In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:2d58e327-3ea6-4b03-8ceb-cc53c529381f">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : You don't think thats a justified reason for having an abortion?? Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE] i don't, kate. i had a feeling you and i differed on our opinions of this. i'm disappointed that so many women choose abortion over adoption when both the mom and baby are perfectly healthy.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:2d58e327-3ea6-4b03-8ceb-cc53c529381f">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : You don't think thats a justified reason for having an abortion?? Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
If you're running around having unprotected sex and oops, get pregnant, no, I don't think its justified.
It doesn't mean I'm going to tell someone who does it that they shouldn't do it. None of my business. It's just what I think.
There are lots of reasons to get abortions. Rape, incest, health reasons - I can even see a married couple who has a ton of kids and just can't afford it, if they slip up - then yeah. But chronic irresponsibility? No.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:a9a753ac-c111-43e5-874c-a153172a990d">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : Oh, I know very few people are using it as a BC method. I mean, there are some freaks out there who do as AATB noted, but man who would put themselves through all that. What has amazed me over the years is hearing stuff like <font color="#993366">"we want another baby, but not until I lose some more weight" </font>(yup, someone I knew really had that as a reason). I was sort of speachless. She was not using it as BC, her BC had failed but... Wow. Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
I don't understand how thats a bad reason to wait to have a baby. At the weight I'm at right now it would put both me and any possible baby in danger if I was pregnant. I plan on losing about 60lbs before even considering pregnancy.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:a9a753ac-c111-43e5-874c-a153172a990d">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : What has amazed me over the years is hearing stuff like "we want another baby, but not until I lose some more weight" (yup, someone I knew really had that as a reason). I was sort of speachless. She was not using it as BC, her BC had failed but... Wow. Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:121e0922-4425-468f-aba0-8fadcb257903">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : If you're running around having unprotected sex and oops, get pregnant, no, I don't think its justified. It doesn't mean I'm going to tell someone who does it that they shouldn't do it. None of my business. It's just what I think. There are lots of reasons to get abortions. Rape, incest, health reasons - I can even see a married couple who has a ton of kids and just can't afford it, if they slip up - then yeah. But chronic irresponsibility? No. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I guess I can see this but I don't know how anyone would know the difference between people who were chronically irresponsible and someone who had bad luck.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:a9a753ac-c111-43e5-874c-a153172a990d">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : Oh, I know very few people are using it as a BC method. I mean, there are some freaks out there who do as AATB noted, but man who would put themselves through all that. What has amazed me over the years is hearing stuff like<strong> "we want another baby, but not until I lose some more weight"</strong> (yup, someone I knew really had that as a reason). I was sort of speachless. She was not using it as BC, her BC had failed but... Wow. Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Wait, that was someone's reason for an abortion? OMG. and WTF?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:8e348b4a-65df-4c39-9d25-8d9bf1b66ef8">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : i don't, kate. i had a feeling you and i differed on our opinions of this. i'm disappointed that so many women choose abortion over adoption when both the mom and baby are perfectly healthy. Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
Its okay I still love you.
I just don't think adoption is always an easy or better answer than abortion. I don't like abortion at all but I also don't like the government telling me what to do with my body. In all honesty I don't like anyone telling me what to do.....that tends to make me bitchy and contrary.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:27be3b85-d910-42b8-bfe1-8e3e51f51491">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : that was her reason for an abortion? omg. Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
OOps I think I read that wrong. Not wanting to gain weight is an AWFUL reason for an abortion. I think I just puked in my mouth.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:12eddf3b-24d0-4548-aafd-336ffba30469">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : I don't understand how thats a bad reason to wait to have a baby. At the weight I'm at right now it would put both me and any possible baby in danger if I was pregnant. I plan on losing about 60lbs before even considering pregnancy. Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
I do not think it is a bad reason to wait to have a baby, i think it is a bad reason to have an abortion which is just what she did.
Hey, I will defend her legal right to have an abortion for whatever reason she likes, but morally she is on her own so far as I am concerned.
A good frind of mine had two babies, four years apart when she weighed over 300 pounds. They are both healthy and now since gastric bypass so is she.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:3da2bff2-1259-4798-a602-b1662e0c3fb7">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : I guess I can see this but I don't know how anyone would know the difference between people who were chronically irresponsible and someone who had bad luck. Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
That's the whole problem and probably why the abortion debate is so heated all the time.
I mean, for example, if I was a shameless whore (and asshole) and got knocked up - I could make up a sob story about getting raped to justify my abortion, and the women's shelter would believe me and I wouldn't have to have the baby.
