Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?

reason00

One of my bridesmaids was kicked out of her cousin's bridal party when she got pregnant.

AFTER paying for a $300 dress.

bignoahb24

I am 100% ok with pregnant bridesmaids.  They are beautiful.  

On the other side, I will not have children at my wedding.  My sister will have a 6 month old baby at the time of my wedding.  She is insisting that she brings him.  I do not feel that a loud reception hall, where drinks will be flying, is the place for a child of that age.  I asked, "what if he gets cranky or tired?"  She said, "I'll put him in his car seat in the corner of the room somewhere."  No.  This is not ok with me.

Ex: I was at a wedding this past weekend.  The kids, that will mostly come to my wedding, decided to play war with the cake, BEFORE they cut it.  This will not happen at my wedding.  

No Mess. No Crying. No Kids.

PeonyPrincesskdd

my 2 year old was at my wedding and in the church we were shockd that she did not make a single peep.. she was way too shy in that situation to know what to do.. also at the reception her aunts and grandparents took care of her but she was fine for the most part and ended up chillin out in her stroller at the reception..

FLB11

I love babies and todlers at receptions but the only problem with them at weddings is they could scream or cry.  Nothing like confessing your love for your husband or wife, stading infront of everyone you know, having an amazing moment, and then someones child starts screaming or crying...I personally don't think the ceremony is an appropriate place for a child under probably 3 if other alternatives are possible.  I am getting married in February and our church has a little viewing room with toys, cribs, and rocking chairs for parents and young children to watch the ceremony, and be there, without causing a disruption. My parents think I am nuts and I am sure some of you will too...but I just don't think it is very considerate for parents to bring really young children into the ceremony...they are going to cry and scream just like kids do--but there is a better place for them to do it than in the middle of someone's biggest committment. 

lkschaffnit

It's not just babies.  One venue we visited told us we HAD to hire a babysitter if we had kids attending, because apparently parents can't be trusted to watch their own kids.  Needless to say we didn't book there (I have two little nephews and several of our friends have kids...and heck, what's a wedding without little boys and girls scooting across the dancefloor in their fancy duds?!).  As half my guests are coming 6000 miles (some more!) I think it's rude to say "You and your husband are welcome, but leave the kids at home".  Also kids are just plain fun to have at weddings.  Remember being a little girl and dancing on daddy's (or uncle, or grampa's) feet?  It makes for fun photos! 

lkschaffnit

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:56b023fa-2ff9-49c5-8b31-a28613c4d107">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE] The parents can't possibly pay attention to the wedding and the baby.  Does the parent benefit from having a baby at the wedding?  Posted by Archadia[/QUOTE]

I understand that some people are of the "It's MY Day" school, but I think it's a bit narcissistic to expect everyone to only pay attention to you for an entire day.  Are guests also not allowed to speak to each other unless it is regarding the bride? 

Furthermore, the parents benefit by not having to worry that some 14 year old is taking care of their bundle of joy and not eating all the food in the house or having her boyfriend over for a night of teenage "romance"...not to mention those who won't come from out of town because it means leaving their child in someone else's care for 3-7 days.  You can't kennel a baby like you can a dog.

Isn't it far more important to be surrounded by the people you love, kids or not, than about a child crying during your vows?  It will still be legal.  It doesn't affect a thing.

goheels05

Jesus tapdancing Christ.  I thought this thread would die when it got taken off hot topics. 

MeaghanandMichael

I think I am at the point where I would rather read a ten pager debating Edward vs. Jacob than this shiiit.

Wasn't 'no kids' JUST a hot topic on E a month ago anyway?

nda_roxybabe

Babiesssssss

goheels05

All of the people who responded about pregnant bridesmaids being ok make me stabby.  Ya think?!

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:2234be7a-d475-4d51-9233-97244bf4c109">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think I am at the point where I would rather read a ten pager debating Edward vs. Jacob than this shiiit. <strong>Wasn't 'no kids' JUST a hot topic on E a month ago anyway?</strong>
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

Nonononono lalalala *covers ears* lalalala! I can't go back to that place. Please don't wake it up again.

