Who or what are you side-eyeing?

Heffalump · April 2016

I posted about this on WW last week, but I'm side-eyeing the FB invite I got to wedding. In December. And I'm trying not to side-eye the fact that BIL is remarrying his 1st wife, and that she's taking him back after years of fuckery. But I guess that's her problem, not mine.

holyguacamole79 · April 2016

I'm side eyeing my dentist who just asked when my husband & I were going to start a family. Thanks, jackass

banana468 · April 2016

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

My cousin. Early March she sent me a wedding e-vite (to my nickname not full name) for her wedding at the end of August. The RSVP date is the 1st of July. Eyeroll. Looking at her website, her wedding is on an island off Massachusetts and the closest airports are 1+ hrs away. Then you have to take a ferry to the island, which only has about three trips to the island per day.

The site let's us know that they are serving beer and wine only, okay, but if you want something else, you can bring it. Whatever. But there is no place to buy alcohol on the island. You have to get it on main land. Eyeroll for inconvenience. Also, there are only four places to eat on the island.

They have rented out all (2) of the accommodations on the island, so you will have to go through Groom to get a room at one of those place, including paying through them. Eyeroll. Also, you have to stay both Friday and Saturday nights. Eyeroll. There are also room blocks on the main land, but see ferry comments.

None of the above are really etiquette blunders per se, but they are annoying for those who have to travel. Which I assume is their entire guest list. Plus they have a honeyfund.

But to top it off, my FI is not invited. I wasn't originally sure until I read through their website and there is a part that says that only those mentioned on the invite are invited. I had also mentioned to my dad about this and how it was basically the biggest etiquette blunder you can make. I assume that he talked to her mother about this because on Saturday she sent me an email saying she was sorry she didn't give me a plus one on my invite, but she hopes to see me there with my dad and brother.

So it's been brought to her attention that she's being rude and she's only saying that she hopes you can still make it?

Yeah, there's no family member that will get me to incur such a PITA trip only to tell me that she wants me to honor her commitment to someone but won't honor mine. Eff that.

OurWildKingdom · April 2016

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

My cousin. Early March she sent me a wedding e-vite (to my nickname not full name) for her wedding at the end of August. The RSVP date is the 1st of July. Eyeroll. Looking at her website, her wedding is on an island off Massachusetts and the closest airports are 1+ hrs away. Then you have to take a ferry to the island, which only has about three trips to the island per day.

The site let's us know that they are serving beer and wine only, okay, but if you want something else, you can bring it. Whatever. But there is no place to buy alcohol on the island. You have to get it on main land. Eyeroll for inconvenience. Also, there are only four places to eat on the island.

They have rented out all (2) of the accommodations on the island, so you will have to go through Groom to get a room at one of those place, including paying through them. Eyeroll. Also, you have to stay both Friday and Saturday nights. Eyeroll. There are also room blocks on the main land, but see ferry comments.

None of the above are really etiquette blunders per se, but they are annoying for those who have to travel. Which I assume is their entire guest list. Plus they have a honeyfund.

But to top it off, my FI is not invited. I wasn't originally sure until I read through their website and there is a part that says that only those mentioned on the invite are invited. I had also mentioned to my dad about this and how it was basically the biggest etiquette blunder you can make. I assume that he talked to her mother about this because on Saturday she sent me an email saying she was sorry she didn't give me a plus one on my invite, but she hopes to see me there with my dad and brother.

Send her a black velvet painting or something equally tacky.

thespeshulestsnowflake · April 2016

banana468 said:

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

My cousin. Early March she sent me a wedding e-vite (to my nickname not full name) for her wedding at the end of August. The RSVP date is the 1st of July. Eyeroll. Looking at her website, her wedding is on an island off Massachusetts and the closest airports are 1+ hrs away. Then you have to take a ferry to the island, which only has about three trips to the island per day.

