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sparent2010

Outside a money dance/HMR/obvious rudeness I don't give a fcuk what people do at their wedding.

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : The bridal march is "hear comes the bride" right? Our music minister told us they don't play it at my church because it's really about a prostitute or something?! I thought that was a fun fact most brides probably don't know :-)
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]
No, not a prostitute - the chick Elsa in the opera is just a girl who marries Lohengrin on the condition that she can never know his name.  She can't handle it, and eventually convinces him to tell her, which means he has to follow the Holy Grail into hiding forever.  <div>
</div><div>A lot of churces won't play non-sacred music.  And a lot won't play Wager - nasty anti-Semite that he was.</div>

acaponi87

I have a bunch of music related ones. Yes, Bridal March and Pachabel.

I also judge people who use Ave Maria. IMO that song is reserved for Christmas or funerals.

And though I've never seen it done, I saw it on a list of suggestions for prelude or processinal music and that's Samuel Barber's "Adagio for Strings". Gorgeous piece, but it's been performed at every president's funeral since it was composed. Just because it's classical doesn't mean that it's appropriate for a wedding.

Non-music related:
-Ring bearers or flower girls. It might be different if I had a niece or nephew but I really don't get the point of them.

That's all for now.

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]The hangers made me think of this, but, for some reason, I hate how everything is labeled bride and groom. Likenbsp;we don't have a name? So "Here Comes the Bride" signs, Bride and Groom chair signs, bride hangers. All that stuff annoys me. But I'll admit I like details and have bought far too much wedding ish on Etsy already. Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I sort of get the appeal of bride and groom stuff. I mean, you're only really a bride for the wedding day, but you get your name every other day of the year. Though some people go way overboard with that stuff, I agree

Kate61487

I think all the talk about 1Cor is kind of funny because I'm 99.9% sure it wasn't a choice for us in the little book the Catholic church gave us.  Genesis 2:18-24, on the other hand, was used by us, my cousin and H's cousin (who both also got married last summer).  We basically went through and crossed out anything that had the submissive wife vibe or awkwardness about sex and that left us with 1 or 2 choices for each reading, I'm guessing our cousins did the same.

Expensive designer dresses are NMS, I don't get spending that much on a one-time outfit.  And most of the time I don't even really like them, apparently I didn't get that girly gene....

mica178

The wedding march plays after the wedding when the B&G are getting ready to consummate their marriage and when the bride starts getting cold feet about having married this guy she barely knows.  How's that for symbolism when choosing processional music.

[Deleted User]

I think it's dumb when the bride and bms wear bride/bridesmaid shirt. Yuck.

Also, when the Black Eyed Peas are played at the reception. For that matter, I'll never understand how it is that anyone likes the Black Eyed Peas. I judge that.

acaponi87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : No, not a prostitute - the chick Elsa in the opera is just a girl who marries Lohengrin on the condition that she can never know his name.  She can't handle it, and eventually convinces him to tell her, which means he has to follow the Holy Grail into hiding forever.   <strong>A lot of churces won't play non-sacred music.  And a lot won't play Wager - nasty anti-Semite that he was.</strong>
Posted by amyb140[/QUOTE]

Yeah he was a diiick for sure but I like his music. He wrote some sweet tuba parts :)
Elsa's Processional is gorgeous.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I think it's dumb when the bride and bms wear bride/bridesmaid shirt. Yuck. <strong>Also, when the Black Eyed Peas are played at the reception. For that matter, I'll never understand how it is that anyone likes the Black Eyed Peas. I judge that.</strong>
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]


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aleighk1

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[QUOTE]Expensive designer dresses are NMS, I don't get spending that much on a one-time outfit.  And most of the time I don't even really like them, apparently I didn't get that girly gene....
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

<div>Mine was only $600 and I feel a little guilty about that. But I really didn't want a DB dress.</div>

aragx6

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS: I sort of get the appeal of bride and groom stuff. I mean, you're only really a bride for the wedding day, but you get your name every other day of the year. Though some people go way overboard with that stuff, I agree
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

I think now is a good time for the caveat that I think this stuff is totally cute at other people's weddings, it's just NMS for my own.

And I'll admit I'm weird. I still get a little skeeved out at the idea of being someone's wife too.

adamar15

You don't want to hear about your lovely lady lumps, Daff? 

amyb140

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[QUOTE]I have a bunch of music related ones. Yes, Bridal March and Pachabel. I also judge people who use Ave Maria. IMO that song is reserved for Christmas or funerals. And though I've never seen it done, I saw it on a list of suggestions for prelude or processinal music and that's Samuel Barber's "Adagio for Strings". Gorgeous piece, but it's been performed at every president's funeral since it was composed.<strong> Just because it's classical doesn't mean that it's appropriate for a wedding</strong>. Non-music related: -Ring bearers or flower girls. It might be different if I had a niece or nephew but I really don't get the point of them. That's all for now.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]
Truth.<div>
</div><div>I also can't stand pop music used in the ceremony in any way.  I'm sure I'm in the minority there.</div>

Lizzieyounce

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[QUOTE]I think it's dumb when the bride and bms wear bride/bridesmaid shirt. Yuck. Also, when the Black Eyed Peas are played at the reception. For that matter, I'll never understand how it is that anyone likes the Black Eyed Peas. I judge that.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Black Eyed Peas are on my do not play list...as is hip hop and rap.</div><div>
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LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS:I have a bunch of music related ones. Yes, Bridal March and Pachabel. I also judge people who use Ave Maria. IMO that song is reserved for Christmas or funerals. And though I've never seen it done, I saw it on a list of suggestions for prelude or processinal music and that's Samuel Barber's "Adagio for Strings". Gorgeous piece, but it's been performed at every president's funeral since it was composed. Just because it's classical doesn't mean that it's appropriate for a wedding. Nonmusic related: Ring bearers or flower girls. It might be different if I had a niece or nephew but I really don't get the point of them. That's all for now.Posted by acaponi87Truth.I also can't stand pop music used in the ceremony in any way. nbsp;I'm sure I'm in the minority there. Posted by amyb140[/QUOTE]

I agree with you on the pop music.

