Limits on my FIs bachelor party???

BlameCanada

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[QUOTE]No it just can't die!  It's so important for 300 random people to spew identical, naive BS on a message board. It's called empowerment. Duh!
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

You had to respond, didn't you?  You dragged more responses in with you.  Next time wipe your feet before crossing the threshold.

[Deleted User]

Sure thing. I tell you what, not only will I wipe my feet, but I will also drag my ass across your living room floor like a dog. Will that make you happy?

BlameCanada

As long as you don't leave ass responses in your wake I'm cool with that.

[Deleted User]

I can't really make that promise. At least 87% of my responses contain ass.

BlameCanada

Then there will be no ass dragging on my beautiful white carpets.

[Deleted User]

White carpets are for drug dealers.

BlameCanada

Gotta hide the spilled powder somehow....

whitneyjason

RE: "The Hangover"
I am so much more excited than worried  in regards to a 'Hangover' inspired party as my two best girlfriends are already planning my 1st bachelorette party in Vegas this summer!! [months before the wedding, just in case ]. The way I see it-  the pre and post wedding parties are all about celebration.... ENJOY!

lotsofus

It completely amazes me that in our society, anyone that has a problem with naked-or nearly naked women being viewed/groped by the man they are about to commit to for life is labelled a prude. I'm not a prude, but my fiance has had plenty
of "bachelor" experiences while he was single!! Neither one of us are doing a "bachelor" party, and frankly, the expectation that strippers and getting wasted
should play ANY role in the pre-nuptual events is sad. That whole "forsaking all others" thing begins at LEAST when the engagement ring goes on. The whole anything goes attitude in our culture is leading us down the wrong path! OF COURSE
you should set limits!! It's not about trust or power stuggles-it's about respect and the sacredness of the bond!

[Deleted User]

Ya'll! The craziest thing happened last night. I woke up and there was a stripper in my house! Somehow, she broke in while we were sleeping. By the time I caught her, she had eaten most of our food and tried on all of my clothes. I'm pretty sure I have an STD now. Thanks a lot Amber!

BecW2be

You lie! Strippers can't eat! They're only allowed whatever nutrition they can gather from the champagne room. Why do you think they try to pull men back there so often?

Further, strippers don't wear panties, which is why Victoria's Secret can resell the stained panties. If a stripper didn't wear them, they won't have STDs on them. So I doubt you have an STD this morning, but I would check your shoes for fungus. It's the only thing they do keep on at work.

[Deleted User]

Good point. Maybe my underwear is safe. But what about all of all of my ski masks? She was definitely all up in those. I hear the mouth herp is the easiest herp to get. AND I'm like 63% sure she used my loofa. Ugh.

So, if she didn't eat my food, who did? Do you think that damn leprechaun is back? Shiit. My life is spiraling out of control.

BecW2be

No worries. It was probably yByn eating your food. I'd just toss the loofa, ski masks and white carpet. Spilled powder is like fly paper to strippers. I'm surprised you don't have more of them with their faces stuck to your carpet.

*This thread is heaven. The interjecting serious posts make me laugh almost as hard as your nonsense! I love you, Cew.

[Deleted User]

No. I'm pretty sure it wasn't Byn. I caught a glimpse of it one time and it looked exactly like this amateur sketch of a leprechaun that I saw on the news once.




And PS, I love you too.

ctdillon

Luckily for me, this is something we talked about well before we got engaged. He knows I have one heck of a jealous streak and have been worried about this since we first started taling about getting married. While I trust him completely, I can see his friends letting things get out of hand. And that's exactly what I told him. He seemed to appreciate that its his friends I'm worried about and not him. He knows I would be hurt if he let himself get into certain situations. I've just got to trust him to not be an idiot : )

goheels05

Y'all have to stop making me laugh at work.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Luckily for me, this is something we talked about well before we got engaged. He knows I have one heck of a jealous streak and have been worried about this since we first started taling about getting married. <strong>While I trust him completely, I can see his friends letting things get out of hand.</strong> And that's exactly what I told him. He seemed to appreciate that its his friends I'm worried about and not him. He knows I would be hurt if he let himself get into certain situations. I've just got to trust him to not be an idiot : )
Posted by ctdillon[/QUOTE]

I don't buy this at all. If you trusted him completely, you would have no reason to worry about his friends letting it get out of hand because no matter what stupid things they do, he would still be smart.

BlameCanada

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[QUOTE]Luckily for me, this is something we talked about well before we got engaged. He knows I have one heck of a jealous streak and have been worried about this since we first started taling about getting married. While I trust him completely, I can see his friends letting things get out of hand. And that's exactly what I told him. He seemed to appreciate that its his friends I'm worried about and not him. He knows I would be hurt if he let himself get into certain situations. I've just got to trust him to not be an idiot : )
Posted by ctdillon[/QUOTE]
You've really been worried about this since you started talking about getting married?  Wow.