It sucks... but it is what it is.
Abortion sucks - I do believe there are legitimate reasons for abortions, but if it's just for birth control - forget it.
I mean I knew when I got pregnant at 19 (I was on the BC pill) that I couldn't give my baby up for adoption and that abortion made me sick to my stomach. But at the same time I have a very supportive family so I wasn't forced into a situation where I would have had to make a decision that was against my ultimate wishes. Therefore, I try not to judge how other women handle unexpected pregnancies.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:ad6dcb96-d470-482e-a1e7-772d2f333ffd">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : Its okay I still love you. I just don't think adoption is always an easy or better answer than abortion. I don't like abortion at all but I also don't like the government telling me what to do with my body. In all honesty I don't like anyone telling me what to do.....that tends to make me bitchy and contrary. Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
i guess i have enough friends that are adopted that i REALLY support it.
oh, i don't think the government should tell people why they should or shouldn't get an abortion. don't get me wrong. i just think more women need to be responsible and not use abortion as an easy out. i do know multiple people who have done this and it makes me sad. especially because over half of them severely regretted it down the road. to the point where they had to go through serious therapy years later. i think abortion is "sold" as an easier solution than it really is and women aren't adequately informed about the process beforehand. that was the problem with all of my acquaintances who regretted it down the road; they didn't understand the process at the time and when they realized what they did they were horrified. i was a bit more cavalier about my opinions on abortion until i witnessed the emotional breakdowns of my friends who went through with abortions.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:0145bc43-f726-4ed5-8656-e089686347da">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]I hope I didn't offend you aprove. I do think that condoms breaking, and BC pills failing are NOT the same as carelessness. I guess that was the point I was trying to drive home. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
Nope you didn't no worries!! I asked because I was curious about making sure I was reading what you were writing/implying correctly.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:4d103d6d-8df0-4b96-80fc-c64dca648a78">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : i guess i have enough friends that are adopted that i REALLY support it. oh, i don't think the government should tell people why they should or shouldn't get an abortion. don't get me wrong. i just think more women need to be responsible and not use abortion as an easy out. i do know multiple people who have done this and it makes me sad. especially because over half of them severely regretted it down the road. to the point where they had to go through serious therapy years later. i think abortion is "sold" as an easier solution than it really is and women aren't adequately informed about the process beforehand. that was the problem with all of my acquaintances who regretted it down the road; they didn't understand the process at the time and when they realized what they did they were horrified. i was a bit more cavalier about my opinions on abortion until i witnessed the emotional breakdowns of my friends who went through with abortions. Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
This is all very true. As long as the government isn't stopping women I'm okay. I also think better education is needed for both adoption and abortion.
When I got pregnant abortion was offered as the easier alternative. I just couldn't do it.
I also think looking back I'm more sensitive on the topic because I ended up miscarrying at 4 months and I felt like my choices and my decisions were taken away.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:20c128d4-5a0f-461a-acb3-353140ef8d54">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]I also think looking back I'm more sensitive on the topic because I ended up miscarrying at 4 months and I felt like my choices and my decisions were taken away. Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:20c128d4-5a0f-461a-acb3-353140ef8d54">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]I also think looking back I'm more sensitive on the topic because I ended up miscarrying at 4 months and I felt like my choices and my decisions were taken away. Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
that's so hard. :( i'm sorry that you had to go through that. my heart hurts for any woman who has to go through miscarriages, abortions, or carrying an unwanted baby to term just to give it up for adoption. i know it's heart-wrenching and i'm happy my bc has never failed. i'm just now getting to the point in my life where i feel like i could handle a baby.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:eeb5b0b0-dbf9-4a7d-b9ba-5a48bef54b05">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : :( I'm sorry about that. Doesn't seem fair. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I'm okay now. FI and I went to counseling because we were just angry that we'd made a decision.....one we thought was an awesome choice and it didn't matter. To be honest its why I'm very nervous when we TTC.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:1e4e0f99-0dc8-4798-8da9-728d2848ba2c">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : that's so hard. :( i'm sorry that you had to go through that. my heart hurts for any woman who has to go through miscarriages, abortions, or carrying an unwanted baby to term just to give it up for adoption. i know it's heart-wrenching and i'm happy my bc has never failed. i'm just now getting to the point in my life where i feel like i could handle a baby. Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
