NMS

amys325

-Slide shows of the bride and groom growing up

-Long ceremonies...mainly when it's a full mass.

-Monogrammed favors or really anything monogrammed to give to the guests

-Changing into a cocktail wedding dress for the reception

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Another NMS -- extraneous details. Hangers that spell out your name, pew bows (already mentioned), etc. Why spend time doing all that stuff? That's what causes stress. Weddings aren't rocket science unless you try to make them that hard.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

I completely agree.

And I think unity anything is NMS. My ceremony was about 12 minutes!

LeiselEB

Unity candles the funny yet not funny at all cake toppers bright colored sashes on the brides dress mason jars for drinks Floating candles They must have changed the little booklets they give to Catholics to pick their readings from. Ours only had one out of maybe 15 readings that mentioned a submissive wife. I was not about to do 1 Corinthians either, but we had some good choices. I don't mind 1 Corinthians for church weddings, but I don't get it in non religious ceremonies. I agree with mica that its the go to verse for non religious people.

eorea

Cowboy boots. They do not belong with a wedding dress.

Ilovethelaw07

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : See, I don't like non-regular guest books. Probably because I didn't really care about having a guest book in general and just got one because I knew people would wonder where it was. I can't imagine hanging up and "alternative" guest book somewhere in my house.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]

I'm ok with either kind, as long as it's not a white puffy book.  Those just scream 80s to me. 

aleighk1

The bridal march or whatever it's called.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : See, I don't like non-regular guest books. Probably because I didn't really care about having a guest book in general and just got one because I knew people would wonder where it was. I can't imagine hanging up and "alternative" guest book somewhere in my house.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]

<div>Same. I didn't even want a guest book, but my mom and DOC insisted on it. I finally bought the cheapest one I could find, and I have no idea where it is.</div>

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]I judge pretty hardcore people who use the bridal march at any point during their wedding. I still judge, but less so, Canon in D as well. nbsp;I just don't get it. Posted by Beaniebeach[/QUOTE]
I don't like those songs either. My mom insisted that canon in D be played as the bridesmaids walk in, and since she didn't insist on much else I agreed. But man, I am sick of that song.

angelstar975

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]Cowboy boots. They do not belong with a wedding dress. Posted by eorea[/QUOTE]

Ditto this. Plus, it seems overdone at this point.

LeiselEB

I also am not a fan of boots, flip flops, converse, etc. with formal attire. I also don't get wearing some kind of costume as the bridal party is introduced. My friends brother had everyone wear sunglasses and feather boas when they walk in. NMS.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]I agree with Meegles on details like <strong>hangers with the last name</strong>. I will also never understand anyone who uses goldfish centerpieces.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

I was on Etsy the week I got engaged and I was in "ZOMG I need everything wedding related mode".  I own one of these now. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Fucking Butterfly Kisses for the father/daughter dance.  That or I loved her first.  NO.

RupertPenny

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : I'm ok with either kind, as long as it's not a white puffy book.  Those just scream 80s to me. 
Posted by Ilovethelaw07[/QUOTE]

Mine was actually really pretty and in my wedding color. I spent way too much money on it, but it was easier than trying to think of some random alternative.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS: I don't like those songs either. My mom insisted that canon in D be played as the bridesmaids walk in, and since she didn't insist on much else I agreed. But man, I am sick of that song.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>My H insisted on using Canon in D during some part of the ceremony. We used it for the moms and the BMs. My dad and I used a really slow version of Simple Gifts. It was beautiful.</div><div>
</div><div>I also do not like casual footwear with formal attire. In other words, I'm just nodding along with everyone else.</div>

kcscejal

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</div>[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : See, I don't like non-regular guest books. Probably because I didn't really care about having a guest book in general and just got one because I knew people would wonder where it was. I can't imagine hanging up and "alternative" guest book somewhere in my house.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]
Same here.  At least the regular guestbook I could just shove in a drawer and not feel guilty about it.  I lack the sentimental gene, though I think.  I threw away all of our cards after I read them.

