Aurora - you must be so proud. You spend time on boards just quoting Emily Post, as if it's your own personal bible. Please.
Yes, I am proud to follow etiquette and give etiquette advice to people that ask it on this site. I am proud that my wedding will follow etiquette guidelines, and that my guests will be properly hosted from start to finish.
My wedding is done and over. No one had low opinions. We had open bar during cocktail hour and wine service throughout all of dinner. There was plenty (read: PLENTY) of free booze.
There are many, many things I judge brides on at their weddings. Cash bar simply isn't one of them.
So your wedding is done and over and you felt the need to come to a site, which you just signed up for after your wedding, to make a wrong statement in an etiquette board. What is the point of that?
Yeah, get out of here you old married hag! your wedding is over! I feel sorry for your husband yadda yadda yadda...and see its normally the trolls saying that to us .
Aurora sounds like she is going to have the perfect wedding with all of the perfect etiquettes.
Yep me too..I am only having beer and wine because that's all me and my FI can afford...but damn it ..nobody is going to have to open their wallet at my wedding. I am having the wedding I can AFFORD.
Really smallfri or whatever the hell your name is? Telling someone who is already married to get off the boards? ARE YOU AN IDIOT. There are countless discussions on here where married women offer great insight.
Man..you are right! I forgot to use my SARCASM font...
I don't think anywhere in my vent did I call my friend ANY sort of names. Must suck not to be able to read.
Oh no you are right! Reading comprehension fail! I am such a dummy..you would just REPLACE me because I was choosing to move on with my life and not wait around for you to catch up.
Why do you need that much help? I think you need to visit some of these threads that explain NO ONE is required to help you. It's YOUR wedding. Your FI is the only person obligated to assist you. Reevaluate your wedding or your friends will seriously be reevaluating their relationship with you.
Yes OBVIOUSLY I have to find someone else to help me because she can't be there. I AM SO OFFENSIVE.
You must not be very close to her if she is so replaceable....god forbid if my BEST FRIEND couldn't make it to my wedding of course I would be upset..but I wouldn't replace her as some sort of PROP. It doesn't make your marriage invalid if someone doesn't stand next to you..
Dramatic much eh? I want a maid of honor. Now that the person I chose to do it can't I have to not have one? That makes no sense.
So you want a prop? I asked my best friend and my sister to stand up with me because they are important to me.. because I wanted to honor them. Because they have supported me through my relationship. Not because I wanted someone pretty to stand next to me and help me plan (because news flash, that's not the function of a Moh or BM's). If one of them couldn't make it I wouldn't replace them because I couldn't, nobody has been there for me like they have..my relationship and how I feel about them is irreplaceable...
why? because I have compassion and common sense..because I CARE about the people who stand next to me? Because I want to treat my guests with courtesy? what makes me "retarded" which btw is REALLY offensive to people who actually struggle with retardation.....
@KnotPorscha this troll has run her course.. I believe.
@KnotPorsha, this thread has officially gone to a new level. I hate to suggest it, because it's been of help to many, but maybe closing it would be best.
It's the most wonderful time of the year! With the Knot Gods all gone and the trolls are along And they're bored off their rears! It's the most wonderful time, of the year!
I had to laugh last night, when our family was all together, after the guests had left, we started talking about wedding stuff. My brother, who had DJ'd 100+ weddings, waxed poetic about at least half of them being cash bars, and how it was the way to go. I was all, yah, umhm, okay, (in my head going nope, Nope, NOPE!) We will be hosting what we can afford, which will likely be beer and wine.
To all of you who are thinking cash bars, they are rude! Think about it this way-you wouldn't invite someone over for dinner, hosting chicken, and then say, if you want the salmon, it'll be $10, if you want the filet, it will be $20. Do you see the corollary?
Cash bars are a regional thing. No one in my area thinks it's rude.
OP is rude for making such a blanket statement about something. If you don't like cash bars, don't have one. Same goes for lots of things in life. Abortions, divorce, kids. If you don't like 'em. Simply don't have 'em. End of story.
Regional differences may exist but there is no need to follow poor etiquette with more poor etiquette.
I moved to central Massachusetts about 5 years ago from Connecticut. FI, who is from Massachusetts told me when we started planning the wedding that no one in this area has open bars and that he had never been to a wedding with an open bar. I told him that was all fine and good but that our wedding would have an open bar for beer and wine. No hard alcohol will be served.
I figured maybe he hadn't been to too many weddings and that maybe the cash bar thing wasn't as prevalent as he thought but we went to his cousin's wedding last weekend and there it was.... The CASH BAR!! The only one I had ever seen. Not only did they charge for alcohol but they had the nerve to charge $2.50 for a club soda in a 6 oz glass (I don't drink). I ended up drinking water most of the night.
I love how she jumped all over me and was so vicious and now I'M the bad one. YIKES.
Yes, because telling someone that their idea is poor etiquette is not an attack. Making rude comments about other people's pictures is a personal attack. It's against the TOS, which I'm sure you didn't read.
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I don't see a problem with this. That sounds very nice.
With the Knot Gods all gone and the trolls are along
And they're bored off their rears!
It's the most wonderful time, of the year!