I am at a lost. It's over.

Re: I am at a lost. It's over.

• flutteringinfl member

  

  April 2015

  lovegood90 said:

  southernbelle0915 said:

  CMGragain said:

  
  Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.
  

  Dude...... WHY? 

  So I see that time away from here really did you well...
  

  No, no, she took time away because we were all being unfair and mean to her, remember?

  

  
  

  
  

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• VulgarGirl member

  

  April 2015

  flutteringinfl said:

  lovegood90 said:

  southernbelle0915 said:

  CMGragain said:

  
  Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.
  

  Dude...... WHY? 

  So I see that time away from here really did you well...
  

  No, no, she took time away because we were all being unfair and mean to her, remember?

  Yes. We are bad mean people. Bad. Someone should spank us.

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• NavyBlue143 member

  

  April 2015

   I am so, so sorry. What a dick thing to do. 

  
  

  For what it's worth...I'm a bow hunter, I can kill/ maim silently from great distances...

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• AlexisA01 member

  

  April 2015

  blabla89 said:

  I hate to pile on any more worry, but you need to remove his access to any combined finances, lines of credit, etc. of yours that he may have had access to. Change your passwords and whatnot. Do that before you go out drinking with your mom
  

  He and I held separate credit cards, bank accounts, etc. I changed my passwords and I removed him from the insurance of all vehicles registered to me. So far anything I considered we could share financial wise I called the proper channels. 

  Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.

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• AlexisA01 member

  

  April 2015

  jdluvr06 said:

  anjemon said:

  Since it sounds like you and Knotties got the car stuff figured out, I'd look over your stuff and see if there's anything you bought that is missing. Or anything that was both of yours that he took. It sounds like he took your photos, and while that's really weird, it's up to you to decide if you want to ask for some of them back. She's such a huge douche canoe and I wouldn't be surprised if he took off with other things you value.

  
  
  
  This is really good advice.

  I am finding it odd he took his personal stuff along with our E Photos and Holiday pictures. 

  Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2015

  Well, if that's your car and it's your insurance then I think you're making a field trip tonight with a friend.  You have a key right?   I think it's time to play "Screw me over on my lunch  = find your own fucking ride home."

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• drunkenwitch member

  

  April 2015

  MagicInk said:

  flutteringinfl said:

  lovegood90 said:

  southernbelle0915 said:

  CMGragain said:

  
  Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.
  

  Dude...... WHY? 

  So I see that time away from here really did you well...
  

  No, no, she took time away because we were all being unfair and mean to her, remember?

  Yes. We are bad mean people. Bad. Someone should spank us.

  Well, that is the only way I learn.
  

  

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• AlexisA01 member

  

  April 2015

  banana468 said:

  Well, if that's your car and it's your insurance then I think you're making a field trip tonight with a friend.  You have a key right?   I think it's time to play "Screw me over on my lunch  = find your own fucking ride home."

  I do... See it's like you all are over having wine with me! I think I will go get my car back tonight along with mom and a friend. I really can't get over the prick taking the car besides....I can track my car thanks to lojack.

  Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.

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• madamerwin member

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  AlexisA01 said:I'm so sorry! I hope you are able to at least talk it out with him and find out his fucking deal so you can have some closure.
  
  I sent a message and called him because I feel like I deserve more. I am scared that it could be due to my fertility issues or if he met someone else. 
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  I am so sorry you're even having to think it may be one of those things. I have fertility issues too. A real partner, someone who loves you unconditionally, would stand with you as you go through the process of dealing with infertility. If he is using that as an excuse (or if that really is what's going on in his head), good riddance. 

  
  

  But really: It's not you. It's him. He's a douche.

  

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• ashley8918 member

  

  April 2015

  AlexisA01 said:

  CMGragain said:

  I am so sorry.  I feel your pain.  The same thing happened to me 40 years ago.  It was one of the best things that ever happened to me.  Holy smoke, I might have actually married that jerk!
  
