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Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Ever notice the same people who insist other people think they are the "cool kids" are the same people who insist that those people are "trying to hard," thus trying to cement their own "cool kid" status? The penchant for trying to create outsider vs insider status on here is so odd to me because for the most part, most people have their group of friends on here and that's how it is. Aside from some serious wackos, or a few lone wolf types, every one here has mostly defined themselves alrready. It may not be what you want to be part of, or you may judge others for the group they chose, but it just makes you looks like an ass to constantly self aggrandize and constantly highlight your own choices. It actually really only makes posters who constantly use this language look sadly insecure which has been confusing me considering I never used to see those posters as insecure.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
I am just going to nod in agreement at this.

jasmineh7777

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[QUOTE]Also, after reading FFF my (very?) unpopular opinion is that I thought Heels was being super tounge in cheek with her GBCK. For all the people who said she had been here long enough know it was an AW move, you would think those same people would know she was overplaying the GBCK as that is her sense of humor.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

I didn't see FFF until last night, and by that point it seemed silly to comment. My opinion is:

If you persistantly comment about a person just to say something negative, you are bullying them. If you don't like someone, say it once and be done with it. If you say it all. of. the. time. you are harassing that person, and enjoying their reaction.

aprovencher21

I'm not going to say much about FFF......... except people who I once thought were nice I'm convinced have some screws loose.

jasmineh7777

I am just so sick of people insulting other people, and then expecting that person to be stoic about it and not say anything. If you react, then you're feeding in to it. If you don't react, then people think  you're a pushover.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I didn't see FFF until last night, and by that point it seemed silly to comment. My opinion is: If you persistantly comment about a person just to say something negative, you are bullying them. If you don't like someone, say it once and be done with it. If you say it all. of. the. time. you are harassing that person, and enjoying their reaction.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

Well the problem is that one person or groups decides they hate some one. Then, others figure out they can score points by picking on the same person. I am not saying I haven't been a part of that at one point or another (most of us have) but it does get old at some point. You don't see (or most posters on this board) going around harassing the people they dislike. For me it has nothing to do with enjoying a reaction as much as I don't care wth their reaction may be.

ebonyivory10

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[QUOTE]I think Nebb posted the last one of these and I liked it a lot. To play, just state an opinion popular or unpopular. Controversial is good, non controversial is good too. As some of you know, I come from a seriously Liberal background, H is Democrat all the way and the majority of the time I vote Democrat. I still think this President has been a major disappointment and I am sorry I voted for him. I wish I would have went with an Independent instead.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]

I don't regret voting for him, but I also (sadly) agree with being dissappointed with some of Obama's choices.  I haven't given up all hope though, but maybe my head is in the sand?

Also, I like wedding tiaras.  I'm wearing one and I don't consider myself pretentious  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Opinions : I don't regret voting for him, but I also (sadly) agree with being dissappointed with some of Obama's choices.  I haven't given up all hope though, but maybe my head is in the sand? <font color="#993366">Also, I like wedding tiaras.  I'm wearing one and I don't consider myself pretentious 
</font>Posted by ebonyivory10[/QUOTE]

First time reading this I thought you meant you are wearing one right now as you type....=) 

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]I'm not going to say much about FFF......... except people who I once thought were nice I'm convinced have some screws loose.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

Well, my two cents on the thing with you? I think you did go over the top with the callout write-over war, but you know that and you tookresponsibility for it so I respect that a lot. I also was annoyed how every one glazed over your VERY pertinent point that if you had been talking about how much money you saved or DIDN'T spend no one would have batted an eye. I had/have this issue as a chip on my shoulder for a long time with these boards. Also, if people are allowed to talk about buying awesome dresses at Costco, why can't you talk about  Manolos? WHO CARES?

jasmineh7777

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Well the problem is that one person or groups decides they hate some one. Then, others figure out they can score points by picking on the same person. I am not saying I haven't been a part of that at one point or another (most of us have) but it does get old at some point. You don't see (or most posters on this board) going around harassing the people they dislike. For me it has nothing to do with enjoying a reaction as much as I don't care wth their reaction may be.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Yes, we've all done this. I would say most people leave this behavior behind when they grow up, and realize no real friendships are based on mutual dislike. I'd much rather develop a relationship based on mutual interests, or enjoyable conversations, or anything other than tearing someone else down.

