FFF!

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I'm getting married?!   *checks hand* Shiit, you're right.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

<div>I flame you for forgetting about our magical wedding at the Linc this fall.  With our gold plated STDs.  And planned orgy with the boys afterwards.  GAWD.</div>

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]I used to dislike the look of both TOMS and UGGS and I wear them all the time now. I think both are cute; they've grown on me. I'm OK with the fact that people think they're ugly because I did too for awhile, until I tried them on with my own clothes...and felt how ridiculously comfortable they are.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly the same here!  I was walking through Nordstrom one day & saw the TOMS & randomly decided to try them on & fell in love.  I think they're way cuter on than just in a picture or something. </div>

SKP82

Polo - I agree that is very odd and agree with Ollie that I would tell her that's why I wasn't using her.

bsidebella

<div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_fff?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9bb6a68f-3529-474a-8f1d-532d87e511f9Post:f3af8221-275c-4773-a0f4-8b4cff5b6cf6">Re: FFF!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : It was more of a "we get it" and it was directed at Bella regarding her job/money situation.   Bella, I feel awful that you're having a hard time right now. I really, really do & I desperately hope things turn around for you as soon as possible.  You bring it up, though, in like 95% of your posts I feel like & sometimes it gets to be a bit much.
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

<div>Sorry...I didn't realize that was directed at me. </div><div>
</div><div>Um...I don't really have a response other than an apology, I guess. I can't talk about it on Facebook because I haven't told anyone that I lost my job because I was ashamed, so I kind of feel like this is the only place I can get support.</div><div>
</div><div>I <em>have</em> tried to post less because I realized awhile ago it was too much. I didn't even talk about my interview yesterday because it wasn't really worth it. </div><div>
</div><div>So, I'm sorry. </div></div>

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I don't mind being flamed for what I said about TIger. Being flamed for being cynical?? That's a little much, I think. You and Yaga said "It's a wedding board, deal" - How many times do the "regs" on here tell new posters that this is more than just a wedding board forum?? Just saying
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]



Sorry I'm posting from a phone and that took an eternity to write. I stopped my thought process short when I said I flamed your being cynical. I meant to say and calling people out on a wedding board for posting about their excitement to people who

IrishDreamer

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : But the general reason people are here is because they were or are or want to be involved with planning a wedding at some point.  It's like if I started posted on TB and I said, Oh I don't even like babies or children.  People would wonder why I'm there. <strong>I wonder why someone who doesn't like weddings or is cynical would be on a wedding message board</strong>, just like I would wonder if someone who doesn't believe in the institution of marriage started posting.  
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

I don't dislike weddings, I don't like all the fuss.

cu97tiger

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[QUOTE]I don't think Irish is a cynic (even though she called herself one), but I totally get what she means. There are those posters that are all OMGWEDDINGWEDDINGWEDDING a la CCO, tiger (IMO) etc, and then there are others like Lyn, Elle, yaga, etc that don't really post anything WR. Hell up until like a week or so ago I had no idea when Elle was getting married. I think it's about a balance between weddings and everything else your life should be around.
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]

<div>See, now I'm confused. While I might be EXCITED about my wedding (because of who I'm marrying and the lifetime we get to spend together, not because it's a PPD), I certainly don't post something every day about it. I've actually made a concious effort to put the majority of my WR posts on my month board. If you have some specific examples of my overzealousness, I'd love to see them, because I've honestly tried to stop being so 'in your face' about it.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: Polo, that is SUPER creepy.</div>

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In Response to  Re: FFF! : Sorry...I didn't realize that was directed at me.  Um...I don't really have a response other than an apology, I guess. I can't talk about it on Facebook because I haven't told anyone that I lost my job because I was ashamed, so I kind of feel like this is the only place I can get support. I have tried to post less because I realized awhile ago it was too much. I didn't even talk about my interview yesterday because it wasn't really worth it.  So, I'm sorry. 
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, you really don't need to apologize.  And it wasn't that you were just upset about what was going on it just was most of your posts, even in other people's threads that had nothing to do with it, somehow came back to the fact that you lost your job & you're having a hard time right now.  I have no problem wishing people luck when they're going on an interview at all because I genuinely hope it goes well. But when so many posts from the same person are like 'I don't have money so I can't do that' or 'I don't have a job' over & over again it was just a bit much.  </div><div>
</div><div>And I know you stopped posting a lot which is why I didn't say this before.  But I was called out for not naming names so that's why I brought it up at all. </div>

jaycee7389

....they consider to be friends. And yes it's just an online forum...I don't think I was making a big deal of that you were, I was just stating my opinion.