The site let's us know that they are serving beer and wine only, okay, but if you want something else, you can bring it. Whatever. But there is no place to buy alcohol on the island. You have to get it on main land. Eyeroll for inconvenience. Also, there are only four places to eat on the island.

They have rented out all (2) of the accommodations on the island, so you will have to go through Groom to get a room at one of those place, including paying through them. Eyeroll. Also, you have to stay both Friday and Saturday nights. Eyeroll. There are also room blocks on the main land, but see ferry comments.

None of the above are really etiquette blunders per se, but they are annoying for those who have to travel. Which I assume is their entire guest list. Plus they have a honeyfund.

But to top it off, my FI is not invited. I wasn't originally sure until I read through their website and there is a part that says that only those mentioned on the invite are invited. I had also mentioned to my dad about this and how it was basically the biggest etiquette blunder you can make. I assume that he talked to her mother about this because on Saturday she sent me an email saying she was sorry she didn't give me a plus one on my invite, but she hopes to see me there with my dad and brother.

So it's been brought to her attention that she's being rude and she's only saying that she hopes you can still make it?

Yeah, there's no family member that will get me to incur such a PITA trip only to tell me that she wants me to honor her commitment to someone but won't honor mine. Eff that.

I'm trying really hard not to email her back with a link to the Etiquette board. But I don't really want to start world war 5 with that side of my family.

I was already planning on declining, but that email really pissed me off.

banana468 · April 2016

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

banana468 said:

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

My cousin. Early March she sent me a wedding e-vite (to my nickname not full name) for her wedding at the end of August. The RSVP date is the 1st of July. Eyeroll. Looking at her website, her wedding is on an island off Massachusetts and the closest airports are 1+ hrs away. Then you have to take a ferry to the island, which only has about three trips to the island per day.

The site let's us know that they are serving beer and wine only, okay, but if you want something else, you can bring it. Whatever. But there is no place to buy alcohol on the island. You have to get it on main land. Eyeroll for inconvenience. Also, there are only four places to eat on the island.

They have rented out all (2) of the accommodations on the island, so you will have to go through Groom to get a room at one of those place, including paying through them. Eyeroll. Also, you have to stay both Friday and Saturday nights. Eyeroll. There are also room blocks on the main land, but see ferry comments.

None of the above are really etiquette blunders per se, but they are annoying for those who have to travel. Which I assume is their entire guest list. Plus they have a honeyfund.

But to top it off, my FI is not invited. I wasn't originally sure until I read through their website and there is a part that says that only those mentioned on the invite are invited. I had also mentioned to my dad about this and how it was basically the biggest etiquette blunder you can make. I assume that he talked to her mother about this because on Saturday she sent me an email saying she was sorry she didn't give me a plus one on my invite, but she hopes to see me there with my dad and brother.

So it's been brought to her attention that she's being rude and she's only saying that she hopes you can still make it?

Yeah, there's no family member that will get me to incur such a PITA trip only to tell me that she wants me to honor her commitment to someone but won't honor mine. Eff that.

I'm trying really hard not to email her back with a link to the Etiquette board. But I don't really want to start world war 5 with that side of my family.

I was already planning on declining, but that email really pissed me off.

What about giving her something framed that says something about how life partners come first?

Alternatively, you can give her a LOVE frame. With you and your FI in it.

londinium215 · April 2016

kvruns said:

londinium215 said:

Currently side-eyeing an old friend of mine (we're Facebook friends, used to be really good friends but grew apart after high school). She and her husband got married a few years ago - a small wedding (I think about 10 people), but a wedding nonetheless. Pictures went up on FB, it looked like a nice time from what I remember (seriously, this was about 5 years ago).

Then early last year she dropped her [husband's] last name from her profile and started going by her first and middle names. Then started posting about how it was only X days until her wedding! Then, in the fall, pictures went up of her "wedding." Granted, it was a religious ceremony and the one a few years ago was civil, but still. You're already married.

