Tell me something

SarahPLiz · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Sarah, I also want to know if you knew about the wife. I'm going to assume you did from how you talk about it. If you knew ... how did being the other woman feel? If you didn't, how did you find out?
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
1- It felt like shiit. I was always trying to be good enough for him to leave her, but I never was. I ended up not being myself, and a good friend I hadn't seen in a while snapped me out of it and made me realize that HE needed to be good enough for me too.

2- I don't remember exactly, because it was so long ago, but I think she found my number on her pager and called me. The first time we met was after I moved to Austin and she came to talk to me before she would let their daughter stay with us overnight. (smart lady). At that time, she connected the dots that I was the person from years before that. It was very awkward, but since then we have reconciled and are on good terms. I think it has been easier for her because she knows I love her daughter. She even told me that she knew I stayed with him for so long because of their little girl, and she was glad that I was moving on because I deserved much better. She was really excited for me when I got engaged. I know, its a weird dynamic.

deepcovejackie · June 2010

Cew--that is a bit of a mystery about Ben. Racking my brains to try and explain it, and coming up with nada. I'm not a pediatrician though...

pixiedust84 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me something : That's amazing. I always admire people who can do this.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Aw thanks! Everyone can do it though we pretend it's harder than it is so we look cool ;-)

[Deleted User] · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Thats strange CEW. Have you researched it at all. BTW did you like that I told a poop secret?
Posted by jamiefour[/QUOTE]

I have researched it a bit. The only info that I have ever found is where this seems to happen to some stroke victims. Something about how during the healing process, the reflexes get switched. I think I remember seeing that they are trying to treat it with a botox type thing. I've yet to find anything that talks about this happening to kids.

And yes, I loved your poop story. I did something very similar the first time that we went to visit Matt's parents. They have thin walls and no locks on their bathrooms. No poopy for me that weekend.

SarahPLiz · June 2010

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[QUOTE]So, here's something kind of interesting. It's more about Ben than me. He's never cried tears when he's mad or sad. When he was little we just assumed that he never got upset enough to produce actual tears, but we realized that's silly. The funny thing is that his eyes water (like he's crying) when he eats. It's so bad that he has to have a special napkin for his eyes. And then when he's really upset, he'll drool really bad. I've been asking his dr. about it for years, but she has no idea. I sometimes wonder if somehow his tear reflexes and his salivation reflexes are switched because he drools when he's upset and he cries when he eats.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

That is so weird. I once asked the Dr why my nose runs when I eat, and he told me that it had to do with salivation as well.

Or maybe he just really doesn't like your cooking ;)

ETA: I hate to leave this discussion, but I must drive home or FI will come looking for me!

sarahmk5 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me something : Best. Thing. Ever.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks :). There's a stream that I always used to go fishing in with my dad, but for all the years, we only ever caught one fish. (I named it Tony, and then through it back.) FI went fishing recently, and caught 4! My dad was really excited.</div>

kd.joseph · June 2010

Well I wasnt that interesting. I was a clown named "Buffy" when I was younger.And I will get a picture from my Mom next time I'm home just for you Cew.

I had a pony named "Peanut Butter"

And I am the baby of nine, but I'm and only child.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

When I grow up, I want to be Sarah as a kid.

Nebb · June 2010

I was a giant slut in highschool/college. I dont regret it either, it was fun.

pixiedust84 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Well I wasnt that interesting. I was a clown named "Buffy" when I was younger.And I will get a picture from my Mom next time I'm home just for you Cew. I had a pony named "Peanut Butter" And I am the baby of nine, but I'm and only child.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I don't get it! Is this one of those riddles?

kd.joseph · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me something : I don't get it! Is this one of those riddles?
Posted by pixiedust84[/QUOTE]

Yes,I used to use it on dates to see how smart the guy I was dating was.

My father had 4 children,my Mom had 4. They got married and had me.
Actually I would tell them "Mom had 5 kids, and Dad had 5 kids....but there are 9 of us"

Blueyed228 · June 2010

Do we get more than one?

My ex (from college) married the girl he cheated on me with. I knew her pretty well and she knew how much I loved him. I slept with him after he got married just to let her know how it felt.

In retrospect I know it was wicked wrong. But I dont feel bad about it.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Well I wasnt that interesting. I was a clown named "Buffy" when I was younger.And I will get a picture from my Mom next time I'm home just for you Cew. I had a pony named "Peanut Butter" And I am the baby of nine, but I'm and only child.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Oh! I can't wait to see Buffy. Were you one of those cute girly clowns or were you scary?

And are you the baby of your cousins?

megk8oz · June 2010

I'm still not sure if I was "the other woman" or not with my ex. It's really weird.