IrishDreamer

Jaycee - no big.

jorja86

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I don't dislike weddings, I don't like all the fuss.
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

Now you're splitting hairs.

Also, this is definitely not the impression you gave earlier. Which is why you got called out on it.

meamolly

I flame Gotye for making a dang good song called "Someone I use to know" and getting it stuck in my head. Also for making me play it like five times today.

bsidebella

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : Well, you really don't need to apologize.  And it wasn't that you were just upset about what was going on it just was most of your posts, even in other people's threads that had nothing to do with it, somehow came back to the fact that you lost your job & you're having a hard time right now.  I have no problem wishing people luck when they're going on an interview at all because I genuinely hope it goes well. But when so many posts from the same person are like 'I don't have money so I can't do that' or 'I don't have a job' over & over again it was just a bit much.   And I know you stopped posting a lot which is why I didn't say this before.  But I was called out for not naming names so that's why I brought it up at all. 
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't even realize I'm doing it, I'm kind of on autopilot right now. I just...well, I don't know. I don't even have a response because I don't really know what to say, I guess, except apologize again. So, I'm sorry.  </div>

elannis

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[QUOTE]I flame Gotye for making a dang good song called "Someone I use to know" and getting it stuck in my head. Also for making me play it like five times today.
Posted by meamolly[/QUOTE]

I LOVE that song!! I love Kimbra too! lol ... FI tried to get me her cd for Christmas, but it wasn't out, so he just copied some songs from iTunes.

Ollie08

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : See, now I'm confused. While I might be EXCITED about my wedding (because of who I'm marrying and the lifetime we get to spend together, not because it's a PPD), I certainly don't post something every day about it. <strong>I've actually made a concious effort to put the majority of my WR posts on my month board.</strong> If you have some specific examples of my overzealousness, I'd love to see them, because I've honestly tried to stop being so 'in your face' about it. ETA: Polo, that is SUPER creepy.
Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

Like I said earlier at some point I tune out posts that get to be too much. So you may have stopped doing that, but honestly I don't pay attention as much any more.

:::shrugs:::

SKP82

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I don't even realize I'm doing it, I'm kind of on autopilot right now. I just...well, I don't know. I don't even have a response because I don't really know what to say, I guess, except apologize again. So, I'm sorry.  
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

I want to give you a hug right now.

IrishDreamer

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I want to give you a hug right now.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

I second this

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I want to give you a hug right now.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

<div>Third.</div>

[Deleted User]

Bella, don't apologize.  when you're in that kind of a situation, it's all that you can think about or talk about and you don't even know you're doing it.  we're here to support you and listen to you.  being unemployed and scared and depressed sucks...  depression can be so debilitating.  I've been there.  I'm not completely out of it yet, but my good days really out number my bad days now.  if you ever just want to talk or vent, I'll listen.  it's good to get it out of your system, so you can quit internalizing it and dwelling on it.

that said, it's important that you don't focus on the negative.  try to find some things to be positive about.  start taking control of your life in areas that you can...  you can't control your unemployment, but you CAN get out there and network and put in resumes and have a good attitude.  you can treat yourself well (physically, emotionally, and mentally).  there are lots of things you can control, so try to focus your energy on some of those and maybe you'll feel a little less lost and hopeless.

I know you're in an awful and dark place right now, and it seems like you can't find a way out.  but there will be a way out and it will get better.  you just have to learn to tread water until then.    and I mean it, if you just want to get it out of your system I'd love to listen.  just talking about it and getting it out there (with my H) has made it so much better for me, knowing I have support and that I'm not being judged.

I've been and I'll continue to be thinking of you!

