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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : How I am on the Knot is how I am in person.  I'm not meaner, nicer, faker, etc.  I don't feel the need to censor myself but nor do I feel like going on a rampage hurting people. 
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]

I'm the same person IRL and online too, but there is definitely a ton of shiit that I don't talk about because I don't want to open myself up to the judgement. My personality is the same, but what I choose to share it definitely inhibited at times.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : but it's not!  It's coming...and quickly.  Time seems to fly as soon as fall starts.<strong>  Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, new Years...</strong>  It'll be here before you know it!
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

At first I was like, what, that's not the order of those. But then I remembered you weirdo Americans have Thanksgiving in November.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : This is true. I guess I just hate censoring myself for fear of judgement. I don't feel that it's necessary IRL, but in the past, I've felt that way on TK.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Don't censor yourself. You're friends on TK won't judge you.

 I know not everyone on here agrees with everything I say, and I don't agree with everything everyone else says. That doesn't mean that I'm going to judge them (unless their kicking puppies or something). We disagree. We move on.

It makes me kind of sad that you censor yourself.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I wish you lived closer.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I dont know.. I'm trouble.  We were the first people to buy a live tree in Sioux Falls last year.  How do i know this?  I stalked Lowes.  I called them constantly until i discovered the exact minute their first shipment of live trees came in. November 19th, 2009 at approx 9pm, we picked up our tree.

I'd bee a bad influence on you

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : <strong> Don't censor yourself. You're friends on TK won't judge you.</strong>  I know not everyone on here agrees with everything I say, and I don't agree with everything everyone else says. That doesn't mean that I'm going to judge them (unless their kicking puppies or something). We disagree. We move on. It makes me kind of sad that you censor yourself.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]
Friends wont, others will and will then in turn use it against you in the future.

[Deleted User]

I love trees! Matt is dying to plant a bunch of them in our yard. We could live in a forest together.

megk8oz

Maybe the "girls are judgey bitches" thing does fade with age, or maybe Cew just has awesome mature friends. I don't know. I'm almost 26, most of my friends are the same age, and I still see stupid, catty crap with them.

Sometimes, I wonder if they only still do the stupid high school crap with people they went to high school with, and that maybe with people who they met after wards see them act "normal" ... I don't know. I just know that whenever I talk to most of the people I went to high school with, it's like nobody else actually "moved on" in their lives. Sure, they got married and some of them have kids, but it's like they still try to one-up each other when they're around other people we graduated with "Oh, you have 1 kid, well I have 2, so I'm way better than you".

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I'm the same person IRL and online too, but there is definitely a ton of shiit that I don't talk about because I don't want to open myself up to the judgement. My personality is the same, but what I choose to share it definitely inhibited at times.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]


amen!  I opened up a bit once and was not pleased with the feedback I received from doing so.  My dad use to say "If you don't open yourself up, you don't give people anything to hurt you with."

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Friends wont, others will and will then in turn use it against you in the future.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Yep. Unfortunately.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Friends wont, others will and will then in turn use it against you in the future.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I know. But my thoughts on that are --- fuuck them.

I wish I could talk about this more, but we have to get going to a super Star Wars birthday party.

cew - you're awesome no matter what.

I hope everyone enjoys the rest of your Saturday  :)

Lenore2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Friends wont, others will and will then in turn use it against you in the future.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I am careful what I say here. Not because TK/SB is the really the most judgy place in the world, but SO much is actually missing sometimes from online communication. Tone of voice, facial expression, all those things we read and are read from us when we talk to people IRL.

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anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]I love trees! Matt is dying to plant a bunch of them in our yard. We could live in a forest together.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]


I have 12 blue spruce trees, 2 apple trees, and 2 pear trees in my yard.  It'll be my faerie forest when it's older.  I'll miss it if I have to move

[Deleted User]

Anna please post something every day. I need a daily Christmas countdown.

I just finished my mom's Christmas shopping. I got her the yearly Extraordinary Chickens calendar from me and a rooster on a swing from H. This is a gag gift we've had for like 4 years running. I also got her a really cool shell decoration. For H, we're going to Disney in january so it's a joint gift. Now I have to shop for everyone else.

