Apparently there was an "error" with one of the other BM's dresses and there was an extra dress. First time I have ever heard of that considering the dress is from Le Chateau. If I'm still invited I just may accessorize it and wear it
I wrote off the bra as part of my wedding expenses, because I will more than likely need one. She is a cousin through marriage and I honestly don't know her that well. She is 8 years younger, but she acts so much younger. I haven't a clue where her sense of entitlement comes from. I think she thinks that our weddings are in some sort of competition. I honestly haven't done anything but the venue yet. I already have the colours, the bridesmaid dresses, the center pieces, bachelorette party venue and menu already picked out. I haven't picked out my wedding party or dress yet. Its coming up next month. She has also invited herself to be in my wedding party. I told her nothing has been decided yet. My wedding isn't until September.
Just wanted to touch on this quickly first... I'm guessing the bride in no way extended you this courtesy so you didn't experience it, but in general you need to ask each bridal party member their dress budget in private and then you pick a dress that's less than the lowest budget (unless you intend to buy all of their dresses for them). Just don't want you getting your heart set on a dress that a bridesmaid can't afford... since you clearly now how crappy that is.
That aside...
OMG this girl is craaaaazy.
Good job getting out of there. And thank you so much for sharing the continued bits of drama!
Apparently there was an "error" with one of the other BM's dresses and there was an extra dress. First time I have ever heard of that considering the dress is from Le Chateau. If I'm still invited I just may accessorize it and wear it
AND the dresses are from Le Chateau, classy! This sounds like a train wreck that will be fun to watch!
Apparently there was an "error" with one of the other BM's dresses and there was an extra dress. First time I have ever heard of that considering the dress is from Le Chateau. If I'm still invited I just may accessorize it and wear it
AND the dresses are from Le Chateau, classy! This sounds like a train wreck that will be fun to watch!
??? Le Chateau has many lovely dresses. That store is often my go-to when I'm looking for something new (that, or ModCloth).
OP- Since the dress IS from a "standard" clothing store, if you are still invited, and you are feeling so bold (I'd probably chicken out :P) I'd wear it to the wedding, accessorized your own way, since you had to buy it anyway.
Apparently there was an "error" with one of the other BM's dresses and there was an extra dress. First time I have ever heard of that considering the dress is from Le Chateau. If I'm still invited I just may accessorize it and wear it
AND the dresses are from Le Chateau, classy! This sounds like a train wreck that will be fun to watch!
??? Le Chateau has many lovely dresses. That store is often my go-to when I'm looking for something new (that, or ModCloth).
OP- Since the dress IS from a "standard" clothing store, if you are still invited, and you are feeling so bold (I'd probably chicken out :P) I'd wear it to the wedding, accessorized your own way, since you had to buy it anyway.
The last time I bought anything in Le Chateau was in 2002 when they sold "club clothes" and everything looked like it belonged in a Brittney Spears video. That's what I remember Le Chateau selling, I didn't realise they were trying to go upscale. Unfortunately, since I'm taller than 5'7", I can't shop there anyways.
Apparently there was an "error" with one of the other BM's dresses and there was an extra dress. First time I have ever heard of that considering the dress is from Le Chateau. If I'm still invited I just may accessorize it and wear it
Oh please wear the BM dress to the wedding if you still go!
I really want to wear it, just because, but I HATE IT
They have really changed their demographic since I last shopped there. It's where I got all my club gear when I worked in bars. If you needed midriff baring, and sparkly, that's where you used to shop. Looks like they are going for an upscale image.
Shows how long it's been since I've set foot in a mall!
The dress is very pretty but it is very unforgiving. If you have any sort of curve its is accentuated. I have very large bewbies and that's all I can see.
The dress is very pretty but it is very unforgiving. If you have any sort of curve its is accentuated. I have very large bewbies and that's all I can see.
Yep, that's a lovely dress, but not one I could ever wear. Everything about it is wrong for my body type. I'd look like a giant blueberry.
The dress is very pretty but it is very unforgiving. If you have any sort of curve its is accentuated. I have very large bewbies and that's all I can see.
When I saw that dress, I thought the same thing. "Gorgeous - I wish I could pull that off!"
I'm going to ask my bridesmaids to buy lace dresses, and I hope at least one gets one like this, but I'd never ask them to get it specifically knowing that it's not going to flatter a lot of ladies.
An A line would have so much better. I'm not terribly small but all the other bridesmaids are considerably larger than I am. I feel like a sausage in the dress.
The dress is very pretty but it is very unforgiving. If you have any sort of curve its is accentuated. I have very large bewbies and that's all I can see.
Yep, that's a lovely dress, but not one I could ever wear. Everything about it is wrong for my body type. I'd look like a giant blueberry.
It's really close to something I would choose to wear, but no cigar. I don't think it'd flatter any curves, and it'd look so much better, IMO, with a more boat- than crew-neck. But I'm all about the color and fabric concept.
Honestly, the way that tiny model is standing, it bunches a little in the middle, making it look like she squeezed into it and it's not the perfect fit. I think that dress would be difficult for an everyday woman to pull off, and if bride's surviving BMs are on the larger side, I think it would be extremely unflattering. If you can't return the dress, is there any magic a tailor could work on it, maybe with some similar lace, to bring the bust out a little and make it more forgiving in the hips? Don't know if that would work with such a tight dress.
