What are your etiquette deal breakers?

Maggie0829 · April 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

lmwebboneal said:

Here is what bugs me: super cool trendy - it is still a wedding, groomsmen chest bumping their bro while wearing sunglasses is just stupid. Bridesmaids being drunken little morons is just tacky. Little private dance parties to show your rico suave while introducing your wedding party. Seriously? Money dance. Enough said. As far as guest lists, get over it. Sometimes there are reasons why people aren't invited. If the only reason you aren't going is because your partner who may not even know the bride or groom then you really shouldn't have been invited either. I have no problem with registries that include honeymoon items; maybe they don't need more crap in the house, SO WHAT?

I'd rather spend time with my FI than just about any other single living person on this Earth. That includes you, Bride and Groom. Sorry Not Sorry.

Yup, because, lets all say it together now...YOU ARE NOT THAT SPECIAL!

grumbledore · April 2014

SJayeP said:

WOW - I am amazed at some of these comments. Time's have changed and things are WAY different then they used to be.

Making it special for the bride and groom is what is important. If things become out of budget don't feel like you need to break the bank to provide free alcohol or that by not having an open bar people will want to leave. This should be the least of your concern.

Not everyone has unlimited budgets to do everything perfectly or to invite everyone they want to. I can guarantee people will still be pissed off about something EVEN if you provide a perfect timeline, constant entertainment and free booze.

If you want a theme wedding HAVE ONE, if guests are that turned off by what you are asking them to come dressed in DON'T GO! If the invitations state black-tie and you don't want to dress up that much, then don't, BUT - be ready to stand out.

I have no idea what the dollar dances are all about so I will leave that alone.

I know I have NO interest in meeting tons of people for the first time the day of my wedding. I want to be surrounded by loved ones and not someone's fling of the week. I agree that if they are married or have been together for a long period of time, yes you invite the significant other EVEN if you don't know them. BUT, if you have single friends and don't have a huge budget to work with DON'T feel bad telling them they can't bring joe shmo to the wedding. IT'S ONE NIGHT! If they care about you they will understand.

Maybe some people would prefer cash over another mixing bowl from Crate & Barrel. Maybe they spent so much on the wedding they are in a ton of debt and would like to pay a little bit off. If you plan to spend X amount at Crate & Barrel what's the big deal about putting X amount of cash in a card instead?

You may need to do a tiered wedding becasue your dream venue for the ceremony only fits 20 but you have 200 on your guest list. IT'S YOUR DAY! Don't completely change your vision because some guests might be offended. Everyone should understand and if they don't, screw them!

Unfortunately you can't please EVERYONE so there will always be some that didn't like this and some that didn't like that. BUT, if you concern yourself with to much of this you are going to over stress yourself and before you know it the wedding becomes about the guests and not about the two of you!

I am not looking to start any sort of argument with any of you. I am a bride in the process of planning and have come to realize you cannot please everyone, you NEVER can. So, instead of going grey and having a few anxiety attacks making sure you haven't offended this person or that person .. ENJOY it and worry about YOU and your SOON-TO-BE-HUBBY!

Do what you want. It's your wedding. It's your day. ENJOY IT!!

Please crawl back into whatever hole you just slithered out of.

What a bad attitude you have about what a wedding is.

PrettyGirlLost · April 2014

Maggie0829 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

lmwebboneal said:

Here is what bugs me: super cool trendy - it is still a wedding, groomsmen chest bumping their bro while wearing sunglasses is just stupid. Bridesmaids being drunken little morons is just tacky. Little private dance parties to show your rico suave while introducing your wedding party. Seriously? Money dance. Enough said. As far as guest lists, get over it. Sometimes there are reasons why people aren't invited. If the only reason you aren't going is because your partner who may not even know the bride or groom then you really shouldn't have been invited either. I have no problem with registries that include honeymoon items; maybe they don't need more crap in the house, SO WHAT?

I'd rather spend time with my FI than just about any other single living person on this Earth. That includes you, Bride and Groom. Sorry Not Sorry.