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For real, Anna? That's awesome. Can I come and live with you?

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I have 12 blue spruce trees, 2 apple trees, and 2 pear trees in my yard.  It'll be my faerie forest when it's older.  I'll miss it if I have to move
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

This is amazing.

Nebb

We have TONS of trees on our property and I want to cut 60% of them down. There are a bajillion squirrels, crows are always roosting in them, they drop shiit all over the yard, the hobo hides in them, spiders live in them and I am constantly having to walk around with a stick infront of me so I dont walk into webs, and I just dont like them.

Trees are over rated.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]Anna please post something every day. I need a daily Christmas countdown. I just finished my mom's Christmas shopping. I got her the yearly Extraordinary Chickens calendar from me and a rooster on a swing from H. This is a gag gift we've had for like 4 years running. I also got her a really cool shell decoration. For H, we're going to Disney in january so it's a joint gift. Now I have to shop for everyone else.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]


I'll try :)

I love gift shopping!  I've already started hoarding away little things to put in H's stocking this year.  He's such a humbug that he'll hardly appreciate it.  But putting it all together is half the fun!

[Deleted User]

Alright, lovelies. We're off to take Ben to the park and play on the paddle boats. Bye!

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I have 12 blue spruce trees, 2 apple trees, and 2 pear trees in my yard.  It'll be my faerie forest when it's older.  I'll miss it if I have to move
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

You'd love our house then. We are surrounded by huge oaks and pine trees. Our landlord also planted a small orchard in the front with 3 fig trees and about 20 orange, lime, lemon, and grapefruit trees. And since H is a landscaper he has turned our yard into a small nursery so there are hundreds of plants everywhere.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]For real, Anna? That's awesome. Can I come and live with you?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]


Well, we haven't built the playhouse for the backyard yet, a bit premature since we're not even TTC.  lol  It'll look like this:


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You can be "mommy's silly friend who lives in the gardden"

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE] Trees are over rated.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Not for a closet-hippie like me.  I hug them

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : I'll try :) I love gift shopping!  I've already started hoarding away little things to put in H's stocking this year.  He's such a humbug that he'll hardly appreciate it.  But putting it all together is half the fun!
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

Oh man, stockings are the best. My mom always fills ours with at least 3 "necessary" things like chapstick, socks, underwear, hand sanitizer, etc, and the rest is small stuff we want. Mine is usually kitchen utensils. My dad, on the other hand, goes goofy. Silly putty, gift cards in those maze boxes, last year some goo stuff that made fart noises. We always open stockings first and it's like an hour of fun.

Man, now I want Christmas to be here, like, tomorrow.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : You'd love our house then. We are surrounded by huge oaks and pine trees. Our landlord also planted a small orchard in the front with 3 fig trees and about 20 orange, lime, lemon, and grapefruit trees. And since H is a landscaper he has turned our yard into a small nursery so there are hundreds of plants everywhere.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]


Love it!  I wish we could have figs

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions : Oh man, stockings are the best. My mom always fills ours with at least 3 "necessary" things like chapstick, socks, underwear, hand sanitizer, etc, and the rest is small stuff we want. Mine is usually kitchen utensils. My dad, on the other hand, goes goofy. Silly putty, gift cards in those maze boxes, last year some goo stuff that made fart noises. We always open stockings first and it's like an hour of fun. Man, now I want Christmas to be here, like, tomorrow.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]


Currently I have pens with his name on it (nothing fancy) a gourmet caramello type candy bar, a letter saying how much I love him (in a terribly fun rhyme scheme) and i'll pick up other little things over the next months.  Maybe a cd

Blueyed228

I agree with just about everything you all said. 

Especially the stuff about money.  No one gives you shiit if you make a big AW post that you got your moms friend to photograph your wedding for $100 bucks, but if I told everyone I spent 6K on my photographer I would get crucified.

After that ring post on E a few weeks ago, I decided not to mention money or how much I am spending anymore.

The judging shiit is so gross and I hope it stops soon.  It makes me sad that it is running people off.  We dont have to like each other, and some of us dont, but we should all be adults, not picking on each other like grade school kids.