  This guy did not deserve you.  He is a coward and a loser.
  
  In a few days, you will get very angry.  This will be good.  You should be angry.  You deserve to be treated with respect, and by breaking up over the telephone, he showed that he does not respect your feelings or your worth.  Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.  Thank God you didn't marry him!
  
  Take time to heal.  Your future is waiting.  You deserve to be loved.  Your ex is unable to do that.  You will find someone who is able and eager to love you and to commit to you.  Hugs!
  
  PS.  If he, by any chance, comes crawling back and begs your forgiveness, tell him to go F himself.
  

  I don't know why...but this rubs me the wrong way and everything else was fine.

  It rubs you the wrong way because it's a fucking shitty, stupid thing to say. But that's not surprising given who posted it. Don't even let this shit get to you for one second.

  
  

  I am truly sorry that this happened to you, but it really sounds like it's for the best if he is that big of a shitween. Do you have a key to the car? I would go take it back.

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• JCbride2015 member

  

  April 2015

  I might find it convenient to take the car back when Lojack shows you he is somewhere far from home.  Preferably with limited resources or, best of all, limited clothing.  Does he go to the gym?  Maybe right before work early in the morning?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

  
  

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• jdluvr06 member

  

  April 2015

  After reading this thread I've realized that there are a lot of bad ass bitches here and I mean that in the best way possible.

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  April 2015

  JCbride2015 said:

  I might find it convenient to take the car back when Lojack shows you he is somewhere far from home.  Preferably with limited resources or, best of all, limited clothing.  Does he go to the gym?  Maybe right before work early in the morning?

  Maybe the grocery store. Comes out with a cartful of replenished essentials and... no car. Push that buggy home, brah.

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• Fran1985 member

  

  April 2015

  flutteringinfl said:

  lovegood90 said:

  southernbelle0915 said:

  CMGragain said:

  
  Chances are good that he met a woman that interests him.
  

  Dude...... WHY? 

  So I see that time away from here really did you well...
  

  No, no, she took time away because we were all being unfair and mean to her, remember?

  She actually didn't take time away she was just responding to people in PMs instead of in posts 

  
  

  OP I am so sorry and just echo the thoughts of throat punching, wine suggestions, and hug offers. 

  
  
  

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2015

  I will say that you need to get his key too or he could turn this into a bad game of tag.

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• hellosweetie1015 member

  

  April 2015

  lolo883 said:

  JCbride2015 said:

  I might find it convenient to take the car back when Lojack shows you he is somewhere far from home.  Preferably with limited resources or, best of all, limited clothing.  Does he go to the gym?  Maybe right before work early in the morning?

  Maybe the grocery store. Comes out with a cartful of replenished essentials and... no car. Push that buggy home, brah.

  I like the way the Knotties think when they're thinking of revenge.
  
  Leave him at the mall waiting for a ride like a teenager.
  
  If he was prone to long stints in the woods, I'd suggest letting him go camping/hunting/what have you and leave him stranded in a cell hole in the woods. But it's an odd time for that - Thursday night and all.

  

  
  

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• AlexisA01 member

  

  April 2015

  lolo883 said:

  JCbride2015 said:

  I might find it convenient to take the car back when Lojack shows you he is somewhere far from home.  Preferably with limited resources or, best of all, limited clothing.  Does he go to the gym?  Maybe right before work early in the morning?

  Maybe the grocery store. Comes out with a cartful of replenished essentials and... no car. Push that buggy home, brah.

  I am laughing OMG...

  Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.

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• princessofgenovia member

  

  April 2015

  banana468 said:

  I will say that you need to get his key too or he could turn this into a bad game of tag.

  This is a good point. A locksmith should be able to re key a car lock for you. Same as a house lock.

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  April 2015

  princessofgenovia said:

  banana468 said:

  I will say that you need to get his key too or he could turn this into a bad game of tag.