Yup, because, lets all say it together now...YOU ARE NOT THAT SPECIAL!

jdluvr06 · April 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

lmwebboneal said:

Here is what bugs me: super cool trendy - it is still a wedding, groomsmen chest bumping their bro while wearing sunglasses is just stupid. Bridesmaids being drunken little morons is just tacky. Little private dance parties to show your rico suave while introducing your wedding party. Seriously? Money dance. Enough said. As far as guest lists, get over it. Sometimes there are reasons why people aren't invited. If the only reason you aren't going is because your partner who may not even know the bride or groom then you really shouldn't have been invited either. I have no problem with registries that include honeymoon items; maybe they don't need more crap in the house, SO WHAT?

I'd rather spend time with my FI than just about any other single living person on this Earth. That includes you, Bride and Groom. Sorry Not Sorry.

I can't use bold so I'm piggy backing on your post prettygirllost. Lol

I have on question for those who don't think the SO thing is a big deal. If you don't respect my relationship then why the fuck should I celebrate yours?

Eta: today has made me realize that I really need to find something constructive to do at work.

Maggie0829 · April 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

lmwebboneal said:

Here is what bugs me: super cool trendy - it is still a wedding, groomsmen chest bumping their bro while wearing sunglasses is just stupid. Bridesmaids being drunken little morons is just tacky. Little private dance parties to show your rico suave while introducing your wedding party. Seriously? Money dance. Enough said. As far as guest lists, get over it. Sometimes there are reasons why people aren't invited. If the only reason you aren't going is because your partner who may not even know the bride or groom then you really shouldn't have been invited either. I have no problem with registries that include honeymoon items; maybe they don't need more crap in the house, SO WHAT?

I'd rather spend time with my FI than just about any other single living person on this Earth. That includes you, Bride and Groom. Sorry Not Sorry.

I can't use bold so I'm piggy backing on your post prettygirllost. Lol

I have on question for those who don't think the SO thing is a big deal. If you don't respect my relationship then why the fuck should I celebrate yours?

Eta: today has made me realize that I really need to find something constructive to do at work.

VulgarGirl · April 2014

Here is what bugs me: super cool trendy - it is still a wedding, groomsmen chest bumping their bro while wearing sunglasses is just stupid. Bridesmaids being drunken little morons is just tacky. Little private dance parties to show your rico suave while introducing your wedding party. Seriously? Money dance. Enough said. As far as guest lists, get over it. Sometimes there are reasons why people aren't invited. If the only reason you aren't going is because your partner who may not even know the bride or groom then you really shouldn't have been invited either. I have no problem with registries that include honeymoon items; maybe they don't need more crap in the house, SO WHAT?

Chest bumps and dancing while introducing the wedding party (is that like when people dance as they are announced? I'm not sure what you mean by that), those aren't actually etiquette problems. Oh sure, they can bug you until cows come home, but it's still not improper etiquette.

However honeymoon registries and excluding SOs is bad etiquette.

Miss Manners doesn't give a shit if you chest bump your bros. She gives a very big shit if you invited Susie without her girlfriend Joann.

mmcwilliams988 · April 2014

What in God's name is a dollar dance?

MobKaz · April 2014

SJayeP said:

WOW - I am amazed at some of these comments. Time's have changed and things are WAY different then they used to be.

Making it special for the bride and groom is what is important. If things become out of budget don't feel like you need to break the bank to provide free alcohol or that by not having an open bar people will want to leave. This should be the least of your concern.

Not everyone has unlimited budgets to do everything perfectly or to invite everyone they want to. I can guarantee people will still be pissed off about something EVEN if you provide a perfect timeline, constant entertainment and free booze.

If you want a theme wedding HAVE ONE, if guests are that turned off by what you are asking them to come dressed in DON'T GO! If the invitations state black-tie and you don't want to dress up that much, then don't, BUT - be ready to stand out.

I have no idea what the dollar dances are all about so I will leave that alone.