I cannot wait for you to have a baby. He or she will be so adorable!!!! Is it weird that I hope your offspring get your pretty hair?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:7ad74d96-b8e0-42dd-81b5-b3d4edd188e1">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : I cannot wait for you to have a baby. He or she will be so adorable!!!! Is it weird that I hope your offspring get your pretty hair? Yes yes I know that sounds stalkerish. Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
is it weird that you just made my night? :)
we're thinking about trying next year. there's a good chance i have endometriosis and that i'll have problems conceiving. i'm worried about that. my sister probably has it too and has been trying for almost a year. she is going through testing soon so i'll learn a lot about my body depending on what her results are. anyway, i want to get back down to my wedding weight before we start trying, so i am working out and eating really clean right now! 6-ish lbs to go. :)
I'll admit the first time I read about the friend who wanted to wait until they lost weight I thought "Well that's a smart thing to do. That eliminates a lot of health risks for mom and baby!" Then I realized you meant she had an abortion because she wanted to wait and it made me really sad
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:e5df5158-e0b2-4966-8a42-a10932059657">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : is it weird that you just made my night? :) we're thinking about trying next year. there's a good chance i have endometriosis and that i'll have problems conceiving. i'm worried about that. my sister probably has it too and has been trying for almost a year. she is going through testing soon so i'll learn a lot about my body depending on what her results are. anyway, i want to get back down to my wedding weight before we start trying, so i am working out and eating really clean right now! 6-ish lbs to go. :) Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
I hope your sister's testing goes well and in turn that yours does too. I already know my hips tilt the wrong way (what the fucck?) so vaginal delivery probably won't be a viable option for me. Tim and I are thinking of trying next fall/winter. Assuming I lose more weight and am comfortable again with my body and where law school has me.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:afa9dfc7-bb94-43f8-aad7-4a9cc6d42134">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]I'll admit the first time I read about the friend who wanted to wait until they lost weight I thought "Well that's a smart thing to do. That eliminates a lot of health risks for mom and baby!" Then I realized you meant she had an abortion because she wanted to wait and it made me really sad :( This is a very strange thread. Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
See! Glad I wasn't the only one who read it that way.
This thread is fun yet strange. No one has mentioned dildos yet. Where did Cew go?
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:85e760fc-bd4e-4895-9f0c-71478a562e7d">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : See! Glad I wasn't the only one who read it that way. This thread is fun yet strange. <strong>No one has mentioned dildos yet.</strong> Where did Cew go? Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
Boom, there ya did.
Long thread is long. It's kept me entertained most of today!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_ask-knottie-anything-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:a448b16f-efda-4fd0-8448-185a8d391181Post:99f2a6d8-4f4b-4725-97be-4639e36236d1">Re: Ask a knottie anything</a>: [QUOTE]I was really confused for a few posts why people were so angry/upset about it until I realized what the real statement was. Screw TB, we need to make our own SB TTC board lol. Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
Yes please. I've only ventured to the Bump a few times and was horrified. I don't want to join there when I'm TTC. I'll be staying here with you girls.
I have a friend that got pregnant 3 different times when 3 different forms of birth control failed her. Apparently she is extremely fertile. I don't remember exactly what happened but I do know she has never given birth and has no children. I refuse to judge her for that because she was clearly trying to be responsible and kept trying different forms of BC to find one that worked for her.
PS, this was also in the 80's, I believe, and some of the forms of BC we have available now were not available back then.
I want to TTC after the new year. I think we should enjoy the holidays as a married couple but I don't want to wait too long, either, because I'm already 33 and we would like more than one child.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : You don't think thats a justified reason for having an abortion??
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
i don't, kate. i had a feeling you and i differed on our opinions of this. i'm disappointed that so many women choose abortion over adoption when both the mom and baby are perfectly healthy.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : You don't think thats a justified reason for having an abortion??
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
If you're running around having unprotected sex and oops, get pregnant, no, I don't think its justified.
It doesn't mean I'm going to tell someone who does it that they shouldn't do it. None of my business. It's just what I think.
