NMS

specialk84

If I was a BM, I'm pretty sure I would refuse to pose like I was dead, and if the bride fought me on it, we'd have a major problem.

Lizzieyounce

Maybe it represents a fire breathing bridezilla who slew her BM's with her firey bridezilla powers?

scarlettc27

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[QUOTE]claims he "babysits" his own children; Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Out of all the truly horrible things you listed, for some reason this seems the most horrible.  UGH

mica178

Huh.  Definitely NMS, but just plain ridiculous too.

AbbeyS2011

That pic is just creepy, Daffodil.

NMS:  all the dances, besides the first B/G dance.  Why need the WP, mother/son, father/daughter, etc. 

Smashing the cake in each other's faces.

Another one for the cake toppers - I saw one that had a groom standing alone, and in the bride's spot was a "gone shopping" sign.  They had another one just the opposite, with a "gone fishing" sign in the groom's spot.

Songs/solos during the ceremonies.  One or two before the processional is OK, but that is all.

Unity candles/sand ceremonies.

Seed packets/soaps or candles/coasters for favors.  Give the guests something to eat, IMO. I have been to a couple of weddings were there was a "instead of giving you favors, we donated the money to XYZ charity".    

Not sure if this has been mentioned, but those iron-on, dedazzled  "Bride/WP" sweatshirts/tees, hats with veils, bags, etc. Waste of money and they look really stupid.

MrsGandthebeag

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[QUOTE]-dresses with pick ups, or mermaid dresses -outdoor weddings. They didn't appeal to me at all as a bride, and honestly, they don't apeal much to me as a guest. Maybe because in my circle, they never seem to tbe planned well though (rarely have chairs, almost never have microphones, awkward to get to, sun is always in someone's eyes etc). -food that doesn't fit the occasion. For example, a wedding we are attending will be serving hamburgers & hot dogs for dinner. -Child free weddings. Nothing wrong with them, I just don't like them. Weddings are family affairs in my mind -Really short ceremonies. We attended a wedding that was 8 minutes long. Felt like I was just "getting into" their ceremony and it was over. -Not having a receiving line. I know this is hugely unpopular, but I feel slightly lost when there isn't a receiving line, and like everyone just stands around, instead of leaving. -More than one "unity" event within the ceremony. -Destination Weddings -Plated meals. I just prefer buffets.
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</div><div>Wow, you would've hated my wedding:beach wedding, child free, short ceremony, no receiving line, and plated meal.  lol.</div><div>
</div><div>NMS:  fg/rb, big wedding parties, engagement photos and engagement parties.

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LP11509

It's also NM when people mix and match wedding themes. Example my BFF's SIL is obsessed with Japanese culture. She has a degree in Japanese and studied abroad there. Instead of a wedding dress, she had a wedding kimono. Ok, fine. But they had a bagpiper for their processional to honor her Scottish heritage as well. And the FOB had a kilt on. Their ceremony was a mishmash of Japanese, Scottish and tradtional American wedding themes. Food was also somewhat of a mishmash. I get wanting to honor your culture, but it was so random how it was all thrown together.

StefffiC

NMS

- Mermaid or drop waist dresses. Despite what all of the bridal shops tell me that my curvy figure looks good in those, it does not. I look like a hippo in a tutu.

- Bling Bling on dresses, I like simple dresses

- Matchy matchy bridesmaids. Thankfully I have just the MOH and she's picking out her own dress and sending me the bill since I am paying.

- The jumping bridal party photos

- weird cake toppers

Belle0720

NMS...

Bright/Trendy Colors....this is not prom, it's your wedding day and you're probably going to look back and hate what you did. Just because you like a color doesn't mean it will look good on 6 bridesmaids and all over your tables and in your flowers!

Oversaturated Themes....animal prints, holidays, sports...leave those for more casual parties please.

Church Weddings...I mean I get why people do them but I just think there are such prettier venues out there.

Colored Wedding Gowns, especially the pic that Daffodil posted with the BMs on the ground...wth??