I know I have NO interest in meeting tons of people for the first time the day of my wedding. I want to be surrounded by loved ones and not someone's fling of the week. I agree that if they are married or have been together for a long period of time, yes you invite the significant other EVEN if you don't know them. BUT, if you have single friends and don't have a huge budget to work with DON'T feel bad telling them they can't bring joe shmo to the wedding. IT'S ONE NIGHT! If they care about you they will understand.

Maybe some people would prefer cash over another mixing bowl from Crate & Barrel. Maybe they spent so much on the wedding they are in a ton of debt and would like to pay a little bit off. If you plan to spend X amount at Crate & Barrel what's the big deal about putting X amount of cash in a card instead?

You may need to do a tiered wedding becasue your dream venue for the ceremony only fits 20 but you have 200 on your guest list. IT'S YOUR DAY! Don't completely change your vision because some guests might be offended. Everyone should understand and if they don't, screw them!

Unfortunately you can't please EVERYONE so there will always be some that didn't like this and some that didn't like that. BUT, if you concern yourself with to much of this you are going to over stress yourself and before you know it the wedding becomes about the guests and not about the two of you!

I am not looking to start any sort of argument with any of you. I am a bride in the process of planning and have come to realize you cannot please everyone, you NEVER can. So, instead of going grey and having a few anxiety attacks making sure you haven't offended this person or that person .. ENJOY it and worry about YOU and your SOON-TO-BE-HUBBY!

Do what you want. It's your wedding. It's your day. ENJOY IT!!

Times have indeed changed and things are incredibly more different. People NOW think they are entitled. People NOW think their circumstance is different/special/unique. People now put themselves and money above character and other people.

I miss the time when hospitality and character meant something.

LDay2014 · April 2014

mmcwilliams988 said:

What in God's name is a dollar dance?

Essentially...Strip tease in a wedding dress...except you keep your clothes on and people pay to dance with you.

I shit you not

VulgarGirl · April 2014

mmcwilliams988 said:

What in God's name is a dollar dance?

You pay the bride to dance with her. Sometimes you can pay the groom too.

Wow, that really does sound like strippers. I mean, they keep their clothes on but otherwise...give me money for a dance...yeah...strippers. Not that there is anything wrong with strippers. Just don't see them at weddings often.

SmileDamnit · April 2014

SJayeP said:

WOW - I am amazed at some of these comments. Time's have changed and things are WAY different then they used to be.

Making it special for the bride and groom is what is important. If things become out of budget don't feel like you need to break the bank to provide free alcohol or that by not having an open bar people will want to leave. This should be the least of your concern.

Not everyone has unlimited budgets to do everything perfectly or to invite everyone they want to. I can guarantee people will still be pissed off about something EVEN if you provide a perfect timeline, constant entertainment and free booze.

If you want a theme wedding HAVE ONE, if guests are that turned off by what you are asking them to come dressed in DON'T GO! If the invitations state black-tie and you don't want to dress up that much, then don't, BUT - be ready to stand out.

I have no idea what the dollar dances are all about so I will leave that alone.

I know I have NO interest in meeting tons of people for the first time the day of my wedding. I want to be surrounded by loved ones and not someone's fling of the week. I agree that if they are married or have been together for a long period of time, yes you invite the significant other EVEN if you don't know them. BUT, if you have single friends and don't have a huge budget to work with DON'T feel bad telling them they can't bring joe shmo to the wedding. IT'S ONE NIGHT! If they care about you they will understand.

Maybe some people would prefer cash over another mixing bowl from Crate & Barrel. Maybe they spent so much on the wedding they are in a ton of debt and would like to pay a little bit off. If you plan to spend X amount at Crate & Barrel what's the big deal about putting X amount of cash in a card instead?

You may need to do a tiered wedding becasue your dream venue for the ceremony only fits 20 but you have 200 on your guest list. IT'S YOUR DAY! Don't completely change your vision because some guests might be offended. Everyone should understand and if they don't, screw them!