THEN a few months later, the gofundme requests started popping up because they want to do Honeymoon Israel but can't afford it and, according to the donation page, "he wants to travel to Israel for the first time with his young bride." You're 30. You're not a young bride.

She also responded to all the congratulatory posts on her FB page and ignored/deleted the ones that said anything like "I thought you were already married?"

I was thinking this new wedding was to a different guy. Hmmm so she tried to pretend she was unmarried on fb by changing her name and then posting this new wedding. wtf?

Nope, same guy. She's literally just pretending they haven't been married for years, and decided they're newlyweds.

Knottie84221682 · April 2016

Some a**hole at work that said they was "happy the F***t Prince was dead" really guy that's just mean and rude as hell.

kimmiinthemitten · April 2016

Knottie84221682 said:

Some a**hole at work that said they was "happy the F***t Prince was dead" really guy that's just mean and rude as hell.

Wow, just wow. And at work no less?

Heffalump · April 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

Knottie84221682 said:

Some a**hole at work that said they was "happy the F***t Prince was dead" really guy that's just mean and rude as hell.

Wow, just wow. And at work no less?

Right? This isn't the world's most progressive company, and that would still earn you a visit with HR here. I cannot imagine.

JeeGooDowster · April 2016

Going to a PPD in a month, Invitation calls for X:00am...but the "Ceremony" starts at X:30am...i know not a huge etiquette deal breaker but it made me gasp and side-eye

short+sassy · April 2016

londinium215 said:

kvruns said:

londinium215 said:

Currently side-eyeing an old friend of mine (we're Facebook friends, used to be really good friends but grew apart after high school). She and her husband got married a few years ago - a small wedding (I think about 10 people), but a wedding nonetheless. Pictures went up on FB, it looked like a nice time from what I remember (seriously, this was about 5 years ago).

Then early last year she dropped her [husband's] last name from her profile and started going by her first and middle names. Then started posting about how it was only X days until her wedding! Then, in the fall, pictures went up of her "wedding." Granted, it was a religious ceremony and the one a few years ago was civil, but still. You're already married.

THEN a few months later, the gofundme requests started popping up because they want to do Honeymoon Israel but can't afford it and, according to the donation page, "he wants to travel to Israel for the first time with his young bride." You're 30. You're not a young bride.

She also responded to all the congratulatory posts on her FB page and ignored/deleted the ones that said anything like "I thought you were already married?"

I was thinking this new wedding was to a different guy. Hmmm so she tried to pretend she was unmarried on fb by changing her name and then posting this new wedding. wtf?

Nope, same guy. She's literally just pretending they haven't been married for years, and decided they're newlyweds.

That is just so weird. Especially the other post you had that she's been deleting comments from people asking/point out, "Aren't you already married?"

Ummm...cat's out of the bag, honey. It's been out of the bag for the last 5 years.

Me personally, I don't care how awesome and spectacular my hypothetical PPD would be, I love my husband too much to pretend we haven't already been happily married for 3 years.

madamerwin · April 2016

JeeGooDowster said:

Going to a PPD in a month, Invitation calls for X:00am...but the "Ceremony" starts at X:30am...i know not a huge etiquette deal breaker but it made me gasp and side-eye

At least they were up-front about the ceremony starting later than the invite time...? But I side-eye that as well. You'll have to report back if there are any other etiquette blunders.

sal2015 · April 2016

I'm side-eyeing a GoFundMe someone posted a link to on Facebook. Apparently a family of four started one because they have run out of money and moved in with the husband's parents. The reason they have run out of money because the husband had trouble waking up early enough to get to his $20/hour job on time and he lost the job. That information is included in the description where they are asking for contributions.