Habs2Hart

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : See, I don't like non-regular guest books. Probably because I didn't really care about having a guest book in general and just got one because I knew people would wonder where it was. I can't imagine hanging up and "alternative" guest book somewhere in my house.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]

I think I would just throw a book out right after.  I don't get keeping it as a coffee table book.  I think it's just useless clutter, but we also don't have a photo album of our wedding, so there's that.  I do think guest books at all are a waste of time.

I also agree whole heartedly to all those that said casual shoes.  Chucks or flip flops are not cute, and for the love of god, if your friends don't have cowboy boots already, don't make them buy them because you are getting married in a field.

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : I was at a wedding on Friday where they did this, and it was actually super cute.  They were dancing to a slow song and then a rock and roll song came on and someone threw them hats and blow up guitars. It was adorable.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
Spotlight dances would have been H's ultimate nightmare anyway - I think he would have divorced me if I'd tried something like that.  He said he knew I was the girl for him when he asked if we should have dancing at the wedding and I gave him a horrified "NO!!!!!"

specialk84

I do own a hangar with my last name on it. I bought it in a last-minute moment of insanity. H was shocked when I told him how much I spent on it. He then handed me a regular plastic hangar and said, "This is a nice hangar, too."

eorea

Pictures with the bride and groom kissing under her veil. NMS. Done way too often.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Oh and we definitely had "pew bows," even though we didn't have pews.  My mom was way up my ass about decorating the chairs.  My thought was that the chapel was already gorgeous the way it was - we didn't even have any other decorations in the chapel, other than the table where our unity candle was.  She was like "It's a wedding, you have to have SOME decorations, you need to have something down the aisle on the chairs."

I told her fine, pick something.  I don't care.  But she wouldn't pick it.  Woman made me tell our reception decorator what I wanted the bows to look like even though I didn't want the bows in the first place.  And I felt bad because the poor decorator had to come all the way out to the chapel to put the damn bows on the chairs.  Ridiculous

baystateapple

Reluctant grooms.  The shirts that say "Game Over" or letters on the groom's shoes that say "Help Me".  It's just stupid.

brandichamberlain

I know early receptions with just punch and cake are perfectly fine etiquette wise, but it's NMS. 

specialk84

Pictures where the whole BP jumps. We did it anyway, and my brother looks like he's taking a shitt.

kcscejal

Over the top decorations.  Although I did absolutely zero decorating aside from the centerpieces made and placed on the tables by the florist, so I'm sure most would think our wedding was far under-decorated.

Ilovethelaw07

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Mine was actually really pretty and in my wedding color. I spent way too much money on it, but it was easier than trying to think of some random alternative.
Posted by RupertPenny[/QUOTE]

I found a gorgeous one in my colors on Etsy...then I saw the price and made my own wish cards!

amyb140

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[QUOTE]I judge pretty hardcore people who use the bridal march at any point during their wedding. I still judge, but less so, Canon in D as well.  I just don't get it.
Posted by Beaniebeach[/QUOTE]
I would never do the bridal march because I think there's better music, but I do love Lohengrin (the opera it's from).  I also kind of do like the traditional Mendelssohn recessional.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]Pictures of the bride and groom at the same age.  No wonder you claimed the planning was stressful, I"d pull all of my hair trying to collect all those pictures and decide what age I or H was in it.  There were a lot of cliche things in my wedding. Some I had no choice in (SLide show and bells for kissing at the RD), guest book, and garter toss.  <strong>I want my VR already.</strong>
Posted by Beaniebeach[/QUOTE]

Hah.  H and I keep jokingly planning our 20 year VR  "The NEXT time we get married, lets..."

LeiselEB

I got a "bride" hanger from etsy. Im not normally a fan of stuff with bride, bridesmaids, maid of honor, whatever on it, but this was somewhere I decided to go all out with titles. I figure the wire can always be cut off if I want a regular old hanger some day. I don't like the "mrs last name" ones though... Chances are you're not married until after you've put the dress on, so why take a million pictures of that dress hanging from a hanger that doesn't have your actual name on it?

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]Pictures where the whole BP jumps. We did it anyway, and my brother looks like he's taking a shitt.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

about one in 100 is amazing and the rest suck.

aleighk1

I made a calendar of our e-pics for the guestbook because I knew I'd use it. and H's aunt brought us a frame for people to sign after I told her we already had a damn guestbook.