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aprovencher21

Katie what a wonderful way to think.  I also love your adoption sentiment.  FI and I both agree that if for some reason we cannot get pregnant, even after medical help then we will adopt.  We've actually discussed once we're older and have a few kids adopting a child that's special needs.  I like the idea of giving a child a home.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I'm not quite there yet with the baby thing. I still get jealous. I'm not ungrateful for everything we have, but I'd gladly give it all up for a baby.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

I hope that happens very very soon for you.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]My unpopular opinion is that there is entirely too much judgement on TK. You get judged if you spend too much. You get judged if you spend too little. You get judged if you're harsh. You get judged if you're too nice.If you talk about any of your choices, most of the time, there will be someone who thinks you're an asshole for it.  It's just silly and  a huge waste of time.  I just don't get why people care so much. Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I just find this to be a thing with women in general. It doesn't surprise me in the slightest that in a forum comprised almost exclusively of women there is a ton of judgement, gossip and well, bitchiness. This isn't exactly a revelation, but it's true (imo) nonetheless.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I just find this to be a thing with women in general. It doesn't surprise me in the slightest that in a forum comprised almost exclusively of women there is a ton of judgement, gossip and well, bitchiness. This isn't exactly a revelation, but it's true (imo) nonetheless.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

I agree.  I think it only gets worse when you add kids to the mix.  Go look at the bump....::runs away::

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I hope that happens very very soon for you.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

Thank you! Despite a few setbacks, I'm striving to be optimistic.

katiewhompus

No lie, last night I included Jen and Cher in my prayers, and thought of Barb the other night, and Jas. They normally go "And please take care of my knottie friend Jen, and let her have the baby she needs because she would be great mom" etc etc.

Ok, time to buy work clothes (zomg moneys!). Be back later

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]No lie, last night I included Jen and Cher in my prayers, and thought of Barb the other night, and Jas. They normally go "And please take care of my knottie friend Jen, and let her have the baby she needs because she would be great mom" etc etc. Ok, time to buy work clothes (zomg moneys!). Be back later :)
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

You make me happy more than you know.

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Maybe I just don't have enough girlfriends. Or maybe I'm too old.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]No lie, last night I included Jen and Cher in my prayers, and thought of Barb the other night, and Jas. They normally go "And please take care of my knottie friend Jen, and let her have the baby she needs because she would be great mom" etc etc. Ok, time to buy work clothes (zomg moneys!). Be back later :)
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

You just made me tear up.  Seriously.

Yay for buying clothes!! Come back and tell us what you got!!

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]Maybe I just don't have enough girlfriends. Or maybe I'm too old.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

You are not too old.  Why do you think you don't have enough girlfriends??

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]Maybe I just don't have enough girlfriends. Or maybe I'm too old.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]


nope.  you're too cute.  Your H is too cute.  Your Ben is too cute (and has the name I want for a boy).


Quit being so darn cute!  It makes the rest of us look bad!

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : nope.  you're too cute.  Your H is too cute.  Your Ben is too cute (and has the name I want for a boy). Quit being so darn cute!  It makes the rest of us look bad!
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Are you judging cew for being too cute? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : You are not too old.  Why do you think you don't have enough girlfriends??
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

Just because I don't see the judgement with my IRL friends. Or maybe I'm just oblivious to it.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Are you judging cew for being too cute?
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

Ha!

And I fucking love your Christmas ticker, Anna. It makes me happy all over.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Just because I don't see the judgement with my IRL friends. Or maybe I'm just oblivious to it.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I don't think you'll see it as much IRL because, when face to face, people tend to be more concerned with other's feelings. That's just my take on it.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Just because I don't see the judgement with my IRL friends. Or maybe I'm just oblivious to it.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Oh.  No I think real "good" friends don't interact in this fashion.  I think it comes out when women are "friends" or friendly that you see the judgement and competitiveness come out along with the claws. 

With my close girl friends I don't see these types of interactions.  Among girls I know and am friendly with.....yes I see it all the time.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I don't think you'll see it as much IRL because, when face to face, people tend to be more concerned with other's feelings. That's just my take on it.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

Possibly this too......also its much easier to be a btich behind the computer then it is face to face (even if you don't care about the other person's feelings).

