So, DH has a co-worker who's getting married in a DW/PPD. (
I've posted about this before <-- clicky)
DH still wanted to get them a token wedding present. Fine. I ordered lovely etched pint glasses from
@KPBM89 (second set, btw) on etsy. DH would not let me put their *REAL* wedding date (as in, the date they legally got married in our state) on it, but insisted I put their fake DW/PPD date on it. He thinks my way is passive-aggressive.
Which it is, but that's not the point.
So anyway.
They got married this weekend, by a friend who's apparently gotten ordained online -- the same friend who's going to travel to DW State to perform their PPD.
Said friend posted about it on FB and tagged B and G in the post.
Bride's and Groom's families did not know about the legal wedding in PA. They were under the (entirely reasonable) impression that the DW wedding was the real wedding -- after all, it's in another state, not another country or anything. And the rules for that state are show up 24 hours in advance and apply for a marriage licence. But apparently, having to drive an hour from their beach rental to the courthouse was 'too much effort' for them, so they did a wedding in PA.
Bride's and Groom's families are FURIOUS, and are (at least based on what I can see on FB) threatening to boycott the wedding, because they don't see the point of driving 10+ hours away for a do-over.
DH said the bride was in tears at work last night, inconsolable because 'It's our day and why can't people just let us have our day the way we wanted to?'
DH said, 'But you got your day. You got married with your dogs present by your friend in your backyard. Isn't that what you wanted?'
CW said: 'I wanted the princess day of being all dressed up and having everyone tell me I'm beautiful!'
DH said: 'Then why didn't you wait and do that?'
CW said: 'Because it was too much work. You don't understand.'
DH said: 'HisGirl and I got married Catholic. You think I don't understand jumping through hoops?'

him.
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
Re: DH is nicer than I am (but Karma's a bitch!)
I'm just surprised that they didn't see it coming to light at some point. Did they somehow think that no one would find out? Or that they wouldn't care?
Dumbasses
There's so much, "It's okay for me to do this because I'm entitled to this kind of wedding that I want," but if it were okay to do, and you really were entitled to it ... then why would anyone be upset that you were doing it? And yet the majority of these couples hide the fact that they're having a PPD from their guests. "Oh, well, no one needs to know," or, "Well, then they might not come and we want everyone to come."
I'm the fuck out.
Lol you are right. It sounds like there was a lot of "not thinking" in that situation.
I'm the fuck out.
I'm the fuck out.