitchy guests to complain about every last detail that doesn't meet their expectations.
Keep this in mind: this is the bride and groom's day to be treated like royalty and showered with love and support by all those who are close to them. It is NOT an opportunity for guests to be treated to dinner and entertained for five or more hours on the new (probably kind of broke) couple's dime.
If you don't approve of the way the couple is planning their celebration, you have two choices: suck it up and be nice because you love them, or stay out of it. By showing up and complaining or walking out or otherwise making a scene, you are helping ruin their special day, and your etiquette is worse than theirs.
You could have a "Honeymoon registry" asking for different excursions like Dolphin cruise or banana boats, but list the prices and have the guests give cash or a check to you directly, so that the website doesn't take a chunk of the money. That way, the bride and groom can just use that money towards something on their wish list for the honeymoon!
This entire thread is the reason I stopped paying attention to anything "The Knot" has to say about my wedding. "Etiquette" has become another word for judgement and privilege. Either you're happy for your friends/family and want to share in this occasion with them, or you're not. I say good riddance to the latter group.
Entitled, self-absorbed, and special has killed etiquette.. Etiquette means polite and hospitable. Treating guests as an after thought is rude and wrong. Thinking only of yourself is selfish. Contrary to current beliefs, the wedding is NOT only about the bride and groom.
Honestly after reading many of the replies to this post I can't help but feel sorry to anyone who has invited many of you to their weddings. The couple wants to share their special day with you. They want you there to celebrate and share their love. If there is something you don't like then brush it off. It is the COUPLE's day, not yours. It's about THEM, not you. They are better off without spoiled people like you at their wedding. I personally would be glad that you RSVP no or left, good riddance.
No, actually. The ceremony is about the couple. The reception is about the guests- the reception is thrown by the hosts of the wedding as a thank you for all the guests who attended the ceremony. That's why people get so pissed here about improperly hosted receptions.
For the record, I have never walked out of a reception. I don't participate in things I think are rude and tacky (honeyfunds, honeymoon jars, dollar dances), and I actively avoid bouquet and garter tosses because I think they are silly and borderline inappropriate at best, and have seen them cross the line into sexual harrassment and molestation once.
I don't care for cash bars, but I'd rather have the option to buy a drink than not.
I'd only decline a wedding if my FI wasn't invited and if I knew it had a 2hour+ gap.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
It's really depressing to see that weddings have gone from being a celebration of a couple's marriage, an opportunity to support them and congratulate them on their new life together... And turned into an opportunity for entitled, bitchy guests to complain about every last detail that doesn't meet their expectations.
Keep this in mind: this is the bride and groom's day to be treated like royalty and showered with love and support by all those who are close to them. It is NOT an opportunity for guests to be treated to dinner and entertained for five or more hours on the new (probably kind of broke) couple's dime.
If you don't approve of the way the couple is planning their celebration, you have two choices: suck it up and be nice because you love them, or stay out of it. By showing up and complaining or walking out or otherwise making a scene, you are helping ruin their special day, and your etiquette is worse than theirs.
Rant over, thanks.
you do not understand the meaning of reception do you?
No one said they would make a scene and ruin the couples "special" day. Often the couple is unaware what the guest feels about how they are as hosts.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
I'm actually finding this whole thread to be really frustrating and offensive. As someone planning my own wedding now, I just feel like it's unfair as a guest to be so demanding and to say that you'll walk out of a wedding for any reason. Don't you care about the people whose wedding you are attending a little bit?
It seems like so many people are saying that PPDs are a deal-breaker because it sucks to not be included in the most meaningful part of a wedding, but then say that having a cash bar is grounds for leaving with your gift. Right, because being given free alcohol is TOTALLY a meaningful and important part of being included in a friend or family member's special day.
While I myself have the means to offer a semi-hosted bar at my event, I can think of tons of reasons why having a cash bar is appropriate for a couple.
It's not easy to plan a wedding with these kinds of standards. I mean, as far as not inviting SOs or Hs or sending out thank you cards a little late, I can understand the frustration but come on, everyone makes mistakes! So many couples are in the midst of planning a wedding, honeymoon, buying their first home together, and often times are working really hard to be able to include people in the event (The pressure from family members and friends to be included in your wedding day and to have a wedding at all is often heavy).
So if they can't afford to feed you as much as you'd like to eat, or give you as many glasses of wine as you'd like for the evening, but still wanted to include you in their day. If you don't want to bring a gift, then don't. But try to realize that these people are often paying $50-100 per person plus site fees and have decided to include you.
Maybe I'm just optimistic, but when weddings aren't nearly free to throw, it's hard for me to think that every couple is just out there cash-mining.
Wow, I have never even heard of a dollar dance before reading this post! That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard of! I also have never heard of a tiered reception before reading posts. Who does that? People today have no tact or cooth. I honestly cannot believe that you have not attended a weding that DID NOT have a dollar dance. Who are these people???
