Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?

[Deleted User]

Last summer, at the beach, a baby washed up on the shore. It was flopping around making this honking, moaning sound. It scared me, so I kicked it and ran. Oh wait. Never mind. That was a whale.

emjohn1019

I personally won't be having any children at my reception - save the babies that are really too young to be left alone. I'm having an adult, evening reception, and I personally feel that it's inappropriate for children. But, that's just me. Everyone is different. That being said, I wouldn't care if my BM or MOH was pregnant when I got married.

goheels05

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:6cdd61df-a45c-4f9c-957f-eaa590accc2a">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]If the dresses have already been ordered/deposits already been made, maybe they are just concerned about the dress not fitting?  Like, one of my bridesmaids is pregnant and I am very happy for her, but she has already put down 50% of the cost of the dress in the form of a deposit so I am concerned if the dress doesn't fit that she will have wasted that money on it.  All of my girls are wearing different dresses anyway so that's not a concern for me, and I don't mind one of my girls looking pregnant or anything, I'm just worried about the added expense to her.
Posted by damaless[/QUOTE]


But what if all your bridesmaids are supposed to dress like the Tin Man?  I don't think they make those in maternity sizes. 

[Deleted User]

I won't be having any kids at my wedding because I hear the spread diseases like typhoid and hot dog fingers.

betrothed123

Eeeeewwww no babies for me!  I don't want hot dog fingers!

goheels05

Shitthere is no way I would ever risk getting hotdog fingers. 

Krysti21

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:f270d459-5a09-499c-bb84-d9d5f57e1663">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>embilical* cord (sorry I'm one of those annoying ladies) </strong>I agree with you though though about bringing actual babies to the wedding. I don't think it should be prohibited by the couple BUT why would you want to bring a baby and change diapers and have to feed your child and then watch him/her the whole night instead of having a sophisticated adult evening. Babysitting IS the correct solution :)
Posted by Tatum88[/QUOTE]

If you're going to correct someone else's spelling, you need to actually spell the word correctly. It is spelled with a U. Umbilical cord.

That's all I have to add to this out of control thread.

betrothed123

Now that^^ was funny.

[Deleted User]

Also, I heard you can get pregnant from the toilet seats at weddings. Something about the mixture of wine, desperation and dried cum.

goheels05

Krysti FTW.  At least someone's reading. 

lisa12982

I was in the situation where one of my bridesmaids was expecting 2 days before the wedding!  Hahaha, needless to say I was thrilled, but she is not a bridesmaid anymore.  I was just going to be to close for her to get a dress and this is her first so we want to risk it as far as natual birth vs. c-section, etc.
I would be honoroed to have a pregnant BM or Maid of HOnor.  I just think pregnant ladies are so adorable anyways!
Now as far as having young children, some may question that.  I've read a few things that say often times if you are having a formal evening wedding that children aren't often a part of the guest list because of the "formality of the wedding", but this also has a lot to do with the family and the bride and grooms preference.  We don't have a lot of friends or family with babies or young children, so we just nixed the idea of children all together.

betrothed123

My nephew laughed at me the other day for calling him my nephew because I'm only a few years older than him.  It was pretty funny. 

This is relevant because I called him my nephew when he was asking if I wanted a picture of just his baby or one of him, his GF, and his baby together.

damaless

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:6ffef581-697e-48f1-bd52-331a77f25ccf">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings? : But what if all your bridesmaids are supposed to dress like the Tin Man?  I don't think they make those in maternity sizes. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Well, I guess you could visit an armorsmith instead of a seamstress...

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sspistolwhip84

I personally don't have anything against pregnant attendants, because my sister (a bridesmaid) and my best friend (matron of honor) will both be pregnant at my wedding. However, I'm not crazy about having small babies there because they're so unpredictable. You never can tell what they're going to do...they could throw a fit and scream through the whole ceremony. If I had it my way, there would be no children under the age of 12 at my wedding, but my fiance kinda talked me into inviting kids (even though I still don't like it).

kittykaz

It's a good thing pregnant women are just soooo adorable or else the general consensus might be that they are banned as well from weddings. Probably for bringing the yucky reminder of what sex is really for.  And family.  Eww who wants all that lovey family stuff at thier wedding?  Isn't a wedding just an excuse for complete selfcentered-ness? Oh, and getting was-ted!!!  Who wants the buzzkill of kids hanging around?

Just kidding...
I would be so insulted if my sister told me I couldn't bring my infant  to her wedding because it might poop during the ceremony and I would have to get up and leave and it would take all the focus off of her for that split second.

goheels05

With a screenname like pistolwhip, you had so much potential.  I'm really disappointed.