Im not saying its 1 board more than another, Im just saying I like where I post and am happy with the friendships that I have formed.  I dont know why other people care who is friends with who.

Lenore2010

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[QUOTE]I agree with just about everything you all said.  Especially the stuff about money.  <strong>No one gives you shiit if you make a big AW post that you got your moms friend to photograph your wedding for $100 bucks, but if I told everyone I spent 6K on my photographer I would get crucified. </strong>After that ring post on E a few weeks ago, I decided not to mention money or how much I am spending anymore. The judging shiit is so gross and I hope it stops soon.  It makes me sad that it is running people off.  We dont have to like each other, and some of us dont, but we should all be adults, not picking on each other like grade school kids. Im not saying its 1 board more than another, Im just saying I like where I post and am happy with the friendships that I have formed.  I dont know why other people care who is friends with who.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree that line of thinking absolutely sucks. I do not care if your dress cost $600.00 like mine or 6K, it was your choice and your budget and it's all good. No one should be here judging your life choices. </div><div>
</div><div>Our overall cost was freakin' outrageous for our tiny guest list of 15 people. I would not change a thing, and do not feel the least bit guilty or apologetic about it. Not coming from a family a great means and having killer student loans I did the very tight budget thing for a number of years. I know more things to do with ramen noodles, mac and cheese boxes, and on sale chicken breast than anyone should. My H had similar life experience. We started with a small wedding budget because that's how we are (hence my $600.00 dress) but decided at some point to for once in our lives let it rip to the extent we would NOT wind up in debt, and have what we wanted.</div><div>
</div><div>I guess I DO have a few regrets. I should have gotten a Maggie S. or a Mellisa Sweet dress like I wanted and donated the one I bought before I even wore it, though I did like the dress it was not the "dream" one. Oh, and we should have added some more to our costs by spending a few extra days in Vegas. Then I could have had the pleasure of telling anyone who thought the dress cost was over the top to bite me.</div><div>
</div><div>I applaud the beautiful budget weddings and less expensive gowns. Hats off to people who have a wedding for 300 guests for 4K, they can be beautiful! I just wish people would not judge those who spend more.
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jemmini6

I'm sure most of these are fairly controversial and unpopular, but here it goes:

- I totally agree with the sterilization thing.  Everyone should be implanted with an IUD at puberty and you have to apply to have it removed to have children. This would mean that you are financially capable (not rich, but can afford the absoute basics without any government assistance), pass a drug test, etc(obviously there could never be a system that would actually work for this, I sure wouldn't trust our government to run this fairly).  This just comes from a lot of really stupid pregnancies of friends and family right now and it irritates me how irresponsible people are when it comes to having kids.  It also really annoys me that it seems that the most irreponsible people, have the easiest time getting pregnant, when the people who would be responsible, awesome parents, have trouble TTC.  That being said, I am still 100% pro-choice.  I actually have a friend who is recently pregnant and felt she was forced into keeping the baby because her BF "doesn't believe in abortion".  I'm all for the guy having a say, but in the end, YOU are the one that has to carry a baby for 9 months and YOU are the one who will likely raise it if things don't work out.  So until they can find a way to transplant a pregnancy from the mother to the father, then he really should be more understanding to all options.

- I also agree with the addict thing.  I don't feel sorry for addicts and in most cases, I don't feel sorry for the homeless (because most of them are probably addicts).  There are of course exceptions to every rule (I have known some people who are really good, hard-working people, but just down on their luck, and of course they don't apply), but the generalized view is that you make your own choices, and if they've led you to a path of homelessness and drugs, then that is completely your fault.