There are lots of reasons to get abortions. Rape, incest, health reasons - I can even see a married couple who has a ton of kids and just can't afford it, if they slip up - then yeah. But chronic irresponsibility? No.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : Oh, I know very few people are using it as a BC method. I mean, there are some freaks out there who do as AATB noted, but man who would put themselves through all that. What has amazed me over the years is hearing stuff like <font color="#993366">"we want another baby, but not until I lose some more weight" </font>(yup, someone I knew really had that as a reason). I was sort of speachless. She was not using it as BC, her BC had failed but... Wow.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
I don't understand how thats a bad reason to wait to have a baby. At the weight I'm at right now it would put both me and any possible baby in danger if I was pregnant. I plan on losing about 60lbs before even considering pregnancy.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : What has amazed me over the years is hearing stuff like "we want another baby, but not until I lose some more weight" (yup, someone I knew really had that as a reason). I was sort of speachless. She was not using it as BC, her BC had failed but... Wow.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
that was her reason for an abortion? omg.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : If you're running around having unprotected sex and oops, get pregnant, no, I don't think its justified. It doesn't mean I'm going to tell someone who does it that they shouldn't do it. None of my business. It's just what I think. There are lots of reasons to get abortions. Rape, incest, health reasons - I can even see a married couple who has a ton of kids and just can't afford it, if they slip up - then yeah. But chronic irresponsibility? No.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I guess I can see this but I don't know how anyone would know the difference between people who were chronically irresponsible and someone who had bad luck.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : Oh, I know very few people are using it as a BC method. I mean, there are some freaks out there who do as AATB noted, but man who would put themselves through all that. What has amazed me over the years is hearing stuff like<strong> "we want another baby, but not until I lose some more weight"</strong> (yup, someone I knew really had that as a reason). I was sort of speachless. She was not using it as BC, her BC had failed but... Wow.
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
Wait, that was someone's reason for an abortion? OMG. and WTF?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : i don't, kate. i had a feeling you and i differed on our opinions of this. i'm disappointed that so many women choose abortion over adoption when both the mom and baby are perfectly healthy.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
Its okay I still love you.
I just don't think adoption is always an easy or better answer than abortion. I don't like abortion at all but I also don't like the government telling me what to do with my body. In all honesty I don't like anyone telling me what to do.....that tends to make me bitchy and contrary.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : that was her reason for an abortion? omg.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
OOps I think I read that wrong. Not wanting to gain weight is an AWFUL reason for an abortion. I think I just puked in my mouth.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : I don't understand how thats a bad reason to wait to have a baby. At the weight I'm at right now it would put both me and any possible baby in danger if I was pregnant. I plan on losing about 60lbs before even considering pregnancy.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
I do not think it is a bad reason to wait to have a baby, i think it is a bad reason to have an abortion which is just what she did.
Hey, I will defend her legal right to have an abortion for whatever reason she likes, but morally she is on her own so far as I am concerned.
A good frind of mine had two babies, four years apart when she weighed over 300 pounds. They are both healthy and now since gastric bypass so is she.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : I guess I can see this but I don't know how anyone would know the difference between people who were chronically irresponsible and someone who had bad luck.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
That's the whole problem and probably why the abortion debate is so heated all the time.
I mean, for example, if I was a shameless whore (and asshole) and got knocked up - I could make up a sob story about getting raped to justify my abortion, and the women's shelter would believe me and I wouldn't have to have the baby.
It sucks... but it is what it is.
Abortion sucks - I do believe there are legitimate reasons for abortions, but if it's just for birth control - forget it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : Its okay I still love you. I just don't think adoption is always an easy or better answer than abortion. I don't like abortion at all but I also don't like the government telling me what to do with my body. In all honesty I don't like anyone telling me what to do.....that tends to make me bitchy and contrary.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
i guess i have enough friends that are adopted that i REALLY support it.
oh, i don't think the government should tell people why they should or shouldn't get an abortion. don't get me wrong. i just think more women need to be responsible and not use abortion as an easy out. i do know multiple people who have done this and it makes me sad. especially because over half of them severely regretted it down the road. to the point where they had to go through serious therapy years later. i think abortion is "sold" as an easier solution than it really is and women aren't adequately informed about the process beforehand. that was the problem with all of my acquaintances who regretted it down the road; they didn't understand the process at the time and when they realized what they did they were horrified. i was a bit more cavalier about my opinions on abortion until i witnessed the emotional breakdowns of my friends who went through with abortions.
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I do think that condoms breaking, and BC pills failing are NOT the same as carelessness.
I guess that was the point I was trying to drive home.
[QUOTE]I hope I didn't offend you aprove. I do think that condoms breaking, and BC pills failing are NOT the same as carelessness. I guess that was the point I was trying to drive home.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
Nope you didn't no worries!! I asked because I was curious about making sure I was reading what you were writing/implying correctly.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : i guess i have enough friends that are adopted that i REALLY support it. oh, i don't think the government should tell people why they should or shouldn't get an abortion. don't get me wrong. i just think more women need to be responsible and not use abortion as an easy out. i do know multiple people who have done this and it makes me sad. especially because over half of them severely regretted it down the road. to the point where they had to go through serious therapy years later. i think abortion is "sold" as an easier solution than it really is and women aren't adequately informed about the process beforehand. that was the problem with all of my acquaintances who regretted it down the road; they didn't understand the process at the time and when they realized what they did they were horrified. i was a bit more cavalier about my opinions on abortion until i witnessed the emotional breakdowns of my friends who went through with abortions.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
This is all very true. As long as the government isn't stopping women I'm okay. I also think better education is needed for both adoption and abortion.