 

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]NMS... Bright/Trendy Colors....this is not prom, it's your wedding day and you're probably going to look back and hate what you did. Just because you like a color doesn't mean it will look good on 6 bridesmaids and all over your tables and in your flowers! Oversaturated Themes....animal prints, holidays, sports...leave those for more casual parties please. Church Weddings...<strong>I mean I get why people do them but I just think there are such prettier venues out there</strong>. Colored Wedding Gowns, especially the pic that Daffodil posted with the BMs on the ground...wth??  
Posted by MissKristenWed84403[/QUOTE]

If your focus is on the prettiness of the venue I don't think you actually get why people do them....

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- Receiving lines. I much prefer table visits.
- Colored wedding dresses. Taffeta. Pnina Tornai ANYTHING. (I spend too much time watching SYTTD)

I don't have much more, I like the silly DIY details like the hangers, and we're doing paper flowers with lanterns for centerpieces because real flowers are too much of a hassle and an expense, IMO. We're only doing real ones for bouquets/bouts and on the cake.

amyb140

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[QUOTE]NMS... Bright/Trendy Colors....this is not prom, it's your wedding day and you're probably going to look back and hate what you did. Just because you like a color doesn't mean it will look good on 6 bridesmaids and all over your tables and in your flowers! Oversaturated Themes....animal prints, holidays, sports...leave those for more casual parties please.<strong> Church Weddings...I mean I get why people do them but I just think there are such prettier venues out there</strong>. Colored Wedding Gowns, especially the pic that Daffodil posted with the BMs on the ground...wth??  
Posted by MissKristenWed84403[/QUOTE]
Really?  I mean, I get that if you're not religious (or even if you are) a church might not be your ideal venue, but that's not what it's about.  For some people a wedding isn't actually a wedding unless it's performed within the parameters of their religion.  That's a bit different than animal print bridesmaid dresses.

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS:NMS... Bright/Trendy Colors....this is not prom, it's your wedding day and you're probably going to look back and hate what you did. Just because you like a color doesn't mean it will look good on 6 bridesmaids and all over your tables and in your flowers! Oversaturated Themes....animal prints, holidays, sports...leave those for more casual parties please. Church Weddings...I mean I get why people do them but I just think there are such prettier venues out there. Colored Wedding Gowns, especially the pic that Daffodil posted with the BMs on the ground...wth?? nbsp;Posted by MissKristenWed84403If your focus is on the prettiness of the venue I don't think you actually get why people do them.... Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

I was thinking the same thing. The church we're getting married in is positively gorgeous, so that's a plus for us haha. I guess it depends on the area you're in.

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS: I was thinking the same thing. The church we're getting married in is positively gorgeous, so that's a plus for us haha. I guess it depends on the area you're in.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]
Exactly - the chapel where we got married is one of the most beautiful churches I've ever seen!<div>
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Ooh, Amy, that is gorgeous.

Same for us- the church was important for reasons other than prettiness, but it's gorgeous and that's a plus.

amyb140

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[QUOTE]Ooh, Amy, that is gorgeous. Same for us- the church was important for reasons other than prettiness, but it's gorgeous and that's a plus.
Posted by lissadelsol[/QUOTE]
Thanks!  The inside makes me think of Harry Potter :)  I also loved that it needed no decoration - even the florist was like, uh, no.  There's no way to do anything better to that place!<div>
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AbbeyS2011

in SW Washington, where I grew up, there is an old Catholic church/girls school that is now open for rent.  It is called The Academy Chapel, and it is one of the most beautiful settings for a wedding.  Technically, it is a church, but anyone who wants to rent it for their ceremony can, and it need not be religious.

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That does remind me of HP. All the light, too, it's impressive. Beautiful!

StefffiC

We are getting married in the smaller chapel of our church back home. I had thought about getting married in Centenary UMC here in Winston Salem since I love the church and it's one of the most breathtaking churchs I have ever seen. Their organ is incredible, but John wants to marry in our church before our pastor.

I have visited Centenary often with my friend that passed last year, but John hasn't been involved there.

Megbo2012

Haha I am doing so many of the things listed, but I also agree with a lot posted here. 