I don't think commenting about Heel's braces is any different than commenting about someone's weight, and I know people would flip their shiit if that happened. And I do really feel like no one should tell me what I should or shouldn't be sensitive to.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Opinions : Also, I like wedding tiaras.  I'm wearing one and I don't consider myself pretentious 
Posted by ebonyivory10[/QUOTE]


I wore a tiara. It made me happy. And you know what? My guests were still fed and given free booze, my DJ still rocked, and a good time was had by all. Tiaras are a victimless crime, imo.

I kind of think that judging a bride for wearing a tiara is just as lame as judging her for wearing a dress you don't like. It didn't hurt anybody and it was something that made her happy. Big deal, she has different taste than you, let it the f*ck go.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Well, my two cents on the thing with you? I think you did go over the top with the callout write-over war, but you know that and you tookresponsibility for it so I respect that a lot. I also was annoyed how every one glazed over your VERY pertinent point that if you had been talking about how much money you saved or DIDN'T spend no one would have batted an eye. I had/have this issue as a chip on my shoulder for a long time with these boards. Also, if people are allowed to talk about buying awesome dresses at Costco, why can't you talk about  Manolos? WHO CARES?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

That was my point as well.  I got carried away on the call out site....but who here hasn't over reacted to something before because it got under their skin??  Also, apparently LC just has a huge stick up her ass because I happen to talk about sex, shoes, and money.  Also, I don't consider it to be AW about money when shits in my bio.  If your reading my bio you're looking for crap already.

I think I remember you having this same issue with the cost of your wedding gown...right?

MeaghanandMichael

I hear you Meg, but you DO have to admit tiaras got a bad rap from the posters who come on here and say, "I HAVE to wear a tiara because I am the PRINCESS on my wedding day!!" There is a difference between the fashion choice you made the the mindset behind tiaras from some brides.

ebonyivory10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : First time reading this I thought you meant you are wearing one right now as you type....=) 
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

It's my regular Saturday morning attire <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

MeaghanandMichael

Yeah, people on here have had issues with everything from my dress to my venue to one mind numbing arguement about why I chose not to do favors but spent money on other things. I do think part of the problem is the legitimate cost difference in areas of the country and people just don't understand you will have a real hard time finding a photographer worth their salt for under 3k.

jasmineh7777

Megz- In regards to sterilization, I disagree, but appreciate the sentiment behind it.

ETA: I say this partly because my H was in a terrible situation growing up, and had his Mom been steralized, he wouldn't exist. And I'm quite fond of him.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]I hear you Meg, but you DO have to admit tiaras got a bad rap from the posters who come on here and say, "I HAVE to wear a tiara because I am the PRINCESS on my wedding day!!" There is a difference between the fashion choice you made the the mindset behind tiaras from some brides.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]


Yeah, I really didn't know if I was going to wear one or not until I started looking at veils and stuff and just loved how mine looked with my dress. I really wasn't like "Ok, my wedding is my chance to play Cinderella 'for realzies'", lol.

