Garter: What Happens?

AllieBear725 · June 2013

For the love of all that is holy, can you please start using it's if you're saying it is? Pet peeve.

For me? I know you won't listen to anything else I say, but just this once.

BangBangs39 · June 2013

@Muppetfan - your honestly one of the few who I don't find thoroughly irritating and contradictory. I have not noticed an excessive amount of childishness from you on this thread. So please disregard any comments as they are most likely not towards you. You were very kind on another thread, and very insightful in this one.

BangBangs39 · June 2013

@Alliebear725 - for you, I will work harder to win the TK grammar police award; BUT only because you asked nicely.

southernbelle0915 · June 2013

BangBangs39 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

I could use a NATTY LIGHT from that cash bar... Honestly, I think MeganBangBang is more worried about standing up for herself and justifying how awesome performing soft core porn in front of her family will be. And further, how excited her guests will be (SHE doesn't consider them in a relationship, so who cares!!) to perform the same.

Honestly, tacky will be tacky. I have some ideas that are on par with your plan MeganBangBang.... When in Rome!!!

You obviously don't actually know what soft core porn is/haven't actually read all the posts. I don't recall saying people would be dry humping each other while moaning. Furthermore, I merely reply to comments made. You make a comment, I reply. I don't need to "defend anything... my family is not worried about it... they think its hilarious which is exactly how its supposed to be taken. Think of my comments as more of an explanation/response.
Read back - I said I don't consider someone in a committed relationship to be SINGLE... please read before attempting to insult.
I'd rather be tacky than have a telephone pole jammed where the sun don't shine
Lastly for the pictures, Do you have any idea how hard it is to do a keg stand in regular clothes? Especially if you've already been drinking? Very, attempting in a wedding dress is a definite no-go. I like the cake I think its funny. Lastly, neither I or anyone close to me has ever been to/worked at hooters so that really wouldn't make sense... A for effort though.
I believe I've asked it before and may or may not have gotten a response - why because YOU don't like something can't I? Why because something makes YOU uncomfortable should it make ME? Why do you feel the need where if someone disagrees with you and provides reasonable back up - do YOU feel its ok to attempt to insult that person? Are you that needy for attention and to be right that you can't accept that most things in life are not one size fits all?

To the bolded:

#1 - what YOU consider single doesn't matter... that's the point. It's what the people participating consider single. You seem to have a "one size fits all" "everyone thinks like me" attitude about a LOT of things

#2 - I do not understand this comment. At all. And I really don't even want to.

#3 - take your own advice and "read back" - I was nice to you in the beginning saying if you wanted to do it, do it, but don't make anyone else do it. Remember? YOU can think it's fun, YOU can want to do it, YOU love it, but what's not getting through to you is that YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE OTHER PEOPLE DO THIS AT YOUR WEDDING. The exact point you're trying to make here is the one that's getting lost on you - not everyone thinks like you. Not everyone wants the same things you want. Not everyone is comfortable with the things you're comfortable with. Yet your sole argument is "I asked EVERYONE on my guest list (still not buying it) and they're OK with it and if they weren't and said they were to make me happy on my wedding day, then it's their own fault for not having the balls to speak up." Are you really that naive that people might be uncomfortable telling you your wedding plans sound like a complete train wreck?

#4 - No, I'm not that needy for attention, but A for effort. I'm not the one busting into the spot light with my husbands face inside my dress and coming out with my lingerie in his teeth. If anything I think we know who's AWing here....

You can't feel this strongly about advocating for the garter toss. Because that's just ridiculous.

manateehugger · June 2013

BangBangs39 said:
@PDKH - Truth#1 - that I've discussed with my family & friends
Truth#2 - I don't find the version of garter to be awkward/tacky/classless
Truth#3 - That its meant to be funny
Truth#4 - My friends/family are "impolite" enough to tell me what they really think
@Liatris2010 - I wasn't referencing your comments.

