unpopular opinions

[Deleted User] · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Yeah, we hit 104 last week in Virginia. Add in the humidity and it felt like a sauna outside.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]
yep. i WILTED. where are you?

vallyhoo · July 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>You just stay inside ALL THE TIME. </strong>Although I was outside all day Saturday and it really wasn't that bad. It's been quite mild here lately.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

No you don't silly. You go to the beach. And read, and nap, and play volleyball, and boogie board. And do beachy things. That's what I do at least. I'm an odd duck, too :)

stephl3055 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]You just stay inside ALL THE TIME. Although I was outside all day Saturday and it really wasn't that bad. It's been quite mild here lately.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

It's been really nice here lately too. I think we've only hit 100+ degrees a few times this summer. Also, it's been raining a ton lately. I think I got 6 inches this month alone, which helps the lawn since we've had watering restrictions since May.

waltzingmatilda13 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : yep. i WILTED. where are you?
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Richmond, Virginia. That was the recorded high at the airport.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

i like richmond.

AmoroAgain · July 2010

I know, I know. I'm going on a rant. I just hate that people assume that I'm lazy or something equally as wrong when they find out I SAH. I get judged hard on it, and it's definitely not what I like. I hate it. It makes me feel useless and like a blood sucker. Touchy subject for me.

Moneypenny424 · July 2010

I could be a SAHW. I mean in theory I could, but not now. If I could be independently wealthy and never work again, I couldn't imagine anything better. Mr. Penny and I on vacations, enjoying life and me actually getting to do things that matter to me that don't pay.

I've had stretches of time between jobs where I stayed at home. It was nice. I went to the gym, taught myself how to cook new things, cleaned and did all the things I would otherwise have been doing that killed weekends before. Not everyone can handle not working, but I could (and have).

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : What I'm saying is- it's not fun for me, I don't like it, but I'm in a difficult spot so... what am I supposed to do? I meet a lot of people like you think I should get off my fat ass and stop watching TV, but please, tell me how to find a job here?
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

I don't know what to tell you, honestly. I am geniunely curious, however and if you don't want to answer me, that's fine: Did you anticipate getting a job in Italy when you moved there, and came to find that you couldn't? Or did you move, knowing full well you weren't going to be able to work?

waltzingmatilda13 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]i like richmond.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

<3

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I know, I know. I'm going on a rant. I just hate that people assume that I'm lazy or something equally as wrong when they find out I SAH. I get judged hard on it, and it's definitely not what I like. I hate it. It makes me feel useless and like a blood sucker. Touchy subject for me.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

The funny thing is that you and greenPepper were saying the same thing - you'd be bored staying at home.

AmoroAgain · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I don't know what to tell you, honestly. I am geniunely curious, however and if you don't want to answer me, that's fine: Did you anticipate getting a job in Italy when you moved there, and came to find that you couldn't? Or did you move, knowing full well you weren't going to be able to work?
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

We anticipated that I would be able to work. We were told, by H's company, that I could recieve a work visa, and it ended up not being the case. I was offered employment- under the table. Which was definitely not something I was willing to do.

In Sweden, I'm given a work visa automatically, so I've applied to a billion jobs since January, but they give first consideration to Swedes, who are bilingual, which I'm not. So... back to a tough spot.

laladypoet · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I know, I know. I'm going on a rant. I just hate that people assume that I'm lazy or something equally as wrong when they find out I SAH. I get judged hard on it, and it's definitely not what I like. I hate it. It makes me feel useless and like a blood sucker. Touchy subject for me.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

I understand :) and I would totally understand the anger if GPB said "SAHW are wrong and ridiculous and clearly the antichrist" but she just said she didn't "understand" them. and I'll send you a shoe so the next time someone judges you for being a SAHW, you can hit them with it. right across the face.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I don't know what to tell you, honestly. I am geniunely curious, however and if you don't want to answer me, that's fine: Did you anticipate getting a job in Italy when you moved there, and came to find that you couldn't? Or did you move, knowing full well you weren't going to be able to work?
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

She moved because her husband had a job there. Would you suggest she not live with him?

AmoroAgain · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : The funny thing is that you and greenPepper were saying the same thing - you'd be bored staying at home.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Yes and no. But I've learned not to judge someone for it unless I know what the situation is.

laladypoet · July 2010

I really REALLY want a burger now. sigh.

soontobehimes · July 2010

I would love nothing more than to be able to stay home with my kids when the time comes, but at this rate there is no way. I didn't work (I did go to school though) for a bit when my H and I moved in together and I hated it. I get a lot more done if I'm super busy. I would put things off and put things off and just didn't feel good about myself at the end of the day. JMO though.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : We anticipated that I would be able to work. We were told, by H's company, that I could recieve a work visa, and it ended up not being the case. I was offered employment- under the table. Which was definitely not something I was willing to do. In Sweden, I'm given a work visa automatically, so I've applied to a billion jobs since January, but they give first consideration to Swedes, who are bilingual, which I'm not. So... back to a tough spot.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

I can understand that. I'm sure it really sucks. But at least you're actively trying to get a job and not just shrugging your shoulders and saying, "Ah, screw it."