I finally heard back from the bride. She apologized and said she never meant to make anyone feel "that way", then proceeded to blame it on the fact that I am too busy because I just purchased a house, doing renovations and planning my wedding. I ended up snapping and told her that it was not anywhere close to the reason and the reason simply being that we are not her money whores, and we as her bridesmaids deserve respect and appreciation. She then promptly contacted all the other bridesmaids and asked them if this is how they felt, and BAM!! They agreed.
I am now probably uninvited and unfriended/unfollowed on social media.
Well, if you're uninvited and defriended, surely so are the others since they agreed. Wonder if this bridezilla will have no close friends left or just come to her senses. Hoping for the latter!
ETA HolyGuac I'm spending too much time looking at your hot guy gifs....
I finally heard back from the bride. She apologized and said she never meant to make anyone feel "that way", then proceeded to blame it on the fact that I am too busy because I just purchased a house, doing renovations and planning my wedding. I ended up snapping and told her that it was not anywhere close to the reason and the reason simply being that we are not her money whores, and we as her bridesmaids deserve respect and appreciation. She then promptly contacted all the other bridesmaids and asked them if this is how they felt, and BAM!! They agreed.
I am now probably uninvited and unfriended/unfollowed on social media.
Holy Mudder of Gawd!! give me the strength.
THIS. IS. AMAZING.
I don't know you at all and this will sound weird, but I am proud! haha. Amazing that you stood up to her and didn't just let her half-assed "apology" roll off your back. Sometimes I think taking the perceived "high road" just makes it worse. Some people just need to be TOLD.
Unfortunately I get the feeling that she will proceed to cry and cry and cry that no one in her life supports her and she's finding out who her true friends are and everyone just leaves her during such a trying time when all she has been is a good friend trying to do the right thing and she's just such a stressed out bride, WAHHHHHHHHHHH.
Keep us posted as more drama unfolds. I don't think I've ever read a more satisfying "BM fighting off Bridezilla" post ever.
Re: Bridesmaids financial responsibilities
I'm guessing the bride in no way extended you this courtesy so you didn't experience it, but in general you need to ask each bridal party member their dress budget in private and then you pick a dress that's less than the lowest budget (unless you intend to buy all of their dresses for them). Just don't want you getting your heart set on a dress that a bridesmaid can't afford... since you clearly now how crappy that is.
That aside...
OMG this girl is craaaaazy.
Good job getting out of there. And thank you so much for sharing the continued bits of drama!
OP- Since the dress IS from a "standard" clothing store, if you are still invited, and you are feeling so bold (I'd probably chicken out :P) I'd wear it to the wedding, accessorized your own way, since you had to buy it anyway.
OP- Since the dress IS from a "standard" clothing store, if you are still invited, and you are feeling so bold (I'd probably chicken out :P) I'd wear it to the wedding, accessorized your own way, since you had to buy it anyway.
The last time I bought anything in Le Chateau was in 2002 when they sold "club clothes" and everything looked like it belonged in a Brittney Spears video. That's what I remember Le Chateau selling, I didn't realise they were trying to go upscale. Unfortunately, since I'm taller than 5'7", I can't shop there anyways.
*gets popcorn*
I really want to wear it, just because, but I HATE IT
Shows how long it's been since I've set foot in a mall!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
OP, what don't you like about the dress?
I just found Bridezillas on Netflix last night, and WOW, pretty sure this girl should be casted for that show- if she's not already
http://www.lechateau.com/style/jump/BRIDAL339980_030/productDetail/Bridesmaid/BRIDAL339980_030/cat38761595
A large fits 36 (DD)-27-38 Barely.
I'm going to ask my bridesmaids to buy lace dresses, and I hope at least one gets one like this, but I'd never ask them to get it specifically knowing that it's not going to flatter a lot of ladies.
I like the overall effect though.
I finally heard back from the bride. She apologized and said she never meant to make anyone feel "that way", then proceeded to blame it on the fact that I am too busy because I just purchased a house, doing renovations and planning my wedding. I ended up snapping and told her that it was not anywhere close to the reason and the reason simply being that we are not her money whores, and we as her bridesmaids deserve respect and appreciation. She then promptly contacted all the other bridesmaids and asked them if this is how they felt, and BAM!! They agreed.
I am now probably uninvited and unfriended/unfollowed on social media.
Holy Mudder of Gawd!! give me the strength.
Well, if you're uninvited and defriended, surely so are the others since they agreed. Wonder if this bridezilla will have no close friends left or just come to her senses. Hoping for the latter!
ETA HolyGuac I'm spending too much time looking at your hot guy gifs....
I don't know you at all and this will sound weird, but I am proud! haha. Amazing that you stood up to her and didn't just let her half-assed "apology" roll off your back. Sometimes I think taking the perceived "high road" just makes it worse. Some people just need to be TOLD.
Unfortunately I get the feeling that she will proceed to cry and cry and cry that no one in her life supports her and she's finding out who her true friends are and everyone just leaves her during such a trying time when all she has been is a good friend trying to do the right thing and she's just such a stressed out bride, WAHHHHHHHHHHH.
Keep us posted as more drama unfolds. I don't think I've ever read a more satisfying "BM fighting off Bridezilla" post ever.
Now, if she needs to find replacement BMs (and you KNOW she will), just give her this:
Edited because technology is hard today.