Hey , I'm so sorry you r going thru this. Not seeing you on mother's day bc mother in law more important. Nonsense . Sounds like the gf is a chip off old block of mom. Sounds like sons gf is a well....brat. idk best advice other than talk to your soon about how you'd like to be with him more , or make plans to take walks, lunches , etc things that don't break the bank. Invite son and gf or if gf doesn't come just son. Start to do all you can to make effort to be with son away from this so he can make sure it's what he wants . You are his mother , you deserve to be held high
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Re: The dreaded "gap"
I can speak to this situation as a bartender who has worked in "wine country" area, which hosts tons of weddings.
I have seen tons and tons of wedding guests who come to the bar and slam drinks in the 45 minutes they have to kill between the ceremony and reception. So at least on the central coast of California, the gap is happening and guests are glad to put a few back on their own dime before they go to the cocktail hour.
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How amazing. You, as a bartender, have served 100% of the wedding guests on the central coast of California. And wow!!! Every single person offered this information to you: "I am so glad to be paying for this drink myself. I would much rather pay for this myself during this wedding gap than be hosted by the B&G and already at the reception venue." Just amazing. Go you!
Ok, I see your point. It might be cool to talk to people in a more positive way. I shouldn't have spoke in such generalities. I should have said that the many people I have personally served in this situation seemed jovial and not grumbling. Your reply really feels a little extreme.
Ok, I see your point. It might be cool to talk to people in a more positive way. I shouldn't have spoke in such generalities. I should have said that the many people I have personally served in this situation seemed jovial and not grumbling. Your reply really feels a little extreme.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
You may say having a gap is poor etiquette, but I promise you the joy of my day will not be diminished for me or my guests because I choose to have one, so your opinions to do not affect my wedding.
If you want your guests to have fun at your wedding, make your wedding fun. Standing around with nothing to do is not fun. If you don't want your guests standing around not doing anything during your reception, why would it be okay before the reception?
Time to put this bad boy out of its misery.