Saturday Night

ArynBaker · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_saturday-night-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6451e9f2-9cad-4283-81b5-a1b49bf87290Post:c392ffba-475d-41ea-95b8-89f4b15f3650">Re: Saturday Night</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG! H would never let me, but that would be unbelievable!
Posted by HockeyFan4[/QUOTE]

<div>What about for the nights he's already had too much chocolate or he's out of town? Personally, I'm a fan of the middle of brownies so that pan is not for me. </div>

HockeyFan4 · April 2012

I guess I shouldn't have put he wouldn't "let" me.. most of the time we have our own foods because of his dairy allergies...so the brownies are the one thing he can eat...and he is never out of town.

J&K10910 · April 2012

I wish my H went out of town sometimes.

ceh789 · April 2012

FI goes out of town for a whole week tomorrow and I feel terribly guilty for how excited I am. A whole week of sleeping in the middle of the bed, owning the remote and eating whateverthehell I want for dinner... or even not making dinner and just eating junk. Heaven.

HockeyFan4 · April 2012

neither of us are ever out of town. There is one weekend a year I usually go to a work conference on the Cape....I missed it this year because of a wedding we went to...I kind of miss my weekend away hahaha

onloveonlife · April 2012

Hey guys. We're watching that Justin timberlake movie In Time. Possibly the weirdest movie ever. My computer died today : I have an appointment with the apple store tomorrow and I'm going to cry if they have to clear my hard drive.

PetalPockets2012 · April 2012

Thursday nights are usually my night alone. FI is at bowling so I have the house to myself. We used to meet for dinner on Thursdays and then I would go watch his team bowl. That was when I still had my own place. Now I cherish my alone time.

ArynBaker · April 2012

FI never goes out of town either but we're on opposite schedules so we both get plenty of "me" time. Actually, in the past 48 hours I've only seen FI while we were both awake for a combined 60 minutes.

And I didn't even think twice about your usage of the word 'let'. I was just trying to come up with times where you could use the pan without your H feeling left out.

amys325 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_saturday-night-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6451e9f2-9cad-4283-81b5-a1b49bf87290Post:b15e9032-d706-4503-baff-ccef4bb1f852">Re: Saturday Night</a>:
[QUOTE]FI goes out of town for a whole week tomorrow and I feel terribly guilty for how excited I am. A whole week of sleeping in the middle of the bed, owning the remote and eating whateverthehell I want for dinner... or even not making dinner and just eating junk. Heaven.
Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]

<div>Don't feel guilty. H bowls on Mondays and I look forward to having the evening to myself. I think it's healthy to want some "me" time.</div>

onloveonlife · April 2012

Can someone give me some suggestions for getting FI and me out of this funk. We've only had one good day in the past week and I don't know what to do.

J&K10910 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]Can someone give me some suggestions for getting FI and me out of this funk. We've only had one good day in the past week and I don't know what to do.
Posted by onloveonlife[/QUOTE]

A funk with each other? Or in general?

With each other: a lot of people would suggest making more time for each other, going on dates, etc...for me, I know when I've been irritated with H a lot, those kinds of things get ruined by my bad attitude... what works for me in that case is a weekend away. Do you have a girlfriend you could stay with for a weekend? Go do fun girl things--go out and dance, drink wine and watch chick flicks, whatever. In general, try to cut down on your stress and his stress. Maybe you each need a day each week for a guys night and a girls night. Are there particular things you're unhappy about?

onloveonlife · April 2012

Hes been in a bad mood lately and has been very sarcastic with me and not very nice. We've been fighting a lot of wedding stuff so I'm hoping that will go away after the wedding.

J&K10910 · April 2012

Aw, I'm sorry

I know sometimes when my H is crabby and he gets super sarcastic with me, he doesn't even realize he's hurting my feelings. Have you talked to him about it?

What kind of wedding stuff fights have you been having, if you want to share? Maybe we can help. It's not fun to feel like you're at each other's throats so close to the wedding.

ArynBaker · April 2012

When FI and I are having bad days we go for a walk. Actually, we do this other times too but something about walking together outside makes for good, calm conversations. We can be yelling at each other about who knows what while walking out the door and by the time we get home 20 minutes later we're perfectly happy.

onloveonlife · April 2012

He wouldn't tell me what he wanted the cake to look like. He hates the colors I picked. It took him forever to rent the chairs for the ceremony and to buy his clothes. I'm sorry for complaining. I don't have many people to talk to. I think I'm embarassed about having relationship problems.

