NMS

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : I would never do the bridal march because I think there's better music, but I do love Lohengrin (the opera it's from).  I also kind of do like the traditional Mendelssohn recessional.
Posted by amyb140[/QUOTE]

<div>But when you think about the context of the bridal march in the opera, why would any bride choose it?  </div>

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : Same. I didn't even want a guest book, but my mom and DOC insisted on it. I finally bought the cheapest one I could find, and I have no idea where it is.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
The day before the wedding I grabbed a Chicago coffee table photo book that a friend had given me off my bookshelf - that was our guestbook.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]I got a "bride" hanger from etsy. Im not normally a fan of stuff with bride, bridesmaids, maid of honor, whatever on it, but this was somewhere I decided to go all out with titles. I figure the wire can always be cut off if I want a regular old hanger some day. I don't like the "mrs last name" ones though... Chances are you're not married until after you've put the dress on, <strong>so why take a million pictures of that dress hanging from a hanger that doesn't have your actual name on it?</strong>
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>Last minute insanity. I have no other excuse.</div>

scarlettc27

Apologies in advance if anyone had any of these things:

-Religious music or hymns during ceremony, especially if guests are expected to sing.  (With the exception of a wedding we attended in December, where we sang Christmas carols... that was actually fun because we knew all the words!)

-Cocktail receptions without enough places to sit for everyone.  Or at least for everyone looking for a seat.

-Non-edible wedding favors

-Cutesy, trendy, Etsy decorations.  i.e. typewriter guestbooks, mason jars with striped straws and little flags

-vintage-looking photography, also pictures of the wedding party in weird formations (like the groom in front, with the rest of the guys zig-zagged behind)

-pictures of the brides shoes.  I don't know why, just seems like in 20 years people will be asking our generation why we all have pictures of our shoes artfully stacked on a shelf or in a potted plant.

-matching, satiny bridesmaids dresses, with matching, satiny cummerbunds and ties.

-everyone has said it, but yes, unity candles and unity sand

-garter toss

-line dances, or the electric slide.  No dances with names, like the conga line or chicken dance.

-djs who are also emcees, and who are constantly doing games and stuff

-bands.  I've been to a few weddings with truly amazing, rocking bands who obviously were not cheap.  They are the exception, not the rule.

-long, repetitive speeches filled with inside jokes.  These would be better at the rehearsal dinner.

Wow, that was a lot.  Guess I'm way more "judgy" than I thought

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS:Pictures where the whole BP jumps. We did it anyway, and my brother looks like he's taking a shitt.Posted by specialk84about one in 100 is amazing and the rest suck. Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

1 in 100 is being generous. Those things never turn out well, I don't know why anyone would want to waste the photographers time jumping for silly photos.

Meegles4

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[QUOTE]I do own a hangar with my last name on it. I bought it in a last-minute moment of insanity. H was shocked when I told him how much I spent on it. He then handed me a regular plastic hangar and said, "This is a nice hangar, too."
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Lolz. I mean, if you want to buy it, that's cool. But someone on my local board mentioned that she needed to finish making them for her BMs and all I could think was "unnecessary detail/time-waster".

Then again, I was a pretty minimalist bride. When the unity candle came up, I turned it down for the sole fact that I didn't want to have some random candle sitting around for the next 30 years. I used the cake knife from my parents' wedding (cute, AND one less thing to buy and store or sell). I didn't wear a garter. Flowers were our cake topper. My motto was "I want to get out of this wedding with the least amount of shiz left over as possible."

However, I did do a guest book, but I justified that as a photo album since I used e-pics and left room for people to sign.

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS:I got a "bride" hanger from etsy. Im not normally a fan of stuff with bride, bridesmaids, maid of honor, whatever on it, but this was somewhere I decided to go all out with titles. I figure the wire can always be cut off if I want a regular old hanger some day. I don't like the "mrs last name" ones though... Chances are you're not married until after you've put the dress on, so why take a million pictures of that dress hanging from a hanger that doesn't have your actual name on it?Posted by LeiselEBLast minute insanity. I have no other excuse. Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

Haha I'll let it slide, special.

Habs2Hart

spending gobs of money on useless details. 

ECook25

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[QUOTE]I do own a hangar with my last name on it. I bought it in a last-minute moment of insanity. H was shocked when I told him how much I spent on it.<strong> He then handed me a regular plastic hangar and said, "This is a nice hangar, too."
</strong>Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

I was definitely one of the people who mocked the last name/Mrs. hangers.  However, I left my dress on the plastic industrial strength hanger...all I can focus on now in the shots of my (if I may say so) gorgeous dress is the ugly plastic hanger!  Truthfully, I still wouldn't want to own one with my last name, but I do wish I had thought to switch my dress over to a nice, polished wooden hanger or a padded satin one or something.  Sigh.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS: 1 in 100 is being generous. Those things never turn out well, I don't know why anyone would want to waste the photographers time jumping for silly photos.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

I have proof on my home computer that at least one is fantastic.  At my friends wedding, the photog got the sunset in the background on the beach and the camera angle makes us all look 12 feet in the air.  And we all posed mid air instead of jumping awkwardly.

aleighk1

I had a 2 year engagement so making hangers were the only thing I could really do for the first year haha

AllAboutTheBenjamin

We had a unity candle and I just realized right this moment that I have no earthly idea where the effin thing is.  Hmm.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE] -vintage-looking photography, also pictures of the wedding party in weird formations (like the groom in front, with the rest of the guys zig-zagged behind)
Posted by cmhurst[/QUOTE]

hah. That's all of our wedding p hotos, essentially.  I hate the ones where everyone is just lined up grinning (:

amyb140

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : But when you think about the context of the bridal march in the opera, why would any bride choose it?  
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
No that's true!!!  I would never actually use it in a wedding, it's just my favorite Wagner opera.