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : The bridal march is "hear comes the bride" right? Our music minister told us they don't play it at my church because it's really about a prostitute or something?! I thought that was a fun fact most brides probably don't know :-)
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

Our music director told us in the opera it's the song they play AFTER the wedding, as the bride and groom are headed off to bang.  I've never seen the opera so I honestly have no idea, but that was why he told us they absolutely will not play it in our church.

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Yeah he was a diiick for sure but I like his music. He wrote some sweet tuba parts :) Elsa's Processional is gorgeous.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]
There is not a lot of great tuba music out there - that is for sure!  

specialk84

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[QUOTE]I have a bunch of music related ones. Yes, Bridal March and Pachabel. I also judge people who use <strong>Ave Maria. IMO that song is reserved for Christmas or funerals.</strong> And though I've never seen it done, I saw it on a list of suggestions for prelude or processinal music and that's Samuel Barber's "Adagio for Strings". Gorgeous piece, but it's been performed at every president's funeral since it was composed. Just because it's classical doesn't mean that it's appropriate for a wedding. Non-music related: -Ring bearers or flower girls. It might be different if I had a niece or nephew but I really don't get the point of them. That's all for now.
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

<div>The asshat (for many other reasons) who wore shorts to my wedding apparently went up to our string quartet, waving a dollar bill, and said, "You need to play Ave Maria." The violinist apparently said something like, "The bride and groom have already picked out the songs."</div>

amyb140

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[QUOTE]I think it's dumb when the bride and bms wear bride/bridesmaid shirt. Yuck. Also, when the Black Eyed Peas are played at the reception. For that matter, I'll never understand how it is that anyone likes the Black Eyed Peas. I judge that.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]
My H sold a bunch of random CDs and LPs the other day - the store took all of them excpet that BEP CD.  H came back to the car with a pocketful of cash and the CD with a post-it on it that said "NO."

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I don't get spray tans for a wedding.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]


You know what I don't get abut spray tans in general?  Why the eff are they orange?  You'd think that they'd flippin get that right.  How hard is it to tweak the color?  FFS

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS: I agree with you on the pop music.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]
Must be us Illinois girls ;)

RupertPenny

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[QUOTE]This is more about one's attitude regarding the planning process, but I hate when discussions turn into a contest of who was the most relaxed bride. Some people really are worried about the details, and as long as they aren't being asshats to everyone around them, why make them feel bad? <strong>This goes hand in hand with the line "You'll be so busy you won't even notice so-and-so is doing _____." Yeah, I was busy on my wedding day, but I sure as hell noticed that someone wore shorts while everyone else wore suits.</strong>
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I noticed everything. I am observant by nature, that did not disappear on my wedding day.

aragx6

We're having friends play Hear Comes the Sun during the processional. I guess that's pop, or it was 40 years ago anyway. For me it's more about ensuring the lyrics are appropriate than anything else.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : You know what I don't get abut spray tans in general?  Why the eff are they orange?  You'd think that they'd flippin get that right.  How hard is it to tweak the color?  FFS
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>My cousin (MOH) got her first spray tan the day before my wedding. She looked like an Oompa Loompa. Also, no one told her to wash her hands, so they were dark orange. She was so very embarrassed and kept apologizing for ruining my pictures. </div>

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Our music director told us in the opera it's the song they play AFTER the wedding, as the bride and groom are headed off to bang.  I've never seen the opera so I honestly have no idea, but that was why he told us they absolutely will not play it in our church.
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]
It's too bad that Elsa's procession to the cathedral music is never used - it's gorgeous and way more appropriate.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I think I might have noticed more stuff at our wedding if we had a smaller guest list.  It is completely true that some stuff can go unnoticed  

400 people were in attendance at my sister's wedding and during the dance, the MOG came up to me - the maid of honor - and asked how the bride was doing?  I was like... uh... What?  Then I thought "Omg, where is the bride?  When was the last time I saw her... wtf" turns out she'd been crying with my mom in the  bathroom for a half an hour because she wasn't feeling well.  The friggen bride was gone for 30 minutes and I don't think most of the people even knew it, lol!

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]You don't want to hear about your lovely lady lumps, Daff? 
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
egads

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS:I don't get spray tans for a wedding.Posted by edielauraYou know what I don't get abut spray tans in general?nbsp; Why the eff are they orange?nbsp; You'd think that they'd flippin get that right.nbsp; How hard is it to tweak the color?nbsp; FFS Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

You guys must have seen some bad spray tans. I get them fairly often and never look orange. The one time I did turn orange I demanded my money back and scrubbed it off immediately, haha.

RupertPenny

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[QUOTE]I don't get spray tans for a wedding.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

I have never had a spray tan, but I get it. I personally wouldn't want to wear a white dress without a little bit of color (white looks bad on me when I'm pale). But I got married at the end of the summer so I was naturally tanned by then. If I got married in January or something I might have had a spray tan.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : The asshat (for many other reasons) who wore shorts to my wedding apparently went up to our string quartet, waving a dollar bill, and said, "You need to play Ave Maria." The violinist apparently said something like, "The bride and groom have already picked out the songs."
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
Wow. Tell us more about this fella.