Unfortunately you can't please EVERYONE so there will always be some that didn't like this and some that didn't like that. BUT, if you concern yourself with to much of this you are going to over stress yourself and before you know it the wedding becomes about the guests and not about the two of you!

I am not looking to start any sort of argument with any of you. I am a bride in the process of planning and have come to realize you cannot please everyone, you NEVER can. So, instead of going grey and having a few anxiety attacks making sure you haven't offended this person or that person .. ENJOY it and worry about YOU and your SOON-TO-BE-HUBBY!

Do what you want. It's your wedding. It's your day. ENJOY IT!!

Tony! Tony! Tony! Ohhhhhh, TONY!!!!! (...see, @MagicInk, we need him desperately...)

LadyMillil · April 2014

Re: Gaps

I went to a wedding 2 years ago. My live-in BF (now my DH) was invited but we couldn't afford flights for both of us, so I went alone. The ceremony was at a riverside location at 2PM and lasted 20 minutes. The cocktail hour was at 5PM with dinner to follow at a banquet hall a 15 minute drive away. I was from OOT and didn't know any one besides the B&G and WP. There was nothing nearby (middle of nowhere Ontario, Yay!) so I had over 2 hours to kill. By myself. In my dress clothes. Luckily I tossed a book in the car before I left. I had so much fun (*sarcasm*) sitting on a park bench, dressed up, reading for 2 hours, but what else was I supposed to do?

Re: Inviting SO's (and PPD's)

DH and I started dating late March. Early April his friends Mary and John come to him so excited because they have decided to get married. Mary is Canadian and John is American and they want to have the wedding ASAP for immigration reasons. They planned their entire wedding in 6 weeks. Mary wore a traditional wedding dress, they got married at city hall and had a lovely dinner with sparkling apple juice at a local inn. Mary and John had never met me. They met me the day of their wedding, which was exactly 2 months after DH and I started dating. They invited me by name on DH's invitation. Before sending invitations they asked DH if our relationship was a casual fling or something more serious, and he said "this girl is special. I can see a future with this girl". It didn't matter to Mary and John that they hadn't met me or that we hadn't been dating very long, what mattered to them was that their friend was in a relationship with a girl that he could see himself marrying.

Sorry to keep the threading going, but I'm hoping personal stories will get through to some of the new posters.

VulgarGirl · April 2014

@cmfarr Mary and John are awesome. Gap dicks are not awesome.

FiancB · April 2014

cmfarr said:

Re: Gaps
I went to a wedding 2 years ago. My live-in BF (now my DH) was invited but we couldn't afford flights for both of us, so I went alone. The ceremony was at a riverside location at 2PM and lasted 20 minutes. The cocktail hour was at 5PM with dinner to follow at a banquet hall a 15 minute drive away. I was from OOT and didn't know any one besides the B&G and WP. There was nothing nearby (middle of nowhere Ontario, Yay!) so I had over 2 hours to kill. By myself. In my dress clothes. Luckily I tossed a book in the car before I left. I had so much fun (*sarcasm*) sitting on a park bench, dressed up, reading for 2 hours, but what else was I supposed to do?

Re: Inviting SO's (and PPD's)
DH and I started dating late March. Early April his friends Mary and John come to him so excited because they have decided to get married. Mary is Canadian and John is American and they want to have the wedding ASAP for immigration reasons. They planned their entire wedding in 6 weeks. Mary wore a traditional wedding dress, they got married at city hall and had a lovely dinner with sparkling apple juice at a local inn. Mary and John had never met me. They met me the day of their wedding, which was exactly 2 months after DH and I started dating. They invited me by name on DH's invitation. Before sending invitations they asked DH if our relationship was a casual fling or something more serious, and he said "this girl is special. I can see a future with this girl". It didn't matter to Mary and John that they hadn't met me or that we hadn't been dating very long, what mattered to them was that their friend was in a relationship with a girl that he could see himself marrying.

Sorry to keep the threading going, but I'm hoping personal stories will get through to some of the new posters.