I'm guessing that people are reading the OP on the first page, then replying at the bottom of that page and totally missing the fact that there are 18 more pages after it. I don't think they're even checking back after their posts. If I did, I would start posting crazy pictures to jar people into reality.

betrothed123

This thread will never die!  NEVER!!!!

nda_roxybabe

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:718a6c5b-7bc8-4a2a-a8af-cf4cbaf616b9">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings? : Nonononono lalalala *covers ears* lalalala! I can't go back to that place. Please don't wake it up again. I'm guessing that people are reading the OP on the first page, then replying at the bottom of that page and totally missing the fact that there are 18 more pages after it. I don't think they're even checking back after their posts. <strong>If I did, I would start posting crazy pictures to jar people into reality.
</strong>Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Do eet.

MeaghanandMichael

If I delete and ban most of the posts/posters in this thread do you think KA will believe a temporary insanity plea brought on by the overwhelming sinking feeling that there are WAY too many dumb selfish people in this world? What is the over under on if I get to keep my mod powers?

goheels05

Incidentally, I found a picture of Jesus Tapdancing Christ.

http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kr3gp3z0VD1qzvqipo1_400.gif

beatlesgirl25

B, I know and it makes me sad.

Roxy, I'm googling images right now using "crazy (insert random object)", and I'm getting some pretty interesting stuff. We'll see if I have to bust these out later.

goheels05

I closed a thread like this on Chit Chat (it was about strippers), and all hell broke loose.  I got some serious hate mail. 

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:2ad1da59-00ff-4076-ab01-194a1b8b6ac7">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]I closed a thread like this on Chit Chat (it was about strippers), and all hell broke loose.  I got some serious hate mail. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

Whhhaaa? Really? Who could possibly care after 12 pages of nothing?

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:10122b4e-b857-44b5-b5a5-31e7551249ef">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]Incidentally, I found a picture of Jesus Tapdancing Christ. <a href="http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kr3gp3z0VD1qzvqipo1_400.gif" title="Linkification: http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kr3gp3z0VD1qzvqipo1_400.gif" class="linkification-ext">http://26.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kr3gp3z0VD1qzvqipo1_400.gif</a>
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

OMG I love this. He's even on a cracker! That actually made me LOL.

Meg, I'm guessing you might have a shot with the temporary insanity plea.

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_people-weird-babies-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:d2e8a745-99c8-4da6-8eda-8f37ee4395a7Post:2ad1da59-00ff-4076-ab01-194a1b8b6ac7">Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?</a>:
[QUOTE]I closed a thread like this on Chit Chat (it was about strippers), and all hell broke loose.  I got some serious hate mail. 
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

I didn't think you were allowed to do that.  Was this an exception because of the hate mail?

goheels05

Yeah, people were being really ugly towards the end (that might have been where we got an early taste of MomoKubiat?) and I asked and was told it was ok to close it.  I don't think I will again, though.  It wasn't worth the PMs and drama. 

beatlesgirl25

I remember that stripper thread. What a trainwreck.


Edit: Sorry for starting page 11 of this beast. And Heels, it may have been a Momokubiak thread. Ew.

betrothed123

That makes sense, Heels.  I do remeber that thread, too.

[Deleted User]

This thread smells like a fart.

betrothed123

CEW- There's a poster that started a thread on WP named Shartster, or something like that.  I think you two would get along fabulously based on her SN.  I didn't read her post, though.

MeaghanandMichael

CEW - I have been meaning to tell you this for ages BUT please google my last name You will love the urban dictionary results.

[Deleted User]

I love that you guys know me so well. Off to check out M&M's last name and this Shartster.

[Deleted User]

Betrothed,  Shartster totally let me down. I didn't even open the thread. It was a pregnant bridesmaid thread. Yuck.

Mandarin999

I don't understand about the baby thing at all. i have a large family and am one of the last to get married. Two of my BM are haveing babies just before my wedding. One is my current sister in law, the other is my sister in law to be. I would have to say I have about 20 childern on the guest list ranging in all ages. Don't get distressed about it, some people just don't like kids in general.

jchandelle

I am having a very fomal style of ceremony, in a cathedral that is huge and echo-echo-echos. 

Even if a person with a crying baby did get up and try to leave, they have a 2 minute walk before they actually get to the back of the church!  That will sound awesome on the wedding video.

I love my 2 year old niece and I LOVE babies, just not when they are screaming bloody murder in a formal wedding ceremony that I am paying a small fortune to have recorded!

I am, however, providing a babysitter both at the church and at the reception for people to leave their children with, so just in case they "forget" and bring the kids- I have it covered.