HKD817

Ok, i know some girls find strip clubs offensive and degrading..but have you actually ever been to one? Maybe even with your FI? I know I only speak for myself but I think they are fun..I always have a great time when i go, lets loosen the puppet strings alittle ...(i know i am going to get heat for this post, oh well) Some people just get very sensitive about this.

SnC710

I totally agree with you, ctdillon!!! What women do at male strip clubs and what men do at strip clubs is super different. Every woman wants a man to be faithful in actions in the bedroom but also in public, the ring does have a meaning and that started when you were engaged...

That said, don't give rules, it makes people deffiant. But on the other hand if you trust him so much, why aren't you talking to HIM about it instead of some random women you don't even know, that, quite frankly, don't have very good advice anyway.  If he is so trustworthy,  he should understand, and you two should discuss what is right for you two... no arguments, no manipulations, but truly genuinely discussing why you are concerned and what you hope for for you and him... hopefully that helps

Good luck

goheels05

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[QUOTE]Ok, i know some girls find strip clubs offensive and degrading..but have you actually ever been to one? Maybe even with your FI? I know I only speak for myself but I think they are fun..I always have a great time when i go, lets loosen the puppet strings alittle ...(i know i am going to get heat for this post, oh well) Some people just get very sensitive about this.
Posted by HKD817[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's what I've been saying all along, but the beebies don't want to hear anyone else's opinions, they just spout out their nonsense and expect people to care.

BlameCanada

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Limits on my FIs bachelor party??? : Yeah, that's what I've been saying all along, but the beebies don't want to hear anyone else's opinions, they just spout out their nonsense and expect people to care.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
That's because the beebees are all too busy posting their thoughts on the subject to read the 5,214,634,558,631,414 on the issue.  They just don't care because they are right, and no one else could possibly understand.

JMU_Bride09

If you're concerned about strippers at a house party, calmly and rationally remind your FI about what happend to those Duke lacrosse players.  Going to a strip club will protect your FI and his friends from potentially being accused of sexual attacks.  Think about it...a bunch of drunks guys plus only one or two girls alone in a room with no witnesses....it wouldn't be hard for the girls to frame your FI and his friends.

BlameCanada

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[QUOTE]If you're concerned about strippers at a house party, calmly and rationally remind your FI about what happend to those Duke lacrosse players.  Going to a strip club will <strong>protect your FI and his friends from potentially being accused of sexual attacks.  Think about it...a bunch of drunks guys plus only one or two girls alone in a room with no witnesses....it wouldn't be hard for the girls to frame your FI and his friends.</strong>
Posted by JMU_Bride09[/QUOTE]
Yeah, that's likely to happen<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />  If you're going to try to talk him out of it at least use a realistic argument.

(Before anyone says it, yes, I know it does happen, but the likelihood of it happening is very low.)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

[quote] AND....why is it okay for only ONE night that a guy can get a lap dance and see nakedness but every other day of your marriage it would be frowned upon. [/quote]

Who said it's just one night? My FI can go to a strip club whenever he wants to. There are 2 within walking distance of our house.

goheels05

I stripped for a Duke lacrosse player once, but I wasn't get paid.

TMI?

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]<strong>If you're concerned about strippers at a house party, calmly and rationally remind your FI about what happend to those Duke lacrosse players.</strong>  Going to a strip club will protect your FI and his friends from potentially being accused of sexual attacks.  Think about it...a bunch of drunks guys plus only one or two girls alone in a room with no witnesses....it wouldn't be hard for the girls to frame your FI and his friends.
Posted by JMU_Bride09[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh out loud. Seriously. Thank you for that.

janamarlene

Untrue...I have been to strip clubs with my fiance. ..I have seen many guys touch the woman and the bouncer watches. It mostly goes on during the lap dances..

polichik

Wow, this got long. Let me see if I can summarize all rational arguments here:

1. You and your FI should both respect each others' comfort levels, about B-parties and everything else
2. It's ok to let him know what makes you uncomfortable, but it's not ok to "tell" him what he can and can't do or "forbid" him from such
3. Most strippers aren't whores, and many strip clubs are reputable
4. Private parties are different than strip clubs
5. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen, and not just at his b-party

Did I miss anything?

lindakee

I SET THE SAME RULE! His brother is the best man and has been talking about how crazyy it will be for years. Having strippers coming to a private home to dance is more personal and offends me. Sorrryy boys. I don't mind strip clubs. Thats is the only rule I set and my Fiance understands. They have to respect you as well and if you don't feel comfortable with it.. its not fair to do to you!