And imagine what asses Mary and John would feel like now if they'd deemed your relationship not important enough, only to see you get engaged and married now. LIKE YOU ARE.

Fran1985 · April 2014

cmfarr said:

Re: Gaps
I went to a wedding 2 years ago. My live-in BF (now my DH) was invited but we couldn't afford flights for both of us, so I went alone. The ceremony was at a riverside location at 2PM and lasted 20 minutes. The cocktail hour was at 5PM with dinner to follow at a banquet hall a 15 minute drive away. I was from OOT and didn't know any one besides the B&G and WP. There was nothing nearby (middle of nowhere Ontario, Yay!) so I had over 2 hours to kill. By myself. In my dress clothes. Luckily I tossed a book in the car before I left. I had so much fun (*sarcasm*) sitting on a park bench, dressed up, reading for 2 hours, but what else was I supposed to do?

This is what drives me crazy about gaps. Sure, there are some people's wedding that I can imagine having fun during the gap time. If it were my home town friends and I am hanging out with FI and 10 of my other friends I'll be annoyed that we have to go to a third location, but it won't be the end of the world. However we go to TONS of weddings where we really don't know anyone else there. At the weddings with gaps there will be a guest there who doesnt know anyone else

lyndausvi · April 2014

I like that this thread is still going. What's the longest thread on the forums?

A few years back we had one over 2000. It was New Years Eve. DH was working is why I was on the thread.

speechie11 · April 2014

@PrettyGirlLost: yes, exactly!!! (response to SJayeP)

Fairyjen1 · April 2014

SJayeP said:

WOW - I am amazed at some of these comments. Time's have changed and things are WAY different then they used to be.

Making it special for the bride and groom is what is important. If things become out of budget don't feel like you need to break the bank to provide free alcohol or that by not having an open bar people will want to leave. This should be the least of your concern.

Not everyone has unlimited budgets to do everything perfectly or to invite everyone they want to. I can guarantee people will still be pissed off about something EVEN if you provide a perfect timeline, constant entertainment and free booze.

If you want a theme wedding HAVE ONE, if guests are that turned off by what you are asking them to come dressed in DON'T GO! If the invitations state black-tie and you don't want to dress up that much, then don't, BUT - be ready to stand out.

I have no idea what the dollar dances are all about so I will leave that alone.

I know I have NO interest in meeting tons of people for the first time the day of my wedding. I want to be surrounded by loved ones and not someone's fling of the week. I agree that if they are married or have been together for a long period of time, yes you invite the significant other EVEN if you don't know them. BUT, if you have single friends and don't have a huge budget to work with DON'T feel bad telling them they can't bring joe shmo to the wedding. IT'S ONE NIGHT! If they care about you they will understand.

Maybe some people would prefer cash over another mixing bowl from Crate & Barrel. Maybe they spent so much on the wedding they are in a ton of debt and would like to pay a little bit off. If you plan to spend X amount at Crate & Barrel what's the big deal about putting X amount of cash in a card instead?

You may need to do a tiered wedding becasue your dream venue for the ceremony only fits 20 but you have 200 on your guest list. IT'S YOUR DAY! Don't completely change your vision because some guests might be offended. Everyone should understand and if they don't, screw them!

Unfortunately you can't please EVERYONE so there will always be some that didn't like this and some that didn't like that. BUT, if you concern yourself with to much of this you are going to over stress yourself and before you know it the wedding becomes about the guests and not about the two of you!

I am not looking to start any sort of argument with any of you. I am a bride in the process of planning and have come to realize you cannot please everyone, you NEVER can. So, instead of going grey and having a few anxiety attacks making sure you haven't offended this person or that person .. ENJOY it and worry about YOU and your SOON-TO-BE-HUBBY!

Do what you want. It's your wedding. It's your day. ENJOY IT!!

Wow, you seem pretty entitled. You pretty much managed to hit on every point this board doesn't like. This is an etiquette board. of course they are going to tell you when what you are planning is a breach of etiquette.