PrettyGirlLost · June 2013

Someone please "@" me, I feel left out.

AllieBear725 · June 2013

Liatris2010, will you grope my leg when you put the garter on me? PLEASE RESPOND

BangBangs39 · June 2013

@southernbelle0915 - if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and someone says "HEY SINGLE PEOPLE COME HINDER" and you get up and go... I'd be pissed before the toss/bouquet even started if I was that persons SO

"YOU can think it's fun, YOU can want to do it, YOU love it, but what's not getting through to you is that YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE OTHER PEOPLE DO THIS AT YOUR WEDDING. The exact point you're trying to make here is the one that's getting lost on you - not everyone thinks like you."

Which is why I said that if they don't want to do it - they don't have to. Why s that point getting lost for you. Obv. not everyone thinks like me, perfect example, this thread. However, If you don't like something, Don't do it. If you think something is weird, when asked about it, Speak up. How is that hard to understand? I asked, I got answers, We're doing it.

Lastly for you, the garter toss the way I'm doing it is tradition where I'm from, so No one is going to be like "Oh hell that attention grabby ho is just doing this for the attention, sheesh"

@PDKH - Its not an opinion man... its like the truth - because the truth is, I asked everyone, and the truth is like its funny, and the truth is I don't think its tacky (that one man is like half & half), and the truth is, we're pretty outspoken so like if someone didn't like what was going down, they'd be like, Hey man, no, just no.

MuppetFan · June 2013

BangBangs39 said:

@Muppetfan - your honestly one of the few who I don't find thoroughly irritating and contradictory. I have not noticed an excessive amount of childishness from you on this thread. So please disregard any comments as they are most likely not towards you. You were very kind on another thread, and very insightful in this one.

Sweet. I am insightful!

manateehugger · June 2013

Liatris2010 said:
@AllieBear725, your leg isn't all I'll grope. Scotch makes me frisky and I'll be enboldened by @PrettyGirlLost's approval of my upskirt hijinx.

How did I miss the scotch?! I fucking adore scotch!!

AllieBear725 · June 2013

BangBangs39 said:

@southernbelle0915 - if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and someone says "HEY SINGLE PEOPLE COME HINDER" and you get up and go... I'd be pissed before the toss/bouquet even started if I was that persons SO
"YOU can think it's fun, YOU can want to do it, YOU love it, but what's not getting through to you is that YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE OTHER PEOPLE DO THIS AT YOUR WEDDING. The exact point you're trying to make here is the one that's getting lost on you - not everyone thinks like you."
Which is why I said that if they don't want to do it - they don't have to. Why s that point getting lost for you. Obv. not everyone thinks like me, perfect example, this thread. However, If you don't like something, Don't do it. If you think something is weird, when asked about it, Speak up. How is that hard to understand? I asked, I got answers, We're doing it.
Lastly for you, the garter toss the way I'm doing it is tradition where I'm from, so No one is going to be like "Oh hell that attention grabby ho is just doing this for the attention, sheesh"
@PDKH - It's not an opinion man... it's like the truth - because the truth is, I asked everyone, and the truth is like it's funny, and the truth is I don't think it's tacky (that one man is like half & half), and the truth is, we're pretty outspoken so like if someone didn't like what was going down, they'd be like, Hey man, no, just no.

I'm very disappointed.

BangBangs39 · June 2013

AllieBear725 said:
I'm very disappointed.

It doesn't count - that was my stoner persona brought on by PDKH's picture using "man" in it... stoners don't use grammar.

I'll try hard next time - I promise it's not over!

AllieBear725 · June 2013

I see what you did there.

manateehugger · June 2013

Liatris2010 said:

@PDKH said:

Liatris2010 said:
@AllieBear725, your leg isn't all I'll grope. Scotch makes me frisky and I'll be enboldened by @PrettyGirlLost's approval of my upskirt hijinx.
How did I miss the scotch?! I fucking adore scotch!!

