My fiancé had a very hard time choosing who he would ask to be his groomsmen because he wanted to ask more then the 4 groomsmen/ bridesmaids we agreed on. He still feels bad about limiting his groomsmen number and wants to ask 2 other friends to be ushers. We both think having ushers is a nice idea except that we don't want to offend anyone by asking them to be an usher instead of a groomsmen.
Has anyone been in a similar situation either about asking or being asked and how you felt? Thanks so much for the advice!
Re: Asking a friend to be an Usher instead of a Groomsmen
In case it's unclear above...we agreed on 4 bridesmaids & 4 groomsman, not 4 total
I think you were perfectly clear. If he wants 6 GM let him have 6 GM. It is really controlling to not let him have his nearest and dearest up there because you are worried the sides won't be even. Why did you only want 4 and 4 to begin with?
Also JIC.
We both want to have the same amount on each side of us and it's not possible for me to think of 2 more girls...I actually have 3 bridesmaids and 1 bridesman that make up my party.
I think it was @Maggie0829 who had uneven sides (more GM than BM) and her pics are GORG! Correct me if I am wrong, Maggie.
ETA: I am sure there are tons more Knotties who have done this, too. Maggie is just who popped into my head.
I'm not limiting the number to 4. we both agreed to 4 each. he's having a really hard time picking 4 out of 6.
Then have all 6. How long until your wedding?
Just say, "will you be an usher?" Since you aren't willing to have uneven sides, that is going to be your only option. I still think that if your FI has 6 friends he is that close to, you are both doing those friendships an injustice by not letting them stand next to your FI as GMs.
See I don't get this. It's like saying "We are going to include you in everything the BP is included in, but you are not actually in the BP. Thanks!" It just doesn't make sense to me.