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Are you judging cew for being too cute?
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]
'

Oh, I judge.  Judgy McJudgerson here.  I'm stewing in my own jealousy and feel the need to lash out so that i feel like the bigger person.  I guess I Am the bigger person though.  I do love cake.  Even if it goes straight to my hips ;)

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I don't think you'll see it as much IRL because, when face to face, people tend to be more concerned with other's feelings. That's just my take on it.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

This is true. I guess I just hate censoring myself for fear of judgement. I don't feel that it's necessary IRL, but in the past, I've felt that way on TK.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Just because I don't see the judgement with my IRL friends. Or maybe I'm just oblivious to it.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Well, all of my "friends" (I'm only really close to one girl, who's been my best friend for 8 years, most of the people I hang out with are usually her friends) are in their first year of college...not exactly the epitome of maturity. I certainly would hope it gets better with age, but I've seen enough examples of 30+ year old women who just never seemed to get out of high school to maybe be overly pessimistic about that happening.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : ' Oh, I judge.  Judgy McJudgerson here.  I'm stewing in my own jealousy and feel the need to lash out so that i feel like the bigger person.  I guess I Am the bigger person though.  I do love cake.  Even if it goes straight to my hips ;)
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Anna.....I'm also in love with your Christmas ticker.  <sigh /> Why is Christmas so far away??

Lenore2010

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[QUOTE]My unpopular opinion is that there is entirely too much judgement on TK. You get judged if you spend too much. You get judged if you spend too little. You get judged if you're harsh. You get judged if you're too nice.If you talk about any of your choices, most of the time, there will be someone who thinks you're an asshole for it.  It's just silly and  a huge waste of time.  I just don't get why people care so much. I also think the Heels thing is ridiculous. She made a choice to leave. It was an awesomely healthy choice for her. I actually admire her for what she did. Who gives afuck how she chose to say goodbye? Again, why do people care that much? And totally unrelated, but I had weight loss surgery 7 years ago and it was the best decision of my life. My surgery was a little bit different than most, but I have a completely normal lifestyle now. I can eat as much as I did before. The only things I can't eat a ice cream, onions, and peppers. It's not for everyone, but it saved my life in so many ways.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Bravo! Cew I think you are on to a a lot of good stuff here! Re the bypass, it probably made a major difference that you were in your mid-20's when you had it. With one exception, the people I know who had it were in their 50's at the time of the surgery. I think like anything else, it is harder on you at that age.

</div><div>As to Heels, I say lets all talk a deep breath and let that go. She made her choice, and I respect it. It is not like she left here calling everyone assholes on her way out. </div>

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Ha! And I fucking love your Christmas ticker, Anna. It makes me happy all over.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]


Isn't it great?  Ridiculously huge and obnoxiously festive.  Just the way I like my holidays  :)  We all need a little extra happy now and then

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Oh.  No I think real "good" friends don't interact in this fashion.  I think it comes out when women are "friends" or friendly that you see the judgement and competitiveness come out along with the claws.  With my close girl friends I don't see these types of interactions.  Among girls I know and am friendly with.....yes I see it all the time.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

Also this.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Oh.  No I think real "good" friends don't interact in this fashion.  I think it comes out when women are "friends" or friendly that you see the judgement and competitiveness come out along with the claws.  With my close girl friends I don't see these types of interactions.  <strong>Among girls I know and am friendly with.....yes I see it all the time.
</strong>Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

I think that's what I'm saying. I just don't have a lot of these types of girl friends.

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : This is true. I guess I just hate censoring myself for fear of judgement. I don't feel that it's necessary IRL, but in the past, I've felt that way on TK.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

How I am on the Knot is how I am in person.  I'm not meaner, nicer, faker, etc.  I don't feel the need to censor myself but nor do I feel like going on a rampage hurting people. 

aprovencher21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I think that's what I'm saying. I just don't have a lot of these types of girl friends.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I'd consider that a good thing.  I have a lot of social crap where you make "friends". I'm a main organizer for a soup kitchen charity in Philly lots of women involved.  I live in a small town were people know me because of my father.....people are "friends" but not close to me.  Its weird but its life.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Isn't it great?  Ridiculously huge and obnoxiously festive.  Just the way I like my holidays  :)  We all need a little extra happy now and then
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

I wish you lived closer.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Anna.....I'm also in love with your Christmas ticker.  <sigh /> Why is Christmas so far away??
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]


but it's not!  It's coming...and quickly.  Time seems to fly as soon as fall starts.  Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, new Years...  It'll be here before you know it!

Nebb

My opinion, I think everyone should just stop talking about the call outs. Whether or not the person/people who started it are assholes, whether or not the people who are contributing are assholes, achnowledging them or their opinions just gives it too much power. There is always going to be someone who wants to knock someone else down for whatever reason and everyone is braver when they are anonymous - and the arguement that saying it on TK is not as bad is BS, it is still anonymous. We are all strangers (of varying degrees) on the other side of computer screens. Whether we say it with a picture or a screen name, its still the same thing. The thing should just be allowed to die off, and it would if people would stop talking about it or joking about it or giving a shiit about it.

Also - I recently realized I like rye/carroway bread.