NowIAmSyp · April 2016

sal2015 said:

I'm side-eyeing a GoFundMe someone posted a link to on Facebook. Apparently a family of four started one because they have run out of money and moved in with the husband's parents. The reason they have run out of money because the husband had trouble waking up early enough to get to his $20/hour job on time and he lost the job. That information is included in the description where they are asking for contributions.

scrunchythief · April 2016

I'm side eyeing the father of a FB friend during the discussion we're having on female combat soldiers and the draft. We'd been having a civil discourse, and he comes in with so much racism and misogyny I have no idea where to start. The one I really can't get past is that he directly compared being able to write in pee in the snow to being able to give birth. Seriously?

drglitter · April 2016

I'm side-eyeing my sister, who called two days ago to tell me she's pregnant, and then said "So we should probably just have my baby shower the same weekend as your bridal shower".

Not because of the same weekend thing, but because of the planning her own baby shower when she's about a minute pregnant thing.

[Deleted User] · April 2016

Side eyeing member of FI's team who wanted an additional day to work from home during the week because they want to hit the gym more, and going to the gym in the evening isn't really their thing.

Side eyeing myself for leaving all my deadlines to the last minute again. Looks like another long day and late night.

glasgowtolondon · April 2016

Side eyeing my colleague who has been planning her June wedding in Mallorca. Our boss dropped the bomb yesterday that this woman and her FI are getting married in 2wks. Colleague says 'oh its not really getting married, it's just because it's such a hassle to do it legally in Spain'. And she didn't understand why her mum wanted to be there for it, nor did she see any reason to let her guests that are travelling to Spain know either. I am going to enjoy reminding her that she isn't a bride, she is a wife.

JeeGooDowster · May 2016

madamerwin said:

JeeGooDowster said:

Going to a PPD in a month, Invitation calls for X:00am...but the "Ceremony" starts at X:30am...i know not a huge etiquette deal breaker but it made me gasp and side-eye

At least they were up-front about the ceremony starting later than the invite time...? But I side-eye that as well. You'll have to report back if there are any other etiquette blunders.

Here's another one for the same PPD. I don't think this is an etiquette blunder but I am side-eyeing this as well, family pics (which I am a part of since it's my husband's cousin) will be taken during reception because the bride and groom don't want to skip the cocktail hour.

All of these little things are adding up...and all for the PPD....is making it, I think an etiquette blunder.

One honest thing though - everyone attending does know that they are married...might count for something! LOL

ILoveBeachMusic · May 2016

JeeGooDowster said:

madamerwin said:

JeeGooDowster said:

Going to a PPD in a month, Invitation calls for X:00am...but the "Ceremony" starts at X:30am...i know not a huge etiquette deal breaker but it made me gasp and side-eye

At least they were up-front about the ceremony starting later than the invite time...? But I side-eye that as well. You'll have to report back if there are any other etiquette blunders.

Here's another one for the same PPD. I don't think this is an etiquette blunder but I am side-eyeing this as well, family pics (which I am a part of since it's my husband's cousin) will be taken during reception because the bride and groom don't want to skip the cocktail hour.

All of these little things are adding up...and all for the PPD....is making it, I think an etiquette blunder.

One honest thing though - everyone attending does know that they are married...might count for something! LOL

I don't think having pictures taken during the reception (unless it stops the music and dancing) is against etiquette. SIL's family wanted their pictures taken during the reception. I don't think anyone else knew the difference.

Pretty funny everyone knows this is a PPD and is going along with it.

ShesSoCold · May 2016

I side-eye the people who see the words "salad" or "turkey burger" or "healthy" and assume whatever it is, is better than the alternative.

crowsgirl15 · May 2016

ShesSoCold said:

I side-eye the people who see the words "salad" or "turkey burger" or "healthy" and assume whatever it is, is better than the alternative.

Are you trying to tell me the Quesedilla Explosion Salad isn't a healthy option?! Blasphemer!!!!!

OurWildKingdom · May 2016

Mmmm. Quesadilla explosion.

