NMS

Meegles4

I agree on Wedding Party dances.

Also NMS is taking too long with all of the formalities before opening the dance floor. As a guest, I want to eat good food, have a couple glasses of wine, and dance with my husband -- especially if I don't really know anyone else. The last wedding I went to, they did every single cliche thing you can do. Cake cutting ceremony, all the special dances, wedding party dance, family dance, anniversary dance, bouquet/garter toss, dollar dance, etc. etc. The dance floor didn't "open" until almost 10 at night.

Just feed me, booze me, let me ooh and ahh over a special dance or two, and then let's move on.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Not that I had much planned for my first intended wedding, but the dress I bought is SO NMS (princessy, lots of tulle).  I think I just bought it to make my mom happy.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

Hah.  My first wedding dress:  satin, strapless, a-line with a train.  EVERYTHING I didn't want this time.

Also, I had a giant wedding party in  long lavender satin dresses, rose bouquets and centerpeices, a limo, someone singing at the ceremony, a wedding party dance.

Everything you think of in the most cliche, traditional church wedding ever.

I was so very, very young.

RupertPenny

Yeah, I don't like tuxedos with vests (especially colored) either. If you want to wear a tuxedo, wear a normal tuxedo with a black (or other subtly colored) bow tie. And I think tuxedos with vests rarely look good, despite the color.

Three piece suits are cool though.

adamar15

Is 1 Corinthians the "love is patient, love is kind" one?  If so,I considered using that to stick a little religion into the wedding for H's sake.  I definitely fit into Mica's description, though

aragx6

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[QUOTE]Pink in weddings in general.  It makes me think the man had no say whatsoever in the wedding.  A few soft pink details (like in flowers), ok, but pink tablecloths, pink bridesmaids dresses, pink cake, pink drinks.  Same with Brandi, pink and green is so over done. Get a new combination. (Says the girl who used purple...)
Posted by Beaniebeach[/QUOTE]

Like when the guys are wearing pink ties and vests? Ugh, I definitely think it screams emasculated. Then again, vests that don't match the color of the tux are NMS also.

kcscejal

Bridal portraits or TTD sessions

[Deleted User]

I really, really don't understand mermaid/trumpet dresses. I don't get wanting to make your butt look bigger.

I also think having a "ring bearer" that doesn't bear rings is dumb.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]H's uncle had a unity candle and they played a whole entire country song while they lit one candle. After they lit the candle, they just stood there looking at each other until the song was over. 
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

OOOH, we did that in my first wedding too.  Only it wasn't a country song.  I think it was something religious.  I forgot about that completely.  That was hella awkward.

BubbsNBubbs

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[QUOTE]Really long veils and trains are NMS.  Also- really bright colors (ex:hot pink and lime green together) were never an option for me, but they're done a lot so that is probably just me being a 'plain Jane'. Our cake topper looks completely normal from the front and on the back the bride is pinching the grooms butt.  I guess it would fall under the unpopular funny cake toppers but we thought it was cute.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

I have nothing to add...but I really want to see this cake topper.  I tend to squeeze my Bubb's butt a little more frequently than I would like to admit.

ahhhitsshannyn

SUPER dim lighting or no lights at all with colored uplights. I've never been to a wedding with it, but when I see it on TV it looks so stupid. I swear every girl on Four Weddings has it and I cannot even see anything.

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]I know this will be unpopular too, but 1 Corinthians. OMG the Bible is a big book, find another verse!
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]
YES.  This.  When I was picking readings my mother begged me not to do it.  She needn't have bothered, I wouldn't.

- Matching BMS down to the shoes and updos.  I have no issue with matching dresses, but don't make them all clones.

- Brown tuxes.  No offense to anyone who had them, I don't like them.

kcscejal

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[QUOTE]H's uncle had a unity candle and they played a whole entire country song while they lit one candle. After they lit the candle, they just stood there looking at each other until the song was over. 
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]
I went to a wedding where they did nothing during the song but stood there looking at each other.  Not even a unity candle to use up 15 seconds of the awkwardness.

Meegles4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Whenever I hear this at a wedding, I know that the B&G don't know the Bible well or haven't been to many weddings.  It's a beautiful passage, but damn does everyone use it.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

You have a point. When we were prepping for our Catholic wedding, we got the prep book with the readings you could choose from. I wanted to avoid 1 Corinthians so badly, but every other passage was about being a submissive wife, so we ended up with 1 Corinthians.