APDSS22 · April 2014

MagicInk said:

So I'm at work right now and I'm discussing this whole cash bar shit with the other guy here (as an aside he's now obsessed with TK because I keep reading it at work and involving him in whats going on) and he goes "Remember on Sons of Anarchy when Opie married the porn star? I'm pretty sure they didn't have a cash bar. So if an outlaw motorcycle gang knows a cash bar is tacky, then other people should know that too", well there you have it. At the outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding they were classy enough to not charge for booze, do you want your wedding to be less classy then an outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding? I think not.

This is perfect @MagicInk thank you for this.

VulgarGirl · April 2014

APDSS22 said:

MagicInk said:

So I'm at work right now and I'm discussing this whole cash bar shit with the other guy here (as an aside he's now obsessed with TK because I keep reading it at work and involving him in whats going on) and he goes "Remember on Sons of Anarchy when Opie married the porn star? I'm pretty sure they didn't have a cash bar. So if an outlaw motorcycle gang knows a cash bar is tacky, then other people should know that too", well there you have it. At the outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding they were classy enough to not charge for booze, do you want your wedding to be less classy then an outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding? I think not.

This is perfect @MagicInk thank you for this.

I think we should shorten it to OMGPS wedding.

APDSS22 · April 2014

MagicInk said:

APDSS22 said:

MagicInk said:

So I'm at work right now and I'm discussing this whole cash bar shit with the other guy here (as an aside he's now obsessed with TK because I keep reading it at work and involving him in whats going on) and he goes "Remember on Sons of Anarchy when Opie married the porn star? I'm pretty sure they didn't have a cash bar. So if an outlaw motorcycle gang knows a cash bar is tacky, then other people should know that too", well there you have it. At the outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding they were classy enough to not charge for booze, do you want your wedding to be less classy then an outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding? I think not.

This is perfect @MagicInk thank you for this.

I think we should shorten it to OMGPS wedding.

Of course then we would have a bunch of new people who wouldn't bother to read asking what it stood for every 5th page...

DaisyMaeMommy · April 2014

The ENTIRE point of this thread= POOR HOSTING IS BAD!!!

Come on people!!! FREAKING READ!!!

All of these special snowflakes are giving me loads of opportunities to post awesome gifs!

VulgarGirl · April 2014

Musikalbunni there is no time for reading when you are planning your magical you day of you-ness where people worship you and are thrilled at the privilege to be greeted by you!!

I mean, er, your wedding.

Viczaesar · April 2014

ediehelena said:

Nevermind on my honeymoon fund question-I didn't see the proper end of this thread and this was explained many times. Food for thought.

I think something else to consider is that some of us have been in relationships for a LONG time before getting married. When I get hitched, I'll have been living with my groom for over 10 years. Most of the things one would put on a registry we already have amassed over 10 years of christmases. birthdays, etc.

So it makes sense to me to say, essentially, we don't want/need any kitchen gadgets, guest towels etc. and prefer money to help fund the honeymoon-but how do you do it? "In lieu of a registry, the couple prefers cash" on an invitation? So honeyfund and others help bypass that embarrassment.

It's a pickle, no doubt.

And while I've been slightly disappointed at a cash bar-leaving a wedding based on it? Do you actually care about the people getting married or not? Because if I'm willing to meet you at a bar for your birthday and buy you drinks, I'm willing to pay for my drinks at your wedding.

I'm doing my best to have great food and great music at my wedding, but keeping a wedding under 10k when you live in NYC is so hard. Food and music will not suffer, but drinks may-I was thinking of providing unlimited beer/wine and virgin drinks and possibly having a cash bar for anyone that wants hard liquor, but it's a tough decision.

That said, if a guest couldn't afford to give me a gift, I wouldn't care. I'm inviting them to celebrate with me-not to shower me with gifts. It's a tough economy and many friends and family are out of work. My groom has been in and out of work for the last 5 years, and I think it pays to be sensitive to all those situations...