-  The immigration thing.  Being from AZ, that's obviously a hot topic here, but I think illegal is illegal.  Whether you are French, Canadian, Mexican or Chinese...if you came here illegally, then you should be deported.  I also don't think we should give ANY public services to those here illegally (with the exception of emergency services).  That means no foodstamps, no healthcare, no public education, no housing subsidies, etc.  I see almost 30% of my paychecks disappear to taxes and it pisses me off that some people feel that even though they aren't citizens, and have never paid a tax here in their life (except sales tax) that they are ENTITLED to these things.  I also think the whole immigration process needs to be revamped.  I have known a lot of people who truly came here to have a better life for them and their children (and absolutely refused to use any public aid, they wanted to work hard and provide for their family by themselves) and there should be an easier way to help good people acheive that.  (Note:  I have nothing against people who need to use public aid when they are in a tough situation, because that's what it's for, to help people through and get them back on their feet.  I just hate people whose goal it is to be lazy and stay on assistance for as long as they can because they think it is "free money")

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE] - I also agree with the addict thing.  I don't feel sorry for addicts and in most cases, <strong>I don't feel sorry for the homeless (because most of them are probably addicts).  </strong>There are of course exceptions to every rule (I have known some people who are really good, hard-working people, but just down on their luck, and of course they don't apply), but the generalized view is that you make your own choices, and if they've led you to a path of homelessness and drugs, then that is completely your fault.
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

This is a terrible generalization, and even if you had statistics to back this up, you are leaving out that a major link between substance abuse and homelessness is mental illness. In fact, substance abuse IS a mental health issue, and I admit I am surprised at how many caring ladies in this thread alone have stated their lack of sympathy for substance abusers. I know most who have a strong opinion on the issue have parents, exes, loved ones, etc. who have been addicts (myself included), and I don't mean to imply that those experiences aren't valid reasons to be turned off by substance abuse.

But my understanding of substance abuse is that it's a maladaptive coping tool picked up by people who have not really learned to deal with their emotions. It numbs the pain of childhood abuse, trauma, a difficult upbringing, unexpected life events, etc. I'm not saying all addicts had a rough childhood, and certainly there are many people who had rough times growing up who never turned to drugs as a way to cope. But drugs are clearly very powerful on a physiological level, and the draw to use them comes from the same mechanism as the urge to overeat, engage in risky sexual behavior, seek out unhealthy relationships, or anything else that people compulsively do to make themselves feel better. Only the latter examples are more normalized and accepted, even though they cause damage as well and can kill you.

Finally, the above quoted post bugs me because of the attitude that some homeless people/substance abusers are "good" while others are "bad." If it can happen to the "good" ones, then how do you think the "bad" ones got there? ANYONE can fall into debt, lose their supports, jobs, family, suffer trauma, what have you, to the extent where they'd be forced to live on the streets. Nobody sets out to spend all their money on drugs because they'd RATHER be living unsafely in a box or in a shelter. Sometimes they're born into poverty and don't have the resources (tangible and intangible) that others to do get out. I'm just saying, if you can be compassionate toward some people in this situation, then that understanding can extend toward the rest of them too.

/rant

Blueyed228

Beatles: I agree.  My brother is a recovering heroin addict and he is far from a scumbag.  It started with pain pills for a bone disease in his knees.  He was a good kid who never even smoked a cigarette, nevermind dabble in drugs.  It spiraled fast and got out of control quickly.

He got his act together but has relapsed a few times (most recently in April after 4 years of being sober).  Its a sickness.  He struggles with it everyday and it takes alot of effort to stay clean.  He works a full time job, pays his bills and rent.  He is far from some druggie loser.

However, he wanted to get help and didnt blame anyone for what happened.  As long as addicts want the help and try, I dont look down on them.  I look at it like this: if it could happen to someone like him, it could happen to anyone.

Shaye526

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[QUOTE]Beatles: I agree.  My brother is a recovering herion addict and he is far from a scumbag.  It started with pain pills for a bone disease in his knees.  He was a good kid who never even smoked a cigarette, nevermind dabble in drugs.  It spiraled fast and got out of control quickly. He got his act together but has relapsed a few times (most recently in April after 4 years of being sober).  Its a sickness.  He struggles with it everyday and it takes alot of effort to stay clean.  He works a full time job, pays his bills and rent.  He is far from some druggie loser. However, he wanted to get help and didnt blame anyone for what happened.  As long as addicts want the help and try, I dont look down on them.  I look at it like this: if it could happen to someone like him, it could happen to anyone.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

Amen!! I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I know it very well.