When I met him, he had this ex, that he kept telling me was crazy and threatened to commit suicide if he wouldn't "stay friends" with her, so he would call her once a week to "check in" with her. I figured since he was "upfront" about it, I didn't really like it, but at least he'd been honest.

She was his ex when we got together ... but after we started getting serious he would cheat on me constantly with her. But I was the one that he took everywhere and did everything with. I guess I was the "real" girlfriend, since I'm the one he brought to Christmas with the family every year? Anyway.

He proposed on Christmas, the other girl's birthday was the first week of January (Her and my ex shared a birthday). He kept trying to pick fights with me almost immediately after the ring was on my finger, goading me to "give the ring back". It turned out, he wanted to propose to the other girl on their birthday. And eventually, he planned to goad her into giving it back so he could give it back to me, and so on.

The moment that came out I finally snapped and dumped his ass. But had the good sense to keep the ring.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I was a giant slut in highschool/college. I dont regret it either, it was fun.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I don't either. I'll never forget that amazing blow job you gave me back in 99.

tidetravel · June 2010

CEW - YGPM.

pixiedust84 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me something : Yes,I used to use it on dates to see how smart the guy I was dating was. My father had 4 children,my Mom had 4. They got married and had me. Actually I would tell them "Mom had 5 kids, and Dad had 5 kids....but there are 9 of us"
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

Ahhh I was guessing a biological/adopted situation. This makes sense!

katiepoppy · June 2010

Meg that is a crazy story. I bet it was NOT fun to experience though.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Ben doesn't have a father. Well, he does, but he's never met him and he's not on the birth certificate. It was hard as hell until I met Matt, but I would not trade it for the world. I'm glad that miserable shiit knocked me up because I got an amazing little man and I don't have to deal with the bullshit that comes along with dealing with sharing a child with an ex.

sarahmk5 · June 2010

I'll AW my farm.

kd.joseph · June 2010

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[QUOTE]CEW - YGPM.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Tide how are you doing? I've been thinking about you since your post the other day.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

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[QUOTE]CEW - YGPM.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Thank you so much. My computer is being a bitch, so I had to send you an new PM to respond.

tidetravel · June 2010

KD - I'm doing a lot better. Thanks for thinking of me! I think I was just in a depressed rut (I figured it would probably happen around week 3). Everything seems to have normalized; BM supply is back, Keno is a little better, DH is making sure to skype with me more, and we have a finalized plan for him to come down, so now I have something to look forward to. 3 weeks down - 7 to go!

megk8oz · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Meg that is a crazy story. I bet it was NOT fun to experience though.
Posted by katiepoppy[/QUOTE]

That relationship was pretty awful. I often compare it to being in a cult. I had terrible self-esteem, and my ex was incredibly manipulative, so even when he was being abusive, I constantly felt like it was something I deserved ... like if I was a better girlfriend, he wouldn't need another woman, he wouldn't need to hurt me in bed, he wouldn't be so angry all the time. I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that I was fine, he was the screwed up one. We were togther roughly 3 years, and I had tried leaving several times since seriously 2 months into it. But I just kept taking him back every time he begged or promised to be nice, and "everything will be different this time, I swear".

But it was a learning experience. For the most part I have a sense of humor and frankness about the whole situation now, and I know that if things didn't go the way they did I never would have ended up with DH. So I try to see the glass as half full.

kd.joseph · June 2010

I honestly couldnt imagine being away from my son when he was that small,but I understand what you're doing and I applaud you.

My son is 20, and when I moved away I cried for 2 weeks. So I get it.

tidetravel · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I honestly couldnt imagine being away from my son when he was that small,but I understand what you're doing and I applaud you. My son is 20, and when I moved away I cried for 2 weeks. So I get it.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
I refuse to believe that you have a 20 year old son. Unless you got pregnant at 12.

kd.joseph · June 2010

Well ladies it's been nice. My DH says dinner is almost ready.

Good night.

katiepoppy · June 2010

Thank goodness you got out of it when you did. We are all stronger than we think. And it is great that you can be honest with your H about it. Definitely glass half full.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I honestly couldnt imagine being away from my son when he was that small,but I understand what you're doing and I applaud you. My son is 20, and when I moved away I cried for 2 weeks. So I get it.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I agree with this 100%. I can't tell you how awesome I think you are for being so strong.

And here's a funny story, when Ben was first born, he was very small (4.5 lbs), so we had to start feeding him formula right away and my milk just never came in. I would pump and pump with nothing. I just remember sitting on the bed and crying like a baby because all I could think about was that if I were a caveman, my baby would die. Totally irrational. I was crazy for the first week after he was born.

kd.joseph · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me something : I refuse to believe that you have a 20 year old son. Unless you got pregnant at 12.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Oh arent you sweet, thanks.But I'll be 44 on Monday.

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