Why are some people weird about babies and weddings?

christyran1228

"OMG, what if they shriek and cry and disrupt the MOST IMPORTANT MOMENT OF MY LIFE!!!!!!111"

WTF?  There's almost a 60% chance you're going to be divorced in 10 years, so lighten the hell up.  lol

[Deleted User]

Sometimes I name my poops after someone I don't like. My last poop was named Gail.

betrothed123

Mine was named CEW.

[Deleted User]

I'm honored.

So, if I fart and a baby comes out, is it still called a shart? Or would it be a farby?

betrothed123

I'd have to go with farby.  It just makes more sense.

[Deleted User]

Yeah. That's what I was thinking. Or maybe Bart.

betrothed123

Bart works too.

[Deleted User]

If it's twins, one can be Bart and the other Farby.

Superstars2010

You are starting a marriage. Marriage is the symbol of you and your husband starting your own new family and you are celebrating that. Part of families is most likely children and that should be celebrated too. Bring on the kids (and babies)!

[Deleted User]

This is the symbol for marriage.

betrothed123

The Cyclops balloon is my favorite part of marriage.

[Deleted User]

That and the torso spider.

shoegal715

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[QUOTE]That and the torso spider.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>It's just getting annoying now to read. The same joke is only funny the first few times.</div>

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings? : It's just getting annoying now to read. The same joke is only funny the first few times.
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]

You've totally missed the point. Though I agree, reading the same thing over and over <em>does </em>get incredibly tiresome. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

goheels05

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[QUOTE]Babies should not be coming at all.  That's just sick and wrong.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]


I read an article in Parents magazine last month about babies, toddlers, and young children masturbating.  Apparently it's perfectly normal, and if you child starts masturbating in public, you are supposed to distract them with some organic juice or a conflict-free toy, because if you tell them to stop, they will think that there is something wrong with their bodies. 

Don't ask why Parents magazine shows up in my mailbox every month.  It's a good bathroom read, and I do enjoy the recipes. 

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings? : It's just getting annoying now to read. The same joke is only funny the first few times.
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]

That's exactly why the random posts that have nothing to do with OP are hilarious.

Heels- I took a human sexuality course in college, and that's one of the things we learned there as well.

ks3pink

I don't want to punish the many because of the few so I am having children at my wedding.  But after a baby cried through my best friends entire ceremony last week we have started to spread the word that if the baby cries you gotta go, you will be asked to step out.  FMIL doesn't seem to agree at all and her daughter is one I am worried about but we'll see!  I'm going to have someone designated to be my wedding ceremony "bouncer". ha ha.

lcoremin

Babies generally are allowed at the ceremony, but not the reception. That's how I'm doing it...no children under 13 allowed at the reception. For me, the best man & MOH can use crude humor in the speeches. 

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are some people weird about babies and weddings? : It's just getting annoying now to read. The same joke is only funny the first few times.
Posted by shoegal715[/QUOTE]

Then why are you reading it?

Blueyed_swthart

Wow seriously. Theres alot of negativeness about babies being at your weddings. Personally if one of my BM told me she was pregnant, I'd be excited for her!! I doubt any of them will but if they did I'd open to it.

Infact thinking about babies at our march wedding we will have between 3 or 4 one year olds at our special day. One of them will be our flower girl. She'll be just over a year and a half. I don't care if they're there. Most of them are family. I love kids might as well let them have fun with us. Plus I know if they got loud at our wedding their parents would take them out of the ceremony. Good luck to all you ladies.

Titos#1girl

I love babies! I love Kids! But I don't have many at my upcoming nuptials. There are the children that are in the wedding party and there are children from out of town guests only. It's NOT kids/babies per say...I think it's that a wedding is such a grown up party. You want all of your guests to enjoy themselves and that's kind of hard to do if you're holding a baby through out the entire night. Plus you don't want the baby to be around all of that noise and unhappy either. That's just my way of looking at it. mybe other people have different views. i couldn't tell you.

lemkra22

I'm on the no baby team. i HAVE to have my fiance's nephew there who will be 8 mos old that was a fight to between us. seeing how everyone that watches him will be at the wedding no one can watch him.  I had MOG friends reply yes plus baby. then added a note that they had a foster child and wanted to bring her. i tried to explain we aren't having any babies at the wedding ceremony or reception. the friends got pissy with me and yelled at me. i don't care its my choice and i don't want any screaming babies at my wedding. pregnant bridesmaids are fine tho

[Deleted User]

Why do people WANT babies or children at their wedding, for that matter?  Does the baby benefit from being at the wedding?  The parents can't possibly pay attention to the wedding and the baby.  Does the parent benefit from having a baby at the wedding?  Does ANYONE benefit from screaming spawn at a wedding?