NO. You never, ever, ever mention anything about gifts or registries on wedding invitations. If you don't want a lot of physical gifts the answer is really very simple: either don't register for anything, or have a very small registry (because there are some people who will not give cash, period). If a guest is willing to give cash a small registry or no registry is a hint that that's what the couple prefers. What the guest does with that information is up to them.

jdluvr06 · April 2014

MagicInk said:

APDSS22 said:

MagicInk said:

So I'm at work right now and I'm discussing this whole cash bar shit with the other guy here (as an aside he's now obsessed with TK because I keep reading it at work and involving him in whats going on) and he goes "Remember on Sons of Anarchy when Opie married the porn star? I'm pretty sure they didn't have a cash bar. So if an outlaw motorcycle gang knows a cash bar is tacky, then other people should know that too", well there you have it. At the outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding they were classy enough to not charge for booze, do you want your wedding to be less classy then an outlaw motorcycle gang porn star wedding? I think not.

This is perfect @MagicInk thank you for this.

I think we should shorten it to OMGPS wedding.

Ha! Love it

ohannabelle · April 2014

You should all be HONORED that I took the time to suffer through all the entitled self involved socially incompetent emotionally stunted self serving crap on this thread, especially those messages posted by the members of the It'sMySpecial Day club, who seem to think that their guests are audience members who need to reach into their own pockets in exchange for basking in the super special radiance of Your Day.

Does everybody feel honored because they get to pay attention to me?

Good. Give me money. I'll tell you what to wear while you're doing that.

Just wait right there. I'll be back in a couple of hours after I'm done having my carefully posed pictures taken, because God forbid that there would be actual pictures documenting the event. They should be of me, making my hands into little heart shapes. Screw the guests.

Feeling honored yet? Everyone grateful they were invited to the Annabelle show?

Doesn't matter. It was all about MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

cmb08 · April 2014

amstowell89 said:

First off it seems pretty clear that there are different expectations from different demographics as well as from an economic stand point. Here in NH Cash bars, dollar dance, and honeymoon registry are very common. I think when planning your wedding you really need to think about what is best for you and you're family.

To me it is way more rude to walk out of a wedding because you had to pay $5 for your Pino! Some great friend you are!

Things I don't like are long gaps (over an hour) and not enough food.

I CAN'T!

Have you not read this post? This has been answered 15 different times by 20 different people.

Bride and Groom don't get slack for not budgeting. If you are old enough to get married, I imagine you already know how to budget your own finances. A wedding is a sign of financial responsibility. You don't have to go over your budget to treat your friends and family with courtesy.

ETA: can't spell

Uhhh... No. That is not the purpose of a wedding and you do not have to spend a lot of money on it. It's actually a sign of financial irresponsibility to have a $20,000 wedding.

FiancB · April 2014

claire0820 said:

amstowell89 said:

First off it seems pretty clear that there are different expectations from different demographics as well as from an economic stand point. Here in NH Cash bars, dollar dance, and honeymoon registry are very common. I think when planning your wedding you really need to think about what is best for you and you're family.

To me it is way more rude to walk out of a wedding because you had to pay $5 for your Pino! Some great friend you are!

Things I don't like are long gaps (over an hour) and not enough food.

I CAN'T!

Have you not read this post? This has been answered 15 different times by 20 different people.

Bride and Groom don't get slack for not budgeting. If you are old enough to get married, I imagine you already know how to budget your own finances. A wedding is a sign of financial responsibility. You don't have to go over your budget to treat your friends and family with courtesy.

ETA: can't spell

Uhhh... No. That is not the purpose of a wedding and you do not have to spend a lot of money on it. It's actually a sign of financial irresponsibility to have a $20,000 wedding.

Only if you can't afford a $20k wedding.

HisGirlFriday13 · April 2014

Pinot. The wine -- either grigio or noir -- in spelt 'pinot.' Not 'pino.'

I am having a very large glass of it right now.

Cookie Pusher · April 2014

I can't even. The amount of speshul in this thread...

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