Well, it's up a skirt, so you have to go looking for it.

Well we're at Meghan's wedding right?! Let's do it.

MuppetFan · June 2013

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BangBangs39 said:

"YOU can think it's fun, YOU can want to do it, YOU love it, but what's not getting through to you is that YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE OTHER PEOPLE DO THIS AT YOUR WEDDING. The exact point you're trying to make here is the one that's getting lost on you - not everyone thinks like you."
Lastly for you, the garter toss the way I'm doing it is tradition where I'm from, so No one is going to be like "Oh hell that attention grabby ho is just doing this for the attention, sheesh"

To the first - you are right. You can do what you want and you will. At the beginning of this thread, people were sincere in trying to show you why they think it's a bad idea. You could just accept that as advice you don't want to follow, but you keep coming back with defenses about it and people are just going to keep telling you it's a bad idea. Clearly, there is no logic in this case to get either party to change their mind on it.

To the second, Are you from MA or NH? Also, are you used to Cash Bars? And do they bother you? Totally irrelevant to this thread. Relevant to a crazy curiosity I now have about whether cash bars really are a New England thing...and where in New England because CT does not seem to apply to that...at. all.

manateehugger · June 2013

BangBangs39 said:

AllieBear725 said:

I'm very disappointed.

It doesn't count - that was my stoner persona brought on by PDKH's picture using "man" in it... stoners don't use grammar.

I'll try hard next time - I promise it's not over!

Umm have you ever met a stoner?

More importantly, have you ever seen The Big Lebowski?

BangBangs39 · June 2013

@LeSwan85 - "Yes, poor you, just responding to stuff. You totally didn't outright say that everyone who disagrees with you is an uptight prude and/or possibly mentally ill and/or immature and you DEFINITELY didn't say that people who get sexually assaulted or harassed have only themselves to blame for the reprehensible actions of others."

I have never said anything w/o being provoked by rude comments. Read my very first post on this thread. As for the bolded part - I most definitely did not ever say anything of the such - please find that comment for me.

I apologize for not answering your question, you had answered it yourself so I thought it was more rhetorical. I don't think it's any better. Just merely point something out.

As for my personal responsibility opinion - I stand by it. It is up to you to determine what you want to do, how you respond when asked something, so on and so forth. How is it, that you can justify blaming another person for your actions, or lack there of? I do not accept that notion, and never will. You are responsible for your actions - no one else, ever. If you lie - its on you. It is meant to be funny... and I will laugh... and if someone doesn't because they were uncomfortable with it and lied to my face when asked... then you are correct, fuck them because I do not like liars of any sort.

BangBangs39 · June 2013

@Muppetfan - I am in MA - Cash bars are most definitely the norm and no they do not bother me because I'm use to it.

@PDKH - I actually have a stoner friend who talks just like that - he was the voice in my head while I was typing... I chuckled afterwards and considered calling him. I have seen the movie, just not in a very long time - but I bet it's on Netflix so I will re-watch tonight!

Peledreamsofrain · June 2013

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southernbelle0915 · June 2013

You know what I'm waiting for? When MeghanBangBangs has her wedding and the person who catches the bouquet (maybe a +1 of a guest....but she talked to EVERYONE) gets the spotlight put on them. She decides she doesn't want to have MeghanBangBangs used lingerie placed on her body by someone with whom she is not intimate. Everyone is jeering and MeghanBangBangs says "I talked to you about this and you said it was ok. Are you a liar? Fuck you!" So the catcher takes the floor. She uncomfortably allows the "tradition" because of the crowd egging it on and the bride calling her a liar. Afterwards she runs to the bathroom and cries because she feels objectified and violated. Then MeghanBangBangs comes in and says "um, personal responsibility... You are responsible for your actions, no one else...ever."

Wedding success!!!