So welcome new people who seem offended. Let me start by saying that unless a wedding runs out of food at mealtime or charges for water I am not sitting there judging the couple. I am enjoying the wedding, but there are things that proper hosts and hostesses should do. To insure I didn't improperly host my guests and I stayed within in budget, I did the following:
-I sat down with FI and discussed what type of wedding we wanted. We discussed trade-offs: extremely formal and tiny wedding, less formal and everyone invited, etc. We decided that it was important to us to invite all of our friends and family.
-The next step was to make a guest list, or multiple lists. We listed "must-haves" and "VIPS", who we had to make sure the date worked for. My brother, his brother, my best friend, our parents, etc. We then listed "high-priority", we had to make sure our budget fit these people. We then listed "let's try to make room for these folks". We talked to our parents and added in their lists. At this point our total numbers were at 200. This didn't include guests for truly single people or people we had forgotten. We left room for more people. Now, four months later, we are looking at a list of 250 and still growing. We have gotten back in touch with estranged family. FI is getting closer to people in his school program. I am going to be changing jobs and locations. There may be a possibility of new friends. We have room to grown to 300.
Now this is a lot of people and we have almost now money for ourselves. We are paying for two households and both still in school. FI is taking out loans to pay for school and has two years left. We debated going back to the 50 person wedding, but decided that this was more important to us. This is an adult decision we had to make, as adults. It was a trade-off. It was tough for us.
-So we set a budget. Our budget was low. Basically as low as possible. But we knew we wanted to host a meal since most of our guests were from out of town. I knew I would be buying a very cheap dress, doing my own hair and make-up. FI already had a suit. These were sacrifices we were willing to make.
-Find a venue within our budget. We knew this would be tough. we finally settled on a few community centers that were 1000 dollars and we could cater ourselves. We talked about bringing kegs and wine. We talked about finding a cheap caterer. We found a few places that would cater buffets beautifully for less than 20 dollars a person.
This was going to be our wedding: 20*300(max, most likely less, but plan for 100%) for food = 6000. We were going to serve soda and beer, nixing the wine. We would play music from an ipod and make our own decorations. We didn't need chair covers or anything fancy.
Was is the formal wedding of our dreams? No. Was it still our special day? Yes, because at the end of the day we would still be married, we hosted our guests properly, we didn't expect anything of anyone, and we got to celebrate with the people we love. This is part of being an adult. We needed to make tough tradeoffs.
Now it happened that we got lucky and my parents decided to gift us some money. We never dreamed of asking for it, but since my college fund went untouched (scholarships) and they decided to use my college fund for our wedding. Are we still making tradeoffs? Yes. We are not planning on hosting an open bar, just beer and wine. We didn't get to choose the location, which is fine because I loved what my parents chose.
But we won't make our guests wait around and do nothing. We made sure to have chairs for everyone. We wouldn't dream of having them open their wallets (cash bar, tip jars, etc).
So when you make your guests do that you are telling them that your fancy dress, your limo, your photographer, and whatever else you spent money on is more important than treating them with respect. I know it is a tough concept and that proper hosting isn't really taught anymore, but just something to think about.
Wow, there are a lot of things on here. I feel as though I go to weddings for people I love and care about and understand that people are in different positions.
The day is about the couple and their friends and family. If you aren't there to support them in their decisions than you probably shouldn't be there anyway.
I guess its naive but I would hope my friends and family are coming to my wedding to share in a big moment in my life and to enjoy themselves and not to judge.
Wow, some of you people are really rude.
Weddings are very expensive. I am not inviting coworkers to my wedding but if I could make room for any of them I would not invite their significant others and I don't think that would be rude by any means. Weddings are meant to celebrate love with people close to you. It is ridiculous to expect new couples to go into debt so that everything can be just so because you are up tight. News flash... the day is not about you.
I am having a toonie ($2) bar at my wedding, my fiancé and I were on the fence about it but spoke to a few couples with various types of weddings and the ones that had open bars had a lot of problems. People were prone to wasting drinks and drinking way too much. That is not what I want at my wedding.
Also, we plan on leaving the country to back pack before getting home therefore we are asking for donations to our "honeymoon" and house fund instead of gifts. How is that offensive? It doesn't make any sense to register for gifts that we would have to keep in storage.
I didn't realize guests could be so picky/judgmental of weddings.... Again I say, it isn't about you. It is about the couple and what they want and can afford. You should feel honoured that they wanted you to be there with them to share such a special occasion.
It's really depressing to see that weddings have gone from being a celebration of a couple's marriage, an opportunity to support them and congratulate them on their new life together... And turned into an opportunity for entitled, bitchy guests to complain about every last detail that doesn't meet their expectations.
Keep this in mind: this is the bride and groom's day to be treated like royalty and showered with love and support by all those who are close to them. It is NOT an opportunity for guests to be treated to dinner and entertained for five or more hours on the new (probably kind of broke) couple's dime.
If you don't approve of the way the couple is planning their celebration, you have two choices: suck it up and be nice because you love them, or stay out of it. By showing up and complaining or walking out or otherwise making a scene, you are helping ruin their special day, and your etiquette is worse than theirs.
Rant over, thanks.
1st bolded- No, it absolutely is not! This is the wedding industry brainwashing couples into this ridiculous, entitled mindset, and that is partly the reason why etiquette at weddings is in such a sorry state.