And I never meant my statement to translate to "SAHWs are lazy," because that's not what I meant. What I did wonder was how women can do it and not get bored/go insane.

laladypoet · July 2010

I think the only thing I'd enjoy about being a SAHW is that my house would ALWAYS be clean and we'd ALWAYS have fresh food. I'd be on top of that chit. I don't mind cleaning. I do hate the store though.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

And just for the record, my mom was a SAHM ever since my brother was born. He's approaching 30. And personally, I always felt my mother should have gone back to work once we were both in school.

AmoroAgain · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I understand :) and I would totally understand the anger if GPB said "SAHW are wrong and ridiculous and clearly the antichrist" but she just said she didn't "understand" them. and I'll send you a shoe so the next time someone judges you for being a SAHW, you can hit them with it. right across the face.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

And I would say to them, "From Lala, with love" *SMACK* then I'd take a picture and send it to you.

Moneypenny424 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I think the only thing I'd enjoy about being a SAHW is that my house would ALWAYS be clean and we'd ALWAYS have fresh food. I'd be on top of that chit. I don't mind cleaning. I do hate the store though.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

I used to love grocery shopping and now there is nothing I hate more. Mr. Penny wants me to come to the store tonight (which I need to do because my parents are coming Wednesday) and I'm trying to get out of it. When did the store become so evil?

AmoroAgain · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I can understand that. I'm sure it really sucks. But at least you're actively trying to get a job and not just shrugging your shoulders and saying, "Ah, screw it." And I never meant my statement to translate to "SAHWs are lazy," because that's not what I meant. What I did wonder was how women can do it and not get bored/go insane.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

I've been sending apps since January, so I kind of am at the screw it phase. haha! Not even a call, email... nothing. I've gotten zero response on any application I've sent in. It's kinda depressing.

Also, H and I don't want kids, so if I don't work, I'm going to get hella fat. lol

twinkie757 · July 2010

I don't automatically think elected officials are automatically smarter...we have to be smart enough to weed out the smooth talkers that don't do their own thinking. I just think that someone who went to a better university than I did (NOT saying mine is bad!) and with a different major would have a better idea of how to handle the major issues than say someone who barely graduated from high school.

Some of these commonly used phrases stem from people texting them, not that I care, just saying. I haven't been around in a long time so I'm not used to it either.

The part about parents telling principals and teachers how to do comes from my experiences as a teacher. Essentially the parents are running the schools in my area even though most of the parents work at McDonald's. A parent can call the office with a comment/suggestion and suddenly that comment is revered like it came from God's mouth and everyone must follow it.

AmoroAgain · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I used to love grocery shopping and now there is nothing I hate more. Mr. Penny wants me to come to the store tonight (which I need to do because my parents are coming Wednesday) and I'm trying to get out of it. When did the store become so evil?
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]
Huh. My H hates it too. So much that he drops me off, and comes back a half hour later to pay for it all. Seriously. If I were legal to drive here, he'd give me the keys and the card and happily wave me out the door.

L-Bride · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I could be a SAHW. I mean in theory I could, but not now. If I could be independently wealthy and never work again, I couldn't imagine anything better. Mr. Penny and I on vacations, enjoying life and me actually getting to do things that matter to me that don't pay. <strong>I've had stretches of time between jobs where I stayed at home. It was nice. I went to the gym, taught myself how to cook new things, cleaned and did all the things I would otherwise have been doing that killed weekends before. Not everyone can handle not working, but I could (and have).
</strong>Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

This. I know myself really well and I wouldn't get bored. I'm very good at keeping busy and am always on the go. I love taking classes and I do volunteer work even when working full time. I know I would do a lot more of it if I wasn't working.
I also feel like I waste my weekends catching up with chores that I fell behind on during the week. It's quite sad.

MoneyP: I don't mean to sound creepy but were you at a wedding shower yesterday? I was at an old coworkers shower and I saw a girl who looked just like your picture. I even said something to my friend at the table and she looked at me strange because I talk to people on the internet, ha.

wadingmoose · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I can understand that. I'm sure it really sucks. But at least you're actively trying to get a job and not just shrugging your shoulders and saying, "Ah, screw it." And I never meant my statement to translate to "SAHWs are lazy," because that's not what I meant. What I did wonder was how women can do it and not get bored/go insane.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

YOu actually said that all SAHWs do is sit on their butts watching TV while their husbands struggle to support them. Yeah. You did.

That isn't lazy?

FutureMrsTR · July 2010

If I have money, I love grocery shopping. I love picking out food. It's when I'm on a tight budget and I'm wondering just how many hot dogs I can stand to eat in one week that it becomes a chore.

GreenPepperBurger · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : YOu actually said that all SAHWs do is sit on their butts watching TV while their husbands struggle to support them. Yeah. You did. That isn't lazy?
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I said the ones I know. I didn't say all.

wadingmoose · July 2010

I LOVE grocery shopping. It's kinda weird actually.

arbolita · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I LOVE grocery shopping. It's kinda weird actually.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Ditto. I also love doing laundry.

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