Tyvm · May 2016

Side eyeing my cousins, who when asked for their address and name of their live-in SOs specifically for the wedding invites, they gave the address, but only the first names of the SOs. If you don't mind being addressed as, "Lauren Smith and Harold", then I guess I don't mind either.

drunkenwitch · May 2016

I need to side eye, eye roll and bitch slap the creative department. The company I work for "makes widgets". I do payroll and invoicing. I love my widget guys (aka the widget builder crew). Oh sure, they're not perfect and sometimes I have to light a fire under their asses but they answer my emails, appreciate my work, turn in their paperwork and try not to make my job harder.

Our system is not automated. I have to enter every single receipt and invoice and timesheet. Then export that data and enter it into several different spreadsheets by hand and make sure all the numbers match.

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Dear entitled creative department. Those deadlines are there for a reason. I'm ever so sorry you can't be bothered to fill out your time sheet. You do realize that's holding up all of payroll, right? So sorry I forgot how special and unique you are and I should magically make your time sheet and billable hours appear out of thin air.

Oh, you've been here 2 months and have all these awesome ideas of how invoicing should work and want to mansplain to me how I should do my job and create 10 times the amount of work for me?

You continually treat me like "The Help" and wonder why I don't squeal amd faint at the honor of doing you a favor?

Bitch please.

I've been here for 5 years. The owner of the company is slightly afraid of me and respects me. My manager (tne CFO) has flat out said she would quit if I quit. You honestly think you have any power over me? I may be Sigourney Weaver from Galaxy Quest but my one stupid job gets you paid and generates invoices so people know they need to send us money.

Ps, I enter all the receipts, I know how much of the company money you all spend on lunches and booze.

short+sassy · May 2016

drunkenwitch said:

I need to side eye, eye roll and bitch slap the creative department. The company I work for "makes widgets". I do payroll and invoicing. I love my widget guys (aka the widget builder crew). Oh sure, they're not perfect and sometimes I have to light a fire under their asses but they answer my emails, appreciate my work, turn in their paperwork and try not to make my job harder.

Our system is not automated. I have to enter every single receipt and invoice and timesheet. Then export that data and enter it into several different spreadsheets by hand and make sure all the numbers match.

End background

Dear entitled creative department. Those deadlines are there for a reason. I'm ever so sorry you can't be bothered to fill out your time sheet. You do realize that's holding up all of payroll, right? So sorry I forgot how special and unique you are and I should magically make your time sheet and billable hours appear out of thin air.

Oh, you've been here 2 months and have all these awesome ideas of how invoicing should work and want to mansplain to me how I should do my job and create 10 times the amount of work for me?

You continually treat me like "The Help" and wonder why I don't squeal amd faint at the honor of doing you a favor?

Bitch please.

I've been here for 5 years. The owner of the company is slightly afraid of me and respects me. My manager (tne CFO) has flat out said she would quit if I quit. You honestly think you have any power over me? I may be Sigourney Weaver from Galaxy Quest but my one stupid job gets you paid and generates invoices so people know they need to send us money.

Ps, I enter all the receipts, I know how much of the company money you all spend on lunches and booze.

I've had jobs that sound somewhat similar to yours. But both jobs I've had that dealt with timesheets, it was cut and dry. Timesheets were in by "X" time or...oops...you don't get paid this pay period, you'll get double pay (though two transactions) next pay period. And, yes, that happened a few times to some of my procrastinator coworkers. But never twice for the same person

, lol.

OurWildKingdom · May 2016

Side-eyeing a coworker with heavy perfume. Every time she comes in to our department, I get a headache. Even if it didn't make me sick, whatever she wears smells like oven cleaner.

vikinganna87 · May 2016

OurWildKingdom said:

Side-eyeing a coworker with heavy perfume. Every time she comes in to our department, I get a headache. Even if it didn't make me sick, whatever she wears smells like oven cleaner.

Ugh; that's uncomfortable. I had a coworker who always reeked -- I initially thought he'd been boozing at lunch but it turned out to be cheap, heavy cologne.

sparklepants41 · May 2016

Side-eyeing people who try to sell used candles.

Sorry not sorry, but I think that's gross.

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