ETA:  grammar, spelling, good stuff like that.

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I want to give you a hug right now.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

Fourth

Hazel_B

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I second this
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

I third this.

Rdr - Seriously? Are talking about Bside saying she couldn't go the the GTG because she'll be visiting her mom in Arizona earlier in the year. What is wrong with that?

bsidebella

SKP, Irish, peek, Coco, jaycee & Hazel - Thanks, all. I'll really try to keep my hold of not posting so much. Like I said, I don't even realize when I'm doing it. I sometimes kind of get "word vomit" like in Mean Girls.

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I third this. Rdr - Seriously? Are talking about Bside saying she couldn't go the the GTG because she'll be visiting her mom in Arizona earlier in the year. What is wrong with that?
Posted by Hazel_B[/QUOTE]

Where did she say that?

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : I third this. Rdr - Seriously? Are talking about Bside saying she couldn't go the the GTG because she'll be visiting her mom in Arizona earlier in the year. What is wrong with that?
Posted by Hazel_B[/QUOTE]

<div>No, not at all.  It wasn't even really this week to be honest, & it wasn't only G2G related.  It just seemed like regardless of what the thread was about somehow money issues/job issues got brought up even if it wasn't really relevant.  </div>

bsidebella

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : She's not. There have been a lot of times where we've talked about a NYC g2g, and Bside has said stuff like she wants to come, but she doesn't know if she can afford the train ticket - which is completely 100% understandable and reasonable and I completely feel for her.  But at the same time,<strong> it's hard to carry on the conversation when someone is saying "oh I wish I could be there, but I can't because I don't have the money and I don't know when I will."  Obviously she's not holding anyone back from having a g2g, but I feel really guilty everytime I think about making a thread about doing one in NYC because she points out her financial situation.</strong>   ETA: I'm not saying it to be harsh or because I'm super close with Rdr.  This is something that I've noticed because it happens fairly often and it does make me uncomfortable.  
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

<div>The last time one was brought up, I said I could go on a certain date (late March/early April) because I'd be getting an unemployment check/birthday money, so I'd be able to swing it. </div>

Hazel_B

Jaycee - Sorry, that was the last time I remember Bside saying anything about not having the money to do something. I'm clearly wrong, guess I don't pay enough attention.

Hazel_B

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : No, not at all.  It wasn't even really this week to be honest, & it wasn't only G2G related.  It just seemed like regardless of what the thread was about somehow money issues/job issues got brought up even if it wasn't really relevant.  
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

Okay, sorry about that. I just feel you came across as a bit harsh.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF! : Okay, sorry about that. I just feel you came across as a bit harsh.
Posted by Hazel_B[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm sorry that you & whoever else feel that way.  I tried to word my post as best as I could without coming off as mean or harsh.</div>

GoldenPenguin

I don't think it's necessary to get pissy with RDR... she did what FFF is for, correct? The posts bugged her, and so she posted about it. She also reiterated that she feels awful & hopes that everything turns around for Bside. But, like Yaga said, it's hard to be excited & carry on a post about a G2G when someone is Debbie Downer about what is absolutely a hard situation. I've been there - I've been the broke friend. Now I'm the workaholic friend who can never do anything. But I say it once... everyone knows.

I just don't think jumping down RDR's throat - when she was gentle & nice about the situation in the original post - is really the way to handle it. (And that's not for Bside, I think you took it graciously... it's for everyone else.)

csousa1

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[QUOTE]I don't think it's necessary to get pissy with RDR... she did what FFF is for, correct? The posts bugged her, and so she posted about it. She also reiterated that she feels awful & hopes that everything turns around for Bside. But, like Yaga said, it's hard to be excited & carry on a post about a G2G when someone is Debbie Downer about what is absolutely a hard situation. I've been there - I've been the broke friend. Now I'm the workaholic friend who can never do anything. But I say it once... everyone knows. I just don't think jumping down RDR's throat - when she was gentle & nice about the situation in the original post - is really the way to handle it. (And that's not for Bside, I think you took it graciously... it's for everyone else.)
Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

You shut your hoar mouth and go watch more RHOSB.