MyUserName1 · April 2012

Why don't you two take a day to just do something fun that has NOTHING to do with the wedding and NO wedding talk at all? Maybe take a Saturday and go to Carrowinds? Something that doesn't put pressure on you guys to have a romantic date and converse.

PetalPockets2012 · April 2012

I agree that having my own time helps me when FI and I seem to be cranky. Sometimes you don't realize how much time you are spending with each other.

We also decided shortly after getting engaged to designate certain times to talk about the wedding. I know with it coming up you are probably talking about it a lot. Maybe pick an evening or a time block where you won't discuss anything about the wedding or your relationship but just do something you both enjoy.

Sorry you are having a hard time.

MyUserName1 · April 2012

OR if you need time away from him, we could meet at the outlet mall between us and have some girly shopping time

onloveonlife · April 2012

In Response to Re:Saturday Night:[QUOTE]OR if you need time away from him, we could meet at the outlet mall between us and have some girly shopping time Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

Aw you are so sweet!

J&K10910 · April 2012

Is he just totally over wedding planning? I mean, what does he want? If he can't tell you, you really can't do anything about it. Are you able to eliminate anything that doesn't REALLY need to be done (programs, etc)? That might help cut down on wedding stress for both of you.

MyUserName1 · April 2012

I'm not trying to be sweet, i'm serious! Lemme know if you wanna sometime!

ArynBaker · April 2012

I like Muni's ideas. If you're on a budget you could go to the NC musuems in Raleigh for free.

I don't know if your FI is in school or not but I bet the strees of the last few weeks of school on top of wedding planning is hard on you both.

ceh789 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]We also decided shortly after getting engaged to designate certain times to talk about the wedding. I know with it coming up you are probably talking about it a lot. Maybe pick an evening or a time block where you won't discuss anything about the wedding or your relationship but just do something you both enjoy.
Posted by PetalPockets2012[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>FI and I have instituted this for Saturday lunch. We go to the restaurant he wants and I bring my spreadsheet - each item is introduced with "do you care about...." </div><div>
</div><div>It has made a huge difference in my level of stress over the wedding.</div>

PetalPockets2012 · April 2012

ceh - when are you getting married?

ArynBaker · April 2012

Ceh, that's genius. I wonder if it would help my FI participate more. I've been trying for a month for him to figure out what kind of suit he wants. Not even the exact one, just a store or color or something.

crnflkgirl75 · April 2012

Hi guys! It's official! I became a mrs. yesterday! It was amazing! I'm gonna post a couple photos tomorrow since I can't figure out how to do it from the iPad tonight!

ceh789 · April 2012

<div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_saturday-night-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6451e9f2-9cad-4283-81b5-a1b49bf87290Post:4bce90af-ef8e-424d-9049-b16c0c9e5010">Re: Saturday Night</a>:
[QUOTE]ceh - when are you getting married?
Posted by PetalPockets2012[/QUOTE]
</div><div>
</div><div>May 12! 3 weeks from today zomg (that's me freaking out!)</div><div>
</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_saturday-night-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6451e9f2-9cad-4283-81b5-a1b49bf87290Post:ca6ef266-38df-45ae-b523-c1534da6a2ff">Re: Saturday Night</a>:
[QUOTE]Ceh, that's genius. I wonder if it would help my FI participate more. I've been trying for a month for him to figure out what kind of suit he wants. Not even the exact one, just a store or color or something.
Posted by ArynBaker[/QUOTE]

<div>Try it - it has made a ginormous difference to have an agenda. I think he really jsut didn't 'get' all the decisions that had to be made.</div>

ArynBaker · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_saturday-night-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6451e9f2-9cad-4283-81b5-a1b49bf87290Post:a7f74af7-d114-4e59-a942-01cb6bcbcfe9">Re: Saturday Night</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi guys! It's official! I became a mrs. yesterday! It was amazing! I'm gonna post a couple photos tomorrow since I can't figure out how to do it from the iPad tonight!
Posted by crnflkgirl75[/QUOTE]

<div>Congratulations!!! Can't wait to see the pictures! </div>

PetalPockets2012 · April 2012

Congratulations crnflk! Can't wait to see pictures.

Ceh - You are really close.

I feel like there are a lot of people who are really close. Didn't Holly get married this weekend?

angelstar975 · April 2012

Hi ladies, I'm back. FI is watching stupid stuff on tv. Onlove Don't be embarrassed about having relationship problems. Everyone goes through it. FI and I have had a bad few months and we're just starting to come out of it. I know it's frustrating, but it definitely helped us to just take a few days apart to cool off. We don't live together so it was easy to do, but if you do, maybe you can go home or stay with a friend for a day or two? I'm sorry you're in a funk, I hope it gets better soon.

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