Silliness aside, I guess I just don't like babies. =/

ycristina84

I am a nanny, I love kids and cannot wait to have them, but they are not wanted or invited to our wedding with the exception of the little girl I take care of (she's my flower girl). You can love kids and still think they don't belong at an evening wedding. They need a lot of attention, get cranky and cost you money....on the plus side, they provide comedic relief and cute pictures! Although I actually really wish they did breath fire or have lasers, 'cause then I would invite them all and use them for the night's entertainment

As far as BMs being pregnant, I have 2 and I was ecstatic when they told me. Who cares?! It's a little self involved to get upset because people have lives outside of our wedding day. How dare they! haha.

blackscarlet

I don't get it either.  If a brides maid is pregnant and feels okay about  walking down the aisle in the dress we picked out great. 

Babies are beautiful, if you are worried about the noise level during the ceremony you can have the attendant at the door mention to the parents or caregiver "during the ceremony if the baby needs to be taken out we have an area over here" pointing out a cry room or quiet area you have chosen before hand. 

I agree with you I do not see the big deal.

sbheigl

Just came across this thread and wanted to comment.
My Marton of Honor will be 7 1/2 months pregnant and another of my BMs will be 6 months pregnant the day of our wedding. I'm so excited for them! I actually joked about hte other two married women getting pregnant before the wedding too! Then there'd be 4 of them. But really, who cares. You can't ask people to put their lives on hold becuase you're having a wedding. However, we're having an adult reception and the only "kids" that are invited are my cousins, the youngest being 17.

ArianaZ

yeah...i didnt just spend over a year and tens of thousands of dollars planning my wedding to have some screaming little brat ruin my day!!!

leopardcg

Call me rude, or selfish, or whatever. I don't enjoy the company of children. They make me anxious. I would not put myself in a situation on my wedding day that would cause me unnecessary discomfort. A lot of people like kids, good for them. Our invitations state, "Adults Only Please". Being that our wedding is on the edge of a cliff with a potentially deadly drop off, I would expect that parents are smart enough not to put their kids in that situation- we all know that children are unpredictable! As far as a pregnant BM, it's really not my business what they do with themselves. A BM should be someone close to you and if you would exclude them from your day because of a life choice that they have made then you have issues. So I completely understand why other people would be "weird" about babies and weddings. You can't expect everyone to think and feel the same way you do.

P.S. Obviously we will not be having any children. It's too bad that some people do it anyway, even when they really shouldn't. I'm kind of proud to know better!

lturpyn

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[QUOTE]I'm not particularly against pregnant people, I'm just against the result. And not just for my wedding. I'm against babies in general. I'm planning on the no babies/kids rule... If anyone else argues with my rule, they can suck it and stay home with Dora and Cherrios instead of free booze and cake. 
Posted by jamjar11[/QUOTE]

hahaha that's awesome! 

At our [outdoor] wedding we have a seperate room available where we will have 2 babysitters provided so people can drop their kids off if they want.  My FI's niece is the ring bearer (she's almost 2) and most of our other friends either don't have small children or won't be bringing them (but a large amount of our guests will be coming from out of the country, so we're providing babysitting as an alternative).  I wouldn't invite small kids if I expected a lot to come (because you're paying the caterer for each of them!) but as long as you talk to the friends/family who are coming with babies and make it clear that you would prefer that they step out if their baby is annoying, I wouldn't mind.

Although I totally get that some people just don't want that.  But on the pregnancy thing, I'm all for it :)  Pregnant women are beautiful!

PeonyPrincesskdd

not in your case, but a reason why other brides might get a little weary or nervous is because maybe they had plans to go to vegas for the bachelorette and maybe they need to change plans now.. or they just wanted all the bridesmaids to enjoy their time at the wedding and its hard to enjoy it with an infant there.. and also dress shopping can be very stressful with a pregnant bridesmaid and how would she know what size to get after just having a baby