Habs2Hart

oh, dances where someone is telling me how to dance... ugh.  Like the Macarena, electric slide, etc.  I hate those.  My dj was under strict instructions to not play any of those types of songs. 

kcscejal

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[QUOTE]Oh, and I think champagne toasts are a waste of money.  I mean, if they're already drinking champagne, then fine.  But handing it out so that everyone can have a sip and then waste the rest?  Don't get it.  Everyone toasted with whatever they were already drinking.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
I do too.  I could not convince my mom of this.  She insisted we needed a champagne toast, with glass champagne glasses.  We had to buy the glasses because our caterer didn't have enough for every single guest.  She paid for it, so I didn't argue too much, but really mom?  That's your big must-have for this wedding?

aleighk1

The only time a lot of people danced was when we played the electric slide and cupid shuffle. 

Meegles4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : No that's true!!!  I would never actually use it in a wedding, it's just my favorite Wagner opera.
Posted by amyb140[/QUOTE]

The bridal march is "hear comes the bride" right? Our music minister told us they don't play it at my church because it's really about a prostitute or something?! I thought that was a fun fact most brides probably don't know :-)

specialk84

This is more about one's attitude regarding the planning process, but I hate when discussions turn into a contest of who was the most relaxed bride. Some people really are worried about the details, and as long as they aren't being asshats to everyone around them, why make them feel bad?

This goes hand in hand with the line "You'll be so busy you won't even notice so-and-so is doing _____." Yeah, I was busy on my wedding day, but I sure as hell noticed that someone wore shorts while everyone else wore suits.

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:NMS:In Response to Re:NMS: 1 in 100 is being generous. Those things never turn out well, I don't know why anyone would want to waste the photographers time jumping for silly photos.Posted by LeiselEBI have proof on my home computer that at least one is fantastic.nbsp; At my friends wedding, the photog got the sunset in the background on the beach and the camera angle makes us all look 12 feet in the air.nbsp; And we all posed mid air instead of jumping awkwardly. Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

Ooh, I would actually like to see that. That sounds much cooler than ones where people jump off the curb into the street, haha.

scarlettc27

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[QUOTE]Pictures of the bride and groom at the same age.  No wonder you claimed the planning was stressful, I"d pull all of my hair trying to collect all those pictures and decide what age I or H was in it.  There were a lot of cliche things in my wedding. Some I had no choice in (SLide show and bells for kissing at the RD), guest book, and garter toss.  I want my VR already.
Posted by Beaniebeach[/QUOTE]

We are totally doing this, haha.  It's my only DIY project, and I'm getting started this weekend.  I may pull my hair out, keep you posted :)

amys325

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS : hah. That's all of our wedding p hotos, essentially.  I hate the ones where everyone is just lined up grinning (:
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>This.  I don't like very traditional pictures.  </div>

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I still don't have my photos back but I know from our proofs - omg, we have some insanely cheesy photos.  No jumping ones thank God but we have them of the bridesmaids holding the groom (like across) and vice versa, there's one of all the groomsmen with money out (I really wish I was kidding) and one of our best men kissing my cheek, I never told our photog to take pictures of my shoes but when I was dancing he stole them and took a bunch of my shoes in all these random places.  There's even one of those horrible photo-shopped a la Russian bride photos, with like, three of me, in different poses.  It's horrible.

I've only seen the proofs of which he gave us about 200.  I imagine there are a lot more on the disc, and I can't remember what other horrible pics he had us take, but damn.  Some of those poses I was thinking to myself "Are you fucking kidding me right now?  Ugh, whatever."

LeiselEB

In Response to Re:NMS:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NMS:In Response to Re: NMS : No that's true!!! nbsp;I would never actually use it in a wedding, it's just my favorite Wagner opera.Posted by amyb140The bridal march is "hear comes the bride" right? Our music minister told us they don't play it at my church because it's really about a prostitute or something?! I thought that was a fun fact most brides probably don't know : Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]
In a midsummer nights dream, that song is played after they trick a girl into marrying a goat or something? I think.

adamar15

I love the electric slide.  That should probably go in a confessions thread or something.

mica178

You have to have the Russian bride-style photo as your sig pic, AATB.  Please.

specialk84

I like a mix of traditional and non-traditional photos. I don't want them all to look like the ones my parents had (35 years ago today--happy anniversary!), but I don't want to look back in 35 years and think, "WTF did we do?"

My photographers were really quick about getting us into different poses and stuff. They did a nice mixture of the traditional poses, cliched poses, and some different ones.

aragx6

The hangers made me think of this, but, for some reason, I hate how everything is labeled bride and groom. Like we don't have a name? So "Here Comes the Bride" signs, Bride and Groom chair signs, bride hangers. All that stuff annoys me. But I'll admit I like details and have bought far too much wedding ish on Etsy already.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]You have to have the Russian bride-style photo as your sig pic, AATB.  Please.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

Oh I fully plan on it.  Whenever I finally get that damned disc and I AW the fucking shite out of it.

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[QUOTE]This is more about one's attitude regarding the planning process, but I hate when discussions turn into a contest of who was the most relaxed bride. Some people really are worried about the details, and as long as they aren't being asshats to everyone around them, why make them feel bad?
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
Agreed, I was just starting to think that reading this thread. Several people seem to be patting themselves on the back for being such a laid back bride.