Your wedding is NOT a coronation. It's just a wedding. And while your friends and family will be very happy for you, your wedding is actually not an earth shattering event in the grand scheme of their lives. While your friends and family may be excited to celebrate your wedding with you, your wedding is definitely not an excuse to treat your friends and family like crap, either.
2nd bolded- Since the entire point of the reception is to "receive" your guests and thank them for attending your ceremony and supporting your marriage, you absolutely must pay to host your guests properly. That means you need to pay to feed them during a meal time, you need to pay to provide them something to drink- doesn't need to be alcohol.
Your guests should not be footing the bill to attend your wedding reception. If you are going broke then you need to have a longer engagement so you can save up more money, or learn to budget better, or learn cut your "vision" down to what you can afford.
Your guests don't care if they attend a David Tuttera $500,000 wedding. But if you take the time to lurk and read some of the the threads here, especially the Worst Weddings one, you will learn that your guests very much care if they are treated poorly just for the sake of you looking like you had a $500,000 wedding. And they won't give you a pass because you are family and they love you- they will judge you all the more because they know you should have known better.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Do any of these new posters realize that they are not the very first people in the world to get married and that weddings happen every day? You could be my best friend in the world but let's face it, your wedding isn't anymore special than anyone else's. And I could not fathom not hosting my guests to the best of my ability. For instance, FMIL told me that FI's side of the family wouldn't have any problem with a cash bar. I don't care if they would or not, I just know that I would never want to put that imposition on them so I did my homework and made sacrifices to let them know how much I appreciate his family for attending our ceremony. THE RECEPTION IS A THANK YOU TO YOUR GUESTS! I don't know why that concept is so hard.
Re: What are your etiquette deal breakers?
It's really rude to be so inconsiderate of your guests' time just for the sake of the "look and feel" of an evening reception.
As a guest, a gap destroys the momentum of the day, and it's annoying to try and find something to occupy your time with. The majority of people have no need to "freshen up" or "change" after your ceremony. People usually end up wasting money on food and drinks while killing time, when they should have been able to just go directly to the reception.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
I have to agree with some of the pet peeves I've read so far: dollar dances, running out of food, not sending thank you notes and tiered events. These are clear examples of poor etiquette or poor planning.
The one I'm not sure I agree with being a break in etiquette is having a gap between the ceremony and the reception. The couple is likely taking pictures during this time. Plus, not all venues may be right next door to each other or reception venues may require a certain start time in order to properly prepare for the event. Sometimes the 'best laid plans of mice and men' still require time to take pictures and transport everyone from point A to point B.
In any event, it is important to remember that it is the bride and groom's day, their vision for what they want and that all guests are just that - guests. Of course respect and etiquette should always be observed but at the end of the day, it's all about the couple getting married.
So because it's THEIR day, they can treat people they supposedly care about terribly by not hosting them properly?
And travel time between the ceremony and the reception venue shouldn't be as long as some of these gaps are. Two hours? Are you kidding me?
The thing is, once the couple getting married choose to include other people in their day, it's not longer just about them. It's about the people they invited, too.
Keep this in mind: this is the bride and groom's day to be treated like royalty and showered with love and support by all those who are close to them. It is NOT an opportunity for guests to be treated to dinner and entertained for five or more hours on the new (probably kind of broke) couple's dime.
If you don't approve of the way the couple is planning their celebration, you have two choices: suck it up and be nice because you love them, or stay out of it. By showing up and complaining or walking out or otherwise making a scene, you are helping ruin their special day, and your etiquette is worse than theirs.
Rant over, thanks.
For the record, I have never walked out of a reception. I don't participate in things I think are rude and tacky (honeyfunds, honeymoon jars, dollar dances), and I actively avoid bouquet and garter tosses because I think they are silly and borderline inappropriate at best, and have seen them cross the line into sexual harrassment and molestation once.
I don't care for cash bars, but I'd rather have the option to buy a drink than not.
I'd only decline a wedding if my FI wasn't invited and if I knew it had a 2hour+ gap.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Your wedding is NOT a coronation. It's just a wedding. And while your friends and family will be very happy for you, your wedding is actually not an earth shattering event in the grand scheme of their lives. While your friends and family may be excited to celebrate your wedding with you, your wedding is definitely not an excuse to treat your friends and family like crap, either.
2nd bolded- Since the entire point of the reception is to "receive" your guests and thank them for attending your ceremony and supporting your marriage, you absolutely must pay to host your guests properly. That means you need to pay to feed them during a meal time, you need to pay to provide them something to drink- doesn't need to be alcohol.
Your guests should not be footing the bill to attend your wedding reception. If you are going broke then you need to have a longer engagement so you can save up more money, or learn to budget better, or learn cut your "vision" down to what you can afford.
Your guests don't care if they attend a David Tuttera $500,000 wedding. But if you take the time to lurk and read some of the the threads here, especially the Worst Weddings one, you will learn that your guests very much care if they are treated poorly just for the sake of you looking like you had a $500,000 wedding. And they won't give you a pass because you are family and they love you- they will judge you all the more because they know you should have known better.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."