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saraandjonschmoopy

As long as I'm not being charged an extra head for a baby at my wedding, then I don't care.  I would really hope that anyone one my 1000 cousins that alll have babies would be polite enough to leave the ceremonly if it's being too disruptive.  I really feel like I need to let them come because they are all coming from out of town and no one can babysit their babies.

[Deleted User]

You have 1000 cousins?

goheels05

How many wives does your grandfather have?

rtaggart613

Becuase they cry and whine and shriek uncontrollably at a moment's notice.  So while you're saying your tear jerking hand written vows professing your neverending love, you risk having that interruped and potentially ruined on your wedding video by an infant who doesn't know it's YOUR big day and doesn't care.  Couple that with the irresponsible parent who also doesn't care how you might feel about it and continues to sit 4 pews away from the alter with a screaming baby... maybe that's why people don't want babies at the wedding.

[Deleted User]

Yeah. All that and don't forget about the fact that some babies have Freddy Kruger hands. You don't want Freddy Kruger hands at your wedding, do you?

beatlesgirl25

Oops, sorry, I wandered away for a minute. We may have just gotten Super Mario Galaxy 2 today. Yeah, this thread frightens me as well. Your jokes were like a life raft to help me get through the sheer terror of people being fully immersed in their own talking.

vampkisses86

Some ppl are B*tches, what's wrong with kids? Are you never going to have one? I laugh at people who are like no kids at wedding, because what are they going to do when they have a kid never leave the house? Personally Im have babies at my wedding, my 11 month old LO and my sister's NB and 15 month old, what good is a wedding if you can't enjoy it with family and friends? If you want to be a prune, stick a rod up your @ss it will get you furth in life!

aummer1987

wow some of these people have interesting kids in their life, if my nephew had a laser on his head that would be probably kinda funny! as it is i am all over the kids at the wedding, so many of the people we know have kids and we are actually going to attempt to have 1 yr old nephew as best man and a half maybe it will work maybe it wont. i love kids though so it is all good for us. we also have friends and family who know how to behave with their children so i guess that helps. good luck to everyone who has nightmare brats.

shoegal715

I'm sorry, but I'm still laughing at the girl who wrote on her website that she doesn't want kids because there are adult things happening at her wedding...

KilleenBride

I know this is going to sound bad but at my first wedding I had 2 "ready to pop" bridesmaids and 1 was my MOH but The way she explained it to me was "Just think, even if you are bloated the day of the wedding, NO ONE will notice because you are not the fattest girl in the room' lol. She said it not me, I did have a 2 year old boy (her son) as my ring boy but other then him running for his mommy we had no problems, I say let them come but let the mom's know ahead of time that if their baby starts crying to run with them out of the church or away from the alter because it is very, very rude to just sit there and let your kid cry durring someone's big day

speedyspeaks

Ok, so I just want to throw something out.  I didn't read every single post, and someone might have said this already so forgive me if I''m being redundant.  But before you decide whether or not YOU want babies at the wedding, you first need to gauge the relationship and family dynamics of the babies you might be leaving out.  My brother's ex wife decided that she didn't want ANY children at their wedding, and proceeded to tell my mom that my niece was not invited.  My mom was good and held her tongue, but the girl knew as soon as she said it that that was the WRONG thing to say, and later took it back.  To give you some background, my niece was the first and only on both sides of the family for the first three years of her life.  She was the pride and joy of EVERYONE (including my brother).  She was also a very very good baby and wouldn't have made a bunch of noise during the service (and if she had, someone WOULD have taken her out right away).  This all was obvious to anyone with half a brain, but this girl apparently didn't have half a brain.  Anyway, all that to say, as much as I hate to admit it being a bride planning a wedding, sometimes it really isn't all about you.  Really, in the long run, it's about two families coming together as one.  Marriage is about compromise and putting someone else's feelings above your own.  If you are concerned about having a good, healthy relationship with your new family, please consider that all members of their family deserve to be at the wedding, even if they aren't old enough to speak up for themselves.  Of course if the rest of the family doesn't mind no babies coming, then the point is moot.  Anyway, sorry for the passionate response, but this subject is really close to my heart.And by the way, this extremely immature girl left my brother 6 months after the wedding (even though he begged her to go to counseling with him) because she was too childish to put someone else before herself.  But it was his gain in the end because he is now married to a WONDERFUL woman, and they just had a precious little baby boy (who by the way is DEFINITELY coming to my wedding!!!!!!) 

[Deleted User]

Sometimes when I fart, a baby comes out.

betrothed123

Thank god I don't fart babies.  I did give birth to a big brown blobby baby the other day.  I felt much better afterwards.  It was a good 3-flusher.