NYCBruin · June 2013

While most of this thread was extremely entertaining, the "blame the victim" attitude from BangBang was appalling. Thanks @LeSwan85 for expressing outrage over this and explaining so well why this attitude is so fucked up!

Peledreamsofrain · June 2013

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Dreamergirl8812 · June 2013

What are the chances OP is still here?

TKzilla · June 2013

PrettyGirlLost said:

CourtaniaLynn said:

Repeatedly referring to other posters as immature and/or insane is insulting and ableist.

Ok you got me there. . . I need a dictionary, huh?

Ableism is discrimination and/or social prejudice against people with disabilities, both physical and mental. Calling someone "gimpy" or "crippled" as an insult is ableist, just as calling someone "insane" or "retarded" is ableist. Discrimination against people with mental disabilities is sometimes called "mentalism" but I prefer to use ableism.

PrettyGirlLost · June 2013

CourtaniaLynn said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

CourtaniaLynn said:

Repeatedly referring to other posters as immature and/or insane is insulting and ableist.

Ok you got me there. . . I need a dictionary, huh?

Ableism is discrimination and/or social prejudice against people with disabilities, both physical and mental. Calling someone "gimpy" or "crippled" as an insult is ableist, just as calling someone "insane" or "retarded" is ableist. Discrimination against people with mental disabilities is sometimes called "mentalism" but I prefer to use ableism.

Thanks!

BangBangs39 · June 2013

southernbelle0915 said:

You know what I'm waiting for? When MeghanBangBangs has her wedding and the person who catches the bouquet (maybe a +1 of a guest....but she talked to EVERYONE) gets the spotlight put on them. She decides she doesn't want to have MeghanBangBangs used lingerie placed on her body by someone with whom she is not intimate. Everyone is jeering and MeghanBangBangs says "I talked to you about this and you said it was ok. Are you a liar? Fuck you!" So the catcher takes the floor. She uncomfortably allows the "tradition" because of the crowd egging it on and the bride calling her a liar. Afterwards she runs to the bathroom and cries because she feels objectified and violated. Then MeghanBangBangs comes in and says "um, personal responsibility... You are responsible for your actions, no one else...ever." Wedding success!!!

1. considering there is little time left - and there are no +1's - I'm not worried about a plus one who wasn't asked being upset

2. If someone decided they did not want to participate... I would not confront them I would just make a mental note.

@LeSwan85 - I appreciate your insight, and also appreciate your well wishes. I'm not concerned with it "going too far" because I honestly & truly don't think any of the single people in my group are stupid enough to "sexually assault" someone in front of a large group. I realize that you can't know that because you don't know us or our friends and can only base your opinion from your own experience and what others have said... however where I live and with almost this same group, its been done successfully numerous times with no instances like the ones described. I'll agree that the world is not black & white... however I stand by the way I was raised, Say what you mean and mean what you say.

@NYCbruin - No one is blaming a victim because there is no victim to be blamed... I pointed out that everyone has been made aware of what's happening and will be reminded by the DJ prior to the event, if they choose to participate, knowing full well what is going on then that is their choice... If for some reason it got out of hand, yes the person who went too far would be dealt with, but considering the slim chance of that happening, it's not a concern at this moment. Anything is possible at every point in life, if you live your whole life in fear of the unknown how is that living life?

AllieBear725 · June 2013

So on top of an inappropriate toss, you're also not allowing guests a +1. Your level of tacky has just elevated in my book.

KDM323 · June 2013

Why is doing the garter toss & then having someone put a garter on some woman's leg so important to you @BangBangs39?

I guess that's what I'm failing to understand.

BangBangs39 · June 2013

@Alliebear725 - Do you know the expression about assuming things? I never said I did not allow it, I said there aren't any coming. No one RSVP'd w/ a plus one. People who had SO got an invite to them and their SO. People who are single, got an invite saying to so&so & guest. I've received back every response card. ETA: got the last two I was waiting on last night, neither had a +1

@drexelkathy - it's important because it's a tradition here.

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