Since we get a fair number of posters who insist that they can do something rude and...
- No one will care/be offended
- No one will remember
- It won't change any of their relationships
how about we share the things we did care about/were offended by, remember, and/or that make us feel differently about the couple offenders?
I'll start - I've been to a few bad ones but I'll start with the furthest back. About 8 years ago, I attended a family wedding where there was a cash bar, the bride&groom had a (very) upgraded meal compared to the guests (we had a very unappetizing piece of chicken, they had steak and lobster), and they never sent thank you notes for the bridal shower OR wedding gift, which combined totaled about $500 ($300 of which was cash).
In order of degree of offense personally taken, from most to least:
- No thank you note
- Different meal from what was served to guests
- Cash bar
I remember, and if I still had a relationship with these people (family of XH), they would never get another gift from me again. I decided that as soon as the thank you note window closed.
And for those who think etiquette is for old ladies - I was 25 when I made that decision.