I suppose had I known the Bible, we could have gone outside the hand-picked readings and done our own. But it also made me realize why it is so used -- of the options they hand you, it's the best one.

ahhhitsshannyn

Fake flowers in any way, shape, or form.

RupertPenny

I don't like beach weddings. I don't even know where this comes from, because I love the beach.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : I have nothing to add...but I really want to see this cake topper.  I tend to squeeze my Bubb's butt a little more frequently than I would like to admit.
Posted by BubbsNBubbs[/QUOTE]

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mica178

MUN1, you don't look old enough to have had two weddings.  Did you marry at 19 or something?

Ilovethelaw07

I don't really care for the whole unity candle/sand thing, with or without ridiculously long songs.  I get the meaning behind it, but we didn't do anything like that.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]Fake flowers are also NMS. 
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

I did not want fake flowers at all, but it became a budget thing for us and we are using them for the bouquets only.  Everything else is real flowers.  I still don't like it.

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : YES.  This.  When I was picking readings my mother begged me not to do it.  She needn't have bothered, I wouldn't. - Matching BMS down to the shoes and updos.  I have no issue with matching dresses, but don't make them all clones. - <strong>Brown tuxes</strong>.  No offense to anyone who had them, I don't like them.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

I was just thinking this one too. I am really liking the gray suits people have going on right now, but beige, brown, or white are just not appealing to me at all.

aleighk1

We did a sand ceremony and used oil/vinegar pourers to pour the sand into a frame and it took forever. If we would've used a song, we would've used up the whole song haha I was so embarrassed.

dumdumfroggie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : You have a point. When we were prepping for our Catholic wedding, we got the prep book with the readings you could choose from. I wanted to avoid 1 Corinthians so badly, but every other passage was about being a submissive wife, so we ended up with 1 Corinthians. I suppose had I known the Bible, we could have gone outside the hand-picked readings and done our own. But it also made me realize why it is so used -- of the options they hand you, it's the best one.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

Same here.  We only got a choice of 6 or 8 readings, they all had the submissive parts in them.  Except for one which talked about my lover bounding toward me like a gazelle or some sort of awkwardness.  I asked if we could hand pick our readings, but we weren't allowed to.

aragx6

Cheesy DJs -- went to one wedding where the guy looked identical to Adam Sandler's limo driver friend in The Wedding Singer.

Edit: He had little musical notes on his vest too. That was awesome.

brittneyh4

1 Corinthians, tiaras, pink on men (or pink anywhere), unwilling cake toppers - all I agree. NMS.

I don't like when WP matches, especially when they're bright colors (silver would be okay, but I have yellow, that would look ridiculous).

Carharts and a button up as the men's attire -- we're in a small logging town way out in BFE, but come ON, it's a wedding still. This said by the girl who has a camo garter with a deer charm on it. At least it's not on constant display.

baystateapple

As a BM, I hate it when the bride and groom (or the MC, or DJ) try to force the WP to do something silly for their entrance.  Or choreograph a dance to walk in to.

Pick ups on gowns.

HUGE photo shoots.  My friend's wedding back in May "required" a 2-hour gap for their photo shoot.  She sent us the link to her pictures and she had over 2,000.  I couldn't even go through them, there were too many to look through, and all I could remember was how damn hungry I was waiting to get back to the reception.

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I dislike pickup dresses also. They usually look like one of the following: a mattress, whipped cream, or like the dress got caught on something.

These seem to be less common lately, but for awhile there colored sashes were really popular. It always made me think the bride looked like she was gift wrapping herself.

I really loathe hot pink with orange. Those colors just do not go.

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]I don't like beach weddings. I don't even know where this comes from, because I love the beach.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]

My CW was a BM for a beach wedding and apparently they cannot even reserve a spot, someone just had to get there at 6am to set up an area for them. Like how do you put the location on the invitations? "We are trying to get across from the pier, but if we aren't there start looking around." That would not be fun for me.

amys325

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : What's a pick up wedding dress? I don't get Trash the Dress, and like other PP's have said, cake toppers featuring the gride having to drag the groom to the alter. Yuck...
Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]

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MyUserName1

22 the first time Mica.  And I'm older than I look (or at least, I like to think I look younger than I am!)

Meegles4

Another NMS -- extraneous details. Hangers that spell out your name, pew bows (already mentioned), etc.

Why spend time doing all that stuff? That's what causes stress. Weddings aren't rocket science unless you try to make them that hard.