  This is a good point. A locksmith should be able to re key a car lock for you. Same as a house lock.

  Yep, my friend actually had this done in the Six Flags parking lot after ignoring my advice to tie the key into the drawstring on her shorts.
  
  If there's a microchip in the key, you'll just need to have a dealer reprogram it.

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• ohannabelle member

  

  April 2015

  Serious hugs for you. It's terrible to be blindsided like that.

  So glad your mama's going to be there.

  
  

  (One day, you'll be glad this happened. Not today, of course. But truly, one day you'll look back and be grateful that you didn't waste years of your life on such a disrespectful craphead.)

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  April 2015

  My God, this is terrible.  I am so sorry to hear this, hun
  
  *hugs*
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• AprilH81 member

  

  April 2015

  Mental note, don't mess with Knotties...  

  
  

  @alexisa01 I'm very sorry you are hurting right now.  I hope your Mom provides all the soothing noises, head pats, wine and kittens you need so that you  can feel better soon.

  

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• themuffinman16 member

  

  April 2015

  You ladies have me dying of laughter. Don't fuck with Knotties. Lol

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• emmaaa mod

  

  April 2015 edited April 2015

  So sorry! He's an ass and you deserve so much better. Thank God for mommas and Knotties

  
  

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• manillabar member

  

  April 2015

  I am so sorry to hear this! I agree with everyone else, he's clearly an asswipe, and I do believe you're better off without him.  I also know from personal experience that while that's easy to see and say to someone else, it's hard when mere hours ago you were planning to spend your whole life with this person who you loved more than anyone else.  And for him to end it so harshly and abruptly, that's hard to deal with. 

  
  

   Just keep telling yourself that it is NOT YOUR FAULT. It's really hard to process it all, and you will be looking for answers and trying to figure out what you did wrong/could have done better, but it is NOT your fault.  He's a giant asshole.  

  
  

  I'm glad you're getting your car back!

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  April 2015

  So sorry to hear this Alexis. What kind of jackass pulls shit like this??

  
  

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• AlexisA01 member

  

  April 2015

  Somewhat buzzed ladies but no car yet so mom is having the police guys get it for me.  

  Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.

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• ashley8918 member

  

  April 2015

  AlexisA01 said:

  Somewhat buzzed ladies but no car yet so mom is having the police guys get it for me.  

  Good. HE DONE.

  
  

  
  

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• louxnoelle member

  

  April 2015

  That is just the worst, and I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling - sending positive thoughts for better days ahead.

  hellosweetie1015 said:

  First things first: I am so so so very sorry. 

  
  

  Last things last: I really, truly am so so very sorry. Get your favorite crap food tonight, binge watch something stupid (I recommend Kimmie Schmidt, because she's unbreakable just like you) and hang out with your mother. 

  ... I cannot tell you how on board I am with the "Kimmie Schmidt" recommendation. I've been going through some shit of my own, and not only is that show the perfect kind of mindless-funny for when you need to turn your brain off, but I honestly have been going through a couple of hard days humming the theme song in my head: "Unnnnnbreakable!"
  

  
  

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• Fran1985 member

  

  April 2015

  louxnoelle said:

  That is just the worst, and I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling - sending positive thoughts for better days ahead.
  
  

  hellosweetie1015 said:

  First things first: I am so so so very sorry. 

  
  

  Last things last: I really, truly am so so very sorry. Get your favorite crap food tonight, binge watch something stupid (I recommend Kimmie Schmidt, because she's unbreakable just like you) and hang out with your mother. 

  ... I cannot tell you how on board I am with the "Kimmie Schmidt" recommendation. I've been going through some shit of my own, and not only is that show the perfect kind of mindless-funny for when you need to turn your brain off, but I honestly have been going through a couple of hard days humming the theme song in my head: "Unnnnnbreakable!"
  

  Between unbreakable and pinot noir, my head is a kimmy schmidt soundtrack all day everyday

  
  
  

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