When I got pregnant abortion was offered as the easier alternative. I just couldn't do it.
I also think looking back I'm more sensitive on the topic because I ended up miscarrying at 4 months and I felt like my choices and my decisions were taken away.
[QUOTE]I also think looking back I'm more sensitive on the topic because I ended up miscarrying at 4 months and I felt like my choices and my decisions were taken away.
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:( I'm sorry about that. Doesn't seem fair.
[QUOTE]I also think looking back I'm more sensitive on the topic because I ended up miscarrying at 4 months and I felt like my choices and my decisions were taken away.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
that's so hard. :( i'm sorry that you had to go through that. my heart hurts for any woman who has to go through miscarriages, abortions, or carrying an unwanted baby to term just to give it up for adoption. i know it's heart-wrenching and i'm happy my bc has never failed. i'm just now getting to the point in my life where i feel like i could handle a baby.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : :( I'm sorry about that. Doesn't seem fair.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
I'm okay now. FI and I went to counseling because we were just angry that we'd made a decision.....one we thought was an awesome choice and it didn't matter. To be honest its why I'm very nervous when we TTC.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : that's so hard. :( i'm sorry that you had to go through that. my heart hurts for any woman who has to go through miscarriages, abortions, or carrying an unwanted baby to term just to give it up for adoption. i know it's heart-wrenching and i'm happy my bc has never failed. i'm just now getting to the point in my life where i feel like i could handle a baby.
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I cannot wait for you to have a baby. He or she will be so adorable!!!! Is it weird that I hope your offspring get your pretty hair?
Yes yes I know that sounds stalkerish.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : I cannot wait for you to have a baby. He or she will be so adorable!!!! Is it weird that I hope your offspring get your pretty hair? Yes yes I know that sounds stalkerish.
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
is it weird that you just made my night? :)
we're thinking about trying next year. there's a good chance i have endometriosis and that i'll have problems conceiving. i'm worried about that. my sister probably has it too and has been trying for almost a year. she is going through testing soon so i'll learn a lot about my body depending on what her results are. anyway, i want to get back down to my wedding weight before we start trying, so i am working out and eating really clean right now! 6-ish lbs to go. :)
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : is it weird that you just made my night? :) we're thinking about trying next year. there's a good chance i have endometriosis and that i'll have problems conceiving. i'm worried about that. my sister probably has it too and has been trying for almost a year. she is going through testing soon so i'll learn a lot about my body depending on what her results are. anyway, i want to get back down to my wedding weight before we start trying, so i am working out and eating really clean right now! 6-ish lbs to go. :)
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
I hope your sister's testing goes well and in turn that yours does too. I already know my hips tilt the wrong way (what the fucck?) so vaginal delivery probably won't be a viable option for me. Tim and I are thinking of trying next fall/winter. Assuming I lose more weight and am comfortable again with my body and where law school has me.
I'm sure those 6lbs will be gone in no time!
[QUOTE]I'll admit the first time I read about the friend who wanted to wait until they lost weight I thought "Well that's a smart thing to do. That eliminates a lot of health risks for mom and baby!" Then I realized you meant she had an abortion because she wanted to wait and it made me really sad :( This is a very strange thread.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
See! Glad I wasn't the only one who read it that way.
This thread is fun yet strange. No one has mentioned dildos yet. Where did Cew go?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a knottie anything : See! Glad I wasn't the only one who read it that way. This thread is fun yet strange. <strong>No one has mentioned dildos yet.</strong> Where did Cew go?
Posted by aprovencher21[/QUOTE]
Boom, there ya did.
Long thread is long. It's kept me entertained most of today!
Screw TB, we need to make our own SB TTC board lol.
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[QUOTE]I was really confused for a few posts why people were so angry/upset about it until I realized what the real statement was. Screw TB, we need to make our own SB TTC board lol.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
Yes please. I've only ventured to the Bump a few times and was horrified. I don't want to join there when I'm TTC. I'll be staying here with you girls.
PS, this was also in the 80's, I believe, and some of the forms of BC we have available now were not available back then.
I want to TTC after the new year. I think we should enjoy the holidays as a married couple but I don't want to wait too long, either, because I'm already 33 and we would like more than one child.