FI made the hangers and they look amazing. It was one of the few things he did/could do so he liked helping. We are having roses, which I totally didn't want but when I head how "cheap" they were, I got them.  Also we are doing the table numbers with same age pictures.  Haven't pulled our hair out over that, and we are reusing the frames afterwards. 

Kate61487

I thought about doing the age photo table numbers for about a half a second.  Then I realized I would need pictures of myself ages 10-14 and I was so NOT going to put any of that awkwardness on display, haha.  Plus we had like 30 tables and H and I were both 24 when we got married so that didn't really work...

AbbeyS2011

LOL Kate, I completely understand your reasoning.  Those years in a person's life are some of the most awkward. 

Those photos on poster boards of the B/G are weird too at receptions, as well as the slide shows.  I have seen them at 25th or 50th wedding anniversaries that are nice, but somehow they do not look right at wedding receptions. 

Megbo2012

Kate, we are acutally highlighting those awkward years. I'm fine with how I turned out so I'm not really embarressed. FI and I basically look like siblings with matching huge glasses and braces. I also didn't have much to do for awhile so it kept me busy.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

We totally had a picture table but it was awesome because we were um, together, during those awkward years.  We were each other's first boyfriend/girlfriend, starting at about 13 years old and off and on through high school.  The photos were hilarious!

Kate61487

I also considered doing a thing I saw where each table number you say why that number is significant to the couple.  Like.... Table 4:  Jonathan and Kate have been together for 4 years.  or Table 23: the 23rd is Jonathan and Kate's anniversary.  That sort of thing.  and then I realized it would probably just stress me out, trying to make up a reason that the number 9 is significant to us, haha.

amys325

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[QUOTE]I also considered doing a thing I saw where each table number you say why that number is significant to the couple.  Like.... Table 4:  Jonathan and Kate have been together for 4 years.  or Table 23: the 23rd is Jonathan and Kate's anniversary.  That sort of thing.  and then I realized it would probably just stress me out, trying to make up a reason that the number 9 is significant to us, haha.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

<div>We had a DW in St. Thomas.  There are 7 islands between the USVI and the BVIs and we happen to have 7 tables.  So eat table had an island and the escort cards looked like passports.</div><div>
</div><div>This worked for a small wedding, but sometimes it make it difficult to find the table at larger weddings.</div>

pkontk

- Table themes rather than table numbers.  Its cute to have the pics at different ages, etc, but unless the table themes are ALSO in alphabetical order, I have no idea where the eff I'm going.

- "Bridesmaid" attire (that says bridesmaid).  They'll wear it for what, 2.5 seconds?

- Long-ass wedding masses

- GAPS.  Give me something to do the few hourse in between your ceremony and your reception.  I've only been to one wedding with a gap and it was one too many.

Belle0720

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Really?  I mean, I get that if you're not religious (or even if you are) a church might not be your ideal venue, but that's not what it's about.  For some people a wedding isn't actually a wedding unless it's performed within the parameters of their religion.  That's a bit different than animal print bridesmaid dresses.
Posted by amyb140[/QUOTE]

No I definitely understand and 100% respect that people have ceremonies within the parameters of their religion because it is in line with their beliefs and/or may be a tradition in their family. I am a strong Christian so I get it, and in line with our faith we are having a Christian Pastor marry us.

That being said, church weddings are still not my style. My original post definitely did not say that an animal print bridesmaid dress was the same as a church wedding lol. But still, I wouldn't have an animal print bridesmaid dress and I also would not have a church wedding because they are NMS :-)

I certainly wasn't trying to offend anyone and I am pretty sure I am not the first person in this thread who said church weddings are not their style....

Arh65

NMS:

Garter Toss.

Too many spotlight dances.  The last wedding I went to had spotlight dancing for a solid 25 minutes.  If you really need to do every differnt kind of dance PLEASE shorten the song.  

Sparklers for the couple's exit.  I've always hated sparkers, so this is just a really personal distaste for it.

Bride/Bridesmaid/MOH clothing.  When is that shirt/robe/sweatshirt ever gonig to be worn again?

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]I can't believe I missed this.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
Ditto, but at least I learned a new term today:  "camo ombre"<div>
</div><div>It's so horrifying it's hilarious.</div>