But I do see your point ... I can understand getting "punchy" about somebody essentially thinking her wedding is an opportunity to showcase living her childhood dreams of being a fairy princess. That's obnoxious ... but still kind of her choice, so l guess I can hate the reasoning behind the decision, but not the decision itself, if that makes any sense.

jasmineh7777

Honest to God, I am in a totally different tax bracket than Aprove and I don't recall a single converation where she mentioned money. I didn't even know she had money until the callouts. And having money is a heck of a lot different than berating me because I don't, which neither she nor anyone else has ever done on here.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]Yeah, people on here have had issues with everything from my dress to my venue to one mind numbing arguement about why I chose not to do favors but spent money on other things. I do think part of the problem is the legitimate cost difference in areas of the country and people just don't understand you will have a real hard time finding a photographer worth their salt for under 3k.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Did you get married in Boston??  The east coast in general is just a pricey ass place to get married.  My friend recommended a photographer for me for the wedding.  I had just started looking so I had no idea about pricing....$10,000 just to show up!!  I think my mouth dropped open.  It really didn't help that I didn't like his pictures so that was an easy decision but still. I totally want a job were I get paid $10,000 just to make an appearance.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]Honest to God, I am in a totally different tax bracket than Aprove and I don't recall a single converation where she mentioned money. I didn't even know she had money until the callouts. And having money is a heck of a lot different than berating me because I don't, which neither she nor anyone else has ever done on here.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

=) Anyone does that to you I will totally punch them.....hard.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]Megz- In regards to sterilization, I disagree, but appreciate the sentiment behind it. :)
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

I'm perfectly willing to admit that I know most people wouldn't agree with me. I also know that there's no way it could actually be regulatedto a point where everybody, or at least a vast majority, would say "Oh, yeah, that's totally fair".  So it's more of a "Oh, in a perfect world, it could work" pipe dream ... but then again, in a "perfect world", everybody would just be responsible about their children and foster care in general wouldn't exist, KWIM?

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : It's my regular Saturday morning attire
Posted by ebonyivory10[/QUOTE]

Me too!! I wear mine while in my princess PJs

runningbride80

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[QUOTE]In Response to Opinions : I don't regret voting for him, but I also (sadly) agree with being dissappointed with some of Obama's choices.  I haven't given up all hope though, but maybe my head is in the sand? <strong>Also, I like wedding tiaras.  I'm wearing one and I don't consider myself pretentious</strong> 
Posted by ebonyivory10[/QUOTE]

I like tiaras, too. Don't know if I'll wear one...depends on the dress and everything else. But I do think they are awesome.</div>

spechtholdn

I think it depends with the working parents. My  parents were both working parents and they were also very involved parents. I also know several people who grew up with just one working parent while one stayed at home. Even though they had the full time of one parent they were just not involved at all. The kids were bad and got into a lot of trouble. When I think of becoming a parent there are times that I would much rather be at home all the time with my babies, just to have the bonding time and really nurture them, but you can have socially responsible children if both parents work. This is a very interesting topic though.

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People may hate me for this one, but I don't feel sorry for drug addicts and I don't think I should be "proud" of them for getting clean. Sorry, you know what drugs do to you and you know they are addictive. You made your choice to start using, it's your own doing (this comes after a lecture where I was less than sympathetic towards a cousin my mom was telling me about. It may or may not have been enhanced by the fact that I hate him).

jasmineh7777

Aprove-

Okay, I am off for the day. Have a great Saturday everyone!

KatyRoseM

I agree that drug addicts made their own bed, however I do find it impressive when people are able to turn their lives around. 

I also like tiaras, though I won't be wearing one. 

MeaghanandMichael

I still think there is a glass ceiling for women in a lot of different ways.

ExpatPumpkin

My unpopular opinion:  I want the death penalty to be reinstated in Mexico. 

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]People may hate me for this one, but I don't feel sorry for drug addicts and I don't think I should be "proud" of them for getting clean. Sorry, you know what drugs do to you and you know they are addictive. You made your choice to start using, it's your own doing (this comes after a lecture where I was less than sympathetic towards a cousin my mom was telling me about. It may or may not have been enhanced by the fact that I hate him).
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

I often feel this way unless its something like an addiction to prescription medications.  Often thats a silent and unknown addiction that kinda sneaks up on a person.

Shaye526

This isn't an opinion per se, but more of a statement that could lead to an opinion.

It has appeared to me, 9/10 times that people who drive luxury cars don't feel they have to use signals, obey the speed limit or slow down for yellow lights.